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Jesus fucking christ so many times someone makes a post saying "stop calling and armchair diagnosing your abusers as narcissists, your dickwad dad did not have npd just because he was self-centered he was probably just an asshole" and there's millions of comments like "well CHECKMATE cuz MY abusers were actually diagnosed narcissists <3 so you are wrong and I don't count and I have the free pass to say anything I want about npd <3" "but im pretty sure my mom was a narcissist and it was so so scary i don't mean to say all people with npd are like that but im pretty sure my mom actually had it and it was so scary :((( i don't think all narcissists are abusive it's just. my mo-" "that is so true op!!! not ALL narcissists are abusers :)) most of them are but some of them do make an effort to not bother anyone with their nasty symptoms and go to intensive therapy to get cured and become normal!!! however we shouldn't erase the very silenced and overlooked experiences of narc abuse victims as many experts from quora can confirm it is indeed real". or even like "i agree and im not ableist and dont hate pwnpd!!! my mom was a narcissist though but its not the npd's fault but her own actions that made her abusive <3" like WHY ARE YOU TELLING US THIS. WHY WOULD YOU BRING THAT UP ON THAT POST. WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO PROVE. PLEASE SHUT UP NO ONE CARES .

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I bring a “there’s no meaningful difference between men and women that doesn’t exclude someone” to the function that gender essentialists hate

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From reddit (post deleted) This is what happens when men share their experience.

They get banned.

https://www.reddit.com/r/comics/comments/1dpptkk/talk <this is the comic of pizzacake they were responding to.

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sorry since realizing my gender i have zero tolerance for the whole “man hating” angle of being queer i hate i hate it i hate you. stop. you are hurting people.

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IF YOU LOVE FAT WOMEN HIT THAT MF REBLOG

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It's actually pretty ridiculous how some of you guys treat trans men. They're both somehow an aggressive man taking man poison and a hysterical woman to y'all. "I could never be a man" yea doofus, human beings are different, doesn't mean you shouldn't have empathy for them.

Some of you know you're trans but refuse to evolve your brain past a 4th graders' understanding of gender.

And also if you're not a trans man, and don't talk to trans men, maybe nobody needs to know your opinion on trans men.

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Reminder for people, especially people with mood disorders.

It's important when you're getting too angry to stop, drop, and roll!

Stop yapping

Drop what you're doing

And roll out of there until your ready to come back

It's not a bad thing to realize that you're getting too mad or might be blowing things out of proportion. You can tell the other person that you need so time to reevaluate. Reevaluation has helped me a lot from saying things I'll regret.

Stay stable :B👋

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Reassurances

Just a little comic illustrating how life with OCD may look like.

When you have OCD, reassurances don't always make your concerns go away. If anything, constant reassurance seeking can only make it worse.

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npd culture is being extremely confident in your lies. i am 100% sure i could lie to anyone about anything and they would believe me at the end of our conversation -❤️‍🩹🐈‍⬛

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media: narcissists only get their supply from directly abusing everyone around them until everyone is manipulated and forced to see them as god.

my friend: i appreciate that you did this task for me. you are a good friend

me, grinning, blushing, twirling my hair, getting the supply: haha no problem man

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‘letting my intrusive thoughts win’

shut the fuck up.

you’re referring to impulsive thoughts, intrusive thoughts are undesirable and often horrific for the person experiencing them. you dying your hair randomly is not an intrusive thought.

if i let my intrusive thoughts dictate my actions, id be in jail for a long fucking time.

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Those "how to defeat a narcissist" articles are so stupid because if people didn't have a general conscious of narcissists being Bad People, these articles would just be abuse tactics.

"How to destroy your partner." "How to break down your girlfriend's self esteem." "How to collapse your boyfriend's ego." "How to break your partner so they stop being so disrespectful, know their place, and know their own worth in comparison to yours, as an alpha gamer."

Literally sigma male podcast shit.

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npd culture is how actually fucking dare you talk over me

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THANK YOU!! that's what I was trying to say. treating me like I'm helpless and stupid "prey" is textbook misogyny and a depressingly self deprecating attempt at feminism

Unpopular opinion:

The male loneliness epidemic is not real

It was made up by men to guilt you into sleeping with them or being with them.

Do not trust them.

That means yes all men including you because of male entitlement

Sleeping with men will not solve the male loneliness epidemic because its not about sex. Its about the fact that men and women are (generally speaking) unwilling to be as empathic and warm and kind and open and friendly to men as they are towards women.

But assuming men are doing it to guilt you into sleeping with them is a part of the problem. These sexist assumptions about men permeate every interaction men have with women that it keeps any man not high enough on the charismatic scale to side step them from developing close friendships or becoming socialized around women.

Read more bell hooks. If you want to create loving men you must learn to love men.

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i love men btw. men r awesome. keep loving yourselves despite everything