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started rewatching Bones again and i need a Bones AU Buddie fic STAT

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liking someone platonically is so embarrassing like. yeah i admire you. yeah i think about you all the time. yeah i look forward to every time i see you even if it's only for a minute. yeah it's all platonic and yeah i couldn't explain this because it'd sound romantic. fucking hell

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Great News Everyone

aromanticism

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by the way, if you're weird about aromantic heterosexual cisgender men, i kill you. if that man wants a purely sexual relationship with a woman and communicates that with her, and she agrees, hell yes. good for them. you have no right to be a bitch about that. that's frankly none of your god damn business. he's not "emotionally abusive" for wanting a specific type of relationship. you're being stupid and weird. and weirdly misogynistic, by assuming that women are inherently these helpless victims that have no agency or autonomy.

you're literally being the "the myth of consensual sex" meme when you talk shit about cishet aro men in purely sexual relationships with women.

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*remembers im aro*

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[guy who is aromantic voice] sexual attraction just makes more sense than romantic attraction. like ok, you want to fuck someone. this is quantifiable. it is quite easy to grasp what "i want to fuck someone" looks like, even if you have no idea what it feels like. romantic attraction, though? this is a nebulous construct which seems to largely be "glorified friendship with sex" in the popular imagination. what even is the difference between friendship and romance? the line between friendship and sexual attraction, though both can coexist, is that when there's sexual attraction present, you want to fuck someone. the line between friendship and romantic attraction, so far as i can perceive it within a heteronormative, amatonormative framework, is that it is... friendship where you want to fuck someone. what?

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being aspec as a teenager was surprisingly easy to accept. i never particularly felt "broken" or "out of place". being aspec as an adult has taught me to hate myself in new, deeply profound, exciting ways.

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I wish more people outside of aspec circles would understand the importance of platonic relationships and that romantic love isn’t the only form of love you’re allowed to have. Like yeah I like talking to and about this person and I want to lay my head on their shoulder and talk about the things we enjoy for hours as a friend. I love them as a friend.

The automatic assumption that non-aspec people have about a platonic relationship being close clearly means they want something more is. So annoying? Like no fuck you I just think this person is really cool. Back off.

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on my sick and twisted individual shit

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Romance repulsion to me isn't even an attitude towards the concept itself like I can even go as far as pretending to be romantic. It's moreso a feeling of dysphoria that I get when something I do is percieved as being romantic. I can joke about me and my best friend being romantically involved but when people actually thought we were dating, I got really, really upset at the notion because it felt like people were insisting that I was something I knew I wasn't. I can act like I have a crush on a fictional character or a celebrity as a bit, but the thought of actually having those feelings for anyone feels Wrong, like I'd be out of character. I can even have fun pretending to be romantic but it stops being fun and starts feeling wrong when it's real. Really, romance repulsion in my experience feels very, very similar to gender dysphoria, it's a feeling of knowing that something is very off and you're not being yourself, or you're being percieved as something that you're not

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brussel sprouts as a kid (boiled till soft then some salt and pepper) = bland, textural mushy nightmare, a struggle to eat

brussel sprouts now (halved, fried till just slightly softer but mostly still firm with chilli flakes, peri peri salt and glazed with reduced down honey) = delicious, i could eat a whole kilo bag, pls gimme more

sometimes its all in the preparation type (boiled/steamed/fried/etc) and seasoning when it comes to foods you didnt like

Realizing you just didn’t like a food the way your parents cooked it/the way you grew up eating it can be revolutionary

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aro culture is loving ur partner but constantly being paranoid that you dont love them "enough"

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do i want a partner??????? do i want a best friend????

i guess we'll never know

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Yall aromantics ever have a crush jumpscare like SHIT do I like this guy and then it immediately goes away and ur like oh nvm we're all good here

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no more guilt for doing whats best for me

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