#mindset tips

[honeytonedhottie]

how to keep a dolly mind⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁

this post is inspired by @arielleslipgloss's post about dolly mindset and i just wanna make my own post about keeping a doll mindset so i hope that u enjoy…💬🎀

WHATS IN UR MIND ;

whats in ur mind manifests. what u think consistently everyday is what u will experience, thats just how the brain works. so if ur thinking positive thoughts, you'll experience positive things but the same is true if u think negative thoughts.

BE POSITIVE ;

affirm. affirm. affirm. if u dont want to experience it, then dont dwell on it. when u spend so much time dwelling on negativity you'll only perpetuate that into ur reality so can we not? be POSITIVE and dwell only on things that u want to manifest and experience.

DONT THINK TOO MUCH ;

with that being said, DONT THINK TOO MUCH. sometimes its good to get out of ur own head and just affirm positively on autopilot. dont spend so much time pondering things that upset you. ofc its important to ponder things that you struggle with because thats how u overcome them, but if u dwell on them too much you'll only perpetuate it. make ur mind a good place to be. dont worry about a thing ♡

dont give others the power to make u uncomfortable in ur own mind. dont dwell on other people's negative opinions or criticism, dont be consumed by a situationship. the center of ur universe should be you, you and YOU.

HOW TO MAKE UR OWN DOLLHOUSE (IN UR MIND) ;

this section is inspired by something that i read about in the book pyscho cybernetics and essentially the idea is that u create a space in ur mind that is completely and wholly yours. a place that u can go when u need a breather and i though it was just ADORABLE.

so create ur own dollhouse in ur mind. how i did this was i focused on my 5 senses and i imagined myself creating a space for myself. once i was done imagining it, i imagined myself walking into it and just relaxing in it.

♡ i imagine a cute room (pretty large) with baby pink wallpaper

♡ i imagine a balcony with fresh flowers and a cute pink chair

♡ pink drapes DUH

♡ plush couches with leopard print throw pillows and cashmere blankets

♡ very 90's hollywood mansion inspired with cute dolly music playing softly in the background

and whenever i want to i just imagine myself walking into this space and relaxing on the couch. painting my nails, doing a face mask or just talking to myself and its so soothing…💬🎀

WHAT SHOULD CONSUME UR THOUGHTS ;

♡ shopping

♡ glitter

♡ self pampering

♡ your education

♡ YOUR FUTURE (the most important one btw)

♡ urself and ur future

WHAT SHOULDN'T CONSUME UR THOUGHTS ;

♡ toxicity from any source (bad friends, social media etc)

♡ the past

♡ jealousy

♡ and anything that u DONT want to manifest

THINGS THAT CAN HELP UR MIND ;

if u find it particularly difficult to stay positive or ur just going through a hard time, first of all know that ur NOT alone and things will always get better 💗 some things that can help ur state of mind can include ->

getting a full 8-10 hours of sleep every night, staying hydrated and eating a balanced diet, getting sunlight and fresh air everyday, journalling and other forms of self expression. and to finish off this post i wanna leave u guys with some dolly affirmations to live ur best dolly life 💗

🧁 i am so flawless from head to toe

🎀 i am absolutely in love with myself, and why WOULDN'T i be?

🧁 i manifest instantly

🎀 i am more than capable of anything that i want to do

🧁 i am gorgeous on the inside and on the outside

🎀 im just SUCH a ray of sunshine and beauty to everything and everyone

[agirlwithglam]

hi girlies! iiiiits.. June! The month of blossoming, sun and freedom ✧ Just as flowers open up to the sun, it's time for us to open our hearts to new possibilities and fresh starts. Heres some ways to harness the energy of June to flourish and grow ₊˚✧ ﾟ.

1. Set new intentions.

Start the month by setting clear, positive intentions. What do you want to achieve in the next 30 days? Whether it's developing a new habit, or simply practicing gratitude daily, write down your goals and keep them where you can see them.

2. Create a new morning routine (optional)

A nurturing morning routine can set a positive tone for your entire day. And also, switching up your morning routine monthly can make it seem more exciting to start your day! here are some of the musts to add in a morning routine:

Hydration: drink. water.

Movement: a workout, yoga, dance, sport, walking, etc.

Meditation: deep breathing, or even a video on youtube!

Journal: Write down your thoughts, dreams, and what you're grateful for.

3. Self-Care.

in June, we will be dedicating one day a week to self-care. Use this time to pamper yourself, whether it's taking a luxurious bath, taking out time for reading your favourite book, or trying out a new skincare routine! embrace your girlhood and have some fun!

Cultivate Inner Peace

Inner peace is the foundation of a happy, fulfilling life. This June, focus on practices that help you maintain a calm and balanced state of mind:

1. Mindfulness and Meditation

like i said earlier, add mindfulness and meditation into your daily routine if you want to be more calm and centred. Even a few minutes a day can help reduce stress and increase your overall sense of well-being.

2. Declutter Your Space

A tidy environment leads to a clearer mind. Take some time to organise your home or workspace. Donate or sell items you no longer need and organise the rest. A fresh, clean space can be incredibly rejuvenating!

3. Practice gratitude

instead of focusing on what you don't have, focus on what you do have. Keep a gratitude journal and write down at least three things you're grateful for each day. This simple practice can shift your focus from what's lacking to the abundance in your life

Conclusion

June is a beautiful month to focus on blooming into your best self. you can make this a month of pinkness and girliehood. Embrace the warmth of June and let your true self shine!

[himynamesmira]

[becomingthatgirl111]

these are the habits you have to give up before the year is out:

worrying about people and things you can’t control

negative conversations with others

obsessing about what others think

lying for others

expect others to do what you want them to do and get angry if they don't do it

creating expectations on others

gossiping

making excuses for not taking care of your responsibilities

lying to yourself

putting your needs lasts

giving priority to other people's opinions rather than your own

letting the negative opinions of others affect you

limiting yourself

comparing themselves to others and putting them on a pedestal

giving prominence to people who do not deserve it

set boundaries with others but not with yourself

spending too much time on social media

habits you need to implement:

create a daily routine that you feel comfortable with and suits you

calming your mind a few times a day

positive affirmations and healthy thoughts

complimenting others and congratulating their success

letting go of things you can’t control

ending toxic relationships

more time outside

making yourself and your health a priority

self compassion and self forgiveness

taking responsibilities

more self care

beginning with a motivation each day

do what you need for yourself

starting something new (activity, hobby, habit)

not to depend on others and to learn to do things you want to do on your own

focus on the good things and not on the things you don't like

exercise and eat healthy for the sake of your body and not to fit into a beauty canon

getting out of your comfort zone

focus on building healthy relationships rather than being guided by false expectations of how relationships should be

be true to yourself and your values

not to sell or denigrate you for money or lavish gifts

[alilarew23]

daily reminder that

once you decide something is happening/has already happened/is yours/will 777% be yours, you can feel whatever the fuck you want to feel, you can think whatever the fuck you want to think, you can carry yourself however the fuck you want to carry yourself—it DOES NOT MATTER. there is nothing, and i mean NOTHING, more powerful than the energy of decision, than the absolute unwavering belief in a specific outcome. decide, know, and stop giving your power up. if you’re on my team, you’re fearless, you’re winning, you’ve already won, and that’s on god.

love you, strong one. 💋

[awakeclub]

What women Want?

1. Dominance

Desiring a strong presence in a partner is a common trait in women.

Society may challenge traditional masculinity, but many women appreciate men who can provide protection, strength, and ambition.

Embracing assertiveness is a key aspect of this.

2. Assertiveness

Women are often drawn to assertive men who confidently express themselves.

A man who stands up for his values, takes calculated risks, and follows through on his promises is attractive.

Being able to defend oneself and others is a quality she values.

3. Ambition

Women are attracted to men who continuously strive for self-improvement.

This includes mental, physical, financial, and career growth, as they seek partners who can build a shared future.

A desire to live a fulfilling life for oneself and others is highly regarded.

4. Confidence

Confidence is a desirable trait in a man, as it signifies self-assuredness and strength.

A man who sees himself as a valuable partner, someone with a promising future, and a potential father figure is appealing.

5. Respectful

Respect is vital in maintaining a healthy, loving relationship.

Mutual respect is the foundation, and a lack of it can lead to relationship breakdowns.

Recognizing that respect should flow both ways is essential to sustaining love.

6. Maturity

Maturity is valued in a partner, particularly due to considerations related to family planning.

Women seek men who can provide emotional and practical support, and who can lead in a family context.

7. Responsible

Responsibility is a highly regarded quality in a man's life.

Taking ownership of both successes and setbacks, and a commitment to self-improvement, are qualities that benefit both the individual and his potential future family.

8. Protective

Although society promotes independence, women often desire a sense of security.

Being there to protect and defend a partner during difficult times is an unspoken expectation for many women.

9. Madness

- Excitement and Adventure

A touch of unpredictability or adventure can make a relationship more thrilling. A bit of madness can infuse spontaneity and excitement into a couple's life.

- Creativity

Madness can be synonymous with creativity. A man with original ideas, willing to break away from the norm and suggest innovative activities, can be very appealing.

- Freedom of Expression

A dose of madness can also signify that a man is comfortable with himself and unafraid of judgment from others. This can create an environment where a woman feels free to be herself.

- Lightness

Sometimes, a touch of madness can contribute to lightening the mood, making moments together more fun and less serious. This can strengthen the bond between partners.

10. Sex

For some women, physical intimacy is an essential means of emotionally connecting with their partner, strengthening the bond, and maintaining a satisfying relationship. Sex is a sanctuary of expression. The Body-Heart-Soul correlation is the sovereign triptych.

11. Listening

- Strengthening Relationships

Listening attentively demonstrates interest and respect for the thoughts, emotions, and concerns of the other person, thereby strengthening the emotional connection.

- Resolving Conflicts

Effective listening allows for the constructive resolution of disagreements, avoiding defensive or aggressive communication.

- Promoting Emotional Well-being

Listening can help express and share emotions, which can reduce stress and enhance mental health.

- Building Trust

When a woman feels heard and understood, it enhances trust in the relationship.

- Encouraging Personal Growth

Listening to a woman’s aspirations and goals can support her personal development.

[richarlotte]

Tuesday’s Wisdom.

[stephobrien]

"For 37 years I've practiced 14 hours a day, and now they call me a genius." - Pablo de Sarasate

"...blessed with the gift."

Honestly this pisses me off. I was not magically born possessing the ability to make what I make. I've been making plush for over a decade, constantly learning, pushing myself, working my ass off to make them better and better. Every single one I make is still a challenge. I'm not "drowning" in plushies because they're freaking hard to make and take forever to put together, not to mention their materials are expensive.

Every artist I know has worked super hard to get to where they are. Don't discredit their blood sweat and tears by saying their hard work was just magically bestowed upon them as a "gift."

One of my first plush, next to my latest (2022). Before even making that dragon I'd already been drawing and making 3D art for years, plus did a lot of plush research.

Another reason I hate this mentality is because it discourages people from trying art themselves. "Oh I'm not talented like you." BS. While it's true some people might have personalities more suited to tedious work, or better hand-eye coordination (that can be improved too btw) or whatever, it's a myth that you have to have talent to succeed at any task. You just have to work for it. Everyone does, even the very best artists.

We're all born knowing nothing. Just because my chosen passion is art doesn't mean the ability to make it was handed to me. You can also cultivate passion and pursue the skills you'd like to have, but you have to be willing to start at ground zero and build up.

Anyway. Go pursue your passions, and recognize the hard work behind other people's "talent." And bless every one of y'all who notes that you've been inspired by my art, may you go and kick ass in your endeavors.

First 3D plush (dolphin) with a recent fox (2022).

[agirlunfilteredsblog]

KIND REMINDERS 🤍

1. You are someone’s dream girl exactly the way you are right now.

We put so much emphasis on growth and getting to that “next best place”, which is fine, but we always forget that we deserve self-love as we are right now. It does not mean that you aren’t at your “best” physically and/or mentally that you aren’t deserving of love, kindness, and respect.

2. Perspective is everything

Stop stressing over that one bad grade you received at school. In ten years, you won’t even remember what teacher gave it to you. Focus your energy on things that’ll have lasting impacts. When you look back on your life, you want to see the beauty of it, not the anguish.

3. Growth isn’t linear

Don’t blame yourself for messing up. We aren’t perfect and we are bound to mess up every once in a while. Learn from your mistakes, and try to not repeat them. And if you do, that’s okay, there’s always another time. Growth has no time limit.

4. You are not a bad person

If you are sitting here constantly asking yourself if you are a bad person or underserving of love, I’m here to tell you one thing: bad people don’t worry about whether they are perceived as “good” or “bad”. Give yourself grace, and stop letting your overthinking consume you.

So much love,

A girl unfiltered 💋

[windonthewaters]

[theambitiouswoman]

Basic Financial Rules To Live By 💰✨

Create a plan that shows how much money you get and how much you spend. This helps you see where your money goes.

Set aside a part of your money as savings. Try to save at least 10-20% of what you earn.

Be careful with borrowing money, especially if you have to pay back a lot of extra money (interest).

Save some money for unexpected things like medical bills or losing your job. Aim to have enough to cover your living costs for a few months.

Put your saved money into different things that can make it grow, like stocks or real estate. Be patient, as it takes time.

Don't spend more money than you make. Stick to buying what you really need, not just what you want.

Decide what you want to do with your money, both in the short term (like a vacation) and long term (like retirement).

Set up automatic transfers to your savings and bills so you don't forget to save or pay your bills on time.

Make saving money a top priority before spending on other things.

Regularly look at your money situation, adjust your plan as needed, and see how your investments are doing.

Pay your bills on time and use credit wisely (like credit cards) to keep a good credit score, which can help you get better deals on loans.

Save money for when you're older and don't work anymore. Use retirement accounts to help with this.

Think before you buy things. Don't buy something just because you want it; think if it's necessary.

Keep learning about how money works and how to make smart money choices.

Only use your emergency fund for real unexpected problems, not for things you just want to buy.

[prettieinpink]

HOW TO STOP SELF SABOTAGING + DOUBTING

MAKE YOUR GOALS/HABITS AN IDENTITY. Your lifestyle makes up who you are, quite literally. If you want to wake up early, then start identifying yourself as an early bird. If you want to get good grades, then start identifying yourself as a studious student. And so on. 

This helps with feeling more accountable and committed to our goals and habits. However, don’t use this as a reason to overexert yourself. 

THERE IS SOMETHING UNDERNEATH CERTAIN BEHAVIOURS. All of your bad habits stem from your subconscious. This is why mentally healthy people tend to think more about their physical health. 

The best way to recognise patterns beneath your bad habits is just to talk to yourself. In any way or any form. Identify it, see what might’ve caused this subconscious thought and then work towards a way to replace the feeling that these bad habits give with a good one. 

DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME. The more you fixate on the long-term results, the more longer, strenuous and exhausting your journey is going to be, especially because you’re going to want to give up as soon as results don’t appear. Focus on the short-term results. 

You exercised? Now you feel good inside. You studied hard and understood everything? Great job for being so productive. You did that one really scary thing? What a great start!

THE PART OF YOU THAT DOES BAD HABITS IS NOT BAD. It is the complete opposite of bad. It loves you and wants to keep you safe, so it refrains you from doing anything ‘scary’ (which is typically new things in our lives) and makes you fall back on ‘safe’ habits which are a coping mechanism. 

So, instead of berating that part of you that participates in bad habits even if you know it’s bad, understand it. As these coping mechanisms usually stem from our childhoods, we turn to these habits when we feel stressed, anxious or depressed. 

[friendlyneighborhoodshark]

HOW TO ACTIVATE YOUR HAPPINESS CHEMICALS

Dopamine (pleasure + reward)

Sleep

Go outside

Be creative

Complete a task

Doing something new

Celebrate the small wins

Serotonin (the mood stabilizer)

Running

Meditating

Practice yoga

Walk in nature

Relax in the sun

Oxytocin (the love hormone)

Hug someone

Play with a cat/dog

Random acts of kindness

Give someone a compliment

Quality time with friends and family

Endorphins (the pain relief/distresser)

Laughing

Essential oils

Take a hot bath

Watch a comedy

Eating dark chocolate

[courtingwonder]

Critical Thinking Cheatsheet

[alilarew23]

the second you decide something is yours, that thing, that person, that whatever INSTANTLY begins moving towards you, “manifesting” you. it wants you, badly, and is doing everything in its power to get to you via the quickest and easiest route. and it has access to ALL routes—so so so many more than you could even begin to conceive of. ditch the mental acrobatics. ditch the (bullshit) ideas of resistance, of blockages. ditch the effort. ditch anything that feels even the least bit unnatural. set your intention, then ALLOW the unfolding with the joyful certainty that what you hold in your imagination and in your heart will soon be made visible to you. this isn’t a maybe. this is absolute. you are safe—i promise—to simply be who you are, to enjoy what’s here now, to say thank you.

i love you!

[awakeclub]

HOW TO BECOME RICH & (AT THE END) WEALTHY?

Wealth Creation

Becoming affluent is an acquirable expertise.

Prioritizing the creation of wealth surpasses the pursuit of status symbols.

Money functions as a tool traded for goods and services.

To generate affluence, contribute value to society.

True wealth entails owning assets that generate income as you rest.

Skills

Becoming perpetually educated is the paramount skill for achieving wealth.

The goal is to acquire expertise that sets you apart when the demand for those skills arises.

Master both the art of selling and the craft of building. If you can excel in both, your potential knows no bounds.

Reading

Devoting an hour each day to studying disciplines such as science, math, and philosophy is likely to position you within the highest ranks of human achievement. Reading in general is one of the pillars of success

Immerse yourself in subjects you are passionate about until that passion translates into a love for reading itself.

Dedicating one to two hours daily to reading places you in the most exceptional 0.00001 percent.

Leverage

Maintaining a traditional 9–5 job often poses challenges in wealth creation.

Relying solely on exchanging time for money is unlikely to lead to affluence, as time is a finite resource. Harness leverage (through labor, assets, and capital) to magnify your impact.

Asset ownership serves as the lever that constructs wealth and augments income.

Play Long-Term Games With Long-Term People

The principle of compounding operates across relationships, businesses, and finances. Instant success is rare; persistence is key.

Continue investing effort in significant endeavors that require time. Your aim is achievement over the span of years and decades, not just within short intervals of days or weeks.

Freedom

The primary motivation for many individuals to seek wealth is to attain freedom. True freedom involves commanding your time, unlike the constraints of a typical 9–5 job.

This concept of freedom evolves from "freedom to" do something to "freedom from" certain limitations.

Freedom is an intrinsic state. It pertains to emancipation from reactivity, anger, and sadness.

Play To You and Work For Others

Find what you love to do, and you will enjoy it.

When you are passionate about something, it is not a job anymore, it is a necessity.

What may seem hard to others is a delight and a source of motivation.

What’s that thing for you?

Happiness is Learned

Happiness is an acquirable skill that can be cultivated over time. We possess the ability to learn how to cultivate happiness and direct our attention towards the present and more significant aspects of life. True happiness arises when the feeling of something lacking in our lives is dispelled.

Life is a Single-Player Game

Many of our life pursuits are driven by the desire for validation from both our parents and society. In truth, you come into this world alone and will depart from it in the same manner. Your perceptions and recollections are inherently personal experiences. Ultimately, you're in competition with yourself, striving for self-improvement and growth.

Know Yourself

Find your own path.

We try hard to mold ourselves into society to get validation.

The way to get out of the competition trap is to be authentic, to find the thing you know how to do better than anybody.

No one in the world is going to beat you at being you.

Priorities and Decisions

When a matter holds true priority, you'll uncover a means to accomplish it.

Life's three significant priorities encompass prosperity, well-being, and contentment.

Early in life, you make three pivotal choices: your place of residence, your companions, and your occupation.

Find your Passion and Be the Best

It's feasible to excel in just one or two areas simultaneously, typically those you're fervently fixated on.

Channel your energy into subjects that captivate your curiosity. Recognize your strengths and extend assistance to others. Share your expertise.

Engage in benevolent actions. In due time, your aspirations are likely to materialize.

YOU ARE WONDERFUL

You will do what you want with your life but:

STOP BEING A BITCH