#polisexual

[bloomshroomz]

I want to talk a little bit about the use of the word "preference" in bisexual (and broader m-spec) spaces. I think that the word is used in a lot of different ways to mean a lot of different things, and sometimes it unintentionally conveys the wrong thing.

Plenty of people who identify as bisexual, or omnisexual, or polysexual, etc. are attracted to certain genders more frequently or more intensely than others. They might also be attracted to different genders in different ways.

For example, if someone is attracted to many types of women, but only very specific types of men, they're attracted to men and women differently. This difference also probably results in them finding women attractive more often than they find men attractive.

A lot of people would describe this as a "preference" for women, but as a bisexual/omnisexual person who experiences attraction in this way, I don't thinks that's necessarily the right word for this. It might be for some people, but while my attraction trends towards women, I wouldn't say that I prefer my partners be women.

Because that's all it is for me: a trend in my attraction. Not a preference. It's much easier for me to find an attractive woman than an attractive man (according to my own tastes, of course), but at the end of the day, if I find you attractive, I find you attractive, regardless of your gender.

I wouldn't prefer that the men I'm attracted be women instead, because I don't prefer women; they just tend to be more attractive to me than men are. But there are some seriously cute guys out there, and my predominant attraction to women doesn't erase that, nor does it make my attraction to men feel less important than my attraction to women. It's just less frequent.

I noticed this problem with the word "preference" after I started dating my boyfriend, when he said "I'm not what you prefer."

It made me realize that... No, I don't have a "preference" for women. I wouldn't prefer that he be a woman, and I wouldn't prefer to date a woman over him. I'm attracted to women more frequently than men, but my attraction to him is not trumped or lessened by my general trend of attraction to women. I find him so fucking attractive.

You can also have a preference which goes in a different direction than the trends of your attraction. For some time, despite my attraction trending towards women, I preferred to date men. That where my boyfriend is currently at as well. So, clearly, there is a distinction between the trends in one's attraction and the preferences one may hold.

Are there any other bi/m-spec people who feel this way about the use of "preference" in discussions of attraction?

[gachadarklightoficial]

Helloooooo

So, I was trying to make a pride month post, but since that pride month is over since June 30th, I'll just fully reveal their orientation and their identity. I put some flag's explanations because they aren't so popular. One more thing: I changed some flags because I feel like the new ones talk more about my children.

First (Here) | Next

Edit, after a long time: this post was inspired by Giu_graphic on Instagram!

[oh-my-im-ply]

Recently was told that being attracted to women and enbies "doesn't count as attraction to multiple genders," and that if you're attracted to women and enbies, you "should just identify as lesbian or straight."

As if nonbinary people are just an extension of women. As if nonbinary genders aren't real genders. As if enbian attraction is just an extension of sapphic or romeric attraction instead of a valid and beautiful experience in its own right.

And the person who told me this shit was also nonbinary.

I'm so tired.

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Erranboric Pride Flag

Erranboric or eranboric/eransboric: an umbrella term for those who are not attracted to non-binary people anymore; a label in which one's enboric attraction has partially or fully vanished.

This includes, for example: pluralians with latent or dormant attraction towards enbies; binsexual disexual folk who used to be attracted to nby people but realized they are strictly boric/noenboric after all; erraspec people; binians (BLB), nibians (NBLB/NLB), trixamorics (XLBW), and toramorics (XLBM) who were enboric in the past.

[spacialrending]

CHARACTER RECOLORS: Pride Mimikyus Part 4 (Pokemon)

Requested by anon!

Dionyfluid | Lilaen | Violaen

Omnisexual | Polisexual | Abrosexual

Aroace | T4T | Maverique

* Likes and reblogs are appreciated. Credit is required if using.

[transmasculine]

“this alter is poly” “this alter is ply” “this alter is poli”

“this user is poly” “this user is ply” “this user is poli”

[genderstarbucks]

Is there a sexuality where someone Masculine aligned is romantically attracted to Women , Non-binaries, Fem aligned Non-binaries, Masc aligned women, masc aligned non-binaries, feminine women?

Polysexual, also spelled plysexual or polisexual, sometimes shortened to ply, is the sexual attraction to many, but not necessarily all, genders.

Nomasexual (also known as Nobrosexual or Freyic) is the attraction to all genders except binary men. Genders attracted to includes women, non-binary individuals, masculine aligned non-binary individuals, feminine aligned non-binary individuals, unaligned non-binary individuals, agender individuals, etc. The term was made with non-binary individuals in mind but binary individuals can use it.

Freyic is for individuals who experience attraction to everyone but binary men. This label can be used by anyone who fits this definiton or even people who simply chose to not date binary men.

[cyberduckpartywinner]

Trying out the colorful hashtags

[i-give-u--art]

polisexual

to all my polisexual besties

[rufosketch]

[bloomshroomz]

I redesigned the polysexual flag.

I would love it if this got shared around!

Use it in art! Use it in merch! Use it on your pronouns.page! It's public domain! No credit needed!

Reasons for the redesign, flag meanings, additional flags, templates, silly stuff, and emojis below the cut.

As a polysexual person, I have mixed feelings about the original polysexual flag. The simplicity of the flag is good; it has three stripes and three colors. I also like the color choices in concept: pink for attraction to women, green for attraction to enbies, and blue for attraction to men. The contrast between the stripes is pretty good too, though the contrast between green and blue could use some improvement.

However, the hot pink clashes with the green, which can be displeasing to the eye, or even painful. This clashing isn't as bad on physical merch most of the time. I have some pins and bracelets where it looks just fine. But I think that it's important for the flag to be accessible online too, especially since many polysexual people can't show pride outside of online spaces.

There's also a problem with its similarity to the bisexual and pansexual flags. I know that this was done on purpose to show the identities being related, and I think that this is sorta fine. But...

It can be misleading, as I find that polysexuality is often fundamentally very different from the other "big four" multi-spec orientations, i.e. bi, pan, and omni. Polysexual people are not attracted to all genders, while bisexual people often are, and pansexual/omnisexual people always are. The lack of separation between the polysexual stripes implies that we're attracted to all genders as well, when we aren't.

It also makes it harder for us to stand out on our own. Polysexuality rarely gets its own spotlight independent from other identities. Most often, we just get a passing mention in a post about the broader multi-spec community, or get our flag shown in a post alongside several other flags, if we even get that at all. Our flag being so indistinct only furthers this invisibility.

Polysexuality, as a result, doesn't really get to be its own thing. We're just another tag, another flag, another passing mention of validity to tack onto a post that isn't really about us. This can feel really isolating, especially as many of us don't even strongly relate to the other identities that we're often grouped with.

I don't identify as bisexual, not even as an umbrella term, because I don't relate to common bisexual experiences. I am not attracted to binary men, and I'm not attracted to all genders. But "polysexual representation" is almost exclusively about common bisexual experiences, and it isn't ply-focused. The flag adds insult to injury.

So, I wanted to try to redesign the flag.

I like the colors that are already associated with polysexuality: pink, green, and blue. I want to keep these colors, and I'm also keeping their original meanings. The ply pride colors aren't changing if I have anything to say about it! As obscure as polysexuality is, this color combination is very recognizable and well established in our community, and if applied well, they look really nice together.

However, I've also added two thin white stripes to the flag. These stripes serve three purposes:

1. Visual appeal.

The white stripes prevent clashing between the pink and green, and also add some more contrast between the green and blue.

2. Separation between stripes.

The white stripes allow the colorful stripes to exist separately, since polysexual people are not attracted to all genders. For example, I am represented by pink and green, but not by blue, because I am not attracted to binary men. Another polysexual person might be represented only by green and blue, only by green, etc.

3. Distinction from other flags.

The white stripes create distinction from other m-spec flags. This flag distinction can represent the disconnect from m-spec spaces that some polysexuals experience, since m-spec spaces tend to revolve around attraction towards all genders, which is inapplicable to polysexual people unless varioriented or fluid. M-spec spaces also often revolve around attraction towards at least both binary genders, and many polysexual people, including myself, lack attraction towards at least one binary gender.

This flag distinction also calls attention to polysexuality as its own identity, which does not always need to be dependent on other terms, and can shine on its own. We are not just a tag, or just a flag, or just a label to put in posts that aren't about us. We are a community! We are individuals! We are people! We are experiences!

The flag is still somewhat similar to other m-spec flags in its color choices, so the solidarity with our m-spec siblings is still there! But now we get to have something that feels more like it's for us.

I hope that the difference in stripe size makes the flag more accessible to colorblind people as well, because I don't see many flags with a 2:1:2:1:2 stripe ratio, whereas there are a lot of flags with three evenly sized horizontal stripes.

This flag can be used by all ply people! Whether polysexual, polyromantic, polysensual, polyalterous, varioriented, fluid, questioning, etc... This is for all of us!

Additional flags, templates, silly stuff, and emojis:

[bimdraws]

Una Wiki LGBTQIA+

Quiero introducirles una wiki LGBTQIA+ en español para todes les latines que buscan aprender y/o contribuir al conocimiento de la comunidad. Ya sea historia, traducciones, artículos sobre películas, series, libros, musicos y artistas LGBT+ o simplemente corregir errores de ortografía que los admins pudimos haber cometido.

Por favor abstenerse de escribir si no van a enlazar una fuente a la vez <3

[oh-my-im-ply]

Happy pride month to all polysexual, polyromantic, and otherwise ply-oriented people out there!

Plain text: Happy pride month to all polysexual, polyromantic, and otherwise ply-oriented people out there!

[oh-my-im-ply]

Ply lesbian flag

(+ more multi-spec lesbian flags below!)

I'm a ply lesbian, so I decided to make a flag, just for fun! Also known as polysbian or poly-lesbian. It's based on the polysexual flag and the five stripe/community lesbian flag. There are already a few ply lesbian flags that exist, but I felt like trying to make one myself. Additionally, while the flag is polyam-inclusive, it doesn't represent polyamory. Ply and polyam are not the same thing.

Also, while this account is ply-centric, I decided to make some other multi-spec flags as well, in solidarity with other multi-spec lesbians. You're free to use them if you want to ^^

Dajenyan/bi lesbian | Omni lesbian | Pan lesbian

[i-give-u--art]

poli and agender

i see you :)