#adhd in girls

[91vaults]

So i’m wondering if this is common for AFAB people who end up diagnosed with ADHD

Out of curiosity i went over my school reports from primary school. My grades were pretty decent and I always made progress so that’s unremarkable

Interestingly there was a running theme of “not being able to concentrate” which was a bit surprising because while I remember this being an issue i didn’t know it was significant enough to be remarked upon. I just figured most kids can’t concentrate. It was worse in year one but i seem to improve, tho it still gets mentioned most years

but anyway my point is i was often described as “quiet, polite, well behaved, eager to please and a delight to have in class”

and i figure this must be why many girls/AFAB don’t get diagnosed? I did have an ASD diagnosis (which checks out) but if you’re well behaved, nice, aren’t really struggling acedemically then you’re opposite of the sterotype. Of course no one is going to think your struggling (i hear it’s the same for ASD too) it’s frustrating that rhe sterotype is hyperactive boys which people use to be dismissive . My niece recently got diagnosed with ADHD but i think that’s because her bahavioir issues are really apparent and she’s behined in certain milestones

also apparently in early school years i thought proof reading, spelling editing and punctuation was beneath me 😆

[suffering-and-misery]

I'm making a google doc about ADHD in girls to get my add diagnosed and goddamn this is making me feel so stupid

How the FUCK didn't I realize this earlier

Like, I feel good because yay! I wasn't stupid and overly emotional all along. But now I also feel kinda bitter because how didn't anyone notice? Why didn't I notice? Why didn't my elementary teachers notice?

[fitgothgirl]

Had a weird, blah day yesterday since I basically didn't sleep the prior night. Since starting the Wellbutrin in early July, my insomnia hasn't improved. Falling asleep is never the problem but if I don't take either gabapentin or trazodone, I'll wake up for hours in the middle of the night, maybe only falling back asleep in the early morning. I told my psychiatrist I was taking either one of those meds probably most nights and he said it's fine since it's such low doses (50mg of trazodone or 200-300mg of gabapentin) of low-risk meds that aren't even sleeping pills. The trazodone is technically an antidepressant that often gets prescribed off label for insomnia, and gabapentin is technically an anticonvulsant for epilepsy but gets prescribed off label for anxiety. He had given the gabapentin to me in relation to trying to cut back on weed, but I inadvertently found it helps me sleep great and he said it's fine to use it for that too (another issue it often get prescribed off label for). But I'm at the point where I just want to take either one of those meds every night rather than fighting the meds-less nights every third night or whatever. The Wellbutrin helps me so much and the insomnia isn't getting better, but I sleep so well on either of those meds. So if it's okay to just keep taking them then I'd like to do that; I'll ask my psychiatrist at my next appointment. When I take them I sleep great and I don't wake up all groggy or anything, I just feel refreshed. The stark difference is reflected on my Fitbit too.

Makes me wonder if a stimulant would be better since it would have a shorter half life (I think? Correct me if I'm wrong). Doesn't matter how early I take my Wellbutrin in the morning - still the same insomnia problems. But if a stimulant wears off faster then maybe I could get the same benefits without this insomnia. That'll be another question to bring up with my psychiatrist. But based on our first few meetings like 6 months ago, he'll likely want me to go to through the full ADHD cognitive testing ordeal before prescribing me a stimulant, even though it's obvious I have ADHD and my therapist (who's in the same company so my records with her are visible to him I think) has diagnosed me on her end. But LMFT findings probably don't matter to MDs.

Anyway, I let yesterday be weird and blah and ate a bunch of random junk and didn't log anything. I was wanting to go to the gym after already having had two rest days but skipped that too. Took trazodone last night and slept well except I could've gone to bed a bit earlier to catch up a little. But I got back to the gym and tracking my intake and eating well today. Still a bit tired so I'll use tonight to catch up on some sleep and I'm just eating maintenance calories (or a little surplus) as well.

[crunchylittlespace]

I love Olivia so damn much :))) this is a big mood. ADHD femme icon.

[touchatism]

when my brother was 6, he had trouble paying attention in class, socializing with the other kids, and couldn’t sit still

when i was 6, I had trouble paying attention in class, socializing with the other kids, and couldn’t sit still

take a wild guess who got diagnosed with ADHD and who got put in the gifted and talented program

[catgirl-kaiju]

here's to all of the neurodivergent transfems who never got the chance to be seen as the Weird Little Girls™ we were when we were kids

[whirligiga]

Microdosing on executive function by completing tasks in video games

[etherealspacejelly]

its so funny looking back on my 'not like other girls' phase now as an adult, knowing im audhd, aroace, and transmasc

like. honey. you dont like makeup because of sensory issues. you dont like dresses because of dysphoria. you dont care about boys because you're not attracted to them in that way. of Course you dont fit in with the other girls, a) you're not a girl and b) you're autistic as fuck dumbass

[neurodivergent-brain]

It shocks me how many people don’t realise that the autism spectrum isn’t this:

That is in fact a very outdated and in many ways insulting…

THIS IS WHAT THE SPECTRUM IS:

And it is actually incorrect to say “well everyone is somewhere on the spectrum”

Someone may show traits that are associated with autism but that doesn’t mean they are on the spectrum but that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are autistic,

Just like someone who is autistic may show traits of people who are neurotypical.

When I am speaking to friends who may use incorrect language or may have outdated information of what the spectrum is, I explain to them why it is important to change how we view and talk about being neurotypical. None of them are intentionally being offensive and are often happy to get a better understanding. It’s always important to be open to changing how we view something so that everyone is able to feel accepted and understood; therefore if there is any information or something I’ve said that is offensive, incorrect or even if you have a different perspective than me, please let me know as I only want to be respectful of others and am always willing to see other people reasons for their views.

Thank you for taking the time to read this!

[cringecat9]

I had a dream that I signed up for a kids version of American idiot the musical on ice and I was really excited because I know all the lyrics to Jesus of Suburbia but I didn’t know it was supposed to be on ice cuz I don’t know how to skate and the teacher didn’t like me much so my friends and I snuck out and went out to lunch. After that we went to like a combo of a drugstore and a Michael’s. Then we went home and I told mom I wanna quit because idk how to skate so we did

   And then my childhood mailman challenged us to a cookoff where we had to use RAO’s branded sauce but we declined and he got pissed

   We also passed this really weird hibachi restaurant where I got a glass of water but I think I might’ve stole it because it was like $30 and I didn’t pay????

what the fuck is up with my brain

edit: I made a visual

[fitgothgirl]

Just had my 2nd therapy appointment. I really like my therapist. 😭 Since it wasn’t our first introductory appointment, I was talking more about how the last couple weeks have been in particular, and was getting into how I just can’t do shit even when I know what I want or need, i.e. executive dysfunction and then overwhelm-shutdown. She already said last time she was able to diagnose me with ADHD and could easily see I have it, and today she reiterated that and that she’s resolute about getting me on ADHD meds. She’s having the telehealth service reach to to me to schedule for that, which they were supposed to do after my first appointment and never did. She said if I get any pushback (always depends on the psychiatrist and their attitude toward ADHD) to just let her know and to not worry, she’ll fight for me and she’s in my corner, etc. I think it’s finally going to happen... 😩 

And besides that, she’s just so down to earth and nice and seems really knowledgeable. She says that she likes the way I think and that I “have a cool brain” lol. I’ve been really transparent with her too so that always helps. We’ve been talking about depression and weed and ADHD and self/body image all together and taking baby steps. (It was only the 2nd appointment after all.) I feel really comfortable with her.

I only have appointments every other week but I’m kinda wanting to bump it up to weekly, at least for now... We’ll see. I missed my appointment by accident last week so it was rescheduled to today, so my next appointment is already just over a week away, so at least I don’t have to wait for the next one.

[nyrovie-ii]

I can’t

[thechadfactory]

💖🌸🌈Pastel Pink Baby Dragon🌈🌸💖

One of my super cute artist liberty comms :) absolutely love how this baby turned out 💖

[alice-the-phunniegirl]

Tryna stim by repeatedly deploying and stowing my shoulder mounted laser, only to remember I am still trapped in my human vessel.

[el-blossom]

Over a year later and i have heard nothing 🥲 when they said theyd put me at the top of the list for a diagnosis i didnt expect to be waiting over a year with absolutely no contact or confirmation😬 Thanks NHS 🫶

Update!

I finally got an ADHD assessment 🥳 , turns out i have autism instead just major executive dysfunction lol , now i have to wait for an autism diagnosis appointment 😵‍💫

[pluvioseprince]

Kabru scribble