#negative coworkers

[kiuda]

i just think that dream deserves much better. he deserves better coworkers, better fans, better fandom and certaintly deserves an apology from a lot more people than i can think of. he deserves to be seen as a human being and deserves to be treated as one. not as someone who has never made a mistake before but as a human who made mistakes and will make them in the future but who should be allowed to learn from them through kindness and compassion and not bullying or harassment. just like every other human should.

[motleyfam]

Imagine Bruce starting therapy and learning about all these cool new tricks and gadgets that can help with emotional regulation and getting super invested (because I mean, c’mon, the dude’s like the king of gadget hoarding, he’s got a utility belt for goodness sake)

Then imagine the learning curve of him realizing that just because something works great for one of his kids, doesn’t mean it works for all of them, as illustrated by this memorable incident:

Jason gets really upset and starts having a minor panic attack about something

Bruce, proud owner of 14 new weighted blankets (in various styles, weights, and sizes), tries to wrap his adult son up in one to ground him

After all, Bruce himself finds them super comforting because it’s basically a socially acceptable alternative to wearing a massive Kevlar cape 24/7 like he’d do if he could

(Tim loves them too, so like, kid tested, parent approved™️)

Ends up totally backfiring when the added weight & restricted movement sends Jason into a full-blown flashback of digging out of his own grave, taking this panic attack from like a 4 to a 10

Whoops

[shadyhouse]

hey im really sorry to do this but i have literally no other choice, my phone service got shut off because i didnt have enough money to pay my bill ($55) and i cant really afford to not have phone access for a week until i get paid again... if anyone is able to help me out id really appreciate it 🙏

id like to be able to use my phone and make calls and all that. i need to be able to use my bus fare for work and receive texts and i really dont feel safe being out of the house without it :( i have one dollar to my name until next week, if youre able to throw anything my way at all itll help a lot

vnm: tobias_leviathan

pp: paypal.me/bewearrr

[lamentfulwarbler]

Losing my shit at this passage from The Untold Origins of the Detective Agency-

[mydeerjuno]

I wore my antler hair clips to work today and got so many complements!! I was a little nervous about wearing them out, especially at work, but I shouldn't have been!

[wraenata]

Pillow attack courtesy of the @tapakah0 army

I missed the battle. I passed out under the pillow. Sorry :(

(Thank you for the pillow attack though!)

[desire-mona]

if any of you feel like theres something you need to do now, get to know your neighbours. get people you know and who care about you around you, physically

[zylphiacrowley]

bad news: am sick

good news: not too sick to gpose. :) (yet)

[voskhozhdeniye]

[samglyph]

I interact with a lot of people who don’t have anxiety and related disorders on a day to day basis and I know the joke is that hearing “you’re being insane” when you start going down a rabbit hole can help snap you out of it but I’m gonna be honest. Some of the people that don’t have crippling anxiety or obsessions or intrusive thoughts etc. Are pretty weird.

[teddybearty]

Guess who has 75 cents to her name… 🫠

[brittlebutch]

the thing is, you’re absolutely right! because what neurotypical people sometimes don’t understand is the massive difference between the average level of social interaction that they themselves vs other people get outside of organized or scheduled events like work or school, and also don’t understand the massive difference between what failure looks like, and how those two things overlap. i’m told that among the average neurotypical person, they’ll make a point to talk to people in their lives or hang out with friends or go on dates or chat with other people in public spaces, al to have casual interactions, multiple times a day, multiple days a week. meaning, if they have a failed social interaction, it’s buffered by the many successful interactions they’ll go on to have. failure most likely won’t mean complete isolation, because they have multiple avenues of interaction to fall back on. and, moreover, a failure in a social interaction when you have (on average) fewer than most means that now rather than that person going “oh that was a weird interaction, i talk to them a lot and it’s not usually like that, maybe it was an off day” they go “huh i don’t know that person very well maybe they’re just like that?”, which means that the odds are way different on whether relationships stay good after mistakes.

social skills are not actually as inherent as neurotypical people like to think. it’s just that when you’re always in practice, always getting back on the proverbial horse, the advice “just get back out there!” does actually work very well. but if you’re not able to do that for any variety of reasons, you can’t play the game the same way. my advice is not “try harder”, it’s “lower your expectations for yourself on what a good interaction and a moment of connection might be”. just as it’s possible you’re somehow unintentionally upsetting people, it’s possible you’re unintentionally making them feel happy, or valued, or heard, even in small, passing interactions. remind yourself that you’re working with fewer resources and a much more limited data pool. a lot of the advice being given is coming from someone who assumes they understand what the math looks like for you, because it’s very difficult to imagine that other side. so instead of trying to overlay a system made for someone who has resources that you just don’t have, you need to figure out what a functional system of interaction looks like for you, and adapt the advice given to fit your situation. my advice, bearing that in mind, is that finding communities and groups can look like a lot of different things, and getting your social needs met can come from a lot of sources, and ideally should! you would understand best what your situation is, and there’s no shame in changing tact to accommodate for your own needs and boundaries.

forgot to answer this for a bit lol BUT yeah, the post was a little bit more about the Conceptual argument than it was about me specifically, so I'm definitely already with you re: 'finding out what your Individual social goals are and working based off of those instead having high expectations based off of other people's metric' stuff. You definitely have a huge point with the "social buffer disparity" between NT people and ND people, where failures are both less demoralizing internally and less impactful externally when you're able to have a greater average of interactions generally also

but I really appreciated the "just as it’s possible you’re somehow unintentionally upsetting people, it’s possible you’re unintentionally making them feel happy, or valued, or heard, even in small, passing interactions" aspect of this message. I do definitely have a recurring problem of like, labeling Myself as an Uncanny Valley Person and automatically assuming that every interaction I'm involved in must be some level of uncomfortable for the other person -- it actually was kind of a revolution moment reading this and realizing that OH it does make sense that if I can unintentionally make people uncomfortable, it's statistically just as likely that I can unintentionally lift people's spirits in one way or another! So thank you very much for that!!

[thornofthelily]

I love Lasko's listener. I love how happy Lasko is with them, I love the progress of their relationship, I love how they are so patient and understanding with Lasko and how he is so caring and aware of their needs. I love them as his canon partner.

I just wish we knew a little bit more about them?

I'm sure this was will come in time, but they do just feel... well, like they were made for Lasko, in a way that's hard for me to describe because obviously all the Listeners are made for each other. Maybe it's because most other couples we meet at the same time, as couples, so they feel more natural, maybe because we had a little bit of Lasko/FL au pairing, maybe because Lasko is a character we already know so well, but to me they just feel really... flat, still. Stilted. While I adore the hcs I've seen people make of them, when I sit down and think of what we know of them, it just feels weird.

They walk into Lasko's office, a coworker he already knew and was familiar with. Bold enough to ask him out at work but reserved and aware enough to do so in as relaxed and non confrontational/pressuring way possible. We don't know how long they've worked together, what they've seen of each other, what drew them to Lasko. Just introduced during the asking out. Then their first date is hilariously terrible and again they show infinite patience and grace and humor about it. Then they can show fraility and vulnerability in a way that facilitates Lasko caring for them. And they meet the DAMN crew and there's the fun joke about FL and Coworker getting really chatty together. I still just... don't have a sense of them as a person, I guess. All their character development has been in the frame of developing them as part of a relationship in a way that feels different than say, Angel or Baaabe or Sweetheart. Those were already established relationships from the beginning, working in comfortable ease, who already had distinct dynamics on both sides. We get a real sense of Angel in how they tease and flirt with David, we see Sweetheart teasing and trusting Milo in equal measure, we know Asher and Babe chill and goof off and gossip. But the dichotomy of us knowing Lasko really well, and not knowing his Listener at all, I just... I guess I'm just really looking forward to see them in more situations, wanting to see them hang with other people platonically, develop in ways that aren't tied to just establishing their relationship. Which is maybe a weird thing to expect in bfe rp lmao

[dapiando]

the fact that I remembered there's an episode today and was annoyed 💀 it's like I'm being held at gunpoint by disney and being forced to watch it. very much a "car crash you can't look away from" situation

[bookshelfdreams]

love it when parents, esp mothers, feel the fact that I, a woman in my 30s, am child-free, gives them permission to rant about what mean little bastards their kids are. 100% self-sacrificial complex, 0% self-awareness. oh, your child is rude and disrespectful? my sister in christ, you raised them.

[yenpondering]

Entitled customers are funny, imagine kicking up such a fuss with our managers that 2 mall security guards had to be called to come mediate all because you and your wife not only can't read but also can't see that our menu literally serves soft poached egg, not a boiled egg, in our Japanese rice bowls

Anyway read the menu properly y'all and ask questions if you're unsure, don't be a dick to hospitality workers especially over dumb shit