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I want to address a pitfall I see some of the transmasc advocates fall into when attempting to defend transandrophobia theory.

Before I get into it, you're absolutely within your right to speak out about oppression and marginalization you face and define language to articulate how these things affect you, I am not criticizing these things when I speak on this.

But when I see the focus on transfems and trans women engaging in transandrophobic behavior, it sounds like the same gender essentialist arguments used against us. Even if you're rightfully criticizing someone for having extremely bigoted views, I don't think making it about their gender identity is helpful. Anyone can be harmful and pick up harmful mindsets. It just seems to make this cyclical argument of "no YOU'RE demonizing MY gender" when nobody's behavior should be reduced to what gender they identify as.

I know transandrophobes make it difficult for us to even communicate transandrophobic behavior by denying that it even exists, but we need to keep using it to solidify its place in vernacular and keep developing on it, making sure to stay away from gender essentialist and bio essentialist mindsets. Gender/bio essentialism is baked into our society, it's yet another internalized bias we need to unlearn. When we hold people accountable for their actions and harmful ideas they're spreading, we can't present that behavior as a result of their identity. It causes the same problems that we're trying to fight against and only weakens our platform.

I think there's discussion to be had when people use their identity as a shield from criticism, which should definitely be called out, but I can't see another justified reason to focus on someone's gender identity in relation to their bigotry.

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[ I AM GOD ]

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"trans men don't contribute to trans culture" have you considered that up until Horrifically Recently that women/trans men were lobotomized and thrown into insane asylums to never see the light of day again if they were anything but docile little cishet barbies? and that those things still happen around the world? or are you so brainrotten by 4chan you forget misogyny is still an issue?

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Pspspspspsps J lovers (me and 3 fuckwads) look-

She a Lil gay

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Cis allies who are serious about trans liberation are worth their weight in gold BECAUSE they're reletively rare and BECAUSE they go against the grain. Of no demographic is this more true of than cis lesbians. Transmisogyny in lesbian spaces is a cis problem, period.

The fact that some transmasc lesbians are transmisogynistic or TERF-y doesn't change the fact that their position in cis lesbian spaces is just as much at the whims of the cis lesbians who actually run the place, and often the people most vocal about transmisogynistic transmasc lesbians don't even think transmascs should be allowed to identify as lesbians in the first place, so are often really just complaining that they should be the ones in that position excluding a group of trans people from lesbianism instead.

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i want it to be funny that I can always identify that rhetoric just by the way people involved format their posts but as you can tell from my tangent I actually just . wish it wasn't like this. at the end of the day I don't care if CDD systems fight for endos or whatever I just fucking hate the deceptive way that sysmedicalism denies systems healing. it sucks. so much

it's so easy to tell when an unlabelled system blog is anti Endo based on whether or not they mention "horrible/fucked up shit/trauma/childhood" in every single innocuous system post. if the mention of trauma with exaggerated wording feels out of place in a post about their identity they're probably an insecure sysmed with something to prove. i have never been wrong. "this one alter I have (who holds memories of horrible unimaginable shit from childhood) did a funny today lol" unconditional joy is possible if you let yourself exist without proof

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abuse is just abuse. trauma is just trauma. it's a thing that happened and will affect you forever. you have disorders now because of it. but it's just that. a bad thing that changed you. it doesn't have to be everything. you will feel so much better if you let the other aspects of your alters exist without being tied to their trauma. when my traumaholders laugh and smile and play they're just people having a good time, who happen to be traumatized. the sysmed expectation to boil your alters down to roles and functions and explain them away as trauma responses is just denying yourself the ability to heal and grow. you don't have to do this to yourself

it's so easy to tell when an unlabelled system blog is anti Endo based on whether or not they mention "horrible/fucked up shit/trauma/childhood" in every single innocuous system post. if the mention of trauma with exaggerated wording feels out of place in a post about their identity they're probably an insecure sysmed with something to prove. i have never been wrong. "this one alter I have (who holds memories of horrible unimaginable shit from childhood) did a funny today lol" unconditional joy is possible if you let yourself exist without proof

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forcing yourself to emphasize how horrible and wretched the foundation of yourselves is in every context is only gonna make you feel disgusting and inhuman. you are allowed to be people (or a person with alters) without the horror. it's okay to take a step back from the awful shit that made you and just be funny and silly. you don't need to prove to everyone that you're miserable enough to Be

it's so easy to tell when an unlabelled system blog is anti Endo based on whether or not they mention "horrible/fucked up shit/trauma/childhood" in every single innocuous system post. if the mention of trauma with exaggerated wording feels out of place in a post about their identity they're probably an insecure sysmed with something to prove. i have never been wrong. "this one alter I have (who holds memories of horrible unimaginable shit from childhood) did a funny today lol" unconditional joy is possible if you let yourself exist without proof

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it's so easy to tell when an unlabelled system blog is anti Endo based on whether or not they mention "horrible/fucked up shit/trauma/childhood" in every single innocuous system post. if the mention of trauma with exaggerated wording feels out of place in a post about their identity they're probably an insecure sysmed with something to prove. i have never been wrong. "this one alter I have (who holds memories of horrible unimaginable shit from childhood) did a funny today lol" unconditional joy is possible if you let yourself exist without proof

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Something really not talked about with trauma disorders is the paranoia.

Being scared and jumping to conclusions when people stand a little too close to you, not believing people’s compliments and thinking they have hidden motives, not believing when people tell you they like/love you, thinking that strangers you see on the street want to hurt you, etc.

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violent J's girlfriend made him soper slime pie. No this is not a joke

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15: STAT and INFECTED but they are nyan cat and tac nayn :3

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today on amy's regretevator hyperfixation: the duality of melanie ships

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FREAKING OUT OVER THE NEW TRAILER RIGHT NOW

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love trans men more. i am not asking.