#tw weight loss

[frownyalfred]

the thing about many comics is that they will list female characters at the VERY edge of underweight for their height (or just straight up underweight) and then list male characters at the edge or well into overweight for their height and blame both on “muscle.”

Dick Grayson at 5 ft 10 and 175 lbs (general canon average) is overweight by BMI. Cassandra Cain at 5’5 and 110 lbs is underweight by BMI. and I’ve seen female characters as tall as 5’9 getting down to 110-115 lbs in canon estimates.

carrying extra muscle rarely means carrying less weight overall. Dick Grayson might be a BMI outlier for having more muscle than the average human (making his slightly overweight BMI arguably healthy) but being underweight and carrying a higher proportion of muscle than the average human rarely benefits women.

time to get real, DC. I want my 5’5+ women ripped and somewhere between 130-150. If they’re carrying more muscle, it just makes sense. if it’s for “agility” then why is Dick Grayson allowed to be overweight by BMI?

[thebibliosphere]

Man, fuck doctors sometimes. I was finally able to see a neurologist with the intent of figuring out why about a month or so after a surgery I suddenly couldn't stand or sit upright without lower back pain. Like, very, VERY suddenly this came on.

And they told me to try losing weight about it after giving me a once-over.

And when I directly asked them if I wasn't what sh considered 'overweight', would she order many tests? Yes, she said she would.

I -did- get to make her backpedal by explaining I had worked hard to gain weight since for most of my life I was extremely underweight due to neglect, at least.

All this to say I relate to your tylenol woes. May we both find the help we need soon.

Man, doctors have such sticks up their asses about weight. I'm so sorry that was your experience.

I remember when I first moved here, and I started seeing a new healthcare provider. My symptoms weren't as bad yet, but they were heading that way, and the advice they kept giving me was to "lose weight."

I was 125lbs soaking wet. If that.

When I dropped... gosh, I think it was 30, almost 40lbs in about 3 months last year, I actually had a nurse congratulate me on it. Like no, Deborah, that's a sign there is something very, very wrong. (spoiler alert, it was my mast cells burning down my GI tract.)

Fatphobia literally kills.

[fatliberation]

Please stop lying to people, being obese fucking sucks.

My folds constantly brush against each other and drive me crazy, I stink more than the average person, I get out of breath easily, my joints hurt while I’m in my early fucking 20s, etc etc….

Fat acceptance shouldn’t be a thing, people shouldn’t accept being fat. It’s like accepting having cancer, accepting being an addict. Like why would someone WANT to be like this? I’m not saying it’s easy to lose weight, but it is damned possible! Why do you want people to have no hope for a better future, no hope to finally feel at home in their body? Stop trying to get people to give up. We deserve to improve our lives.

Sincerely, an actually morbidly obese person.

respectfully, I really do wish for all fat people to improve their lives, and we can do that without losing weight, by building community and supporting each other, and dismantling the systems that oppress us. because for the vast majority of people, no, weight loss is not possible. it just causes more harm. It hurts my heart that you view being fat as the same as cancer and view my work as “giving up,” but that’s simply not true. I sincerely hope you can find your way to fat liberation and learn that there are ways to take care of your body, mind, & soul that don’t involve starving and shrinking.

[demiboydemon]

I was going to feel sad about the United Health CEO dying but my insurance doesn’t cover sympathy. Maybe losing weight will help?

[ineffectualdemon]

TW for weight loss talk but not diet talk

I am a very fat person

I also happen to have lost weight over the last year

Not intentionally. I wasn't seeking to lose weight and I only know because I dropped a clothing size and I happened to accidentally over hear my weight at a doctors appointment in January and again in October. In 10 months I lost roughly somewhere between 22 and 30 lbs. I don't know exactly because it's been awhile and I'm not keeping track of my weight. But I did drop a clothing size in that time. And 22lbs seems about right because that's 2.2lbs a month which is a healthy weight loss rate.

And here's what's interesting

What has changed in the last year is that I have eaten MORE

I struggle with eating and with getting myself to eat so this January I went to see a dietician for advice on how to eat more regularly despite the times I find it hard due to my autism and issues with disordered eating, and how to eat a bit heathier. Not because I wanted to lose weight but because I feel better if my diet is a bit more veg heavy

She recommended I eat my ready meals and pre prepared food and snacks if that's what I needed to do to eat

And I did

I bought a smoothie maker because sometimes solid food is hard and I hate soup 90% of the time (it's a texture/Temperature thing)

And I add chocolate spread and whole fat milk and loads of strawberries when I make a smoothie because it's trying to get nutrients into me

I eat ready meals several times a week

True I choose veg heavy ones because I like those more but it's still ready meals

I have had more instant ramen but with tofu and frozen stir-fry veggies added

I eat more food more often

I eat consistently

I eat food that tastes good and makes my body feel better and not worse

I attach less shame to what I eat and I worry less about it

And because I'm eating consistently and in a way my body appreciates I've been able to move around a little more and do a very moderate amount of stretching and physio to try and strengthen my body

I am still very fat.

I'm probably going to remain very fat. I don't expect I will lose a great deal more weight

But I find it very interesting that I lost enough to drop a clothing size by eating MORE food and, more food marked as "bad" like ready meals, because I cared about making my body feel better and a little less ill then I did about mu weight

And guess what? I'm still going to focus on my how much body feels and giving it energy then on punishing myself because of my body shape

I am fat and that's morally neutral. Losing a little weight did not change who I am. But it did expose how fucking stupid diet culture is

[scarybabe]

Have you lost some weight? You look a bit skinnier now.. I hope you are doing well, and that you will gain some more weight 😊

I’m just gonna share a chat I had with a close friend because it’s easier than explaining all this

Just remember - not everyone values thinness, even if society does, even if it makes certain things easier. Not everyone who loses weight does it intentionally either.

Had to fix a typo haha

❤️ also consider this post from @werewolf4hire

I agree with all of that.. when I was actively gaining, other fat people & people losing weight were often shittier to me about wanting to gain than people who had never been fat before.. you see it a lot in subreddits like /r/ fatlogic (don’t go they’re everyone’s miserable) and they couldn’t understand why I believe fatness is a beautiful and desirable thing.

I didn’t put any effort into losing weight, I didn’t restrict calories or do cardio - I do track macros but that’s mainly so I don’t accidentally under-eat because I still struggle to identify when I’m hungry, and nutrition is super important for muscle growth.

I did not lose weight because I didn’t want to be fat, I don’t know how much more I can express that. As soon as my body found a size that I can maintain (aka stopped losing weight despite eating as well as I can) I figured out exactly how much I need to eat in order to not lose another pound, my maintenance is around 3,000 calories a day (more before my period). It actually takes effort to eat that much some days - I am actively PREVENTING further weight loss.

I don’t like talking about weight loss because tbh losing weight made me sad and insecure. I liked the way my fat felt way more when it was plump and thick, not squishy and empty feeling. I got a BBL to try and ameliorate that - if I had plateaued at a higher weight and didn’t have “empty hips”, I would not have had a BBL. Just trying to make lemonade out of a very lemon-y situation 🥲

I’ve been on the receiving end of fatphobic cruelty more times than I can count, if I was naturally heavier I would be enjoying lifting weights in my bigger body and doing all the same things I do now happily (just larger), because wanting to heal my relationship with food and my body was never about losing weight for me. I don’t relate to thin people anymore, it doesn’t matter that my waist is smaller because when I go out in a baggy shirt and joggers or cargo pants (as I often do) I’m still perceived as being plus size because I am WIDE.

[guzhufuren]

Wang Yunkai's message on Weibo (translated by xiaoqiaoo_)

Today, I’d like to share with everyone how the rookie actor Wang Yunkai and Jin Xiaobao came to meet each other.

My thoughts are scattered, and my writing skills aren’t perfect, so please forgive any awkward phrasing in what I’m about to write.

On September 14, 2022, I began a new life in Beijing, full of uncertainty. After drifting around aimlessly like a headless fly for several days, I soon realized that pursuing a career as an actor was as difficult as reaching the heavens.

Without formal acting training and with limited personal qualifications, almost all of my auditions ended in rejection. To make ends meet, I took a job as an art examination teacher. After passing the interview, a sudden thought struck me: “Would I never become an actor? Would I be moving further and further away from my ultimate dream?”

While I was caught in this dilemma, a friend suggested I start out as a commercial actor. So, I spent thirty yuan to join five casting announcement groups and nervously embarked on my journey as a “commercial actor,” starting as an extra and stand-in and eventually moving on to short dramas, tvc advertisements, and MV roles. By June 2023, I landed my first lead role in a commercial—the one for Beijing Music Industrial Park that everyone has seen. During this time, I continued auditioning for film and TV roles, but each attempt would always end in failure.

What I didn’t expect was that this commercial would become a turning point for me. On July 15, 2023, a producer reached out through a friend after seeing the commercial, thinking I was very suitable for the role of Xiaobao. My first video interview was scheduled for the afternoon of July 17. Despite the screen separating us, I was extremely nervous, with many thoughts racing through my mind, the main two being: “This has to be a scam, right?” and “Even if it’s real, I’m still going to fail.”

Knowing that the producer felt I was right for the role because of my dimples, I didn’t dare relax for a second. I kept my face slightly angled and forced my dimples to show throughout the entire interview. After the call ended, half of my face was stiff.

After a week full of anxiety, I received an invitation for an in-person audition. I couldn’t contain my joy after hearing the news, but that joy would soon be replaced by greater fear and self-doubt.

Can I really do this? Do I have the luck? Am I capable enough?

Due to my lack of experience and with no examples to follow, I just read the original work several times and prepared as best as I could. But when the day finally came, I truly understood what “easier said than done” meant!

The scale of the audition was far greater than I had imagined, and the impressive competitors also made me feel intimidated.

Honestly, I can’t recall the specific details of the audition because all my emotions were condensed into a single word: nervous. Oh, and there was also one mission etched in my mind: to keep emphasizing my dimples.

After the audition, I figured I probably didn’t stand a chance and began consoling myself as usual: “It’s okay, failure is also a kind of experience.” But to my surprise, the next day, I received notice from the producer that I was selected for the second round of fittings a month later!

To prepare, I started working out and lost 7.5 kg in a month. But after a month had passed, it seemed as if the fitting notice had disappeared into thin air. Just as I was about to give up, I was informed that the second round of fittings would be rescheduled, and the third round of auditions would be held directly in October.

After the third round, I made it to the final three. I understood very well that this was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, so to be responsible for both the project and myself, I enrolled in a month-long acting training course.

Finally, in late November, I was notified that I would be joining the cast for training on December 8th. Even after joining, I was still worried that I might be replaced at any moment. It wasn’t until the producer arranged more than 20 days of acting, martial arts, etiquette, and fitness classes that I truly began experiencing life on set. Only then did my heart finally settle.

I want to thank the two producers for their appreciation and support, the director for patiently guiding me, the acting coach and screenwriter for helping this newbie better understand the script and character, Li Le for taking care of me on set, Li Junliang and Song Jiaxi for tirelessly answering my questions about acting. I’m also glad I got to spend this time with my old friend Kou Weilong and new friend Li Yimu. And a big thank you to the friend who connected me with the two producers.

Lastly, I want to say that I’m so happy to have met everyone in the height of summer 2024. Thanks to Meet You at the Blossom, I was able to encounter all of you. Although I still have a lot to improve on, I will work hard and wholeheartedly cherish every beautiful moment. I hope we can all be our most wonderful selves where the flowers are in full bloom! Just be happy~ ❤️

Goodbye, Jin Xiaobao 👋

Hello, actor Wang Yunkai ✌️

* the line “just be happy” is a play on words, he uses the “kai“ part of his name because it sounds like the kai in kaixin (happy)

[frownyalfred]

Okay you said we could ask anything about protein so here goes; what would Bruce and Alfred give to a newly adopted Jason to help him gain muscle and keep up with his new highly demanding physical routine? Because they got enough work cut out for them just trying to get him healthy again without the stress of being Robin on top.

I have a friend whose son was training throughout high school to become a professional athlete who needed a ton of muscle/weight added. He was a skinny kid to start. They blended up heavy cream and ice cream daily to make “shakes” for him. Sour cream tub added to the lasagna. Extra large portions, etc.

For Jason, I’m sure it was a massive increase in both calories eaten + expenditure, and also protein like you point out. But when it comes to adding weight while you’re growing like that, calories are king. I imagine Alfred already makes rich, protein-heavy dishes like stews, roasts, chicken dishes, etc. there are shakes and whey products for snacks. Lots of vegetables and fresh fruits to build up vitamins and other nutrients Jason might have been missing.

Jason was Robin right around when young boys start to grow like weeds. He probably would’ve gotten taller first, then filled out a little. But I don’t think he would’ve been as bulky as Pit!Jason without changing a lot of how he trained and fueled. He would’ve ended up more like Dick’s Nightwing physique, I think — built more for speed than power, at least compared to Bruce.

[lylahammar]

why does it seem like every celebrity and their mother is going and losing a bunch of weight the past few years??? like I just saw something about lizzo having lost a whole bunch of weight recently and before that it was rebel wilson and adele and I'm just like??? Why Is That Necessary and also Stop It

Yeah definitely, the blissful moment of fat positivity we had when Lizzo was at her height seems to have popped and everyone’s on Ozempic now 😭 not that I know for sure that all those people are on Ozempic, Lizzo in particular has been working on losing weight for a looong time, even before she was canceled. But the thing that really extra infuriates me is how everyone seems so ready to forgive Lizzo, now that she’s lost weight. I’ve seen people talking so much more positively towards her now and it pisses me offfffff because I was there to see the amount of fatphobic and racist vitriol that everyone spewed the second they felt justified by her cancellation.

[toxetta]

my finger's gotten skinnier so my ring doesn't fit as well anymore and keeps falling off

...my finger's gotten skinnier!!

[planetsallalign]

2+ years & 85lbs gone. I don’t feel like I lost that much weight, I don’t see it when I look in a mirror. But the picture comparison, and hearing my patients tell me my face has changed so much I can see it. I wish my weight wasn’t something I’ve struggled with my whole life/so tied into my self worth but it always has been. Therapy has been a huge help and I think the reason I finally continually lost the weight and am now maintaining.

[jacebeleren]

bruh

MY MOM WAS LIKE "WOW KID, MOST PEOPLE LOSE WEIGHT AFTER THEY HAVE SURGERY, BUT NOT YOU. LOOK AT YOU EATING 3 FULL MEALS A DAY. I KNOW YOU SURE AS HELL ARENT LOSING WEIGHT"

AND I WAS LIKE. ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS? YOURE SHAMING ME FOR EATING 3 MEALS A DAY? LIKE IM FUCKING SUPPOSED TO? WHILE IM FUCKING RECOVERING FROM A MAJOR SURGERY? BECAUSE MY BODY NEEDS ENERGY TO CLOSE MY FUCKING WOUNDS?

SORRY IM 4 DAYS OUT OF A MAJOR SURGERY AND I CANT EXACTLY WORK OUT BECAUSE I BASICALLY HAVE HALF MY ARMS AND IT TAKES 1000X MORE ENERGY FOR ME TO JUST GET OUT OF BED AND WIPE MY ASS THAN NORMAL. SORRY IM SITTING AROUND USING ALL THESE CALORIES ON CLOSING MY FUCKING WOUNDS INSTEAD OF GETTING FIT WHILE I HAVE FUCKING DRAINAGE TUBES IN MY TORSO

[scarybabe]

you've been working with a personal trainer, yeah? i'm in the semi-weird position of both loving large bodies and wanting to be a hardcore fitness professional. is there anything your trainer does to make you feel comfortable in, like, gym spaces and stuff? any modifications or other programming that you've found beneficial as someone who's not necessarily trying to like... slim down as much as possible?

Hell yeah! There’s a lot of things my trainer has done right.

In my consultation with her I was around 250 lbs and I explained that I didn’t want to lose weight or restrict at all, because of my history of that being unhealthy for my brain and she was fully supportive. I explained my history with weight gain to her as objectively as possible and she was the opposite of judgemental - she said she thought it was really cool that I achieved my goal of 300 pounds despite the adversity of getting there instead of making assumptions (and yes I did explain the kink part of it) 🤭

As I started weight training more intensely I did lose more weight, which was frustrating because I had to get my wedding dress altered twice 😭

instead of congratulating me for my weight loss (I was really stressed in the month leading up to the wedding, it was a lot of planning and coordinating and money being spent) she had a very harm reduction mindset, she worked with me on what I could do to slow down the loss and building better habits in my day that could help me meet my nutrition goals easier.

At first I was not very mobile honestly, she had me send her videos of my lifting form and worked with me closely to make sure I wasn’t putting myself at risk for injury and assigned me mobility stretches to do before every weightlifting session (I still do them)!

She created a safe space for me to be honest if something the assigned me was beyond my skill level and never made me feel bad for not being able to complete or do an exercise. It was hard at first not gonna lie! Just the mobility stretches alone used to wipe me out 🤣 I’ve come so far, it’s crazy to think about.

As I got more mobile, she scaled up the difficulty of my mobility stretches and exercises. She’s also increased my nutrition goals a lot since I started training and my appetite is so much better than it was when I first started (I could write a book on how your body has to adapt to transitioning out of hardcore feedism but I’ll save that for another post) 💕

We have weekly check ins where I submit a form that covers all my basic functioning and tell her how my week went, strengths and weaknesses and she replies with a 7-10 min long video addressing everything and explaining any adjustments she’s making to my program, and advising me on whatever I ask her about. She’s also available all week in the coaching app if I need recommendations for pre-rave stretches (for example) or nutrition tips, or help with my form. We have a weekly group call on zoom where myself + her other clients discuss whatever topic she’s covering and share our wins and losses (last week it was “bite size habits”) ☺️ she also has ADHD and is very neurodivergent friendly in her coaching style.

Cost for the program averages out to I think $7-$9 a day? It’s not super cheap but she’s been invaluable to me in terms of staying on track to maintain my weight and gain muscle. If I feel depressed or stressed I can’t eat, and knowing she’s going to be checking to make sure I’m hitting my macros every day is good motivation to just power through on days I’m not feeling up to it. Accountability helps a lot. ❤️

[infectiouspiss]

hwy are u mad ur aunt got weight looss surger

bcs i think we should be nice to fat people instead of making them feel like shit to the point where they get surgery just so others treat them nicer. im not mad at my aunt im mad at the world for making her feel like garbage

[frownyalfred]

Hey, can you please say the names of the workout subreddits again? I was going to start exercise ages ago but.. anyway, I need to find the beginner workouts again

I highly recommend r/xxfitness for everyone, lots of great info there. r/beginnerfitness can be a good resource, so is r/bodyweightfitness esp if you can’t go into a gym. r/EOOD is also great — they talk about exercise and how it can help treat some symptoms of depression. Lots of easy and short exercises there.

If I had to choose one resource I see posted across these subreddits, it would be Stronger By Science. There’s great articles, a podcast, and it’s all data-backed, science-heavy yet accessible content. They have great free programs and discussions with doctors+scientists, not just “bro” podcasters. They also make my favorite food/diet app, MacroFactor.

Be wary of the weight loss subreddits that cross over into some of the fitness subreddits, however. They can be helpful if that’s your goal, but some of them are whackadoodle and will have you running insane workout splits on minimal calories which is no way to go through life.

[umlewis]

ickle. wee man. tiny. diminutive. ittle bitty, even., singapore - september 20, 2024 📷 dppi / alamy