#multi attraction

[bloomshroomz]

I want to talk a little bit about the use of the word "preference" in bisexual (and broader m-spec) spaces. I think that the word is used in a lot of different ways to mean a lot of different things, and sometimes it unintentionally conveys the wrong thing.

Plenty of people who identify as bisexual, or omnisexual, or polysexual, etc. are attracted to certain genders more frequently or more intensely than others. They might also be attracted to different genders in different ways.

For example, if someone is attracted to many types of women, but only very specific types of men, they're attracted to men and women differently. This difference also probably results in them finding women attractive more often than they find men attractive.

A lot of people would describe this as a "preference" for women, but as a bisexual/omnisexual person who experiences attraction in this way, I don't thinks that's necessarily the right word for this. It might be for some people, but while my attraction trends towards women, I wouldn't say that I prefer my partners be women.

Because that's all it is for me: a trend in my attraction. Not a preference. It's much easier for me to find an attractive woman than an attractive man (according to my own tastes, of course), but at the end of the day, if I find you attractive, I find you attractive, regardless of your gender.

I wouldn't prefer that the men I'm attracted be women instead, because I don't prefer women; they just tend to be more attractive to me than men are. But there are some seriously cute guys out there, and my predominant attraction to women doesn't erase that, nor does it make my attraction to men feel less important than my attraction to women. It's just less frequent.

I noticed this problem with the word "preference" after I started dating my boyfriend, when he said "I'm not what you prefer."

It made me realize that... No, I don't have a "preference" for women. I wouldn't prefer that he be a woman, and I wouldn't prefer to date a woman over him. I'm attracted to women more frequently than men, but my attraction to him is not trumped or lessened by my general trend of attraction to women. I find him so fucking attractive.

You can also have a preference which goes in a different direction than the trends of your attraction. For some time, despite my attraction trending towards women, I preferred to date men. That where my boyfriend is currently at as well. So, clearly, there is a distinction between the trends in one's attraction and the preferences one may hold.

Are there any other bi/m-spec people who feel this way about the use of "preference" in discussions of attraction?

[yardsards]

the thing about labru vs kabumisu is that both of them have the same core appeal to me, specifically from kabru's side of things: kabru being someone who is constantly agonizing about social rules and putting on the right mask, and meeting this Weird Fucking Guy who does not (cannot) care about all those things, and so kabru slowly allows himself to be more genuine. they're both such good relationships (whether you view them romantically or platonically), why must there be so much hostility between enjoyers of these ships?

[lemonfreshlysqueezed]

Biting is a love language!

The sweet sweet way of showing affection by biting has been happening more recently in bl, and I’m here for it.

This is my collection, for now. I most definetly will be adding to it 😇

The Eighth Sense

Jae Won x Ji Hyun (Episode 6)

Gifs by @dingyuxi

A Shoulder To Cry On

Tae Hyun x Da Yeol (Episode 5)

Gif by @forcebook

La Pluie

Saengtai x Phat (Epsiode 3)

Gif by @singto-prachaya

Laws of Attraction - Both couples!

Tinn x Charn (Episode 6)

Gif by @spicyvampire

Thee x Thaenthai (Episode 8)

Gif by @pharawee

Secret Crush on You

Sky x Jao (Episode ?)

Gif by @stormyoceans

Between us Special

Team x Win (Episode Week 2)

Gif by @hoshinisuzu

Love Syndrome III

Day x Itt (Episode 3)

Gif by @crispywizardtale

Link to part 2 and 3

[tiredyke]

lesbophobia does not invalidate, negate, or take precedence over biphobia. biphobia does not invalidate, negate or take precedence over lesbophobia. both forms of discrimination coexist and deserve to be discussed and taken seriously. neither is more important or more valid than the other. our experiences being different does not mean that they are contradictory, or that the existence of one means the other is erased. stop positioning us at odds with each other. if we can’t have meaningful conversations about how lesbophobia and biphobia both manifest in different ways and how they affect us, we aren’t going to get anywhere.

[twig-tea]

Top 5 Couple Fights

Oooooooh this is fun! Thank you for a relatively easy category because so often the fights in these shows are unearned and it is very frustrating. I'm still limiting myself to 2023!

Wen and Alan, Moonlight Chicken

This fight felt real, it felt lived in, and it felt heartbreaking even though we only saw some of it. These two men love each other, but love isn't enough to keep them together, and that realization is as heartbreaking as the fight itself.

My Personal Weatherman

I am obsessed with the fights in My Personal Weatherman because the characters often don't know they're in one, or are in two different fights at the same time. This is all tied to how much I love how well the miscommunication is done in this show. These fights are legible based on what we know about these characters and what they've seen, even when they're completely unnecessary, and I adore that. Of course the best one is the ending fight and not just because Segasaki ties up Yo's wrists in his shirt.

Jack O'Frost

[Not enough gifs of this actual fight and I need to finish this list so this is what you get]. The fight at the very start of this show escalated so quickly, at first I wasn't sure about it even while I appreciated the performances and the intimate way it was shot. But when we get the backstory and we finally understand how much has been withheld and said vs. not said between them, and where their anxieties were rooted and the source of these big feelings, this fight makes so much more sense. This is a show that really benefits from being watched more than once.

La Pluie

[for some reason tumblr is giving me this link to Shan's blog rather than @liyazaki so tagging you, friend!]

Patts was pushed and pushed and pushed, and he lashed out in his insecurity, and when he asked for reassurance (this lineeee) Saengtai refused to give it to him and instead lashed out out of his own insecurity. This was a painful fight that was fully earned; all of the characters and their choices were legible even as they were infuriating. And it led to a critical awakening of Saengtai who was so caught up in his own sad boy narrative he hadn't realized how much he was hurting everyone around him.

My Beautiful Man S2

Kiyoi and Hira's communication issues continuing past S1 is very believable. I said elsewhere that Hira's work on his self-worth is more like a spiral than a straight line and that's very relatable and realistic. Kiyoi being hurt by Hira not valuing Kiyoi's feelings was such an important lesson for Hira to get more than once. Again, so earned, and resulted in the characters self-reflecting and moving a little closer to whatever a healthy relationship means for these two lol

Laws of Attraction

How much do I Love Tinn seeing right through Charn and Charn being big mad at him for Perceiving him so well? All of their fights are so good because they're about boundaries and mutual respect at their core, and they actually listen to one another and are based on how well they know one another (rather than what so often happens, when the characters seem to forget who the person they're in love with actually is). This barely counts as fight but I love it and it's my list so it stays.

Bonus entry that's only for me (shh stop counting the above):

Mr. Cinderella S2

Nobody but me and like 2 other people watched this show, but I'm actually obsessed with the couple fight in Mr. Cinderella s2 so thank you for the chance to rant about it on main some more. I need to start by saying: this plot is ridiculous and the ending sucks. But within this show, Dung and Khoa have an established relationship that has been tested in S1 and is being tested harder in S2, and to a point, they actually stand together and weather the storm, and it was rewarding to watch. And then slowly everything happening ("everything" here being an ABSURD amount of melodrama) starts to wear on Khoa, who sees himself as the one solely responsible for everything, and he unlearns some of what he learned in s1, he stops relying on Dung as his support, stops telling Dung what's going on because he doesn't want to burden him, and stops trusting Dung's word about what is happening. And so, when the jealousy plot hits, it's actually believable that Dung would be mad at Khoa, not for cheating, but for not respecting Dung as a partner in their relationship. It's well done, I wish so much that it were in a better show so that I could actually recommend anyone watching (I don't). I've seen this trope (assumed cheating) done so badly and so unearned in so many shows, this was so refreshing.

Extra bonus: Best couple fight scene of all time?

Gameboys S2

[I give up on gifs of this scene; have them upset for other reasons instead!]

What I love about the way they fight in this show is that, beyond it being earned etc. etc., the dialogue is so raw. They repeat themselves, they just yell over one another, they get rude, they try saying something to de-escalate and it gets worse instead. This is not a carefully crafted speech, or a single perfectly delivered devastating line; this is raw emotion. I recognize this fight, I've been in this fight, this is what I sound like when I fight lol And we see them really fight at least twice, and the way they fight in ep8 has changed as a result of the earlier fight is also SO good.

[myceliumforum]

⋆ Multi anattraction ⋆

⇉ Definition: Multi anattraction is a label for all individual who have two or more types of a-attraction within the primary and secondary types of attraction (Romantic, sexual, platonic/queerplatonic, sensual, aesthetic, alterous). This could be seen as an umbrella term and can be used in company of the a-attraction labels someone has

A good know example of multi anatracction can be AroAce but isn't limited to just that. Another example can be someone who is asexual, asensual and aromantic; someone who is aromantic and aplatonic/aqueerplatonic; someone who is asexual and a-aesthetic; someone who don't feel any of the primary and secondary types of attraction etc.

⇉ Alt Names: Multi a-attractions, Multianattracction, Multi non attraction

PNG symbol of multi anattraction

This symbol can be used to any kind of specification of the umbrella to represent the nature of multiple a-attractions, free to put in labels that fit this criteria

Coined by: Me Requested by: N/A

Img ID 1: A flag with five horizontal stripes being orange, black, pink, white, pink, black and orange, the pink and white stripes are thinner than the orange and black ones. In the middle is the multi anattraction symbol [see Img ID 3]

Img ID 2: A flag with five horizontal stripes being orange, black, pink, white, pink, black and orange, the pink and white stripes are thinner than the orange and black ones

Img ID 3: A waning crescent moon with the rest of the circle being the space (a dark purple background with dots as stars), at the top left and bottom right there are yellow flowers

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[coffeebookslovegt]

Eres mi verdadero amor. Estoy dispuesto a renunciar a todo por ti.

[chinzhilla]

@userdramas event 09 » icon - two traumatized, smitten, morally-grey pretty boys for the price of one! (insp)

[redacted-coiner]

Kitty and Doggy Flags

[PT: Kitty and Doggy Flags]

Mspec-Neptunic and/or Mspec-Uranic folk who feel connected to dogs or cats in some way, are otherkin, therians, etc. if u like dog or cats aesthetics to!

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[Mspec Neptunic: None yet / idk what to do ;v;]

[Mspec Uranic ID: None yet / idk what to do ;v;]

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[lust-for-ultraviolence]

Okay, if this isn’t good, tell me what to fix and I’ll redo it.

[blackbunnyblobchara]

Funny how a fav artist of mine made a fish AU and made Leo a jellyfish kinda thingy…I was like ‘Yeah girl, He do be looking fine when he colorful’

And realize…Wait, my sea creature Leo is also kinda like a jellyfish thingy….Is that coincidence or just something I like to think/see Leo being a pretty glowy lightbulb in the ocean like the same as my fav artist?

[multi-lefaiye]

ngl i think a lot of the jokes i see about polyamory and it being so complicated and confusing comes down to people overthinking it

like, yeah, as a polyamorous person, it can be very complicated and a very different dynamic. but like..... do y'all also think through monogamy this much? do you ever get tired?

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Amative/Affinitive Pride Flags

Amative Orientation Pride Flag

Amative orientations: any orientation that dooes not describe the gender(s) one is or is not attracted to, but instead describe how one experiences attraction. Eg. conditional/circumstantial/situational asexuality (demisexuality, fraysexuality...), partial aromanticism (mesi/grey aromantic...), null platonicity (suptilic aplatonicism...), refero-, chameleo-, etc.

Affinitive Orientation Pride Flag

Affinitive or affectional orientations: any orientations that describe which gender(s) one is or is not attracted to. Eg. multi-, mono-, juvelic terms.

Not every orientation is inherently this or the other, but they are useful umbrella terms. Sometimes they are intertwined, other times some may emphasize one over another, questioning and undefined people may don't know which one they have, amplusic (fluid/flux/flex) people may navigate through both and other possibilities.

[talesfromthecrypts]

People in the Baldur's Gate tag are gonna be so psyched when they find out about bi people

[demonic-ninja-cat]

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[mythoughts4thevoid]

👁️👁️ the lack of multi-chapter fanfiction is minorly giving me the urge to write a LONG ass fic.. only problem is, will the hyperfixation last long enough for me to even get far enough in the progress to Write It

we will see…