#boyflux

[thepunks1312]

GENDER IS SO FUCKING WEIRD AHHHH

am i a trans man? kinda??

am i nonbinary? only in the ways that count.

am i agender? yeah, i think so.. but im also a boy so i cant be

am i a girl? no.. the closest i am to a girl is being a drag queen

am i a demiboy? i guess?? im nonbinary and a man, but it doesnt quite fit.

the only thing i know for sure is that im a werewolf and it GREATLY impacts how i view my gender.

gendersatyr is a good umbrella term but dang.. sometimes the gender does something weird and im just like.. WAITWHATHEFUCK

[genderqueerdykes]

to every trans guy: when you tell other people you're trans you don' thave you say you're "unfortunately" a trans guy, or that you have bad news, or something else to that effect. you don't have to say that. you can be proud of being a trans man. you can even be neutral about it. you don't have to hate yourself for it. people want you to, but it doesn't help anyone. its not unfortunate, it's a blessing.

[void-galaxy-shenanigans]

[erinelliotc]

A few years ago I used to be that annoying "transmasc lesbians don't exist, this shit is harmful and invalidates both transmascs and lesbians" person, and now I'M the transmasc lesbian. Seems like the tables have turned, huh?

I've spent so many months, years, trying so hard to fit into these categories that I saw so many people talk about as if it were the definitive truth, and this shallow and simplistic vision seems to be gaining a lot of attention and traction here in Brazil. Isn't it ironic to free yourself from cisnormativity and heteronormativity and all these binary boxes to find yourself again trying to fit into other boxes and norms that don't actually describe your experience correctly? Because your experience with gender is so chaotic and confusing (as expected of a nonbinary identity, and even more so if you're neurodivergent too) that there's no simple way to describe it. Then when you find out what describes this, people say you can't identify yourself that way because two or more of your identities are "incompatible". I see people treating non-binarity as if it were an exact science, as if it were math, as if it were something simple and logical, as it is precisely the escape from what has been established in our society as the only two possible options, generating countless identities within a gray area outside this black and white vision, so of course it's something complex, abstract and subjective.

EDIT: One of my reasons for thinking this way was that I ignored that the transgender experience and the cisgender experience aren't and will never be equivalent. It's obvious that a cis man can't be a lesbian, but the same doesn't go for transmasc people, and I thought that admitting that was the same as being transphobic, denying the masculinity of transmascs, denying their male identity. I already had a debate on Twitter because people didn't want to admit that trans men and transmasc people in general can suffer misogyny and male chauvinism (as society can still see and treat us as women) because they also saw it as the same as saying transmasc people are women. The identity of trans people is a very complex experience that involves a series of factors that cis people will never experience. We cannot equate the trans experience with the cis experience.

I thought identifying as a butch lesbian was enough to describe my masculinity, but I realized that I felt like it didn't encompass everything I felt, I still felt like something was missing. Preventing and depriving myself of identifying with more explicit masculine identities was actually making me feel bad and dysphoric. So yeah, I've been avoiding identifying with male-aligned identities because I thought that would mean having to stop identifying as a lesbian, and I didn't want that, and I don't really feel like calling myself straight makes any sense.

I have a text in Portuguese talking about my experience as a butch lesbian, and I feel that now it also serves to describe my experience as a nonbinary transmasc (the part where I talk about not identifying with "traditional masculinity", but with a "different type", like "soft masculinity", is directly related to the fact that, in addition to being nonbinary, I don't identify as a man, I don't feel comfortable with the term "man", but rather with "boy"). I spent a few months wondering whether I was libramasculine or boyflux, and I ended up deciding that if I can't identify which one I am, maybe it makes more sense to just adopt both identities, maybe I am both then! I'm tired of trying to fit into supposed rules about being nonbinary. This is exactly how non-binarity shouldn't be. I'm supposed to feel free, not trapped again. My identity is my identity and that's nobody's business.

[sillyscater]

we vibin until someone out of the blue asks for your pronouns and you go ah damn let me get back to you on that

[ford-ftm-150]

Trans men, transmasc folks, & anyone else to whom this applies

I’m curious how many people wear a binder &/or wear a packer. Always = daily or almost daily, often = around half the time, & never = not at all or almost never. Pick whichever option is closest to your experiences.

If you have had top &/or bottom surgery choose the option that reflects what you did before surgery. People with a more complex experience of gender (genderfluid, multigender, butch, etc.) that affects their desire to bind or pack feel free to elaborate on that in the tags.

Reblogs to boost sample size are appreciated!

[lgbtqtext]

[vampb0yz]

[imsupposedtobearesponsibleteen]

UPDATE: Turns out the artists of this is not a good person (I hadn't heard of this person before this, I appreciate I should have done my research). Turns out they have drawn furry diaper fetish stuff using babies/toddlers as their base. Apparently I lived under a fucking rock when this came out last year. i don't really know whether or not to take the post down now, I feel like I should? Opinions on whether I should take it down or not?

Also, thank you to the person that informed me of this situation

[sunanthrope]

Being genderfluid with pronouns that arent fluid is so infuriating

"Feeling feminine today." "Oh OK so she-" LOUD INCORRECT BUZZER wrong its still he/it

Wish more people understood that feminine is not woman is not she/her

Just bc I feel girly today doesn't mean I want you to refer to me as a girl??

[feltedflyingfox]

LGBTQ+ Pokemon: Gender Pride pt 3

Genderflux Milotic | Genderflux Hisuian Zorua (regular and shiny)

Boyflux Oshawott | Girlflux Cherrim

Demigender Jangmo-o | Demiboy Dratini | Demigirl Shiny Espurr

Demiflux Glameow | Demifluid Amaura

All of these can be found in my shop as stickers!

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[genderqueerdykes]

i feel like it's really important to point out some really transphobic and dangerous rhetoric that we've just accepted as the norm in online queer spaces.

if you believe that in order for a trans man to talk about their experiences with trans manhood, they must also talk about how bad trans women have it or else they're being transmisogynistic, you're being transphobic. these are two separate conversations and not all trans men can accurately tell you what trans women go through. not all trans women can accurately tell you what trans men go through, either. you can't expect someone to have every conversation about transness at once when they are just trying to give anecdotes about their personal lived experiences. trans men are allowed to talk about trans manhood as much as they need to... that's their lived experience.

expecting one side to talk about how the other has it worse in every conversation they have about themselves is hostile behavior. it's not holding trans women down for a trans man to talk about their experience with trans manhood and don't mention how bad other queer people have it. those are separate conversations. don't expect trans women to have to bring up the struggles trans men have in order to talk about their own experiences, and don't do this to any other group of queer person, either. don't do it to anyone. it's okay to have one conversation at a time. not every conversation can represent every single group of queer person at once, nor should they have to.

there's a time and a place for all of these conversations. there is just as much time to be had having conversations about trans womanhood as there is trans manhood. it's okay to have these conversations separately at the same time. it's alright for someone to only comment on what they know. it's not great to force people to comment on experiences they don't understand because it leads to misrepresentation. let trans men talk about their experiences with trans manhood without expecting them to talk about a bunch of other queer identities, too. you don't have to drown out the voices of trans men in order to lift someone else up. we can have these conversations, separately, at once.

[anotherqueersnailowner]

yo do any of my fellow micro label folks on here just get like. fucking giddy when you see get just any form of representation? cuz I'm genderfaun, aroflux (or just straight up aromantic idk), aceflux and omni and anytime I see any of my identities included I am just OVERJOYED. using lesser-known labels, I've grown accustomed to not having anyone mention my identities or know what they mean. when I see anything targeted towards the larger lgbt+ community I really don't expect to see my identities included, and that honestly doesn't bother me anymore. but when I DO see them OHOHHOO BOY!!!! I'm bouncing I'm giggling I'm flapping my hands I'm smiling it is just a wonderful experience and I honestly love it so much <3 <3 <3

[socte-blue]

Me, at like 4: “I’m a cat!”

Me, like two years ago: “Okay… I am genderqueer mlm and disabled so i’m already at a disadvantage.. but everything‘s gonna be ok if I just fit myself into a GOOD different box so people people won’t stop being ok with it..!! Yep all good!!! I just to be PERFECTLY COOL. AND NORMAL. I am fitting into the system as much as I can…!!!-“

Me now: “my gender is loser and I’m a cat”

[nextgenfoals]

barber groomsby x doctor whooves (really odd pairing ngl lol)

Ombré is a model who radiates confidence and poise, though not just because of his polished appearance. He tends to experiment with fashion, makeup, and manestyling, all with certainty and self-love.

~ Mod Ace ♥️

[vlada-slavik]

LGBTQIA+ CAT PROFILE PICTURES [ pt 4 ]

Free to use, just credit if you can!

Don't see yours? Check the #lgbtcatpfp !

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