#gender noncomformity

[carrionhearted]

I think my main goal gender-presentation-wise is to be the prettiest boy and the weirdest girl in any given room. Simultaneously.

[hauntedghostpuppy]

I'M A PROUD GAY TRANSMASC ALTERHUMAN WHO USES NEOPRONOUNS!! YOU CANNOT ERASE ME!!! I WILL NOT COMPLY!!!

𐙚 ﹐genderpunk queer infographic

my infographic! the flag redesign and symbol are also both mine ꒱

can also be shortened to GP movement

we DESPERATELY need this movement because trump is destroying the rights of LGBTQ+ (especially trans people right now), and i want our voices heard!! our body, our fucking choice!! neither nature or biology adhere to the male/female binary!! hrt and gender-affirming surgeries is life-saving and extremely beneficial healthcare, more people regret having children than medically transitioning!! i'm tired of rich old cis men making decisions about what's best for my body!! i'm a proud nonbinary transsexual who uses neopronouns!!! i just want a happy and normal life like everyone else!! is that too much to ask for?? I JUST WANT BASIC FREEDOM AND EQUALITY TO EVERYONE ELSE.

[im-secretly-a-frog]

Y'know what? Fuck it. I am a dude. I am sapphic. I love girls in a very gay way. I love boys in a very gay way. I am a guy, but not a man. A use he/him but I am not a man. I don't use she/her but I am sapphic. I have a complicated relationship with a lot of parts of my identity, and that will not change overnight, but right now what is important is that I am amazing.

I am queer and beautiful and in love. I use labels I want and reject ones I don't.

[floral-ashes]

I was asked why the moral panic around Algerian boxer Imane Khelif was so centred on trans people when there’s no evidence that she’s trans. I thought I’d share my thoughts publicly.

The reason is that, in many ways, transphobia isn’t about trans people, it’s about what trans people mean to ideologies of race and gender. The controversy about the Olympic boxers is linked to rising anxieties about the line between men and women becoming increasingly blurred in contemporary society. These anxieties are fuelled by right-wing movements who see rigid divisions between men and women as critical to maintaining white social, economic, and political control. Because trans people are seen as challenging the justification of gender norms and roles based on biology and reproduction, they’re targets of particularly intense hostility and violence. My colleague Blu Buchanan and I tracked that racial logic a bit more in depth in a truthout essay a few years ago. White supremacist ideologies are heavily invested in rigid gender norms and roles because they see them as necessary to white reproduction.

The moral panic about ‘gender ideology’ is about trans people, yes, but it’s also explicitly about cis men and women not conforming to gender ideals that see men and women as fundamentally different forms of life with different roles in a society organized around the nuclear family. Women have to act and look a certain way to be considered ‘really’ women, much in the way that gay men are deprecated as ‘not real men.’ This moral panic manifests in the disproportionate targeting of racialized women and especially Black women for not conforming to white ideals of femininity. This dynamic is only amplified in the context of elite sports given the pervasive association of athletic ability with masculinity, especially in contact and strength-based sports like boxing as opposed to, say, gymnastics.

[heartless-aro]

For many girls and women, aromanticism is inherently a form of gender nonconformity, just as asexuality is for boys and men.

Romance novels are seen as being “feminine,” and romcoms are often derogatorily called “chick-flics,” for example. Women are expected to want flowers and chocolates and care about things like anniversaries and marriage to a greater extent than is expected of men. Even many of the things women are expected to do to conform to female gender roles are centered around looking attractive: having long well-styled hair, wearing makeup, shaving, wearing skirts and dresses, etc.

So shoutout to aro women and girls who want to be feminine but feel like their aromanticism makes them feel like an outsider to womanhood. Shout out to women and girls who feel left out of “girl talk” because they don’t have a crush or significant other to tell their friends about, or because they don’t think any of their classmates/coworkers/etc. are “cute.” Shout out to aro girls who are sick of being asked “who you’re dressing up for” any time they want to wear a bit of eyeliner and a pretty skirt. Your femininity is not made any less real or valid by your aromanticism.

And shoutout to gender nonconforming aro women and girls. Shoutout to aro women and girls whose aromanticism makes them feel disconnected from femininity. Shoutout to aro women and girls with short hair, and deep voices, and hair on their upper lips, chins, chests, stomachs, backs, armpits, arms, and legs that they choose not to shave off. Shoutout to aro women and girls who identify as both female and non-binary, who are both male and female, who use pronouns other than she/her. Shoutout to intersex aro girls and women. Y’all’re cool as hell and the aro community wouldn’t nearly as beautiful and vibrant without you.

[justdavina]

Again ladies...You must be tired by now of me telling you all how much I LOVE sheer fashion! This wonderful transgender woman kills it with this snappy sheer black number! With her wonderful body and girly features this amazing trans woman is PERFECT!

[erinelliotc]

A few years ago I used to be that annoying "transmasc lesbians don't exist, this shit is harmful and invalidates both transmascs and lesbians" person, and now I'M the transmasc lesbian. Seems like the tables have turned, huh?

I've spent so many months, years, trying so hard to fit into these categories that I saw so many people talk about as if it were the definitive truth, and this shallow and simplistic vision seems to be gaining a lot of attention and traction here in Brazil. Isn't it ironic to free yourself from cisnormativity and heteronormativity and all these binary boxes to find yourself again trying to fit into other boxes and norms that don't actually describe your experience correctly? Because your experience with gender is so chaotic and confusing (as expected of a nonbinary identity, and even more so if you're neurodivergent too) that there's no simple way to describe it. Then when you find out what describes this, people say you can't identify yourself that way because two or more of your identities are "incompatible". I see people treating non-binarity as if it were an exact science, as if it were math, as if it were something simple and logical, as it is precisely the escape from what has been established in our society as the only two possible options, generating countless identities within a gray area outside this black and white vision, so of course it's something complex, abstract and subjective.

EDIT: One of my reasons for thinking this way was that I ignored that the transgender experience and the cisgender experience aren't and will never be equivalent. It's obvious that a cis man can't be a lesbian, but the same doesn't go for transmasc people, and I thought that admitting that was the same as being transphobic, denying the masculinity of transmascs, denying their male identity. I already had a debate on Twitter because people didn't want to admit that trans men and transmasc people in general can suffer misogyny and male chauvinism (as society can still see and treat us as women) because they also saw it as the same as saying transmasc people are women. The identity of trans people is a very complex experience that involves a series of factors that cis people will never experience. We cannot equate the trans experience with the cis experience.

I thought identifying as a butch lesbian was enough to describe my masculinity, but I realized that I felt like it didn't encompass everything I felt, I still felt like something was missing. Preventing and depriving myself of identifying with more explicit masculine identities was actually making me feel bad and dysphoric. So yeah, I've been avoiding identifying with male-aligned identities because I thought that would mean having to stop identifying as a lesbian, and I didn't want that, and I don't really feel like calling myself straight makes any sense.

I have a text in Portuguese talking about my experience as a butch lesbian, and I feel that now it also serves to describe my experience as a nonbinary transmasc (the part where I talk about not identifying with "traditional masculinity", but with a "different type", like "soft masculinity", is directly related to the fact that, in addition to being nonbinary, I don't identify as a man, I don't feel comfortable with the term "man", but rather with "boy"). I spent a few months wondering whether I was libramasculine or boyflux, and I ended up deciding that if I can't identify which one I am, maybe it makes more sense to just adopt both identities, maybe I am both then! I'm tired of trying to fit into supposed rules about being nonbinary. This is exactly how non-binarity shouldn't be. I'm supposed to feel free, not trapped again. My identity is my identity and that's nobody's business.

[jiabeewrites]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!!

pride polls: gender edition

put your pronouns in the tags!

reblog to support another genderqueer!

(you'll probaby get a happy pride msg if i see u reblogged)

[aliyahali]

[magpiethepunkfairy]

I love you "weird" queer people

multigender people, trans people who are sometimes cis, queer people who are sometimes straight, trans people who don't want and will not transition, trans and nonbinary people who don't want binary bodys, queer platonic relationship havers, rabies flag people, people who's queer identity is influenced or directly tied to their mental health, queer people with different dissociative disorders, people whos identity is tied to their nerodiversity, identitys that are fluid and constantly changing, queer people who don't feel human, poly aroaces, people who's identitys can't and don't need to be labeled, I love you I love you I love you

Do what ever you want forever

Queer as in fuck you

Queer as in I love you

Queer as in weird!!!

[lesboytism]

𐙚 ﹐genderpunk

a culture and resistance against transphobia, gendernormativity, homophobia, oppression, and societal status.

anyone can be genderpunk regardless of orientation or gender identity.

i redesigned this flag today because i fucking hate trump and his bullshit "protecting children from chemical and surgical mutilation" executive order. i can't believe i spent *ELEVEN YEARS* with such visible and present dysphoria, suffering so badly (mentally and physically) from it, just to get my hormones banned less than *TWO WEEKS*

the army can contact my mom asking if i'm interested in joining the military since i'm almost 18, but i'm still too young to go on hormones (in which many effects are reversible mind you) that will greatly improve my health and quality of life

symbolism ꒱

black represents rebellion and mourning for those we've lost due to queerphobia

purple represents gender-nonconformity

pink represents strength and courage. i chose this because it used to be a "boy color" since it's similar to red, and i thought it'd be a good symbol of gender-nonconformity (once again)

light pink represents love and beauty within gender diversity and queerness

the symbol is the ⚧ symbol combined with the tree of life. the tree of life represents the cycle of life, as well as growth, which can represent transition. it represents how trans and nonbinary people have always been here, are natural, and will continue to be a part of life

flag without symbol ꒱

my flag redesign, not my coined term ꒱

[cr1zz0]

my fav scene in Pocket mirror goldenertraum.

it's just soooo wholesome.. he is such a cute GNC pumpkin....

[diaryofatransmasclesboy]

Do you guys ever feel like the whole anti-lesboy discourses feel less like people not wanting to see men in the lesbian community and more like people not wanting to see trans and gender non-conforming people in the community??

Like a huge portion (if not the majority) of the lesboy community (atleast from what ive seen online) are trans or/and gender non-conforming. The history of male-identifying or/and masc-presenting lesbians is full of trans and/or gender non-conforming people.Yet exclusionists will still act like we are some sort of terrible danger for the lesbian community,online and irl.

This same logic is used by transphobes who do not wanna share spaces with trans or gender non-conforming people,treating us as we are same sort of threat for the well-being of the community. This is why i refuse to see exclusionism as nothing more than barely disguised terf ideology. They will see a lesbian that is connected to manhood/masculinity (aka a lesbian who is trans or gender non-conforming) even in the slightest and lose their shit and act like they are the reason why lesbophobia exist even if said lesbian are themselves affected by it.

[justdavina]

La grande dame! Is sooooo HOT!! This wonderful drag queen has nailed it when it comes to HOT! Her magical outfit will live with me forever! It's just incredible!