#healing that wounded inner child

[randomfoggytiger]

This video talks about neurological dysregulation: how to cope with it, how to combat it, and how to turn a bad day into a good one.

[mad-girlslove-song]

"my mother" by lea jane

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

[zeewipark]

A little shrine for old wounds

© Jee Won Park (ig: zeewipark)

[unreal]

My Name Is Kanaya Maryam

You Fucked My Wife

PREPARE TO DIE

[healingchildhoodtrauma]

For some, it makes sense that father wound healing would include unpacking religious trauma and indoctrination.

Church became like a club where we were all competing to please our angry father. Which mirrored the narcissistic family I had at home.

Of all the different kinds of abuse, spiritual abuse leaves a special kind of scar... on the soul. Someone who feels very naturally curious/inclined toward spirituality and has childhood wounds of abuse that left them "eager to please authority".... will be like a lamb tossed from one wolf to another in spiritually abusive communities. "Spiritual narcissists" are definitely a real thing... eventually you'll be so disgusted by them that you'll be forced to claim sovereignty over your own spiritual path. ✨️

[thefeminineessence]

Self-healers are powerful alchemists. They transform their pain into power, their wounds into wisdom, the mistreatment of others into boundaries, the tantrums of the inner wounded child into red flags, and their generational curses into blessings.

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[soulaanadelrey]

Have you ever loved someone so much that it feels like you've loved them before in another lifetime? Like loving that person feels so familiar. So safe. I don't have to worry about saying the right or wrong thing. It's just us.

[safe-haven-safe-place]

[theereina]

What do you do if it's your mother?🤔

[feminiel]

Major big themes of my spiritual awakening process:

Emotional healing

Self-discovery

Journaling

Emotional freedom technique

Reading

Healing my ego

Finding who I am

Finding my place in the world

Finding my life's purpose

Working and healing my divine feminine energy: love, emotions, receptive nature, intuition, soul, healing mother wounds, self-nurturing, inner healer, sensitivity, values, creativity, abundance

Working and healing my divine masculine energy: ego, assertiveness, self-confidence, identity wounds, self-expression, healing father wounds

Balance

Transformation

Inner child healing

Shadow work

Light work

Energy

Self-beliefs

Spirituality and finding meanings

Astrology

Inner work

Manifestation

[babyjojobear]

You are not damaged because of other people. You may have experienced a lack of love and affection from your relationships- family or otherwise- but this does not reflect on you. Your worth is not dependent on the love and affection you receive, but on your inherent value as a person. You are worthy of love, kindness, understanding, and compassion. You are a valuable, precious person worthy of respect, and this can never be taken away from you. Please do not ever forget this.

[dirtytransmasc]

Do you have any other hc regarding Spider healing his inner child?

sorry this took me a little while to respond to, I've been making a little list. some of these are more spider healing his neglect wounds, but tomato tamato, cause I don't have enough of either to really make them their own posts.

spider plays little, harmless, seemingly childish (like really childish, little little kid type shit) on people around the rda; they were never really appreciated back at home, either he got in trouble or he was just scoffed at and ignored. at first quaritch was confused, cause the kid was doing stuff like switching the side of the paper he put his pen down on, switching the lights off when he left a room, hiding behind things and waiting for someone to find him. but when spider always expected punishment, when he expected to be pushed away, he let it be, and when he saw it have a positive affect on the kid, he started getting back at him.

cat naps when around Quaritch. spider always had to be on his toes back with the sully's. between neytiri, the kids, and the wildlife (and the fact he would be let attended in it cause no one bothered to really worry) napping was a sort of foreign idea. sure he napped, but it wasn't like with quaritch, cause his dad always watched his back, carried him around, held him as he slept. he could fall asleep in a chair during a boring war meeting and wake up in his cot (with either his dad or some sign of him nearby) or in his dad's lap. when they were out on walks or hikes, he could always asked to be carried without question (maybe some light-hearted teasing, but never any sort of objection).

he could always convince quaritch to take him out on cupcake (ikran) and fly like neteyam and lo'ak used to do with jake.

he used paternal na'vi terms for quaritch (something he never dare do with jake) and quaritch reciprocated. formal terms, became comfortable, possessive terms, and eventually they used petnames for one another.

(this ones implied canon) spider taught quaritch to say "I see you" and while it took the older man some time and outside guidance, he eventually learned what it actually meant. he never overused it, never stripped it of its meaning, but he used it whenever he deemed it appropriate. he liked seeing the kid smile.

they do each other's hair. that was a big thing within the sully home, spending time with one another, talking, and bonding while taking care of each other's hair. it becomes their thing to set aside a night every week or so to wash, brush, and rebraid/style each other's hair (spider is convinced to chop off his locs, the hair that carried each and every memory of his neglect, in place of something else)

spider always expects to be left behind, to finally become a burden. He knows the day will come, so he treats every day like it is the last. when Quaritch picks up on it, he makes sure to always keep spider in the loop on plans, planning ahead, making sure to praise him, and makes his presence known and needed at all times.

he lets spider sleep in his bed, letting him sleep on him, curled into his side, wherever he wants, cause he made a promise to never push the kid away. spider really appreciates the one on one physical time with his dad.

quaritch is very outwardly protective of the kid, making him acutely aware how much he matters, how far he is willing to go to protect him. he makes sure spider knows he will always come for him, he won't leave him behind.

I can't think of anymore at the moment, but I'll make a part two if I do.

[bassalien4444]

[rustandsky]

Hush child, your parents didn't love you. Or perhaps they did, in their own bizarre way.

But it wasn't enough- it couldn't be enough.

The broken promises, the name calling, the fighting.

They gave you the minimum. They gave you a roof, food. Clothes (new ones, if you begged long enough).

They gave you endless nights of not sleeping, as they partied and drank themselves into a stupor.

They gave you days hiding in your room as they screamed at each other, fighting endlessly.

They gave you jeering, laughing at your mistakes.

They gave you lifelong trauma, borne from neglect.

But you survived. Through it all, somehow, you survived.

You are enough. You are worthy. You are more than the pain and neglect and lies and broken promises they subjected you to. Their love always came at a price.

You still bear the scars, those red, angry things, ready to burst open at the slightest touch.

But you are healing. You are becoming more than you ever thought possible. One by one, the scars will fade.

They will always be there, oh yes. A reminder of what happened, forever a part of you, carved upon your innermost soul.

But you are healing.

You are not Them.

You are more than Them.

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]