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"Alain Delon tried to pull me in some desultory situation. When I turned him down, he became very sullen and nasty and difficult. He was such a pompous ass, in any case and every time he said that ludicrous line ââŚyour body is like a beautiful violin in a velvet case,â while unzipping my leather suit, I would crack up. It was dozens of takes before I could do it with a straight face"â Marianne Faithfull talking about The Girl On A Motorcycle (1968), in 1994.
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crowley saying "if any harm comes to aziraphale because of this i willâ" to gabriel is SO fucking special to me bc he was so clearly afraid of gabriel after the trial like just look at his reaction when he first sees him and him saying he spent a WHOLE NIGHT worrying that gabriel's gonna smite him like he's actually terrified and still after ALL THAT he still threatens gabriel and i just think threatening someone like THAT is actually so vulnerable bc he's making it abundantly clear that he cares for aziraphale and wants him safe and that aziraphale is HIS to protect and he WILL protect him no matter fucking what and i just i can't deal with how outright and upfront crowley was this season not only with aziraphale but with other people ABOUT aziraphale too like he was really not fucking around this season and he needed everyone to know aziraphale is his and made gabriel almost JUMP OUT OF A WINDOW for wanting to hurt aziraphale and the vulnerability of it all is making me go NUTS
#that sceen plays on a loop in my mind i can't get over it#and the fucking 'its always too late' that follows after makes me wanna bash my skull into pieces like oh my GOD he is so fucking scared an#tired and its ALWAYS TOO FUCKING LATE and aziraphale is always getting into trouble bc he's literally the best fucking thing ever and#crowley was too late to save him one time and he's literally terrified out of his mind that it's gonna happen again like you can't tell me#the bookshop fire didn't leave a HUGE scar and impact on crowley and made him literally scared shitless to let aziraphale out of his sight#again let alone leave him alone w his abusive ex boss like my bbg was going thru it SO MUCH this season and just wanted aziraphale safe and#he would actually do anything ANYTHING for him and i genuinely need to lie down for a minute hold on#good omens#good omens s2#azicrow#crowley#aziraphale#aziracrow#ineffable spouses#good omens season 2#ineffable husbands#go s2
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I got Neloth in castles just to make him an absolute DOG he has not slept with the same person twice. Bonus even while banging heâs just thinking about his research what a legend
#castles#tes castles#neloth#wish theyâd give me a Talvas for him to teach (abuse)#once he dies Iâd give Talvas the kindest spouse in the whole game and have them live happily ever after
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Whumptober 31 - Asking For Help
title: for him it was not an important failure
fandom: limited life smp
cw: discussion of child/spouse abuse, murder
this is another part of my bad boys gang au, continuing days 6, 14, and 22!
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âHey, could Iââ
âJimmy!â Joel cheers, sliding Jimmy his half-drunk beer. âHave a drink! Youâre old enough to drink, right?â
Jimmy rolls his eyes. âRight. That one never gets old.â
Grian snorts. âJust like you.â
âDude, shut up!â
âCome on, sit down, sit down,â Joel waves. Jimmy takes a look around at the rest of the busy bar, then slides into their booth, folding his hands in front of him.
âIâve gotââ
Grian raises a hand, flags down a waiter who just happens to be passing by. âYeah, could you get him something light? Itâs his birthday, first time drinkingââ
âBro,â Jimmy growls, leveling his strongest glare at Grian. Joel almost chokes on his beer (which he had promptly taken back once Jimmy sat down).
âOh, no, I think you made the kid mad,â Joel canât help but rib. Jimmy turns his glare on Joel, which does nothing to intimidate him, but does make him laugh a little harder.
âI didnât come here to get bullied,â huffs Jimmy. âIâI have a job, and I wanted to ask your help for it.â
A job? Why would Jimmy have a job?
Grianâs the one who usually brings back the jobs for their little team, as heâs technically in charge of them. Jimmyâs never just showed up with a job ready to go.
Itâs unheard of. Itâs weird.
Grian is just as confused as Joel, apparently, because he only frowns for a moment before holding out his hand.
âYeah, right. Show me.â
Jimmy pulls a plain white envelope out of the inside pocket of his jean jacket, passes it over to Grian. âI asked for a job,â he says, and Joel canât help but notice that his voice has taken on an oddly nervous tone, lowered to not be heard over the sounds of the bar. âThey said I could pick a team. Will you?â
Grian opens the envelope, his eyes scanning the paper. After a moment, he passes it to Joel.
It looks like a run-of-the-mill intimidation job. Some guy who owes the Bad Boys a considerable amount of money, has already missed more than one payment. Joel doesnât recognize the name, so itâs probably a local politician or some corrupt businessman.
âWhy would they give you a job?â Grian asks.
âIâI asked for one. I want toââ
âYou want to rise in the ranks, huh?â Grian says. âLeave your old pals behind for greener pastures?â
âNo, Iââ
âJoel?â
Thereâs something not quite right about this. Jimmy has never mentioned wanting to lead out a job beforeâwhy would he go out of his way to ask for one?
But a job is a job, Joel supposes. They get paid by the job, and he likes to get paid as much as possible. It looks pretty easy, in and out, get the money and give a warning.
âSure,â he shrugs. âSounds fun!â
âWith Tim leading, itâll be a trainwreck. . . .â
âHey!â
âThatâs half the point, see? I want to see the train explode in slow motion.â
Grian snorts. âAnd somebody has to drag your bodies out of the wreckage, I guess.â
Jimmy opens his mouth to argue further, but heâs cut off by several waiters approaching, a cocktail and a cupcake in hand. âWe heard that someone here is a birthday boy?â one of them encourages, holding the cupcake out to the table.
Jimmyâs face goes redder than a tomato in one second flat. âGrian, I will kill you,â he moans.
âThatâs him!â Joel points to Jimmy delightedly. âOld enough to drink as of ten-thirty this morning!â
The waiters break into a rousing chorus of âHappy Birthdayâ, despite Jimmyâs repeated mutterings of âIâm literally twenty-two!â
Joel just laughs and downs the rest of his beer.
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The mark, a man named Ed Fowler, lives in a townhouse in a quiet part of the city, a moderately nice car in the assigned street parking spot and a recycling bin out on the curb. Joel pokes his head into it as they sneak past, under cover of the late nightâempty. The guy mustâve forgot to drag it up yesterday.
Breaking into the house is easy, even with the security system advertised on the sign outside the main window. Ed had left his kitchen window cracked, and Joel boosts Grian up and through it, then crawls in himself, aided by Jimmy below. Once heâs crawled his way over the sink (full of dirty dishes, geez, can this man not clean up after himself?), he turns around and takes Jimmyâs hands, heaving him through.
Grianâs already going through the cupboards by the time Joel pulls Jimmy all the way through, eventually finding and withdrawing a box of Cheerios.
âNo good cereal,â he grumbles.
âDo you even eat dinner before these kinds of jobs anymore?â Joel asks, leaning up against a counterâmuch of the counter space is taken up by a microwave and a couple of empty beer cans. Thereâs a tied-off, bulging trash bag near his feet, and judging by the sound it makes when Joel kicks it, itâs full of more beer cans.
Grian opens the fridge. âNope. Oh, gross, his milk is expired. Maybe heâs got chicken nuggets.â
âIâm gonna check the living room,â Jimmy mumbles, and with barely a sound, he slips out of the kitchen.
Grian glances at Joel, and Joel finds a reflection of his own feelings in his faceâconfusion, concern, suspicion.
âJimmyâs being weird,â Joel says. Grian nods.
âSuper weird. Do you think itâs just . . . yâknow, leading a job?â
Jimmy had been the one to scout out the house, had presented a plan. Sure, it had been the usual plan for how Grian ran these kinds of jobs, but being in charge is a lot of pressure. It probably didnât help that Joel and Grian had both been teasing him all day about it.
âWhat time have you got?â Joel asks, instead of responding. Grian checks his watch.
âAbout two in the morning. Just jitters, you think?â
Jimmy doesnât go quiet when he gets jittery, though. He over-talks, laughs too much, hollers out his nerves. Heâs so loud when heâs got jitters.
But this is a new situation. Maybe this is just a new kind of Jimmy Jitters that they havenât seen before.
âYeah, probably,â says Joel, though it feels not-quite-right. âDoes he have any chicken nuggets?â
âChicken strips, actually. And a handful of frozen dinnersâyou wanna pop this in the microwave?â
Grian tosses him a freezer meal. Joel raises an eyebrow as he examines the package. âReally? Spaghetti and meatballs?â
âYou underestimate my love for pasta.â
âYeah, but the salisbury steak ones are way better.â
âHe doesnât have any of those, he has that one and some ham and potato ones. Clearly, I chose the best option offered.â
They arenât trying to be quiet. Theyâre honestly being pretty loud, and Grian turned on the kitchen light before Joel even got in, so theyâre about as inconspicuous as a pack of drunk teenagers trying to sneak in. Joel only adds to it when he rummages through the silverware drawer for a knife to cut slits in the top of the frozen dinnerâs plastic film, then tosses it in the microwave with a slam of the door.
It isnât a stealth mission.
Itâs intimidation.
Thatâs all the noise it takes for Joel to hear creaking coming from the staircase, the door leading to it situated between the kitchen and the living room. He leans back against the counter, making sure he looks carefully unbothered. Grian keeps rummaging through the freezer, making occasional noises of disapproval.
âThis salmon has got to be centuries old, itâs covered in ice,â Grian says. He chucks it in the nearby trash can, heavy enough that it drags the trashbag down with it into the can.
âGet out of my house.â Joel looks up. Grian doesnât.
The man standing at the bottom of the staircase must be Ed Fowler, and he isnât exactly what Joel expected. Judging by the food and beer cans, heâd expected a portly, greasy guy, the kind of guy who spent hours in front of the TV without eating a single vegetable.
Ed Fowler is fairly fit, his grey nightshirt showing some pectoral definition, his arms muscular. Heâs a big guy, definitely taller than Joel, and his light-brown hair is speckled with grey, cropped short enough to almost be militant.
And maybe it is militant, given the steely look in his eyes and the gun in his hands.
âG! Three makes company!â Joel says, and Grian makes brief eye contact with him, his sight of Ed blocked by the freezer door.
Three makes companyâtheir code for whether or not someone has a gun. They havenât used that one in a while, not since Jimmy joined them. Now they usually say something like our friend is here, but for some reason Joel had jumped to the old one.
Ed doesnât move, his gun trained on Joel.
âEd Fowler,â Joel says. The microwave beeps beside him. He ignores it, though Edâs eyes flick toward it. âHow long has it been since you washed dishes?â
Edâs chuckle is humorless. âToo long. What do you boys want?â
Grian grimaces. âLook, I know Joelâs not that tall, but weâre fully adult men,â he says, closing the freezer. He still doesnât look at Ed, instead walking back toward the silverware drawer, holding a frosted-over carton of ice cream. ��Got any clean spoons?â
âRight. I suppose I should say Bad Boys,â Ed says. âWhy are you here?â
Grian shrugs nonchalantly. âOh, you know. We get a job, we do it. I think the question is for you, Edâwhy would the Bad Boys be at your house at two in the morning?â
Ed looks genuinely confused, though he hides it well with a small smirk. âIâm guessing it isnât a booty call,â he jokes, and Joel almost laughs.
This guy is pretty cool, actually. The kind of guy that Joel would grab a drink with, probably. Well, maybe. Depends on his professionâhis build kind of looks like a cop, and thatâs a red flag from the get-go.
Whereâs Jimmy? He was only going to check the living room, it canât have taken too much time.
Last time Jimmy went missing during a house visit like this, it wasnât pretty.
The microwave beeps again. Another minute that he hasnât appeared.
âYouâve missed some payments,â Grian says, his tone still casual. He manages to find a spoon, but the ice cream is so frozen solid that it wonât even dig in. He chips away at it, finally turns to face Ed. âThe boss sent us to collect.â
âI havenât owed the Bad Boys anything in years.â
Joel shrugs. âNot according to our records. Nothing we can do about it, so you might as well fork something over.â Now that Grian has eyes on Ed, he turns to the microwave, popping it open. The freezer meal looks more unappetizing than it did earlier, but he pulls it out anyway.
âThatâs stupid,â Ed spits. âI donât have any debts!â
âYes, you do.â
Joel looks up.
Thereâs a gun just in sight, pointed straight at Edâs temple, and Jimmy takes a step into the light, eyes trained on Ed.
Edâs eyes glance to the side. His face turns red quicker than Joelâs ever seen, cheeks suddenly ruddy with anger.
âJames,â he says, and despite the clear rage in his face, his voice is calm. âPut the gun down.â
James? Does this man know Jimmy?
If he does, then Jimmy never should have accepted this job. Itâs an unspoken rule in the Bad Boys that you donât do jobs that involve people from your personal life, and Jimmy knows that well enough.
Jimmy doesnât move. His hand is steady. âI donât think so,â he says. âI think this is when you put the gun down.â
Edâs fingers tighten around the grip of his gun. âWhat, and leave myself defenseless?â
Jimmy laughsâshort, sharp, ugly. âYep. Drop it. Kick it over to Grian.â
Joel glances at Grianâheâs gone still, the ice cream forgotten on the counter. Heâs staring, staring at Jimmy, worry creasing his brow.
This isnât right. Something about this isnât right at allâmaybe itâs the cold tone of Jimmyâs voice, usually so lively; maybe itâs the whitening of his knuckles around the grip of his gun.
After a long, long moment, Ed slowly drops into a crouch, carefully setting his gun on the ground. He pushes it to Grian, the gun skittering across the tile floor of the kitchen. Grian catches it under his foot, but makes no move to pick it up.
When Ed straightens, he keeps his hands up and open, so that everyone can see that thereâs nothing. âAll right,â he says, voice once again even. âHow much do I owe?â
âTwenty-thousand,â Joel says quickly. âThatâs the first payment. Seventy-thousand, total.â
âRight. Well, I want it made clear that I donât owe anything, but Iâll cut a check for fifteen-thousand now if you can arrange a meeting with one of your bosses. I want to get this cleared up.â
That sounds good to Joel, honestlyâthis situation isnât right at all with the way Jimmyâs acting, he suddenly wants to get out of hereâso he casts a look toward Grian, waiting for him to accept the deal.
Grian doesnât say a word. He looks toward Jimmy.
Oh, no.
Jimmyâs leading this mission.
Canât Grian take over? Doesnât he see that Jimmy is clearly acting on some personal grudge and thereby compromised?
Jimmy doesnât look at either of them. âI donât think thatâll cut it,â he says, and Joelâs heart sinks. That isnât the right choice to make; heâs letting his emotions get in the way of this job. He should accept it and let them get out. âI think you know that.â
Ed growls. âLook, I can get the money. I just want to talk to your boss.â
âI donât want the money, though,â Jimmy says softly. âI know you donât owe anything.â
âJamesââ
âJimmyââ Grian says, reaching forwardâ
âI want you to talk to me like a grown man,â Ed says. âCan you behave long enough to do that?â
âIâm going to kill you,â Jimmy says, as if he didnât hear either of them speak, voice still so eerily soft. âYou see?â
Edâs adamâs apple bobs. âIf you do it like that, youâre nothing but a coward. Sit down and talk.â
âIâll do it as a coward. I donât care how disappointed you are in me. Not anymore.â
Joel swallows. They need to get Jimmy out of here before he does something he regretsâyeah, all of them have killed before, but not like this. Not as whateverâwhatever revenge this is.
âGrian,â he whispers. âTell him to stand down.â
Grian doesnât say anything.
âJames,â Ed says, and now his voice trembles, cracks in his cool facade beginning to spiderweb out. His eyes dart back and forth between Grian in front of him and Jimmy to his left, his mouth a thin line. âJames, put the gun down and letâs talk about it. Iâm not ready to die today.â
Thatâs the wrong thing to say.
Joel sees it in Jimmyâs face, the way his features darken, the way his eyes harden. âWas she ready to die?â he asks.
âIââ
âWas she ready to die? The doctor said the hemorrhage was caused by recent head trauma.â Jimmy digs the gun into Edâs forehead; the man blanches. âWhich concussion do you think caused it? How many times did you slam her head against the wall over the years?â
âI didnât killââ
âWas I ready to die?â Jimmy asks, and his voice is shaking now, as well. âHow old was I, fifteen? A kid that you left bleeding out on your bedroom floor. Do you know that I thought of her? I was dying, and all I wondered was if she felt the same way. Alone. Terrified. Sick.â
âYet you survived,â Ed spits. âJames, I didnât kill your mother.â
âKeep telling yourself that. It wonât save you, in the end.â
Oh.
Oh, no.
When Jimmy was only eighteen, Joel had become fairly certain that Jimmy was experiencing some level of abuse at home. He and Grian had started slipping extra bonuses into Jimmyâs money (he remembers how excited the kid had been, showing them that he was getting paid more than he expected), and when Jimmy had announced to them that he was going to be able to afford an apartment, they celebrated with him. They bought him a tiny cactus as a housewarming gift and never mentioned their involvement in his pay raise.
After he got the apartment, Jimmy finally started to mellow out. He started laughing more, blaming himself less for mistakes, getting control of the anger that burned within him.
He had stopped showing up after every weekend with new bruises.
If Joelâs right, this man is his father.
Now that heâs made that connection, he can see the resemblance. Jimmyâs hair is just a couple shades lighter than Edâs, his nose the same sharp angle. Edâs eyes are the exact same hazel as Jimmyâs, and if there were a few more lights on, Joel expects he would find the same light freckles on Edâs cheeks that Jimmy has.
Heâhe thought this man was cool mere moments ago. He almost laughed at his joke.
This is a man who abused Jimmy, andâapparentlyâalmost killed him.
Joel feels sick, and it isnât from the the smell of the microwave dinner.
âYou donât want to kill me,â Ed says. It might be a threat, it might be a beg. Jimmy laughs again, still that horrible, ugly laugh thatâs so unlike Jimmy.
âIâve wanted to kill you since I was fourteen,â he says. âLizzieâs the only thing that kept me from shooting you in your sleep.â
Ed latches onto that. âElizabeth wouldnât want you toââ
âLizzie isnât here right now. Sheâs sound asleep in the apartment that I saved up for for years to get us out. I got her away from you. I saved her.â
âIâm not the monster that you think I am, James.â
âWhat, so youâre normal?â Jimmy scoffs. His words come faster and faster, emotion driving each syllable. âNormal people donât choke nine year old boys until they pass out. Normal people donâtâdonât put their cigarettes out on their kidsâ backs. Normal people donât hurt their kids, dad!â
âIâand what does that make you, now?â says Ed. âA gangster? How is that any better?â
âAnythingâs better than a wife-beating cop,â Jimmy snarls, and for a moment, his hand shakes. The gun slips from Edâs forehead briefly, scrapes down the side of his face, and Ed freezes.
âJamesââ
Jimmy reasserts his hold on the gun, one thumb running over the grip. âThis is your gun,â he says, his voice soft again. Itâs scary, how quickly he can go from one to the other. âE.J.F., your initials. You gave it to me. Remember?â
âJamesââ Ed says again, but Jimmy cuts him off.
âI want to make it hurt. I want to watch you bleed out. But Iâm better than you.â
Silence.
A bit of ice drips off the ice cream carton.
Joel hardly dares to breathe.
âPlease donât kill me,â Ed whispers, the blood entirely drained from his face, leaving it pale as milk. âI donât want to die.â
Jimmyâs face doesnât change. âNeither did my mom.â
BANG.
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For Jimmy, the job was surprisingly well-executed.
As it turned out, he had gone to TIES.
He had approached Etho of TIES six months earlier, presenting him with a fat file folder of evidence of Ed Fowlerâs corruption. Ed Fowler, a high-ranking police officer, was known to take bribes from certain less-reputable gangs while borrowing money from those less likely to kill him, including TIES. In fact, he had borrowed sufficiently from TIES that Etho felt justified in sending someone to collect. He gave Jimmy the details and Jimmy forged the handwriting of a higher-up in the Bad Boys to write out the job. While in the living room of the townhouse that Joel now knew to be Jimmyâs childhood home, he had disabled any security systems or cameras that might incriminate them.
With Ethoâs permission, as Jimmy claimed, they ransacked the place and made it look like TIES had destroyed it looking for money. Of course, they took any money and valuables they could find. Joel found a couple of very nice guns in the master bedroomâhe wasnât just going to let them go to waste.
(He looked at the floor, at the stained brown carpet, and shuddered.)
By the time they leave, itâs almost four. Nobody speaks, but that morning, for the first time, Jimmy pulls up GPS navigation to an apartment address on the other side of the city.
They walk into Jimmyâs apartment at around five in the morning, the pink-haired woman living there already awake. She and Jimmy make long eye contact, in which Jimmy kind of shrugs and blushes, and she frowns.
Then she smiles, and invites them all in, and introduces herself as Lizzie Fowler.
Joel pays more attention to Jimmy than he does to her, keeping an eye on his emotions, but Jimmy seems fine. A bit shaken (heâs barely spoken since he did it, face pale and blood spattered across his knuckles), but fine.
Lizzie and Jimmy go about preparing something to eatâand Grian raids their cereal, humming in satisfaction as he finds something sugaryâand Joel just stands awkwardly in the center of the kitchen, not sure what to do.
Soon enough, the eggs and toast are done, and everyone retires to the living room.
âThanks for the help,â Jimmy mumbles, once they all have some sort of breakfast item in hand, and Jimmyâs sitting between Grian and Joel on the cheap sofa, his head leaning on Grianâs shoulder. Lizzieâs on the floor in front of him, her back against the sofa, idly picking at Jimmyâs pant leg.
âI donât think we did anything, Tim,â Grian tells him, idly running a hand through Jimmyâs hair. âLike, that was all you.â
âNot that.â
Jimmyâs at the most relaxed Joelâs ever seen him, his eyelids fluttering, his shoulders slumped. He yawns, leans further against Grian.
Joel wraps an arm around him, leans in as well.
Grian smiles at Joel when he catches his eye. Joel smiles back.
They can reprimand Jimmy later. They can tell him how foolish he was for getting other gangs involved in personal revenge, how terribly that situation could have ended. Heâll probably be getting suspended from jobs for a while, restricted to manning the front or janitorial duties.
That can wait, though.
The sparse living room grows lighter and lighter as the sun breaks over the horizon, gradually bathing them all in its warm yellow glow.
Itâs a new beginning that isnât for him. Itâs for Jimmy and Lizzie, almost uncomfortable in their silence, but not quite leaving each otherâs side. Itâs for Jimmy, a release of the weight that heâs been carrying for years. Itâs for Jimmy, able to seek out comfort at last.
Joel just has the privilege of witnessing it.
#whumptober2024#no.31#asking for help#limited life smp#fic#discussion of child/spouse abuse#limited life#trafficblr#traffic smp#life series#jimmy solidarity#smallishbeans#grian#limited life fanfic#omni/impotence au#mas writes#that's what i've decided to name it#it's a song by typhoon#and that sound makes me think of this au's jimmy soo strongly#WOOOO WE LOVE A COOL SUNGLASSES EMOJI JIMMY#i've been thinkin abt this one for a couple of days now#i have at least one more jimmy fic in my head for this au#but we'll see#thanks for joining me this whumptober!#lmk what you think#love you guys
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Well Iâd say itâs not really that Andrew is a bad boyfriend but rather he just doesnât care about Julia at all. He doesnât have a âtreat your girlfriend badâ condition he has a âdonât care about anyone thatâs not your sisterâ condition. A lot of Andrewâs frustrations come from hiding his feelings for Ashley, so if he embraces those heâll be more chill
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I think getting in, staying in, and perpetuating a relationship with someone you don't care about romantically is bad boyfriend behaviour.
Lying about how much you care about them, lying about knowing who is doing things to scare them, and lying that it's not a big deal are all bad boyfriend behaviours.
Even when Julia minimises it, he can't admit it's Ashley, and gets aggro when she points out his behaviour towards her borders on inappropriate.
I get that the world is a depressing place where people get into relationships solely so they aren't single and don't actually care about who they're with, but just because it's a thing doesn't negate the fact that it sucks to do that to someone.
I get you mean that he wouldn't be a bad boyfriend to Ashley, but obviously I disagree.
Andrew is a bad boyfriend.
Onto his red flags is his immediate and open affection as manipulation, which we can see he does with Julia to get her to drop and forget about topics he doesn't like or want to talk about. He starts being like that with Ashley too in her route. More specifically when she's being contemplative or speaking about their past.
Andrew also doesn't want to take responsibility for any part he played in enabling Ashley's behaviour or his own minimisation and lies about her behaviour to Julia's face. Andrew clearly doesn't mind lying to his girlfriend, using her solely to deflect from rumours about him and his sister, and apparently feels no shame in doing this to her even after knowing nina was julia's best friend who he murdered. And even knowing how serious Ashley could be about killing someone, didn't take any action to encourage her to stay safe and away from Ashley. He took no responsibility for the break up, just like he tries to never take responsibility for his own part in choosing to kill for Ashley, or go along with her plans.
Andrew seems to have a problem with control, specifically limiting or restrictions on his urges and behaviours. Slamming the phone when with Julia as she's suggesting chilling it with Ashley, getting frosty when julia says he doesn't have to go see ashley whenever she says the word, specifically giving himself an out so that Ashley wouldn't be the only girl Andrew could spend time with, his insistence on smoking, his behaviour about money and food- making himself the sole arbiter of both- and placing himself as the final say in any plan Ashley comes up with, giving himself automatic veto powers. The ones with Ashley can be excused as typical family stuff, at least at first, but the decay route shows just how much of a cold shoulder and bad mood he'll get into when he can't control Ashley's behaviour of calling him Andy or thinks he doesn't have the upper hand in their relationship. He starts slamming things in order to control Julia's behaviour as well.
Speaking of the decay route, he'll just straight up misrepresent what people say in order to win an emotional argument. Julia doesn't think Andrew has ever done anything inappropriate with Ashley, but he puts those words in her mouth so she'll back down from the topic. He does the same with Ashley and says he never gets a choice with her plans, but he literally drove them over to their parent's house? And suggests a dumb plan he doesn't even want (turning themselves in) so he can blow up at Ashley and make her back off the topic of plans, because he doesn't have one.
Every bad behaviour he's shown towards Julia he's also shown towards Ashley. In fact he may have chosen Julia as a partner specifically because it would set off Ashley more and cause her discomfort. Or because she's was the only person weak willed enough to tolerate his weird behaviour with his sister, which even his own mother found suspicious.
Julia gets the brunt of it with less stressing behaviour because she's his girlfriend. We never see him do the same to his mother, friends, or father. Only people he has a romantic interest in, Julia and Ashley. Sure we have limited perspectives, but in my opinion, Andrew wants a doormat as a partner, but also wants someone to superficially put all the responsibility onto for his own bad behaviour. Because Julia cries he never escalates with her, but if she didn't and stood up for herself I think he would have put his hands around her throat too like he did to Ashley.
Oh. And he blames his outbursts in them being frustrating, rather than his own ability to manage his temper.
I am firmly in the camp that Andrew is bad news romantically, and his behaviour would only escalate as he tried to gain more control using love as a weapon. And if Ashley is to be believed, the end for all Andrew's failed romantic interests is death.
Tldr: we don't see him act like this to random people or other family members, only people he's in a "relationship" with. Run Ashley. RUN.
#tcoaal#the coffin of andy and leyley#for abuse if they'd do it to a stranger they'd do it to you.#but also! sometimes they do it Becausee its you#as in some people are only abusive to family because they expect family to have no boundaries for them#some people are only abusive towards spouses. i think andrew is more or less that#Have you seen his parents? he thinks marriage is one person doing all the work while the other coasts along just nodding along#his dad arguably doesn't care about anyone but his wife. same as andrew. and benefits from his wife doing all the labour#(his dad lacked a job and we never hesr of that being a major issue for mrs graves. and ashley only remembers her mom doing everything)#and clearly mrs graves doesn't care if her spouse screws up since she took him with her. and he knew about it.#abuse is weird like that
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Happy International Friendship Day to all the queercoded codependent friendships that end in misery (ESPECIALLY if someone tries to take it to a more romantic level)!!!
#geraskier#gerlion#ineffable husbands#ineffable spouses#aziracrow#air conditioning#payneland#painland#chedwin#though i think that one's not as bad and is going to be fixed in season two or so the rumors (the voices) tell me#merthur#merther#mercelot#tumblr help me out i know there's more but i don't consume media#AND IF A SINGLE ONE OF YOU SAYS LORAX/ONCELER I WILL BOOT YOU OUT THE TOWER OF THE HIGHEST WINDOW OF MY CASTLE#the previous tag was a msitake but ive decided to leave it as is as to be more ominous and fresh with my threats#destiel#i loathe having to tag this ship on something#sorry tumblrinas but it was my abusive ex's favorite show on earth PGIHPWAIGHiPAWHG#the mere sight of the actors and i cringe#no offense to any of them#but a little offence
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so, do we think that kaiser has an accurate picture of the mother who he's never met and who he (presumably) primarily gets information about from his abusive father who has nursed a grudge against her for years, or do we think there's more to this story?
#bolo liveblogs#blue lock#bllk#the ''we'' here is rhetorical. I am saying that I think there's more to this story.#speaking generally when it comes to abusive parents the abuse is not limited to their children. it's part of a broader pattern of behavior#that comes out with anyone they can get away with terrorizing. this often includes romantic partners/spouses.#and the specific detail that she was an actress under his employ would be suspicious even without confirmation of how horribly he treats#people he has power over (such as a child).#I don't know. I think she saw his violent side and chose to leave.#and even if she did leave for ''selfish'' reasons and not just to protect herself I wouldn't hold it against her.#that being said I wouldn't be surprised if kaiser (who didn't have the agency to leave the man she saw was violent)#absolutely did hold it against her. and coming from him it would be fair!
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Systemhopping isn't real and I'm saying this as a VERY metaphysical system. Because the existential dread and abuse I felt from people claiming it was, or that they could "pop in and out" at any time, just turned into manipulative people trying to gaslight me about what my own system members were doing when they're not fronting/dormant. We're not "popping over to have a one night stand" with Mary Sue of the Blorbo System and the fact that your headmate is "suddenly pregnant" with my system member's "tulpa baby" is. Not! Real! You just created an introject fankid! And even if you did think it was possible, surely my own system members would remember suddenly teleporting into another brain to fuck someone. Maybe I'm not out of the front because I'm temporarily teleporting into the headworld of another person's brain though, Mary Sue of the Blorbo System. Maybe I'm not fronting because every time I do, you've dropped some Fucked Up New Lore about how you're trying to sexually abuse me into being your OC's baby daddy. I'm not some fucking doll you can just project your sexual fantasy roleplays onto. Fuck off.
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#system hopping is actually a thing for us#its unfortunate when people run into manipulators who use it to control#to abuse other systems#however if the practice is done with someone say your partner system with mutual love dnd respect it harms no one#we actively engage with our spouse when it comes to system travel#but we have also had manipulative abusive people use it to try and ruin our marriage#basically be careful if you believe in and practice it#and watch out for abusers#endo friendly#plural community#pluralgang#plurality#pluralpunk#pro endo#mixed origin system#traumaendo#endogenic safe
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god i fucking hate cops and this fucker is such a perfectly executed example of them. any one of them will be smiling and sucking up to another cop, then 5 minutes later beat some random person up into confessing for a crime that the person hasn't even committed
#petrichor#petrichor the series#then if the cop is married go home and abuse his spouse#mine#i talked to a girl who worked administration in a police department and the things she told me that they were doing there god
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I donât think using the term ânarcissistic abuseâ is ableist.
(addendum: if you are triggered by the usage of the term, please enforce a boundary for yourself to ignore posts like these (just like how I ignore posts that trigger me). I am not wishing harm on anyone. I am working on healing, moving on, and also forgiving people - but it does not change what happened.) Ableism is the blatant discrimination of those with disabilities - calling the abuse cycle by its term (there is no other term that accurately describes what I went through) is not ableist. Just like calling me autistic is not ableist. Just like calling out my previous codependency and people-pleasing that caused me to chronically lie to people is not ableist. The term is DESCRIPTIVE and it is indicative of a real thing that happens.
I know other people think that it is ableist.
I know people wonât believe me when I say it saved my life.
You know how no matter what you do or say, someone will find issue with it? Doesnât matter how many degrees you have, the amount of medical validation you have received, the things you have witnessed, the insistence that I am not proposing harm to anyone (I am insisting on accountability though!), etc.
There are people who will not believe you or take it personally.
The lesson I have learned: I need to trust myself with the information I have right now. I can continue to learn more about people and the world, but I am not responsible for people thinking that my usage of a term is vilifying a whole community. I have faced this my entire life (telling white people about white supremacy and appropriation and then having them accuse me of vilifying all white people; countless other black-and-white examples).
So whatever.
Call me a monster.
After all my abuser probably calls me one.
#healing#trauma#neurodivergence#queer#cw narcissism#narcissism#narcissistic abuse#what I went through was real#I guess Iâm a monster now#I donât think itâs ableist for real#Iâm autistic#I have adhd#I have been emotionally and/or physically abused my whole life#I thought my ex-spouse loved me#but they were emotionally abusing and playing me the entire time without getting help
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Twisting Fairy Tales
Today's edition: Cinderella
Featuring: Magnus in the role of the non-evil Stepmom Raphael and Simon in the roles of the non-evil Stepsiblings Clary in the role of Cinderella Alec in the role of the crown prince who is so much more interested in the stepfather of the weird girl who keeps talking to the ducks in the royal pond Jace, the crown prince's first knight who is very much interested in the weird girl and wishes she would step away from the creepy ducks And Izzy in the role of the younger sister of the crown prince who would really rather talk to the Bane brothers than the princes to foreign kingdoms that hher parents have lined up for her.
#magnus bane#alec lightwood#malec#shadowhunters tv#malec prompt#jace herondale#clary fairchild#izzy lightwood#simon lewis#raphael santiago#lets twist up some fairy tales to make up new stories#Magnus would be a good stepmom#I mean stepdad#he is meant to be a parent and you can't convince me otherwise#crown prince alec#who is totally into the pretty man with three kids who has lost two spouses already#which now that I wrote it like that does sound suspicious but Magnus is innocent I swear#unless one of his spouses was an abusive asshole to the kids then Magnus totally offed him and I stand behind him anyway
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I think itâs fun how Marge is always asking âif you love me then why donât you love my sisters?â while Homer is more âif you love me then why donât you hate my dad?!â
#they both are family-oriented but both were treated pretty badly by their own families and they coped in the opposite way you gotta love it#The Simpsons#Marge thinks your spouse should help you placate your family and Homer thinks your spouse should help you fight them#Itâs a modern episode but when the family gets mad at Abe on Homerâs behalf Homer is crying because this is what heâs really always wanted#he loves Abe he doesnât want to be out of touch but he would really just like his family to righteously gang up on the man sometimes#heâs such a jerk to Patty and Selma and Marge doesnât even appreciate it. Why doesnât she appreciate how hard heâs abusing her abusers
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Me watching yet another of my favorite streamers/youtubers become/turn out to be an absolute shit head.
#wilbur soot#skydoesminecraft#popularmmos#cant minecraft youtubers be normal for five fucking seconds?#like jesus christ#yall would be fine if you whent and got fucking therapy instead of abusing the people who care#but noooooo#trauma dump on minors#or physically abuse your spouses#or just be a piece of shit in general#ughhhh
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#reactive abuse#abusiveboyfriend#abuse#abusive husband#abusive partner#abusive spouse#abusive relationship#abusive marriage#healingjourney#beautiful quote#self love#personal growth#post traumatic growth#quote#love
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Does anyone else get the feeling that at their core, all of mxtx's works are about cycles of abuses.
#idea dump#ramblings of a sleep deprived girl#heaven official's blessing#tian guan ci fu#scum villian self saving system#mao dao zu shi#grandmaster of demonic cultivation#mxtx#mo xiang tong xiu#cycle of abuse#I don't only mean the passing down of trauma#I also mean the abuses of an established corrupt system#that systematically hurts people that are less fortunate than those who actively benefit from it#to me this one is more prevalent in mdzs and why jin guangyao downfall is so upsetting to me#because he was coming close to breaking the cycle of abuse of both the system and of his family#but unfortunately it was his past actions in service of perpetuating it that doomed him#if he had realized a lot sooner that his father was not worth it#and started pursuing his own interests from the beginning instead of his father's approval he could have changed everything for the better#not to mention that unlike his father he actually treats his spouse with respect and doesn't intentionally hurt her#emphasis on the 'intentional' part (if you know you know)#just like Jin Guangyao became the new wei wuxian Nie Huaisang became the new Jin Guangyao#so i'm of the firm belief that since the system is still in place the cycle will repeat again#and Nie Huaisang will replace Wei Wuxian as someone else becomes his Jin Guangyao#sorry for this long ass essay in the tags lol#it's 3am so I'll probably do the other two another time#also let it be known that I'm only running on spoilers/fanfictions/wiki when it comes to svsss and mdzs#so if anyone bothers to read my essay tags be free to correct anything if I get something wrong#side note why wasn't mdzs about breaking cycles???#why didn't yanli become sect leader. Jiang cheng remain coreless. or Jin Zixuan marry into the Jiangs to show worth outside the norms#you can be a strong woman without being cruel. cultivation doesn't equal worth. and powerful women are beautiful and should be respected
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I agree with the tier list but I'm curious why idw and 2007 are on the bottom half and not like 2012 splinter? Or even rise they were both pretty bad fathers
I'll answer rise and 2012 first because 2007 and idw fuel me with so much anger.
DISCLAIMER: I love Rise Splinter and 12 Splinter but they are not without flaws!!!!!
Trigger warnings will be in tags please adhere to them!
[Rise Splinter Start]
I put rise splinter in "you're okay" tier because Hamato Yoshi (will be calling rise splinter "Lou" from now on for context) did his very best and tried to make the very best out of a terrible situation.
He had lost his mother at a very young age and dealt with an emotionally neglectful grandfather who had only cared about a Hamato's duty to their clan up to his late teens into adulthood. [This undermines Karai's sacrifice in the first place. As she had sacrificed herself out of love for the world around her and the love of her father. Not because of a sense of duty.]
Lou moves to America in order to separate himself from his trauma, never addressing it but rather repressing it. In hopes he can move on and start a new life, which he fully intended when he proposed to Big Mama. [Though it's never spoken directly or stated directly in the show, it's implied Splinter was ready to even have a family with her because he loved her so much]
This is quickly torn to shreds when Big Mama reveals she's a Yokai crime boss [essentially] and human traffic [yes. HUMAN TRAFFICS] Lou to New York to become a champion in her Battle Nexus. While in the beginning of the show it's depreciated as Lou Jitsu loved being a Nexus champion we quickly learned in "Many Unhappy Returns" he in fact did not relish being a champion and was clearly traumatized by Big Mama's actions.
> Enter Baron Draxum
Lou is human trafficked once again and this time is experimented on, his DNA used to create turtle super soldiers that will be trained and raised to murder humans. [This show is super fucked up now that I think about it.]
And after completely destroying Draxum's lab, being freshly mutated into a rat man. Stripped of his humanity, he now has 4 turtle sons dropped into his lap.
TLDR: Rise Splinter did the very best he could in a terrible situation and struggled to overcome his own generational trauma. His actions are explained, not excused. He needs therapy, his sons needs therapy. He needs to make up for his neglectful behavior [which we do see towards the end of season 1 and into season 2] and understand his children are in no way shape or form obligated to forgive him.
[End of Rise Splinter]
[Start of 2012 Splinter]
My reasoning for putting 2012 Splinter in "Seek therapy before having kids" tier is because Hamato Yoshi [will just be calling him Yoshi for context] has been a parent before, while brief and tragically separated from his child for many years, on top of losing his wife.
Yoshi did as I would feel did the best he could but could have definitely done better. He's freshly traumatized, well into his 30s, maybe early 40s [?] And moves to America from Japan. [Clearly he needs therapy]
Yoshi clearly was not expecting to be a parent again, so soon after losing his only daughter. [perceived]
He loves his children, though he more often than not struggles to actually connect with them and see them as his sons rather than just clan members. I would consider this emotionally neglectful [?]
I personally always headcanoned this as a trauma response. A subconscious way to protect himself from the hurt of losing another child. And it's clear that Yoshi's trauma over losing miwa has manifested for his sons as well, as we see in the episode "Panic in the Sewers" one of the first episodes we actually see Yoshi PUT HIS HANDS ON HIS SON outside of training. And it's very clear that he was in fact hurting Raph. [Intentional or not. He still hurt his son.]
He loves his sons very much. But please. Get therapy.
[End of 2012 Splinter.]
Cracks Knuckles
[Start IDW Splinter.]
FUCK THIS STUPID ASS RAT I HATE HIM SO FUCKING MUCH. ESPECIALLY ESPECIALLY AFTER THE EVENTS OF CITY FALL.
YOUR SON IS CLEARLY TRAUMATIZED BY NOT JUST OROKU SAKI BUT YOU, HE IS AFRAID OF YOU ANGRY AT YOU AND DESPITE YOU KNOWING THIS YOU STILL CHOOSE TO INVADE HIS SPACE, PRIVACY AND COMFORT ZONE. FUCK YOU!
That being said the entire Trauma and storyline with IDW Leo being brainwashed was handled poorly and clearly written from a stigmatized view. I'm not surprised that his recovery was handled just as poorly.
[End of IDW Splinter]
[Start of 2007 Splinter]
Fuck you. You literally look like the cheetah from Cheetos you nasty, emotionally and physically neglectful fuck!!!
The only time you EVER paid attention to your sons was when Leo came home. 2 YEARS AFTER YOU SENT HIM TO CENTRAL AMERICA.
You did NOT care about Raphael's feelings about Leo's departure or return, nor the abandonment issues he had developed and the resentment that he had for you and his older brother.
You did NOT care that Donnie had to pick up the slack and pay bills so YOUR CRUSTY CHEETO LOOKING ASS COULD WATCH THE NEWS AND YELL "BOYS" WHEN LEO CAME HOME AND THEY CONVENIENTLY WENT OUT TO FIGHT CRIME
I DON'T THINK YOU EVEN ACKNOWLEDGED MIKEY UNTIL THE END OF THE MOVIE AFTER LEO WAS SAVED
TLDR: FUCK 2007 SPLINTER.
#cw / perceived child death#cw / spouse death#cw / implied human trafficking#cw / child abuse#cw / child neglect#cw / cursing#cw / caps#cw / parental death#tmnt#tmnt 2012#tmnt 2007#tmnt idw#rottmnt#greenie talks#anonymous#thanks for the ask!#if theres anything else i should tah please let me know!#cw / ableism
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