#anti-recovery

[hyperlexichypatia]

Mad Pride shouldn’t be about recovery.

[abigailthornsby]

A little bit about my DR (1)

I want to go to a new reality (one that I created) and one of the things I included was that it is bigger than our world, and I feel a bit unsure about it, since I want to still create more concepts for the world and I am not sure how much fun it'll be but I am hoping to enjoy it

[angelprickandholysemen]

nothing THEY tell you about addiction can prepare you for what it is actually like to experience

THEY cannot possibly understand the forces which destroy THEM

[enbygunderson]

Some "anti-(mental-illness)recovery" fat-activist, DID faking twat reblogged an old vent post of mine and I don't even know how they found it since it was literally 10 years old. If you want to fap to your own self-victimizing bullshit, you do that well away from me, thanks.

[desultory-suggestions]

It’s okay if your ambitions don’t lie in a career. We weren’t made to work.

[tiredofthehumanlife]

Recovery is not linear. We have bad and good days. Recovery is not linear. We have bad and good days. Recovery is not linear. We have bad and good days. Recovery is not linear. We have bad and good days. Recovery is not linear. We have bad and good days. Recovery is not linear. We have bad and good days. Recovery is not-

[still-a-bastard]

Pro recovery is an anti para movement pushing to erase paraphilic attractions. Stop saying you’re pro para and pro recovery unless you change recovery’s context from “recovery from paraphilias” to “recovery from trauma induced by paramisia” or something.

[someratsinatrenchcoat]

Can we stop spreading misinformation about receiving a diagnosis in the system community?

No, a diagnosis won't stop places from hiring you, they won't know about your diagnosis unless you tell them (HIPAA).

No, getting diagnosed won't get you sent to the mental hospital.

No, a therapist can't force you to go through with final fusion.

Please, stop discouraging people from seeking professional/diagnosis. If you suspect you have a dissociative disorder and can seek a professional, do it. If you have a bad experience with a professional you can always go to another one. Don't be scared to seek help.

[neuroticboyfriend]

there is no shame in being an alcoholic. there is no shame in being any kind of addict. it's a chronic illness and anti-addict stigma is ableist.

it's okay to exist and voice your struggle. in fact, it's encouraged. even if you never recover or don't intend on recovering, your voice matters.

[witchpussy42069]

Yeah applying for jobs feels dehumanizing. Yeah society is crumbling. Yeah we are all oppressed by the ruling one percenters. Yeah the world is full of cruelty. But you Cannot Stop Me from baking fucking bread with my Beloved Friends. And you can't stop me from drawing flowers. And you can't stop me from moving worms out of the sun back into the dirt in the shade. And you can't stop me from asking for help even when my past experiences have tried to convince me to never do so again. I am STUBBORN and I will CONTINUE LOVING

[sysboxes]

[Text: This system is a much happier and healthier person than they used to be.]

Like/Reblog if you save or use!

[alwaysbewoke]

[thescreamcorner]

Stop. Fearmongering. Mental Health Diagnosis.

In the majority of cases:

You cannot be forced into inpatient just for receiving a diagnosis.

You cannot be forced into any type of treatment just for receiving a diagnosis.

You cannot be deemed legally incompetent just for receiving a diagnosis.

You won't lose legal rights just for receiving a diagnosis.

You can't be denied life saving medical care just for receiving a diagnosis.

Diagnosis is time consuming and stressful, but its not a fucking death sentence. Its a gateway to proper treatment, and it's insanely dangerous to spread misinformation about health care to justify anti recovery sentiments.

Pushing people away from evaluations they need has the potential to KILL THEM.

Dont put that blood on your hands.

[disabled-space]

So much advice around healing from trauma assumes that the trauma is in the past. What about those who are continuously being re-traumatized, or continuing to struggle with the same things that traumatized them? Those who are neurodivergent or chronically ill or otherwise disabled and living in a world that doesn't accommodate them? Those who are regularly discriminated against? Those who can't escape their bad situation for whatever reason? What about those of us who can't tell ourselves "I'm safe now"?

[hyperlexichypatia]

What some of y'all call "recovery" and "healing" is just... growing up.

The theme I keep coming back to, the theme I keep writing about over and over, is the inextricability of ableism (specifically neurobigotry) and ageism.

The pathologizing of youth. The infantilizing of disabled adults. The structuring and micromanaging of childhood leading to ever more opportunities for "deviancy" to be classified as "disordered." The "neurological" push to raise the age of majority. The constant framing of disabled parents and caregivers as "unfit" or "bad influences" on children. And on and on.

Ageism and neurobigotry are such an interconnected tangle loop mobius strip that people are using the "healing"/"recovery" framework for basic human maturation.

When you were little, you uncritically accepted the worldview of your parents and other adults in your life, but now that you're older and "recovered," you see it differently?

That's called growing up. You grew up.

When you had less information and experience informing your worldview, you saw things one way, and now that you've "healed," you see things differently?

That's called learning. You learned new information and changed your perspective accordingly.

Look, learning and change and growth and maturation are (or should be) lifelong processes with no endpoint, and one of the cultural factors making people so weird about "maturity" and age of majority issues is the assumption that a "Real Adult" is in their fixed final form. So people think "If I've changed and grown in the past 5 years, that means that 5-years-ago Me was Still A Child and should not have been allowed to make major life-altering decisions," and also think that once they reach An Endpoint, they can or should stop changing. And that's a problem.

But. But. Changes in one's relationship to oneself and one's family of origin are especially common during times of major transition. That's not pathological. That's not even abnormal. If you see the world differently than you did before a major life transition, that does not mean that you went from a diseased state to a nondiseased state ("recovery"), or from an injured state to an uninjured state ("healing"). Time passed. You got older. Everyone else got older. You changed. Other people changed. Your family changed. The social context in which you live changed. The pathology paradigm has no place in this phenomenon.

People are out here saying that "People should heal themselves before they have their own children," and then when asked, what they mean by "heal themselves" is "learn how to effectively communicate with children." That. That is a skill. Learning a skill is not "healing." Lack of a particular skill set is not a disorder you have to "recover" from. You just have to learn the skill.

But that's also why when we say "You don't have to recover from your disabilities, recovery isn't a moral obligation," people say things like "You want to use your disability as an excuse not to change and grow."

My good bitch, what does change and growth have to do with recovery?

And this isn't even a new observation, because people have talked about how parents of developmentally disabled children will credit "therapy" and "recovery" for their children's natural developmental trajectory (if your child gained a skill after a year of intensive therapy, that doesn't mean "the therapy worked," that means they got older and developed the maturation to acquire that skill). A lot of the rhetoric around early childhood education does the same thing (the reason your 6 year old can hold a pencil now and he couldn't last year is because his bones got stronger and his fine motor skills improved, not because his high-quality preschool made him ready to compete).

But this. This is adults doing it to themselves! And it's so very original-sin-coded. You are born Unhealthy, but through continual effort and right practice, you can Recover and Heal.

No! You just grew up!

[pararecovery]

Recovery from paraphilic disorder is often about learning self-acceptance, developing coping skills, setting boundaries, processing trauma, reducing harm, and taking responsibility. It's not about making someone "get rid of" their paraphilia. Paraphilias, by themselves, are not inherently dangerous or harmful! Yes, that means even the ones that people think are "gross."