#self-preservation

[llovelymoonn]

favourite poems of march

miki schumacher de / re / formation

craig arnold pitahaya

brian turner here, bullet: “what every soldier should know”

eileen myles not me: “peanut butter”

noor hindi breaking [news]

jane hirshfield my species

annesha mitha you are a tyrannosaurus rex

mary ruefle among the musk ox people: poems: “blood soup”

alice notley mysteries of small houses: “as good as anything”

nomi stone on world-making

k. silem mohammad poems about trees

franz wright the break

fred marchant the looking house: “night heron maybe”

carl phillips cortège: “domestic”

alexa luborsky connotations

bruce smith the other lover: “to the executive director of the actual”

nikky finney head off & split: “the aureole”

alice fulton personally engraved

amy beeder because our waiters are hopeless romantics

chiagoziem jideofor self-preservation

carol muske-dukes skylight: “the invention of cuisine”

joyce peseroff a dog in the lifeboat: “april to may”

rigoberto gonzalez other fugitives and other strangers: “other fugitives and other strangers”

toi derricotte the undertaker’s daughter: “my dad & sardines”

tarfia faizullah yr not exotic, but once ya wanted to be

jenny george the artist

jack spicer a second train song for gary

victor hernandez cruz maraca: new and selected poems 1966-2000: “red beans”

xi chuan power failure

jean valentine door in the mountain: new and collected poems, 1965-2003: “sanctuary”

duane niatum drawings of the song animals: new and collected poems: “consulting an elder poet on an anti-war poem”

kofi

[lowcountry-gothic]

I want to share that burnout is a seismic shift in a person’s priorities, one that the body enacts by force  as a self-preservation tactic—and that some people are so transformed by the experience they can never piece their old life back together. But…all of this might be a good thing. In many ways, burnout is an attempt by the body to give us our freedom back—but it can only do so by taking away our ability to be exploited. 

Devon Price, “You Might Not Recover from Burnout. Ever.”

[themotherofrevelation]

The survival of humanity depends on relationship mastery (the mastery of fear and the dissolution of self-preservation patterns).

[jerzwriter]

We don't have a dress.

My daughter is going to put me in my grave.

[quietflorilegium]

“I worry about you, October,” said Danny, passing two cars that were going too slow, at only fifteen miles over the speed limit, for his current tastes. “Sacrificing yourself isn’t the only answer to every problem you come across. It would be nice for the rest of us if you realized that someday. I don’t want to have to bury you.”

Seanan McGuire, "A Killing Frost"

[returning-tonowhere]

Nothing original in this comment, but to put an end to, or at least alleviate some of the stereotypes about the excessive and cringe infantilisation of this subtype, I thought I would put some traits of SP2 here described by Luckovich, as I think this is a more realistic and less cartoonish description, and a refreshing alternative to the misinterpreted metaphorical writing of Naranjo:

“𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘛𝘸𝘰𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘮 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘛𝘸𝘰𝘴 (…) 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘣𝘦 𝘢𝘴 “𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭” 𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘴 “𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘦” 𝘢𝘴 𝘛𝘸𝘰𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘚𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘳 𝘚𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭.”

“𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘺𝘭𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭, 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵, 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘥𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘳𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦, 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘯 𝘵𝘰.

𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙤𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙣 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙋𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙏𝙬𝙤𝙨 𝙣𝙚𝙜𝙡𝙚𝙘𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙪𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙧𝙖𝙜𝙜𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙘𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙.. 𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙜𝙮 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙘𝙪𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙛𝙞𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙭𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙮. 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙢𝙖𝙮 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙙𝙧𝙖𝙬 𝙤𝙧 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙪𝙡𝙜𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙛𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙤𝙧 𝙞𝙙𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮’𝙧𝙚 𝙣����𝙩 𝙜𝙚��𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜. 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙡 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚.”

“𝘐𝘯 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘴, 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘗𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘛𝘸𝘰𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘰 𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘶𝘱 𝘪𝘯 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘤𝘤𝘶𝘱𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘰𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳.

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Tradução :

Nada original neste comentário, mas para acabar ou, pelo menos, aliviar alguns dos estereótipos sobre a infantilização excessiva e cringe desse subtipo, pensei em colocar alguns traços do SP2 aqui descritos por Luckovich, pois acho que esta é uma descrição mais realista e menos caricata, e uma alternativa refrescante à escrita metafórica mal interpretada de Naranjo: "Esses Dois são quentes, mas não tendem a ter a sociabilidade de outros Dois (...) a maneira como eles mostram seu amor e apoio muitas vezes pode não ser tão 'pessoal' ou tão 'cara a cara' quanto os Dois social ou sexualmente dominantes."

"Seu estilo de apoio tende a ser prático, como apoio financeiro, algum tipo de habilidade na cura ou no cuidado. Sua dedicação e garra podem criar uma incrível capacidade de abnegação e cuidado, especialmente em tempos de crise ou quando as pessoas podem sentir que não há mais a quem recorrer. "

isso muitas vezes significa que os dois de autopreservação negligenciam seu próprio autocuidado e correm para outras pessoas com a expectativa inconsciente de que os outros estarão lá em seu próprio momento de necessidade..Tempo e energia não focando no benefício dos outros pode criar ansiedade. Eles podem se retirar ou se entregar a comida ou tempo ocioso para compensar os cuidados que sentem que não estão recebendo. Isso dá a aparência de autocuidado sem o cuidado real."

"Em alguns casos, os dois de autopreservação estão tão envolvidos em desempenhar uma função para os outros ou em ocupar um papel de cuidador que podem não saber como se relacionar com os outros sem ter algo a oferecer.

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[howifeltabouthim]

When it is necessary . . . I will put anything or anyone out of mind.

Catherine Lacey, from Biography of X

[imaginemirage]

I used to rebel by destroying myself, but realized that's awfully convenient to the world. For some of us our best revolt is self-preservation.

Mitski

[haveacupofjohanny]

Keeping Personal and Professional Lives Separate: The Art of Self-Preservation

🛡️ Protect your peace! Learn the art of keeping personal and professional lives separate to safeguard your mental well-being and focus on growth. #WritingUpdate #SelfPreservation #ProfessionalGrowth #Boundaries #MentalHealth

In today’s world of constant connectivity, it’s tempting to share every achievement, every milestone, and every challenge with our closest circles. However, there’s an art to keeping certain aspects of your life—especially your professional ambitions—separate from your personal world. For some, this separation is not just a preference but a necessary act of self-preservation. Why Separate…

[ajournalofconscious]

Codex

the following is my code of interpersonal ethics. it was established to address oversights regarding past interactions with women (& others). these guidelines serve to protect my recently restored self-integrity & personal dignity. they are are listed below in random order:

1. trust is earned, not given

2. give respect to receive it

3. always extend common courtesy

4. reserve judgment until it’s warranted

5. equal reciprocation is mandatory

6. never tolerate manipulation

7. always maintain healthy boundaries

8. always practice fairness

9. never compromise self-integrity

10. always preserve self-dignity

i’ve fought tooth & nail for over three decades to restore this level of self-esteem. thus, my blood oath is that nobody will take it away from me again - ever.

that is all.

[kaestralblades]

do you think if a god named theiur darlingest son crunchwrap. the world could see a beaitufl day again

[6:49 PM]i want to believe int he inherent beauty of nature but the winds keep harshing my vibe

[the-healing-mindset]

Source

[livewithjoynow]

Permission to Pause

Lately, I have felt it more than ever—the fatigue, the overwhelm, the exhaustion that seems to hang in the air like a weight on my shoulders. I used to push through it, convincing myself that if I could just keep going, everything would eventually feel lighter. However, I have learned the hard way that this world was never designed with my mental health in mind. It is easy to fall into the trap…

[rickollie]

What's a topic or issue about which you’ve changed your mind?

Read my response to Daily Prompts QOTD on change and what topic or issues initiated it #change #electionyear #empathy #krewella #alive #healthcare #BarackObama #ICD #health #stayhealthy #selfcare #personalgrowth #writerslife #writerscommunity #healthcare

Daily Prompt’s QOTD Until 2008 I had always voted for Republicans but Barack Obama’s first run for POTUS changed that. He offered change and I needed change. A few years earlier I had been diagnosed with congestive heart failure. The disease was bad enough. But I, also, required an Implantable Cardiac Device, ICD, (defibrillator implant). I’ve had one ever since and am now on my fourth…

[outlaw-monarch]

THIS! THIS IS THE ONLY QUIZ TO GIVE ME A REAL ANSWER, MAYBE EVER.

I need. NEED. The creator of this quiz to understand that the answer I got is LITERALLY the thing that git me to start watching this show IN THE FIRST PLACE. OoO

Yo, HOW'D YOU DO THAT???

new uquiz. come and get it :)

[mydairpercabeth]

Percy “I am impertinent” Jackson really looked Zeus dead in the eye and said “Your family is a mess”