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[pattern-recognition-hypotheses]

This has been on my mind a lot, and every trans fem person I’ve said it to has realized they do struggle with this, so I’m going to share here.

Posting here because I expect this to piss some people off & don’t want it directly associated with my main.

I’ll make this as anonymous as possible, because some of it began from a conversation with an in-person/IRL friend whom I’m living with, & I don’t want to expose them. But apart from that piece of context, I’ll address the general trans community, especially our trans fem siblings & sisters (& any other term y’all may prefer).

Also getting this out of the way up front, I am trans myself. I am not speaking from outside the trans community, though I am speaking from a trans masculine / nonbinary experience.

I have a lot of trans fem friends now (mostly nonbinary, by coincidence), & saw the (often (unfortunately) necessary) assumptions that cis women & AFAB people made/had to make as I grew up. I watched AFAB folks & women assume things about men*, & heard them speak to the horrible things some entitled men did to them. I’ve been listening to my trans fem friends & asking questions about their experience with femininity, & about how men treat them if they pass.

(* though our society makes it necessary (for your own safety & sanity), if you’re AFAB, to assume the worst & hope for the best¹ - I want to make it clear that I’m not invalidating anyone here, especially as someone who had to assume the same things. I’m using the word assume to mean that we didn’t know for certain every single man would be of this type, not that many men weren’t this type)

(¹ not to say men can’t be SAed by other men, or that queer SA doesn’t exist, because it does. I’m simply speaking from my experience here, & speaking to the binary white supremacist patriarchal society we’re trapped in, not trying to speak over folks with queer trauma or to invalidate other people who distrust men)

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Important Note: I marked this with a community label not because it involves trans people (especially trans fem folks & trans women), but because it explicitly includes sex mentions (having to do with touch starvation & social conditioning). I want to make that clear due to the transphobia online, even from trans masc folks / trans men. Trans woman & trans fem people are not inherently sexual or bad, & don’t need a ‘mature’/sexual warning label.

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I am probably over-explaining here (all the clarifications above), but I’d rather over-explain than have someone take my post & words to support their transphobic rhetoric. I also want my fellow trans & queer people to feel seen and supported, as much as I am capable of.

Now, onto the pattern I’ve been noticing & starting to share with people.

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I was talking to my roommate (they/she) about their struggle with finding friends & romantic partners that last. They struggle to make & maintain friendships, & I’m trying to help when requested/desired.

She said “not to support transphobic rhetoric about being unable to escape your assigned gender at birth, but I feel like there’s a biological...something that makes me unable to connect with people the way I want to”. She struggles with sex addiction that she doesn’t want, & they were worried it was inescapable.

With other conversations we’ve had, and with my pattern recognition, I made a leap.

“It’s not biological, it’s social. It’s baked into our [United Statesian] culture.

It’s because [most] assigned-male people in our society aren’t allowed to have platonic affection. If you’re affectionate with men, you’re gay. If you’re affectionate with women, you wanna fuck her or you’re a pervert. Being assigned male means, especially to Christian men, that you crave sex and wouldn’t be affectionate with anyone of any gender if that wasn’t on your mind.”

Most men & AMAB people become sex addicted because it’s the only form of affection they’re allowed to have. They’re told they’re unmanly (a pussy, not a real man, etc.) if they want to be held or to cry, or accused of being gay for holding a man.

They’re affection starved, touch starved. They’re actually craving intimacy, which doesn’t have to be sexual.

That said, tying this back in to trans folks—

Trans women & trans feminine people, especially on HRT but post social transition too, are often pointed out (or even shamed) for having a “hoe phase”. The pattern I see is that this doesn’t just happen because they’re finally being sexualized as their true self, it’s also because they don’t tend to seek out platonic affection &/or don’t think they deserve any.

When I pointed out to my roommate & to another trans fem friend, they broke down crying.

“If I seek out platonic affection, I’m always called a pervert,” my roommate explained. “I don’t feel like I’m allowed to ask.”

I asked how long it’s been since they’ve been platonically held. They thought about it, then came back with something heartbreaking: “I was five. After that, my dad decided it wasn’t cute anymore. ‘That’s little kid shit’. I had affection and then it was ripped away from me.”

I suspect other trans fem folks & trans women have the same struggle. They didn’t get platonic affection at all, or had it ripped away from them at a young age. They were accused of wanting sex if they touched anyone at all. They were attacked with homophobic slurs (faggot, gay, etc. as slurs) or accused of being gay if they reached for a man. They were brushed off as immature, childish, or overly feminine if they wanted platonic affection.

I don’t believe this applies to everyone, but it’s a heartbreakingly high number.

I hope this helps someone like it helped my roommate. She now knows what she wants to search for, and they’re succeeding at finding connections that meet those needs. I hope you can find people who respect your need for affection & offer you platonic affection.

Just like cis women, y’all aren’t sexual toys or objects (without your consent, not kink shaming). You’re people, and your feelings do matter. (/sincere)

And to my fellow trans masc people & trans men, please offer affection to your trans fem friends (don’t force it obv). Let them know they deserve affection.

We can fight this together— we’re stronger together. 💜

[void-galaxy-shenanigans]

fuck you if your son cries because you insist he’s killing your daughter

and fuck you if your daughter cries because you insist she’s killing your son

and fuck you if your child cries because you refuse to see them and love them the way they deserve

and if your parents refuse to love you, find a parent who will, because they do exist.

if you need to, you can send messages to our ask box that you wish you could share with your parents, & we'll offer you the love & pride you deserve 💜

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

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Butch: slang for unfeminine and gender-nonconforming masc individuals within the queer and LGBTQIAPN+ communities.

MTN/MTX/MTNB or M2N/M2X/M2NB: transitioning or moving from male to neutrois/neutral/non-binary/neither male or female or X-sex.

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112全中運划船8日起登場　310好手齊聚冬山河競技

【記者黃誌寬/新竹報導】「112全中運，竹縣挺青春」各項賽事陸續進行，繼韻律體操圓滿落幕後，本屆首次在主辦新竹縣以外比賽的划船項目本月8日起將在宜蘭冬山河強勢登場，來自全國26所國高中、共310位選手同場競技，執行委員會在宜蘭縣體育會、利澤國中、吳沙國中協辦下，加上宜蘭縣政府、冬山河管理處、蘭陽潛水協會等單位幫助，今(6日)場佈完成，準備迎接精彩賽事，歡迎大家到場為選手加油，替全中運賽事注入更多掌聲和鼓勵。 划船項目泛指控制艇或船的水上競賽，由一名或多名選手坐在船上，背向船前進的方向，運用肌肉力量，透過槳和槳架槓桿作用划水，使船前進的一項水上運動，是奧運會傳統比賽項目之一，而本次全中運划船競技項目共分成八人單槳有舵手式J/M8+、四人單槳J/M4－、四人雙槳J/M4X、單人雙槳J/M1X、雙人單槳J/M2－、雙人雙槳J/M2X等項目，比賽直線距離男子為2000公尺，女子為1000公尺。高…

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[vxo]

Miao?

Yes, anarchist catgirl presenting nonbinary seems like a good description for me. Bizarre 20 bay FM antenna, I don’t know what they were thinking but it makes for a good meme So it turns out in addition to bricking themselves, these exciters can also crap out their backup battery. Not sure if I’d call it an improvement over the system in the old Apex M2X as now it’s an unserviceable custom $300…

[ayman-wanees]

Apple تطرح أسرع جهاز لابتوب في العالم

كشفت شركة آبل Apple الأمريكية الرائدة، عن أجهزة MacBook التي تعمل بالمعالجات الجديدة الأسرع M2Pro و M2X، ويأتي ذلك كمفاجأة للجمهور قبل أسابيع من الموعد المعتاد لعملاق التكنولوجيا.  ويأتي الكشف عن أجهزة اللابتوب الجديدة التي تستخدم أحدث إصدارات عملاقة التكنولوجيا آبل من رقائق M2، التي طرحتها لأول مرة العام الماضي، ويرجع ذلك إلى القرار الذي اتخذته الشركة عام 2020 باستخدام معالجات خاصة بها من…

[unconventional-self-care101]

For my fellow f2m/f2x people, & anyone who wears a chest binder ((this could be helpful for anyone with chesticles, regardless of gender or whether you bind, but as a trans person or person who binds it’s especially important)):

Massage your chesticles right after you take your binder off, or in the shower, or right before bed, or all of the above.

It’s okay to feel uncomfy doing this; I have body dysphoria & usually end up dissociating while doing it. But it’s important.

Why? Because for anyone who binds their chest, your chesticles will probably be sore. When they’re sore, you’ll be more aware of them—uncomfortably aware. And for those of us who have body dysphoria it’ll make the dysphoria worse. (Plus it’s just good to not be in pain 😅.)

Even if it’s just a minute of quick circles, it’s worth it. The most I can manage is two minutes while dissociating, but it helps.

((Also, for anyone (m2f, m2x) who tucks - you may want to massage those bits too. I may not know how it feels but I think you’d get sore & possibly more body dysphoria too.))

~🎵🎶

[void-galaxy-shenanigans]

Curiosity abounds. Have a poll 😅

You don’t have to specify AGAB/assigned biological sex here, this is just to see if fellow nonbinary people also have confused cis/cishet people unable to clock which direction you’re going or went.

¡Please share for a bigger answer group!

(included my answer too 💜)

~Nico (he/they)

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Male MtN Pride Flag

Male MtN/M2N: a transneutral man who consider emself transitioning from male to neutrois/nonbinary; a cismasculine neutrois folket.

-Ap

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[arco-pluris]

this would be too similar to an ATF flag. I made a similar based on my BTX/BTXE (MTX/FTX) flags

I need an ATX (Agender to Xeno) flag (in the same vein as FTM / MTF / ETC)

I’m trying to finish one of my carrds.

[inigowain]

I'm gunna be at Midwest Media Expo this Saturday as Inigo and Minako Arisato!!! If you ask for my picture while I'm dressed as Inigo, I'll give you a rose 😘

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