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I could kill men who invalidate women's experiences. Such is my rage.
#lucky for them I don't believe in violence#but oh my fucking god#some people just get on my nerves#seriously what do you know about being a woman?#my lovely trans men please ignore#i only have so much patience#ughhh#auroras thoughts#female rage#quotes#experience#everyday life#daily life#and to all my fellow women#your experiences are very valid#never believe otherwise
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As someone with ocd, I will never hate scriddler. I love thinking about Edward’s ocd and how fear toxin would affect it. AND I love fetishizing the fear toxin to make the old men be gay and hot. I love putting fictional characters that are not real in situations that would be horrible because it entertains me. Bitch.
#scriddler#saw a post that pissed me off sorry#no actually. I’m not sorry. fuck you#riddler#scarecrow#the point of fiction is to entertain. if you don’t like something then cope. seethe.#the human experience is vast and you cannot just condemns something and its enjoyers entirely#just because you don’t personally like it. even if your reasons for disliking it are valid.#because someone else could enjoy the thing for those very same exact reasons.#okay goodbye
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can I also just - so everytime I've come across a piece of Ed art where his skin is too light, I've sent an anon ask or DM to the artist - explaining very politely why they should redo the piece and the history of racism in this fandom. And every single time (except one asshole), artists have reacted well to this and understood my point, and some have even reposted the piece after correcting their mistake.
Idk that makes me happy, to have the freedom to say that and not have to deal with butthurt artists. Most people are kind, but you have to start from a place of trying to educate and idk not start a witchhunt, if you truly genuinely want them to do better.
#you might have had very different experiences and they're absolutely valid#this is just my 2 cents#ofmd#our flag means death#meow speaks#again because this is a website of toddlers: it's not your responsibility to educate people#but if you do want to you'd go much farther if you put the pitchfork down#is all I'm saying
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interesting that for all the things being off social media for a week did do for me, it did not achieve the secret hidden goal I hadn't totally admitted to myself I had, of suddenly meaning that I spent all of my time super productively
I definitely did get more done! but like...in the mornings I always used to do a big scroll and catch up on my dash, and I was annoyed by how long I then took to really get going with my day. so I thought without the big scroll that'd go away. and it did get a little better, but mostly I just found that I was spending the same time after breakfast watching TV or reading or something.
which makes me go hm. maybe I just...need or like to rest a bit after breakfast? what if that was...fine?
and having accepted that, it made me realise that I go to activities like scrolling tumblr or some video games in times when I feel guilty about resting bc it blocks out thoughts better than something like TV or reading, so it distracts me from the guilt. but if I am resting On Purpose, I can just do whatever I feel like doing? and it's fine? it turns out that's fine maybe? more data required to be sure.
#talking#like obvs the draw of Be On Phone as an activity is in part the slot machine of it all#but I think it's also...because it doesn't feel as much like a Decision as choosing to do other things#it's a. more appealing when your brain is very tired of making decisions#and b. is a way of resting without having made a decision to rest on purpose. with the associated guilt#anyway this was an interesting experiment to do partly bc I think my reasons for wanting to do it#varied in legitimacy#like I felt like I was getting way too dependent on Online for attention & validation#which in some ways is legitimate. but also I'm very bad at accepting that I have to be dependent on anyone for anything on any occasion#so there's that also#this is a genre of post called posting about not posting#let's not do it again
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When someone else’s art is so good you physically can’t look at it because of artistic jealousy
#Y’all do this to me on a daily basis I swear#I literally can’t follow some people because their stuff is so good it breaks my heart#I think the art world has a lot of envy and competitiveness that no one really talks about#Sure we’re all for self expression but so many of us are so used to being “the art kid” that anyone else taking or sharing that spot feels#like losing a peice of your identity.#I’ve had some artist friends who dealt with their jealousy by tearing others down or justifying their art by going#”Well you’re bad at ____ but I’m better at ____”#Or they would give unsolicited critique that was more like gently worded criticism than friendly advice to help someone reach their goals#And because of those experiences… I never want to become that person#I definitely get the surges of jealousy… But I very much try to remind myself that fellow artists are my friends-not my rivals#The people I feel the most envy for are often the people I hype up the most#And beyond that- nobody in the art community is trying to gatekeep information from you.#If you want to learn skills from other people- don’t hesitate to ask them. Most artists happily spill their brains for you in a conversatio#(Foolish artist… they don’t even know how many brain juices of theirs I’m absorbing-MWAHAHAHA)#(I’m gonna come come back stronger as an artist… And then I can learn and grow EVEN MORE BWAHAHAHA)#So anyway… Jealousy is a valid and very real thing… but what you choose to do about it can either hinder or help you.#That’s all folks#art meme#art
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It's funny to think that when I was a kid, people would say stuff like "they will grow out of it when they grow up" about younger alter/nonhumans. Because I'm an adult now and all I grew out of was hating myself for my alterhumanity. I love being alterhuman, I grew more comfortable with my identity as I got older, and I learned to love this part of me despite people thinking it was something to be outgrown or something shameful. I just think it's a little funny how wrong those people are and that I can be happy as I am while they wallow in negativity
#not that finding out youre not alterhuman after exploring it is vad because thats a very valid experience!#i just think about this a lot cause many of us have heard this type of thing before and yet here we are#timber posts#alterhuman stuff#text#alterhuman#therian#therianthropy#otherkin#nonhuman
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Trans!Hiccup later in life becoming more confident in himself and coming to terms with the fact knowing how to and doing things traditionally viewed as 'feminine' doesn't make him any less of a man my beloved.
He canonically knows how to sew. Like his attempted cover was he was 'making outfits' so why not? He definitely made his own armor, he probably makes his own clothes when he has the time. He said he wanted to he a 'bread making viking' (and yes i know it was a hasty lie but hear me out) so I'd like to think he knows at least how to bake and probably how to cook as well. And he enjoys these things and indulged in them when he's able to.
#i love when trans people are able to accept that their hobbies being viewed as something related to their agab doesnt make them#any less valid i understand its not for everyone but if youre able to reconcile with that kind of thing you will genuinely be better for it#this goes for snotlout as well (he is also trans!)l#in rtte he knows how to sew#also i hc that astrid is trans and has a very complicated relationship with gender due to how committed she is to being a warrior#shes a girl but never really learned to do any kind of 'traditionally feminine' things other than hair braiding#and though she'd never want to be a housewife she feels as though she missed out on some kind of core childhood experience#shes a lost cause at cooking but hiccup offered to teach her to sew and its something they work on together in their free time :)#httyd#trans hiccup#rtte#trans hiccup haddock#httyd headcanon#hiccup haddock#trans headcanon#hiccup horrendous haddock iii#transgender#moth.txt#deyas dragons
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Ok I feel better ❤️🩹 thanks everyone
#sometimes I get a negative comment and it makes me spiral cause I assume the commentor is Correct and that I need to Fix / Address their#issue RIGHT NOW OR ELSE (or else what??? who knows. anxiety is weird)#and I’m like. ok . gotta reflect. gotta think. gotta figure out how to solve this and never fuck up or make anyone mad at me ever again#and I start spiralling#and sometimes the reality check of like ‘uhh no I think that person may just have been incorrect’#feels really good#because my gut feeling is that? but also like. I’m like#terrified of being defensive / constantly wanting to ‘do better’ take critiques into account etc etc#and sometimes it’s overwhelming when you take Every Critique Seriously#but hearing other folks be like ‘yeah no this is kinda silly’ makes me feel like. ok. I am right / allowed to feel upset by that#I’m just very like … I don’t know … assume in every situation I’m usually Wrong on some level (cause that feels safest) so one when someone#is like ‘YOURE WRong/bad/etc’ I’m like OH NO MY WORST FEARS REALIZED THEY SEE THE TRUE ME#‘how do I immediately fix myself and be better for them!!!!?’#and hearing others say ‘uhm. you don’t have to? you’re doing fine. just. keep doing what you’re doing’#Is like some of the biggest relief I can experience ?? I feel very guilty for needing that kind of support /input / etc#but it feels very very validating#even when I’m terrified of being validated cause I assume the default state is im Probably Wrong#ugh introspection is. hard . when you have a warped (?) view of yourself :(
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mary kirby says virgin lucanis real
#i wish i had a version of the CELIBACY gif that said VIRGIN instead but i do not. alas.#anyway this is pretty much what id assumed#bc even tho not being in a relationship doesnt mean No Experience At All#with how devoted to fulfilling expectations he's always been + his general… discomfort around others outside of his family/the crows#i do not think he would have allowed himself many moments to uh. relax enough. to indulge.#i mean if viago had been receptive i think that would've been different.#but just from the crowd scenes in the wigmaker’s job#i think the idea of being close n VULNERABLE w/ a stranger would make him wanna peel his own skin off lmao#it Could have happened. but the circumstances would have had to be Just Right to override a Lot of hesitancies. eased him into it.#and he did not allow himself to think about himself long enough for that to happen.#dragon age#lucanis dellamorte#anyway if this doesn't match your headcanon: fair and valid.#just very funny to see support for mine
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GUESS WHO'S IN THE HOSPITAL AND FREAKING OUT ALL THE NURSES WOO!
#apparently? everything is wrong XD#feeling a lot better after 2 back to back nebulizer treatments and iv fluids and steroids so I'm just confusing all the staff#I'm just vibing and they are like YOUR WBC IS OVER 25!!!#but... okay? and? you do realize I'm all happy because MY IMMUNE SYSTEM IS LEGIT WORKING FOR THE FIRST TIME IN YEARS!???#like okay yes the numbers are CHONKY and I'm fully aware of the seriousness but look at that fucker go!!!#also? everyone is very kind and they all made me feel listened to and prioritized#yall don't even KNOW the bad experiences I've had but holy hell these guys even accommodated my sensory stuff and fidgets!#the poor phlebotomists keep coming in trying to RADIATE calm like I'm going to freak if I notice they've taken a total of 12#edit TWO MORE TO THE VAMPIRE HOARD!#meanwhile I'm just reading all my blood results that VERIFIABLY SHOW that something is wrong this time#Got my ass wanting to pray to a vitamin. Sextuple D3 after the whole decalcified skull thing and BOOM! Immune system and tests say stuff#also? saying you had skull surgery in February and that the surgeon compared your skull to a water balloon REALLY freaks people out XD#illness#hospital#er#sickness#actually autistic#bone#blood mention#testing#surgery mention#bluewind talks#edit to add my ass hasn't been given anything to cause an altered state. this is just me on sheer fucking RELIEF cuz air now contains air#I'm gonna be okay. I promise. I'm just... happy to be validated on how bad I felt for once and get something to help
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sometimes reading Kory’s talk about love and how her culture normalizes poly relationships and love is separate from marriage as in yeah sometimes you marry for politics but doesn’t mean you ‘love’ that other person or they you and thats OK is so weird because, you don’t even need to go to space for that?? Its already somewhere on earth??
#I grew up with similar concepts of love#ofc there are rules and all but i also remember being very young and interacting with outsiders (usa) for the first time and#They showed so much disgust to the idea people could love more than one or just be with more than one#I remember pausing about it. like your house your rules ofc if thats how you wanna do it but i still don’t get it#some people want one partner and thats it which is valid. I just didn’t get why was all of the concept#So morally wrong to them?#Dick felt like he is a representation of these ideas of that time to me#Ig they are a lot more accepting now times has changed ig but there is still judgement from my experience#So where does that put kory today? I know they destroyed her planet i wonder if they would ever write side stories for her where she#Interact more with new and different cultures she probably going to find something of her home in them#koriand'r#kory anders#titans#But ig DC is USA comics specifically catered to USA world views and they still would see kory as different#Maybe im not where i should be
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Alright I’ve seen enough takes on this and while I understand everyone’s viewpoint and validate it I want to give mine bc mine is probably a very niche perspective.
When it comes to the relationship between Gregory and Vanessa, I do view them as siblings. And no not in the umbrella way, not in the “this is the only thing that makes the most sense” sort of way, I mean they have sibling energy period. And I’ll tell you why.
Bc I do not view them as being immediate found family. At all. They have too much trauma both independently and with each other. I don’t even think they’d like each other very much at first. I feel like their initial relationship would be more of a ”you saved me so I’ll return the favor by helping you out” way.
Personally. I don’t think relationships with strong bonds should immediately go into something romantic or familial (maybe it’s cuz I’m raging aroace and very platonic/queerplatonic bc I know that’s an unpopular opinion) but in my eyes, you NEED TO BUILD A FRIENDSHIP FIRST. and I think that’s exactly what they’re gonna do.
They’re gonna slowly and gradually form a friendship, one that most people would think is strange and unusual bc it’s an adult and a child but let’s be fr neither of them are what you’d consider “typical” (yes I personally hc them both being ND. Again, this is my opinion). I also don’t think they don’t really give af what people think. So why would they bother putting a label that they don’t really agree with on them? No imo they won’t do that unless they truly do mean it.
Again, this could very well be projecting. But I am personally someone that doesn’t like being given a “sister” label unless it’s actually meant. Maybe it’s my extreme sibling complex. But I don’t think I’m wrong for feeling that way. And imo, I think overtime they would view each other in the way best friends view each other as siblings. I don’t even think there would even need to be anything legal. But if there was, she would be a legal guardian at best. Bc it still gives the freedom to identify how they choose. And to me, it’s very similar to Lilo and Nani from “Lilo and Stitch.”
Bc I think two things can be true at the same time. Vanessa can be a caregiver, and have some responsibilities when it comes to making sure Gregory is ok and kept safe. But also, she herself needs someone to take care of her. Bc she can’t. And while I do like the idea of Freddy taking care of them both, I also like them taking care of each other.
She definitely has aspects that could be seen as maternal, but I don’t view her as essentially parental. She simply isn’t ready. There’s too much trauma and a bit of emotional immaturity (again not a bad thing, she’s very childlike imo). I think she sees him more equal than that. Not someone that is helpless and needs to be watched 24/7. But someone that needs a little guidance every now and then. And that’s where I think looking up to her in an older sibling kinda way comes in.
She’s like a combined playmate and caregiver. An equal partner but also someone that takes on the worst of the burden so he doesn’t have to. Even though he will do so anyway bc he cares that much about her.
So yea, that’s my take on their relationship. Again, it’s just my opinion, and I understand people not agreeing and wanting something else for them. But this is how I choose to view them, and I don’t think that it’s wrong ❤️
#this has been a hot take by Starrshine#I know most people will disagree and that’s fine#but I personally don’t like giving labels Willy nilly in order for things to make sense#bc in my experience the label is validation#and I know it’s not like that for everyone and that’s fine#but I really don’t think it’s more complicated than that#it’s not necessarily that they don’t fit into any category it’s just something that happens gradually over time#she has very strong maternal big sister energy imo#it’s not the first time we’ve seen that#found family can be labels too it doesn’t have to be unlabeled#but it CAN be#again two things can be true at once#and I think it’s important to understand sometimes that label IS important to people#besides I don’t think they’d call each other ‘bro’ and ‘sis’ all the time anyway it’d be mostly their names/nicknames#like he’d mostly call her that either to butter her up or in a state of extreme vulnerability#again you can interpret however you desire if you think they are something else that’s fine#but I’m always gonna interpret them like this so respect my interpretation and I’ll respect yours ❤️#fnaf#fnaf vanessa#fnaf Gregory#doublestar duo#they are still unique in their own way don’t worry#and I still like the idea of them viewing each other as equals//partners//buddies#just in a different way ya know#they are just very near and dear to me#starrshine speaks#starrshine’s hot takes#I’m just very autistic about them lol#and I just needed to get this off my chest
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Pshifter culture is getting the most interaction from the community from anon stuff like this blog because the wider the community hates you for whatever reasons
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#no because same#we made this BECAUSE all of us are freaking lurkers#p-shifters dont like to chat with each other we are very busy in our own worlds we guess--#*sobbing*#hopefully seeing these things and getting to share your own experiences is just as helpful!#we are valid and we exist we have just been driven from like everywhere lol#physical shifter#p shifting#physical nonhumanity#physical shifting#physical shifting community#p shift#physical shifters#nonhuman#p shifter#p shifters#and we get it we dont even feel at home in the p-shifting community itself since we think so differently about it#we are here to support you <3
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sometimes i think, in marginalized communities (maybe especially disability communities) people fall into a trap of viewing things as... not exactly a competition, but resenting others who are also suffering because they are suffering less, or suffering differently
and that experience itself is very common to have happen, and nothing is wrong about feeling that way! we can all be a little mean and petty in private sometimes as a treat
i think though it causes problems when people take that feeling and extrapolate it out to "and therefore the other people aren't really suffering at all"/"and therefore the other people shouldn't get to complain at all"
like, to me there is a big difference between "hey, you know you are relatively privileged in (not appearing visibly disabled/being nd but having been labelled gifted/being read as white or straight or cis/being trans but not transfem/etc. etc.)" - which is true and an important reminder!!
and "how dare you complain about the experiences you had with that version of being marginalized" or dismissing that there might be particular unique aspects of that aspect of being marginalized that make things difficult
like, i would never argue that as someone who is non-aligned nb and read as a cis woman, i am MORE marginalized than a transfem person who doesn't "pass". but i would say it is reasonable for me to point out frustrations and hardships about that position - both those we have in common (e.g. people equating sex and gender) and those that are unique to my situation (feeling invisibilized by binarist phrasing/thinking, frustration with knowing that even if i had infinite money and resources i could never be read by default as my real gender, etc.)
#disability#trans issues#transgender#social justice#ask to tag#i think sometimes this is what people mean when they say 'valid' - e.g. your issues are real and your frustration is too#but that word has become very diluted to the point of unclear meaning#this is related to but separate from conflicting needs imo#to be clear i am ALSO not saying the thing i am asking people to do less of (the second thing) is the same as -#expressing frustration/anger that a certain subtype of marginalization is represented more/given more resources/etc.#that falls under the relative privilege thing imo#okay last tangent. sometimes also it is not clear that one experience is linearly MORE or LESS privileged#sometimes it is! but not always. like i think it is needlessly pitting people against each other to say e.g. that physical disabilities -#are ALWAYS more life-affecting/disprivileging/what have you than mental/cognitive/emotional disabilities. or vice versa#and in general i think it is often to think in terms of individual specifics or particular experiences. what experiences do i not have etc#this was long and rambling#sage wisdom
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If you want to be happy, I hope it comes true.
I hope you will be happy too.
#ploy's yearbook#1x10#jaochan#pongtawan dejdamrong#kapook ploynira#joong archen#gifset#*brace's#//#congratulations on the divorce 🎉#this was one of the most BEAUTIFUL break-ups I have ever seen everybody SHUT UP 😭#they have so much maturity and respect for each other#it didn't work between them because of xyz (Tawan sacrificing his life and dreams for his family/previous lover)#and the only reason she was still by his side was because he was afraid of being alone with no purpose#but none of them deserves to live like this. they deserve to be happy.#to keep Jao tied to him when there is no more love between them is a selfish thing to do#she finally tells him that. they need to move on and Tawan is holding them back. they deserve better than this.#///#side note#it's in moments like this that I really appreciate the process of growing up‚ learning‚ and changing ideas/beliefs#younger me would probably have been offended by the idea that love can expire#or at very least looked down on a love that ends for not being strong enough to perdure#but the thing is#sometimes the love is there and the love is strong and the love lasts for a long time#and the love still expires. it becomes something else. or it doesn't become anything. it just stops.#and to insist that it should continue to validate the love you felt before is disrespectful to your past self#it's gone now‚ but it was there before. it was as real as the love that doesn't stop growing.#love may not last forever but every bond we create with another person leaves a mark‚ and the mark does.#the experience and how it influenced us. the memories‚ the good and the bad ones‚ all of it‚ is ours. it doesn't expire until we do.
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i really wish that you could leave notes on blocked accounts so that in the future i'll remember who i blocked for being a spambot vs terf or other kind of asshole vs had a really annoying opinion and maybe eventually unblock those last people
#bog post#i mean i'm not going to do that but#idk man some people played a very different version of veilguard than i did i guess#there is SO much malice and stupidity and ill intent assigned to the devs of this game#usually involving an overemphasis on the prominence of the solavellan content#(which literally doesn't even appear in your game! unless! you import a romanced lavellan!)#that content is there for the people who want to see it#and for totally fresh players the default inq being a romanced f!lavellan is likely less bc you're 'meant to' reconcile them#but to give new players access to ALL possible endings if they want them#the narrative itself doesn't think any one ending is more valid than another#your experience with the game is not everyone's experience with the game#i have multiple solavellan-enjoying friends who consider the 'trick' ending to be the most correct one for them#i just have a hard time taking certain critique at face value#when they're full-on describing a game that i know i certainly didn't play and reacting to that instead#datv#datv spoilers#fandom bs
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