#relationships plural*

[possessed-pack]

In-system relationships can be so intimate.

Waking up together, opening the same eyes, and stretching the same limbs. Yawning in time and saying a good morning that only you who are involved can understand what it's for.

Sharing a meal, not only from the same plate, but with the same hands and the same senses. Deciding what to eat together, something that fits all of your tastes.

Curled in the same bed, in the same blankets, in the same body, drowzily mumbling about nothing and everything to each other. Joking around and feeling their sleepy laugh as if it were your own.

Living life, and inviting them to share yours and your time in it--performing your daily tasks in the unison of cofront. Seeing and hearing and feeling everything together.

Feeling them blush when you flirt or compliment them. Feeling their joy when you get them a gift, or how safe you make them feel simply when you're around them.

Enveloped in the same love, from the same brain, with the same feeling of care for each other palpable between you. Feeling the emotions you feel yourself, coming from the other person. Feeling their love for you, in the rawest, most direct possible way.

[tommyssupercoolblog]

There's honestly nothing funnier than spitefully kissing in headspace in front of a homophobic person. Like haha fuck you take that!! But they literally do not know

Like I've infiltrated. You don't even realize I'm gay kissing in front of you and your kids and your dog right NOW!!!!!! Bitch

[fireboltsystem]

Insys relationships can go so so deep and theyre genuinely like one of the most beautiful things in our life rn. The romantic partnerships the family dynamics the friendships and the aplatonic flavor of amicable respect for the others that all boils down to "You (I, We) are worthy of loving (/respecting) to your (my, our) very core."

[interstellarsystem]

We love being a system. I love being in a system. I am cofronting at a party, one guy dissociated off the face of the planet, and the other guy (me, his partner), keeping the body semi functional. Gently imposing my hand resting on his shoulder. There in case he needs me for anything. I love looking after him, and I think I love sharing a body with him. Even if we cannot physically share a hug, I think this is something unique and special. In system relationships are wonderful.

[plural-userboxes]

QueerPlatonic In-Sys relationship flag

This is a flag for those who have queerplatonic in sys relationships!

requested by: no one!

requests are closed!

tags: @radiomogai, @hibiscuspearswithopaljuice(hehe :3)

[candyskiez]

Thinking about ???%/Shigeo as a character today and losing my mind. Like he's so funny to joke about but also he's SUCH an interesting character (especially from a plural angle, ESPECIALLY when you're a system yourself) and he makes me want to explode. Imagine forming to protect a little kid and deciding you love him so so much and you'll always be there for him, and you love his little brother, and you love his best friend, even though the world doesn't love you very much. But you take it anyway because you have those three and your little family so you're happy. And you have powers and they're a part of you and the other kid and it's fine until it very suddenly Isn't, and nobody's explaining why, just that you need to Stop Having Them. And the kid just decides, okay, I'm sorry, I'll be normal. And you get no explanation. You just have to be suppressed that little bit more. You form because he can't handle being suppressed yet he suppresses you. And then one day it all blows up and you make a mistake trying to protect your little brother and suddenly everyone hates you. Everyone thinks every little thing you've ever done is proof you're a monster and you always would've turned out like this, and you have no idea what they're talking about. You made a mistake trying to save your brother. But because you look scary and act different, even though you've always been there suddenly you existing is dangerous. Because you made a mistake, you are now Irredeemable.

That would fuck ANY kid up. But like, think about it. Shigeo had no one except Tsumobi and Mob and Mob's family. And suddenly he has no one. Mob represses him so deeply. He makes one mistake and suddenly he's not allowed to talk to anyone, suddenly he's completely alone and isolated. He has to share a brain with someone who despises him. He has the trauma of the accident AND the trauma of suddenly losing everyone he loves on top of it. He literally had no one for years. No wonder he's so fucking cynical. All of the shit about "I don't trust anyone" in the manga? Yeah, of course he doesn't. The rug was pulled out from under him so fast. In his eyes everyone just hated him for no reason, because he existed, and everyone would hurt him for existing, so he could only trust himself. Yeah, no wonder he's so selfish, he has no one else there at ALL. It's just...holyyyy hell.

And the thing is if you actually look the little things point to him yearning for connection so desperately. He's still so aggressively protective of his family (even though he lost them a long time ago, they're Mob's now, they don't even know he's there. Don't get me started on that from a plural view. I won't shut up and will probably pour my heart out.), and just ...world domination arc. When he's so upset about losing his family. We know he doesn't trust Reigen. Yet he's running to Reigen for some sort of comfort because he's scared and doesn't want his family to die and wants someone to tell him everything's fine. And Reigen DOES and he believes him. He believes him and immediately passes out. The guy who doesn't trust anyone wants to be loved so so bad and wants to believe Reigen more than anything. He really clearly WANTS to be able to trust Reigen. But he can't. More on this later.

And also thinking about why the build up in confession arc broke him like that is just fucking sad, man. Everyone was telling them to change. Shigeo's been told to change and it meant "be normal". Mob isn't even the one who actually likes Tsumobi like that. Shigeo's being completely repressed and Mob wants to live without him completely. Everyone wants to live without him now that they've used his powers to get this nice perfect life (in his eyes, at least.) Everyone's just trying to forget he ever existed so they can be happy without him, when Shigeo never GOT to heal. He never got to move on. He never got to process any of the god awful shit that happened to him. Everyone's telling him, change. Be normal. Be normal so Tsumobi will like you. And Shigeo's so fucking stressed out of his mind because lying about who he is didn't even help Mob make friends, it didn't make him popular, it didn't make anyone like him, it just made them both miserable. He doesn't want to be stuck like this. Of course he's freaking out. We see in his encounter with the body improvement club that being told to go back to normal sets him off HARD. It's clearly a sensitive subject. "Normal" means "Don't exist" to Shigeo. Do you see why this fucked me up as a system yet. Oh my god.

And his breakdown is just...painfully understandable. Like, actually think about it for a second. Shigeo has never been shown forgiveness or compassion or any amount of understanding for his mistakes. He never was taught to mature or see any nuance. He fucked up, so he doesn't deserve any second chance. Nobody ever taught him compassion. He has such a completely black and white view of the world. If someone did something bad once, they are forever The Bad Thing. If someone was kind to him once, they are forever Good and Perfect. Teru was a threat once, so he is now Always A Threat. Reigen was a liar before so he is Always A Liar. Ritsu was sweet and kind as a kid so he is always His Innocent Little Brother. And Tsumobi accepted him as a kid, so now she's the only person who could ever possibly accept him. Teru sees Shigeo at his most terrifying, when he's actively hunting him down, and in the manga looks at him with fucking hearts in his eyes. Ritsu might not be all perfect, but he's trying so hard and understanding no, Shigeo isn't just a scary part of Mob. Shigeo isn't Evil. But because neither of their acceptance is perfect, and because they aren't from Tsumobi, he can't see it's even there. And also, another thing, his response to people acting outside of his perception of him is to get them away. It scares him. Teru isn't acting how he expected? Attack maim. Ritsu isn't afraid of him anymore? Teleport him away so he doesn't have to confront the change. Reigen acts different? Throw shit at him until he hates him.

It's just so...fuck man. Of course he's like that. He's immature and selfish because nobody taught him not to be. Nobody helped this kid when he needed it and this is the result. He thinks he's an irredeemable monster so he acts like one when he's told to just be himself. He doesn't see change as being realistic. He's been treated the same no matter what he does so he assumes this is how the world naturally is. He's just a bitter mentally ill kid who nobody gave any reason to believe that maybe the world is nice sometimes.

Another thing: I think he really really wants Reigen to care about him. Him going "I can't listen to him" is so intense with the context of the fact he immediately passes out to rest and let Mob take care of it once Reigen says his parents are safe. Reigen can convince him like nobody else can. He cares about him and wants to believe him and that's terrifying! He hates him and resents him and wants him to be proud of him and wants nothing to do with him and it's confusing and he just wants something that is (supposedly) guaranteed. He wants Reigen to care so badly and it feels impossible. Why would he ever care? He just wants to use him. The only way to bring Shigeo back from his breakdown was to show him that people can be kind without wanting something back in return. Reigen saying "you don't need me anymore" was the only real way to help him, to show him that he's not doing this for himself, but because he cares about his student(s). Because he cares about BOTH of them. He cares about every version he's seen and interacted with, not because of his powers but because they were them. He had to let go of them to truly help them here, so Shigeo wouldn't have any lingering fear. What helps Shigeo is the display of kindness with nothing to be gained and Mob finally realizing that Shigeo's just...flawed. They both realize that sometimes people are just flawed and fucked up and make bad decisions and just straight up hurt people. And they'll still love you. They'll still be worth saving. But you can't deny their flaws, for Mob, and you don't need to seek the perfect relationship to have someone there, for Shigeo. It just. Agh! God! I am always losing my mind over this story. Fuck. This SHOW .

[wbfm]

blinkies.cafe system edition

[frameacloud]

"Practice Alterhuman and Plural specific safety: Protect your information and avoid situations that could be exploited or turn sour quickly.

"Avoid giving very thorough descriptions of your system/headmates or kintypes if you don’t want to be identified whenever you give this information elsewhere or have it used against you. Especially information about triggers or marginalizations. This includes ‘intro posts’ and in-depth ‘carrds’.

"Don’t seek sourcemates for ‘kindating’ based solely on shared canons or base any kind of relationship solely on a shared source.

"Avoid closed communities with an initiation process such as grilling, hazing, or other rituals that do not post their expectations regarding this publicly.

"Teach younger headmates internet safety and routinely check on those who cannot judge well for themselves.

"Avoid people who exhibit red flags previously seen in this document."

- Excerpt from "Safety in Alterhuman Spaces," by the Dragonheart Collective, page 23. You can read the whole document here (PDF).

[intuspluric-culture-is]

in-sys relationship culture is being so down bad and in love with each other that you feel like the body is going to explode

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[endogenicredstar]

We need to normalize dating headmates! In order to do that, we need to talk about our experiences with it! I'll go first!

Currently, I'm in a relationship with a good chunk of my system members. Miguel, Knockout, Breakdown, Starscream, Hawks, and Kai are all the ones I'm with. I know it seems like a lot--and it is. But it's been some of the most rewarding shit I've ever experienced. Having the unwavering love and support of one person is great, but from six people? That's the absolute best! It makes me feel like I can conquer anything--like life is livable.

Knockout, Breakdown, and Starscream were already together when they showed up-- they just brought me into the fold after a while. We did talk about the prospect of others joining at some point. We agreed that, if someone else did show up and I fell for them, that they'd share. And then Miguel, Hawks, and Kai showed up. Or rather-- Hawks and Kai reappeared. I'm in an open relationship with six people in my brain now. Just a simple relationship--in the headspace....And then someone else reappeared. (I'll have him introduce himself later--when I'm not trying to organize the words in my brain.)

It's been...healing, knowing that there are people that love me as much as they do. To know that they'll be there for me, regardless of circumstance, is like a balm for my aching heart. Guys, if you read this later--and I know you will, thank you. And I love each and every one of you more than words could ever say.

But yeah! TL;DR: Most of my adult headmates and I are all in a big, chaotic, loving, fulfilling relationship. And I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Now it's y'all's turn! What's your relationship like with your headmates? What's the relationship structure like? Are there multiple participants? What do you guys do as a bonding activity? We'd love to read your answers!

[strawberry-graveyard]

i love you in system relationships. i love you in system family dynamics. i love you in system friendships. i love you in system partnerships. i love you in system enemies. i love you in system dynamics that are complicated. i love you in system relationships that are real and dynamic and messy and so so so valid. all of them. i love them so much.

[kittybbyshift]

Today’s mood : I want a partner system or a QPR

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for fictives who are dating other fictives!

Fictives and introjects are parts and people too, just like any other headmate in a system! Fictives are capable of loving, dating, forming relationships, and having romantic connections as much as anyone else. This post goes out to fictives who are dating or in relationships with other fictives!

💖 Shoutout to fictives who are in in-system relationships with another fictive or fictives in their own system!

🥰 Shoutout to fictives who are dating fictives from different sources!

💓 Shoutout to fictives who are in QPRs with other fictives or otherwise are in non-amatonormative relationships!

😍 Shoutout to fictives who are in relationships that don’t look anything like the relationships of their sources!

💞 Shoutout to fictives who are married or otherwise in committed life partnerships with other fictives!

😘 Shoutout to fictives who don’t let others’ expectations dictate their relationships or how they interact with their partners!

💗 Shoutout to fictives whose identities as introjects affect their romantic relationships in some way!

☺️ Shoutout to fictives whose relationships look nothing like the relationships that their source might have had!

💘 Shoutout to fictives who are in relationships with OCtives, fuzztives, or other headmates with fictional introjected identities!

Fictives, it is okay to love who you want and express your love through relationships that are affirming and uplifting for you and your partners. Please don’t feel any sort of pressure to only date or form relationships with sourcemates. You deserve to have deep, complex, and fulfilling relationships in your lives, and there is nothing wrong with forging these connections with other fictives!

For all fictives in relationships with other fictives, we are wishing you peace, comfort, and happiness in your futures. Know that your relationships are valid and beautiful, and your love is worth celebrating! We’re wishing a bright future for you and the fictives you love, and hope you all can have a wonderful day today!

[zombie-boygrrl]

I would do anything for you, I will always have time for you.

[Except at 02;00 AM. I am jacking off.]

[plural-userboxes]

Romantic In-Sys relationship flag

This is a flag for those who have romantic in sys relationships!

requested by: @starfilled-galaxy

requests are closed!

tags: @radiomogai

[armydreamersys]

So, when in headspace I seem to rapidfire switch between 1st and 3rd pov and at first I thought that I was faking or I just suck at immersion and can't have a headspace but while I was scrolling through Pluralpedia apparently there are others out there like me that see their inner world in third pov!!? I thought I was the odd one out! So, while building my home last night (I think the other headspace is open now but ya boy was on a mission) I just let my brain do it's thing instead of forcing myself to visualize it the "proper" way, and it came out well!

Bullseye seemed to like it:3 we still gotta decorate but I'm pretty happy with what we got. I'm glad we have a place of our own now.

-🖖🏾