#understanding bpd

[recoveringwithstevie]

⚠️Trigger Warning: mention of suicide and self-harm ⚠️

"Only women have BPD...”

This is false. Men make up about 25% of

'DIAGNOSED' cases of BPD, more recent studies show it mav even be closer to 50%!

BPD in males can present differently than it does in females which can lead to misdiagnoses and mistreatment. There is also a large gender bias within the dianostic and assessment procedures, leading to under-recognise the disorder in men.

"People with BPD can't maintain good relationships...”

BPD brings out intense emotional fluctuations and impulsive behaviours which can be challenging for both partners. Individuals with BPD are also particular sensitive to rejection or have a fear of abandonment.

However, people with BPD are empathetic, compassionate, kind people wbo, with treatment and recognition of their disorder, can live a high-functioning, beautiful life.

With a strong foundation of patience and commitment, couples can work together to navigate these challenges and build a loving, long-lasting healthy relationship.

"BPD cannot be treated...”

This is incorrect. Although there is no overnight fix, BPD is definately treatable and manageable. The quicker you deal with it, the better.

There are many different therapies and treatments including:

  Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (BPD)

  Cognitive Bahavioural Therapy (CBT)

  Schema Therapy

  Psychotherapies

  Mentalization Theranies (MBT)

DBT is a go-to treatment method for many mental health professionals, and research shows its usefulness in significantly reducing negative behaviours and hospital admission rates in people with BPD.

Medication can be prescribes to help manage the symptoms of comorbid (simultaniously occurring) conditions, such as depression and anxiety.

A BPD diagnosis is NOT a life sentence!

"People with BPD are dangerous..”

One of the main diagnostic criteria for BPD is an intense level of anger.

This does not mean they are a threat to others.

Research shows individuals presenting with

BPD traits are unlikely to actually physically cause any harm to others.

People with BPD have a high suicide rate, so they pose the greatest danger to themselves, not others.

"Suicide threats by individuals with BPD aren't serious...”

All suicide threats should be taken seriously.

People may see suicide threats from someone with BPD as a way to create a reaction. This assumption is untrue and unfair.

People with BPD experience a high rate of suicide. As many as 10% of people with BPD with commit suicide while even more engage in suicide attempts and self-harm.

All suicide threats must be taken seriously.

The risk of ignoring the threats are too high.

If you or anyone you know are struggling, please reach out for help.

You deserve to be happy and live a beautiful life. It gets better.♥️

[compassionmattersmost]

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[cheesy-cheddar-sadness]

text could never portray the scream i wish i could let out

[drowningbpdbodies]

“You’re so quiet, what’s on your mind?” My body is a prison and my soul is its prisoner

[a-healthy-dose-of-apathy]

the urge to go out and ruin my life bc i’m bored

[moonlit-dreamers]

im going to kill the next person who says i should "practice empathy" fuck you

anyway hi i love all of you people with low empathy/no empathy at all youre all great

[yousaveeveryonebutwhosavesyou]

Suicide isn't selfish because it often emerges from a place of profound suffering and despair. It's essential to recognize that those who contemplate or tragically choose this path are not seeking to inflict pain upon others, but rather seeking relief from their unbearable emotional pain. Understanding this complexity is crucial, as it reminds us of the urgent need for empathy, compassion, and mental health support to prevent such tragedies. Instead of labeling it as selfish, let us strive to offer understanding, support, and hope to those who need it most, acknowledging that their pain is genuine and deserving of our care.

[zallosaurus]

caving in

[vristrogen]

something about people calling vrisrezi "toxic yuri" always puts me off. i understand the lack of words to really put their dynamic but like you know theyre in a relationship thats largely good for them right. they arent dating because "it sucks but it would be worse without each other" they genuinely really love each other a lot

[brionysea]

I'm trying really hard not to just be The Complainer because that's an energy I don't want to bring here when I love (present tense; I rewatch it like 5 times a day) arcane season 1 so much but does anyone remember when powder was taken in by silco and being raised by this very utilitarian merciless 'the ends justify the means' type character made jinx turn out violent and merciless as well. and vi was horrified by her and the lanes were terrified of her and piltover was falling over itself trying to scapegoat her as the one bad apple of the undercity to kid themselves into believing that everyone else was perfectly fine with being treated as less than. and that contrasts vi after vander etc. died because she was raised by him and internalised the idea that no one wins in war and fighting back against systemic oppression isn't worth the damage it causes to your own community which is why she ended up working with cait and the council like vander worked with grayson. the people who raised them shaped them into who they are today but then in season 2 jinx has a daughter and she's suddenly completely normal and well adjusted and her attachment style isn't digging her nails in until she draws blood at all. like What. what happened. didn't things used to mean something

[gh0sting-along]

i put 10x more effort into relationships than most people, but that just makes me overbearing, right?

[maskedrealities]

Hey, if you’re one of the people that mock or make fun of someone who considers themself to be a BPD yan or want to say they’re “just being edgy,” please leave my blog.

People with BPD can take back using yandere as a term. We deal with obsession and can be in love so much that it physically hurts and we have to do something even if it means hurting ourself or someone else to get that out. Majority of the times, those with BPD and myself will hurt overselves because we feel we deserve it because someone doesn’t love us even though we try so hard to be appreciated, loved, and wanted.

We’ve had to deal with not being good enough and being left behind by people we thought cared about us, we deal with extreme abandonment issues.

So to make fun of trauma survivors, call them “edgy,” “freaks,” or just be mean in general, you should self-reflect and try and think of why you’re being rude to people that label themselves as something they should be able to take back. There’s so many different ways someone could be a yandere.

People with BPD don’t have to fit your stereotype, we don’t have to fit yan stereotypes either. But that’s a term that we can and should be able to take back because of how our obsessions make us feel and how they can cause us problems.

I find happiness in calling myself a BPD yan because it describes how my BPD affects me. I shouldn’t be the product of your jokes and “games” because you think it’s fucking funny to mess with trauma survivors.

There are people genuinely mocking BPD yans and acting obsessive to make them feel wanted, like we belong, like we can finally be understood, and could potentially have a partner that understand us and our struggles. Then those people stab people in the back because they think it’s “fun.” Instead of mocking actual trauma survivors, you could spread word around that mocking and making fun of someone or using them as a “game” isn’t fucking right and is terrible.

[traumatizedjaguar]

If someone doesn't let you explain yourself during a misunderstanding, get away from that person and cut them out of your life for good. That's super toxic of them to do.

[touchlikethesun]

i do think there is something wrong with me because i am realising that my reactions to some of the things that luo binghe did because of his love for shen qingqiu seem to be relatively muted compared to others’. like don’t get me wrong, luo binghe definitely did that like he for sure went there but like at the same time i think he’s so fucking valid and maybe if people just stopped judging the kid for being the teensiest bit obsessed and took the time to understand his hangups then they’d see that too

[honeypleasejustkillme]

i’ve come to the conclusion that everyone hates me and i understand why,, i hate me too

[fella-lovin-fella]

guess who got diagnosed with ocd a couple weeks ago