#is this a neurotypical person thing

[ye-olde-tardis]

Friend: how come I never get to pick the things we watch?

Me: I'd love to watch the thing you're interested in!!!! What is it?

Friend: oh, I'm not really into stuff like that right now.

Me: ......then what do you want to watch?

Friend: I don't really care :)

Me: ??????

[pikhachu]

girls when their issues get dismissed as anxiety for the millionth time

[ambrosiagourmet]

I dunno, I kinda think that describing an often-viewed-as-autistic character as relatable to everyone is fun and rad actually. I think that the idea of autistic people being relatable to neurotypical people is cool as hell

[rouge-fauna]

Normally, I wouldn't really say anything about the drama and stuff, because that's not what I'm here for and honestly I feel like a lot of it is just none of my business. But, it just feels so close to home for me that I can't help but say something. Because here's the thing people aren't going to talk about and probably don't even realize, but I think so much of this drama actually has to do with Dream being autistic.

Just notice the themes of what Tubbo said about Dream being weird, inappropriate, not considering the social boundaries, not communicating, coming across wrong… etc these are all things that can be attributed to Dream literally not knowing better because of neurodivergence. That’s not an excuse but an explanation to know the difference between Dream texting Tommy’s mom out of being manipulative versus not understanding how that breaks a social boundary. That’s not to say Dream should get a free pass to do whatever but I think in the same way we take into consideration other people’s ages and their naivety and obliviousness and inexperience into consideration, Dream’s neurodivergence should be considered too. It is valid. It makes a difference between manipulative and malicious intent versus simply not seeing it the same way.

And really the sad thing is, that I think people will always dislike Dream. At the end of the day, I think that will never change, because even if he was the most perfect person people would still dislike him because of an underlying subconscious response to him not being like the rest. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that he is made the villain in real life and in the dsmp, because it is simply a psychological fact that people inherently dislike autistic people. It’s not because they are ableist it’s just we don’t act like they do so that makes us weird and therefore unlikeable. And it’s hard to understand us because our brains our literally different and as has been said throughout history what we don’t understand we hate, we fear, we see as evil, we attack. Why does Dream get canceled and attacked over and over again? Not because they are true and it proves a pattern that he’s shitty, but because society is so desperate to find a more tangible reason to hate him other than the fact that they just do. Because his behavior breaks social rules he didn’t realize existed. Because he’s easy pickings. Because in my opinion it all comes down to autism and honestly until that piece is actually taken into consideration nothing will probably resolve.

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

“Treat others how you want to be treated” is a cute sentiment but such awful real life advice that has gotten me into endless predicaments. Neurotypicals do not want to be treated how I want to be treated.

Turns out that among all eight billion of us, there are a few different sets of values and preferences and neurotypes. Turns out not everyone wants to be treated the same ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[ano-po]

TBH, people with extensive knowledge about psychology used to be sexy until they learned how to use these big jargons to weaponize their mental health issues.

Let's say everyone is broken and everyone needs healing, everyone is a victim of a system and everyone has trauma to be considered.

The correct approach is, "Okay, I learned about this from psychology so let's heal together! Let's help one another!"

Not, "I know about these things from psychology so you should listen to me. I need healing, and you should do everything in your power, sometimes even sacrificing your own mental health, to HEAL ME."

Don't get me started with that damn love language thing. Most often than not, you hear men saying, "My love language is physical intimacy so you should always agree whenever I want to do it."

It's weaponizing psychology.

And this kind of psychological abuse is not healing anyone.

[hephaestuscrew]

Who says the episode title phrases in each episode of Wolf 359?

I've created a spreadsheet to show which character says the episode title phrase (i.e. the words which form the name of that particular episode) in every episode of Wolf 359. Graphs summarising this data can be found below, but to look at the full spreadsheet in all its glory, and see the progression through the series, you can follow this link: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1cQLkhxbDAItU6rdiUAYGn54FXXxYC-JXlCmP_Dqe9FA/

(Please note: I’ve focused here on which character first speaks the exact title phrase within the episode itself. In some cases, this is not the only - or the most significant - time that the title phrase is spoken.)

EDIT: This post previously stated incorrectly that "the devil's plaything" is not said in Ep57. In fact, it is said by Pryce (through Minkowski). Thank you to @yaghoulghosty for pointing this out!

Season breakdown graphs below the cut...

[dougielombax]

Oh I’m sorry!

Did my neurodivergence threaten your neurotypical ableism?!

[zorubark]

Autistic person with lots of charisma and almost seems allistic but sometimes does something pretty autistic like rant, info dump or stim and then you discover that person only seems neurotypical because they copy their blorbos from the internet all the time and got their charisma from them

[ganondoodle]

i have seen people talk about how hard it is to draw anything if you have aphantasia (which is good to talk about and true and valid and also intersting to read and this post isnt to devalue that, two things can coexist etc etc)

i personally struggle with the opposite; i have incredible imagination, i'd say it's my best and only "inate talent", (this is not a brag ..) all stories i think about are movies, i can stop them, change camera angle and poses, rotate ever object however i want, place lighting sound and voices, even styles, i switch from ghibli to botw to fortiches style, even into the style of a comic i recently read which wasnt even animated, the only thing that only works half the time is music-

and that all might sound fantastic, but its a mess, it goes too fast and too quickly, things never play out one way, theres interruption, involuntarily sudden changes to other subjects, i feel like struggling to keep an angry horse on one path, it makes me waste HOURS each day just reversing and redoing a scene like im a movie director wizard in my head, theres no ONE finished version, it changes everytime yet i go back over and over again to make it better, i forget most of it within a few hours anyway; even IRL when someone tells me about a memory and they are not sure if i was with them during it once they start to explain trying to make me remember it instead i will imagine it, in the end i wont be sure if i actually remembered or if i just imagined it too real, it scares me how much i forget and cant remember only for my mind to make shit up, makign me doubt my own memory (its weird how it works, i have horrible geographical memory, when i drive somwhere i have known my entire life i need to remember the path to it by imagining driving it, i remember significant things but not the path to them or how they connect or in what order, i have to go through it in my head every single time)

by far the worst part though is that extreme disconnect between whats in my mind and what i can do, just because i can imagine things like that doesnt mean i can draw it (god i WISH), nothing i have ever drawn is how it was in my head, the few things you get to see are the ones i won the fight against myself with to keep going and say 'good enough' at some point the speed is a problem too, the things playing in my head, sometimes even multiple at the same time, play like, again, a movie, whatever im trying to draw is rarely ONE thing, its a whole scene that plays over and over, i want to draw it all but it wont work bc my mind is too fast and i am too slow, it makes me try to skip ahead and get things done as fast as possible, it NEVER works (also too much, theres so many things in my head, i have almost the entirety of the totk rewrite in my head already, novels worth of lore and story for my other projects, its overwhelming how much is in there that i cannot get out and on paper)

its why comics take me so long to make, why detailed paintings are so rare, its the rare times i can force myself to try and tune out my mind and just work on what is in front of me, usually works for a few hours .. if i can manage to reach that sort of focus at all, its why basic sketches of characters are so much easier to do bc i dont have to fight as hard to just draw a character doing nothing- as soon as i want to make it a sketch page of things and scenes the movies are back and are there to haunt me until i cry and give up after hours of trying to keep up with my mind that i will never be able to catch up to (and this is only about drawing .. )

i know skill and speed increase over time, but i wont ever get to where my mind is, its always ahead and trying to skip and jump towards it only makes me stumble and fall flat on my face- maybe its ADHD, maybe its the autism, maybe its the depression, maybe its just me, maybe its just all of that

what im trying to say is, head full, too much thought, too fast, never able to translate it into viewable things in the way and speed as my head works, i explode

[lapdogchase]

"autistic people communicate with each other just fine, which means we don't have communication difficulties, it's just that allistic people can't communicate properly, so they think we have trouble with it when really they do" is such a blatantly wrong concept in general but also i think if you think you've had 100% perfect communication with every autistic person you've ever spoken to.. peace and love it's possible u might not be as good at communication as ur thinking

[just-a-little-anxious]

I don't know if anybody else has noticed this, but I keep hearing my peers and adult say things like "I'm so autistic about x" or "don't be so autistic" and it really bothers me.

It is almost always used in negative ways, with people saying it when they're being perfectionists, or when they want to follow 'insignificant' rules (like not driving through red, even if there's no-one on the road)

I just wish people would stop doing that. I am autistic and i am literally right there when they say that kind of stuff, but when i mention it, i'm being too 'sensitive' and they 'don't mean it in a bad way', despite the fact that context says otherwise.

If you're gonna insult me and my autism, at least have the balls to be upfront about it

[thebibliosphere]

I keep telling myself one of these years, I'm going to be organized. One of these years, I'll have my shit together enough to do the things which I know would be good ideas, but I either lack the time/money/executive function to carry out.

I know that's the ADHD "if I just try hard enough" fantasy talking. I know it is.

But that doesn't make it any less frustrating to know I will always feel like I'm running behind. I will never catch up with everything that needs doing. Because everything needs to be done all of the time.

Every time I try to get ahead and give future me some breathing space it results in burnout, either physical or mental. And then present-me suffers, and future-me doesn't get anything done either.

So I'm just stuck constantly feeling like I don't have enough time. I'm always falling behind. I hate it.

[cyanbeetle]

It is generally kind of disheartening to try and have any sort of conversation about race on this website that leaves room for actual emotion instead of, like, an explicit, straightforward explanation of a concept intended for white audiences to listen and learn from. Even those conversations are hard. I guess it’s because tumblr has a predominantly white userbase but seeing themes of race, culture, disconnection, and assimilation go over so many peoples heads or be confidently misinterpreted as themes of gender, sexuality, or neurodivergence over and over can feel really isolating and discouraging. I get that a lot of people just don’t have the personal experience to connect to those themes, but failing to recognize that they exist in a work entirely makes me kind of sad as a creator, and is a lot of the reason I don’t post on here so much anymore

[creekfiend]

I am as unimpressed by bioessentialism in neurodiversity discussion as I am by it in any other venue. weird of me I know