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I found this on Pinterest and I shared it because I support ace and aro folks.
#asexuality#ace#i support ace people#aromantic#aro#aroace#i support aro people#lgbtq italia#lgbtq#pride
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this pride remember polyamorous people are so fucking cool
#i don't get why people wouldn't support polyam#granted i'm aromantic and i don't get a lot about romance#but this is just... romance in a different flavor#and it's... consensual... and some people are just like... no that's not right#???#what#lgbt#lgbt pride#pride#polyamory#polyamorous#polyam#love you guys i think us aros and polys should start a club#we defy society's standard of romance how cool is that
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this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...
#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things.#people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time.#but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized.#sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement.#this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex.#and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things#especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love.#our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!!#it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild....#anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that.#silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff.#love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another#same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take#anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that.#kiss kiss (<— lovelessly)#aromantic#aromanticism#arospec#talking#aroace#aspec#sex positivity
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aro culture is getting really annoyed with the relationships unit in your sociology class because the whole thing is just 100% amatonormativity.
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if think your teacher, professor, and/or TAs might be interested in discussing the concept, I have some idea of bringing up the topic?
I'd personally say something like, "Hi, During our section in sociology around relationships, I couldn't help but think it would be interesting to discuss how a sociological theory called "amatonormativity" might relate to these lessons. I gathered a few sources from the professor who coined it, a thesis written on it, and a law review written about the connection between it and laws in the USA. There's some connections between its use in feminist thought and in queer theories, and I'd love to know your thoughts about it. I personally was thinking of when [specific statement] was said, and how I would apply this theory. I hope it's as interesting to you as it is to me."
Coiner's current webpage: https://elizabethbrake.com/amatonormativity/
Thesis: https://vc.bridgew.edu/honors_proj/330/ (click download in upper right hand corner for the PDF, depending on the individual it may be worth downloading and sending that rather than a link)
Law Review: https://uclawreview.org/2022/06/09/amatonormativity-in-the-law-an-introduction/
#aro culture is#aro#aromantic#actually aro#actually aromantic#ask#mod leo#the general thing is: if you approach a teacher/professor/TA i promise you most of them are THRILLED to see a student engage with the topic#even if it's critical! but you HAVE to watch your tone. i'm not tone policing - you're so allowed to feel and talk about how harmful it is!#- but when you start from excitement or neutral 'how do you feel?' it creates dialogue#and people learn from each other when there's back and forth. practice your 'i statements' like 'i like this theory because i feel...'#not 'your lessons are shitty and promote topics that hurt me and my community'#cause like. no one wants to engage with someone who starts off the bat with that#talking shit about it within community and already supportive folks >>> talking shit about it with someone who's likely unaware at best#and will probably assume it's a weird passive aggressive way to say you don't like them and want them gone#y'know? all about communication skills#<- took a seminar on intrapersonal communication in queer communities in college and suggested how many materials assumed romo/sexual#relationships when discussing boundaries and such and how in queer spaces it's especially important to talk about ALL types of relationship#because we are likely to need that guidance in everyday microaggressions too! and the outside therapist helping with the course was SO#into that and SO excited to bring that energy to the class
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It's kind of comforting to have part of your queerness kept inside by choice. Being closeted by force isn't comforting, but I think there can be a sense of peace when you choose not to talk about part of your queerness. It feels like I am able to honour myself on my own, and I'm able to be happy with myself and not include anybody else in that.
#queer#lgbt#lgbtq#this is the one of the ONLY places i have been openly aroace and that's only thanks to the semi-anonymity of tumblr#but irl it's so comforting to be privately aro. it feels like freedom when i can refuse to divulge that#i think closeting yourself should solely be a decision only you can make#and i don't support forcing people in OR out of the closet#i think it's evil to force people into the closet and it's entitled to force people put of it y'know?
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I talk a lot about how gay I am and how much I love gay stuff but I also want to be clear- straight/het intersex folks, straight/het trans folks, and straight/het aro/ace folks are part of pride to me. You’re part of my community and you’re welcome here. Closeted and questioning people too, whatever your identity is, you don’t need to be visibly queer or know your label to have a place here.
ANYWAYS HAPPY PRIDE, STOP POLICING EACH OTHER, WE DON’T NEED MORE COPS IN THE WORLD.
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Also just. Aro/ace people in general you’re part of the community idk why some people are being weird about this
#no fucking aroace exclusion on this blog#don’t be weird to people that are exclusively aro#don’t use intersex people as a talking point in support of trans rights#and don’t exclude trans folks who are too ‘cishet’ passing for your liking#we’re stronger together I don’t understand why anyone would want to make the community smaller#just sharp things
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People who identify as Aspec because of trauma are still Aspec. People who identify as Aspec because of Dysphoria are still Aspec People who realized later on they weren't Aspec where are any less Aspec when they were identifying as it. The point is that at some point they related to and felt understood under an Aspec identity and that's all you need to be Aspec. If it changes later on then that's just how it is, it doesn't make them a faker or poser. It makes them a human being who is constantly growing and understanding more about themselves. We should be supporting these people not treating them as the enemy. If they change their minds then that's okay!
So many of us Aspec people used to think we were allo before realizing we weren't so why are we attacking others for having the same experience just with different identities?
#text#aro#ace#aroace#aspec#aromantic#asexual#this also includes people who don't change their labels at all who are aspec from trauma and dysphoria too#but the post mostly is targetting those who push the idea that these people will change their mind later#or they can be fixed from it and thus shouldn't identify as aspec#you all deserve respect and you are not our enemy#you are part of our community and we should be supporting you through your journey of self discovery#this includes other aspec identities too but I mostly see this argument used against people saying they are aro or ace#but im sure people who experienced trauma and dyphoria have also identified under other a-attractions as well due to it
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Yeah you support aro people but do you listen to aro people when we tell you something you like doing hurts us?
#the endless cycle of#alloromantic person: I support aro people#alloromantic person 5 posts later: *posts something amatonormative and/or arophobic*#aro people: hey thats not cool and is actually pretty upsetting and amatonormative and/or arophobic#alloromantic person: well I want to do it so you guys are in the wrong for making me feel bad#aspec#aromantic#neon's void#also the age old classic of 'aro people are the real arophobes because they are ignoring [insert misunderstanding of aro identities here]'
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I have a simple rule for life that can be applied to anything and anyone:
You can't gatekeep someone's existence
This rule applies to a wide range of identities and people, here, let's give a few examples;
Bi Lesbians are harmful beca-
You can't gatekeep someone's existence
Aspec people aren't LGBT+ becau-
You can't gatekeep someone's existence
A lesbian can't use he/him pronouns bec-
You can't gatekeep someone's existence
If someone says they're X but you don't like X so you try to undermine their identity or somehow call it "harmful" then you're the problem, it's hard enough trying to just exist while openly not a cishet white guy and if someone finds a label that fits it is not your job to tell that person that Um Akshually That Label Which Aligns With Your Lived Experience is harmful because blah blah blah, it is your job to say I'm happy you're figuring yourself out and then move on with your day.
The only "identities" that are harmful are bigoted ones that actively attack others, so basically only Super straight morons and terfs. anyone else, it's not your fuckin problem. If someone says the split attraction model helps them articulate their feelings and experiences even when not aspec, you don't get to be the final say in telling them they're not "allowed" to use it, I'll say it one more time for the people in the back:
You can't gatekeep someone's existence
Thanks for coming to my fuckin Ted talk if you have to bitch my inbox is open so I can easily block you have a nice day
#tumblerose talks#transgender#stop being gatekeepy weirdos#bi lesbians#mspec lesbians#aspec#aro#asexual#aromantic#idk what all to tag this I'm just tired of seeing people be weird about other people's identities when they didn't do shit wrong#judge someone not by their birth but their character yadda yadda#idk support me on Patreon so I can rant without worrying about bills
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WHAT apparently the aro/ace tags are trending due to exclusionist bs!? I am seeing things like "hetero-aces/aros don't belong in our community" or "cishet ace/aro men dont belong"--
Look. It does not matter if you are heteroromantic or heterosexual, if you are a man, a woman, anything in-between, both, anything outside entirely, if you identify only with being ace while being heteroromantic, or only aro but heterosexual, or both or oriented or angled, you are ACE, you are ARO, you are valid and you have a place in the community as any body else. We are connected by our experiences regardless of origin and don't let anybody tell you you don't deserve to feel comfortable or be in this community just because you don't fit some worthless critera. Straight As are still As.
There is a reason we call it a spectrum, because it is diverse and there is nothing else quite like being this. It is unfathomable that this was ever a question.
#i cant believe it though what did aro/ace men ever do!? they are actually people who need a lot of support#because for some people it's unbelievable that they even exist#aromantic#asexual#aroace#aro#ace#angled aroace#oriented aroace#rant#straight As are real#and they are As#late to the party ig#but i am not happy as an oriented aroace#nomi writes
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[trigger warning: mention of sexual assault]
the specific breed of queer queerphobia is just as if not more frightening than non-queer queerphobia, specifically in this case as it relates to acespec/arospec people (terms which will hence be combined into "aspec" for the sake of clarity, see the tags for a quick note about this)
if it's not already clear from my posts, i am very supportive of the silenced, erased, and shunned parts of the queer community. i involve myself a great deal in breaking down the walls that queer people have decided to erect in order to determine who does and doesn't get to call themselves "queer". nothing breaks my heart more than seeing other people who experience the world in a way starkly different from perisex, allosexual, alloromantic, cisgender, heterosexual people, get shunned from a family who also experiences the world in such a difference way, simply because it's not different "enough", or not different in the way they want to be different
aspec people will always unquestionably be queer, regardless of anything else that would or wouldn't make them queer. period.
aspec people should not and should never need to "justify" themselves to attend pride, not just "as an ally", but as someone whose relationship with romance and sex (the act) differs from what is expected of a "normal" person. they are inherently different, they are inherently queer. full stop.
aphobia exists, regardless of whether or not you follow your blatant bigotry with "no it doesn't". you cannot erase your shittiness by following up your shittiness with "by the way, I'm not being shitty". and if you know you are being aphobic, and you are proud of such a thing, rethink the way you see queerness as a whole. you are a vile human being, and should unlearn the oppression olympics. you not only are an athlete in it, but you are the obstacles. you are the fucking problem.
aspec people regularly face discrimination and harassment for being aspec. the comments of "why do you refuse to give me grandkids" and "maybe you just haven't found the right person yet" and "you're broken" and "you're going through a phase" have all been said about gay people, about lesbians, and about aspec people. aspec people face violence for being aspec. aspec people face corrective rape for being aspec. aspec people face crocodile tears claws that intend to "help", aspec people face blood and claws that intend to hurt, aspec people face real, visible hatred. and even if they weren't "oppressed enough", WHICH THEY UNDENIABLY ARE, 1) there isn't an oppression goal someone needs to hit to become valid, and 2) queer people should not be defined by the oppression we face, anyway.
"b-b-but what about cishet asexual people!!!" i have never seen a sentence less scary in my life. cishet people can be queer, you know? cishet people can be intersex (if they choose to identify as queer), cis people can be asexual and aromantic, pericishet people can in fact be demisexual and heteroromantic, and guess what? they're still queer. they still differ from what's "normal". they're still allowed to pride, because pride is not meant to gatekeep.
pride is meant to celebrate our differences, to fight against those who try to suppress us, and to unite those who feel crushed by the heel of normality.
so don't fucking do their job for them.
#not gender related#asexual#aromantic#acespec#arospec#aspec#acephobia#arophobia#aphobia#note:#i don't know when i saw this or if this person was being serious but i saw someone say that ''aspec'' is actually used to refer to the#autism spectrum and should not be used for ace/aro people and instead should be replaced with acespec and arospec?#as an autistic person who is autistic in such a way that makes it literally impossible for me to mask this is absolutely stupid.#i have NEVER seen this used for autistic people however i HAVE seen it been used as a ''correction'' for ace and aro people seeking#community and support from one another.#i don't know if that's still a thing people say but just in case anyone does: No
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Norman: I think I'm in love with Otto. Thoughts?
Goblin: AND PRAYERS
#marvel#incorrect quotes#norman osborn#green goblin#* mine / txt#* mine / incorrect quotes#idk i feel like this has been done b4#do i tag this as octogoblin? ...nah.#goblin is the no 1 octogoblin shipper and also their biggest anti#also this is 10x funnier if you imagine goblin as aromantic#having to deal with your hosts romantic feelings should give you a pass on all murder charges im just saying#(signed an aro before people get my ass lol)#this could also work for otto & goblin#(otto saying hes in love w norman)#like i said....biggest supporter & anti
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am i the only one bothered by people referring to both aroace’s as asexual or aros as asexuals?
ace spec = people who experience sexual attraction in a „non-conventional” way (such as under certain circumstances, don’t at all, feel it but don’t act on it and so on and on).
i think calling aros or/and aroaces asexual is wrong because:
It pushes the narrative that asexuality and aromanticism go hand in hand, that one has to be aromantic to be asexual and vice versa, that is simply not true, while one can be both, some are one or the other.
Using the term asexual when referring to aromantics doesn’t help at all, I do believe asexuality is more known than aromanticism (as I’ve seen in my experience), mixing up the terms because „asexual is easier to explain” or due to misinformation does no good.
#archivomeow🐾#i know some aspecs are non-SAM#i don’t get the non-SAM aspecs ??? i don’t understand how that works but i support yall#but still i do think using ace to refer to aro or aroace is somewhat harmful#i am alloace not aro not aroace so let me call myself ace and don’t teach people it means aro or aroace because that is CONFUSING#aroace#aromantic#aro#aromantic asexual#asexual#ace#ace spec#asexual spectrum#just asexual#alloace
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Star Sans Poly But Its Aromantic Ink Edition
Ink sans call Dream and Blue his partners. Someone remarks on how its strange (Could be ink or blue or a stranger) and Ink is like They're his mission partners, his partners in life that he lives with and eats with and he bandages their wounds, and they are his partners in this never-ending fight thats cuts so deep and leaves nasty wounds, and in their deep os his partners hands reaching out not to hurt but the tenderly heal the vulnerable spots. His relationship with Ink and blue just feels deeper then friend with everything they go through. Theyre his partners. His partners Dream and Blue, and really that just doesn't feel like a friendship the way others define what a friendship is.
So calling them friends just subconsciously hasn't felt right, they're his partners. Its not boyfriends because theyre not dating so thats obviously not right, so partners is the main word Ink uses to describe Dream and Blue. He’ll use friends if it’s convenient in the context, but everything they do is better explained by the word partner.
so. he's explaining this idea with a Normal Friend (This could be any au variant idk) and he's like, well, this isn't a friendship then, this is similar to romance. (Add some miscommunication in that conversation. Maybe the person Ink is talking to describes romance for themself and they're saying its cooking for them and thinking for them all the time and getting little gifts and all that stuff while thinking about their own lover and Ink is like this is Dream and blue for me! I must be inclined to be in a romantic relationship with those two!
And that means in typical Ink Fashion Ink decides to experiment with romance and try it on for size. Be a little silly with it, and asks Dream to date him. It's just Dream because from observing romantic relationships, like Aplhys x Undyne and Sans x Toriel, he's like, hm romantic relationships are typically between only two people so to try out dating to get an authentic more likely to be accurate experiance since I know jack shit about exploring this concept, I should try to date only one person
ink goes through this process of trying to pick dream or Blue to date but eventually ends up just spontaneously picking one and dating dream cause he’s Ink. Maybe Dreams a bit upset in the scene and Ink knows romance might help these things so he forgoes his usual way of comforting dream, and decides to tell Dream he wants to date him. Dream accepts for some reason?? I might make a seperate post in the future exploring Dream’s relationship to romance
Eventually Ink feels kind of bad, or wrong, or just really wants to tell the truth because he figures out more from observing other romantic couples and realizes that he just does not feel romance like that. He does not feel it at all. (Maybe an aromantic awakening in there but Im not sure) and Ink confesses he doesn't feel romance, internally a bit stressed and frazzled cause this is just one more thing thats weird about him and he knows in romantic relationships things are Different and things are Heavier and that means that Dream might take a lot of offense to this admission and maybe even his weirdness. Who knows, romance changes a lot of things and Ink doesn't get those changes or how ppl act (Prob has watched a couple of yandere aus to study romance, which no ink! Thats not a good example!) hed hate it if Dream left or didnt want to hang out with him for a bit and the stability that comes with the star sanses to change. Ink loves a bit of chaos and unforeseen consequances but not with them. Ink explains that he diesn't feel it like other people, cause dream and blue are not his friends, but it's not romance he's feeling. And they talk abou it and get together in a platonic way and idk lots of self-discovery my ideas have ran out.
I would LOVE interaction with ideas or comments or smth Im obsessed with the Star Sanses (+Core Frisk but they're not relavant in this post, unless…..Core Frisk is someone he asks for advice at some point and they regurgitate information and bond over not experience romance normally cause there is no way Core Frisk experiences it normally being an omnipresent being. Maybe they're part of his aromantic awakening whenever that is? They know pretty much everything and love being completely and thoroughly accurate whenever anyone asks them a question and Ink asks a lot of questions sooooo, lots of ideas for that interaction to be had there)
Tldr: Ink sans is aromantic, is a dumbass, gets together with the star sanses romantically, and then is like, ya'll I dont feel romantic attraction so they get together platonically
#Reblogs over likes contribute to the tumblr ecosystem!#utmv#ink sans#character study#maybe?#aromantic Ink sans#Aro ink sans#Sep post for Ink exploring his sexuality#At some point?#Also for dream sans too?#I dont have any brain worms fkr Blue but if skmeone does I would Love love love to see their ideas#fruit punch#dream sans#swap sans#blue sans#i headcannon blue swap and blueberry are 3 diff characters and that Dream is friends withswap and blue and Ink is friends#With blueberry and blue#Blue is friendly with all his counterparts#I just want the concept of alternate versions of you that are pretty identical#And knowing those alternate versions!#this is definitely#inspired by dc#DUDE THEY FIGHT AND LIVE AND BREATHE TOGETHER AND ARE EASCHOTHWERS SOLE EMOTIONAL SUPPORT ANFD THEY HAD FUCKED UP CHILDHOODS#And yet people pretend like these superheroes relationships with eachother are normal!#Specifically thinking about Dick Grayson and#star sans poly
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the thing about carmy berzatto is that he is the exact kind of character that Captivates me because he is oozing ptsd and aromanticism every second he is on screen
#gav gab#im standing in front of the bear fandom with a powerpoint called CARMY IS ARO#people are booing and throwing fruit#i am completely undeterred#WHY ARE YOU BOOING ME IM RIGHT#honestly many characters i will hit with my aro beam for funsies and other reasons but#legit this is imo an extremely strong interpretation that is clearly and powerfully supported by the text of The Work
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honestly one of the worst parts about coming to terms with queerness as an adult is your partner making it about them
"aren't you attracted to me?"
"were you ever attracted to me?"
"was it all just a lie?"
etc etc etc
#honestly i'll probably never even tell him i'm aro#cuz i know it'll be a whole thing#even if he doesn't do it out loud#at least he's an ex now i guess#the fragile ego on even a “good man” is something to behold i swear to god#i'm astounded at how many people are supported through a coming out or transition by their partners#it's absolutely beautiful and everyone deserves that (if they want it)#aroace#asexual#aromantic
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