#not to mention the pain. the disability

[cynicalundead]

why have I been. frontstuck. for like 5 days. why does my brain have it out for me. don't you dare make me host again brain I WILL die from alchol poisoning don't test me.

[noodles-and-tea]

Just some more thoughts on that jayvik dbh au

[gabbagepatch]

Listen guys, you don't need to look nice to go outside. Your health is more important than appearances.

I just went on a walk in my pajamas, greasy hair in a shitty bun, acne, and a pair of new balance sneakers. Cars passed by and I said hi to everyone who passed. Did I feel self-conscious? Of course, but it was worth it.

Now I feel a lot better, because I didn't A. Overextend by forcing myself to shower/get dressed/put on concealer beforehand or B. Avoid doing anything because I felt like a mess.

Go outside and be however you are. It's not your job to look good to random strangers, you deserve to go outside.

[sunlitmcgee]

say No to the supposed toxic yaoi of shipping a rapist abusive creep with a man who enabled him and was then tortured by him for several months.

Embrace, or at least consider, instead, the nuanced tenderness of a woman and a man, both hurt by the same monster, in a kinder ending, being able to heal their bodies from where he touched them. Regaining parts of themselves. Connecting and apologizing and healing alongside one another, growing into happy people who will live far beyond the events on that awful ship.

And have her peg him

[tittyinfinity]

"You're so lucky that you can get paid to sit at home and do nothing" is something I hear from family members & people online.

Okay, let's say you're not disabled at all. No health issues. You've somehow tricked the system into believing you're disabled (not possible).

Would you still trade your job and salary to live off of $600-800 a month?

Would you give up your house, your car, your hobbies, the ability to buy gifts for yourself & others, and ALL of your savings, just for the "great benefit" of sitting in bed all day?

Do you really think it's that great?

Now, add health issues to all of that.

Not only are you stuck at home, but your body hurts every time you try to move, lights and sounds can send you into a meltdown, you can't even make it to the bathroom without nearly passing out the entire way there. You're always too fatigued, too dizzy, or in too much pain to do basic activities. You can't cook for yourself more than once or twice a month. Fast food is expensive. You can't keep your place clean or even get yourself to shower regularly. You can't afford your hobbies – even just buying a video game is 10% of your income for the entire month. You don't get to buy yourself (or your kid/s) nice things. After paying bills, you have almost nothing left for necessities and gas. Your car breaks down? It costs 50%-200% of your monthly paycheck. You want new clothes? You got the thrift shop, clearance section at walmart, or ordering cheap things from horrible places like Temu, Shein, or Wish. You want a place to live? You won't be able to afford to live alone until you get approved for housing assistance after waiting 5 or more years on a waiting list. And either way, bills are gonna be more than half of your monthly paycheck.

Does all of that sound like a privilege?

And do you REALLY believe anyone would try to fake a disability for that?

Get mad at the system that underpays you, not at disabled people who are paid well below a sub-minimum wage just to "sit around" and feel like shit all day

[demiboydemon]

I was going to feel sad about the United Health CEO dying but my insurance doesn’t cover sympathy. Maybe losing weight will help?

[neuroticboyfriend]

to anyone who's nervous about using or getting a mobility aid:

it's okay. disabilities are so difficult to manage, and the judgement from others doesn't help that at all. it makes things so confusing, and it can feel heartbreaking when you find something that can help you but realize others may not support it.

yet at the end of the day, you know your body best. nothing anyone thinks can change the pain, instability, weakness, etc. you're experiencing. your struggles are real. i believe you, and so do many people just like you, even strangers. we want you to do what's best for you.

i was really scared to start using a cane and a rollator at first, and some days the insecurity and fear gets to me. but for the most part, nowadays, i don't even bat my eyes when i go to grab either one.

past me was so afraid, and had to have a lot of courage to do this. but i'm so grateful past me did that. mentally, it feels more uncomfortable to go without my aids now. i still haven't jumped the hurdle on the wheelchair yet, but, that's ok. i'll get there.

all to say... today, you may be afraid. but tomorrow, maybe you can have courage - action, in spite of fear. and in some length of time, maybe you'll look back and be glad you made the choice you did.

because the choice is yours.

[chronicallydragons]

Not enough heating pad for the ouchie so I’m just rolling around like a rotisserie chicken

[extreme-dyke-syndrome]

GUESS WHO STARTED HIS MALL DATE OFF BY GETTING A COP TOWED????

You're not more important than me because your legs work and you have a gun <3

[everythingwasnormalhere]

trans day of remembrance please for fuck's sake remember disabled trans people this time, dont leave it to us to be the only ones who mourn them

so many posts about today and ive seen nobody mention them. nobody at all.

im fucking tired.

[lemony-ink]

A very validating fact I learned recently is that you aren't being dramatic/faking when you unmask about your symptoms

If you're used to masking normally, it absolutely carries over to masking your physical ailments

Learning to unmask with your "invisible" disabilities is extremely difficult due in large part to the self fakeclaiming / denial

[gabbagepatch]

Having subjective symptoms is very isolating because there is no way for others to witness what you're going through. They just have to trust you and you have to trust them to believe you. I know everyone in my life believes it, but they don't get it. I expressed to my therapist that I feel that all of these symptoms begin rattling around in my head and it creates a barrier between me and others.

My world: hurting, trying not to show it, coping with pain, fearful, etc

Their world: normal, uneventful, happy evening

It's very difficult to have something happening to you that nobody else can see.

[onlytiktoks]

[tired-cripple-punk]

Surgery is done and I’m doing fine

Already walking around and doing stuff as normally as I can, relying on a forearm crutch as my pain meds wear off

My sleep will be shitty for a couple weeks but I’m used to not sleeping well

I may not show it very well, but thank you to everyone that interacts when I post about my life and medical struggles, it means a lot to me and reminds me that I’m not alone in this crap

[atley01]

Maybe this is a hyper-specific niche of chronically ill folk I'm talking to rn, but to my chronically ill folks who deal w/ nausea but have emetophobia, I see you and I am you

I get nauseous all the time and it dosent get less scary for me, but by god am I so brave about it.

Except for when I dont have anything that can counter my nausea 🧍🏽‍♂️

[r3musmoony]

Guys what the fuck.

My campus now had two lifts not working (one has been out of service for like almost a month now) and the third lift only goes up to the third floor. my class is on the fourth floor. My class is also Critical Issues in Disability. this sounds like a critical issue to me. Plus, this is the room I have to wait in at the moment

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the irony of me waiting here for accessibility. I am. so tired of this shit.

UPDATE: the class is being moved somewhere more accessible, instead of the fourth floor. Now I feel awkward for making it a big deal but also now I’m happy because I might’ve just brought attention to something maybe people haven’t noticed before? I don’t know how to feel but it’s some feeling

UPDATE 2: I have to go into one building and walk through three other buildings to get to my class now