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Thursday, 21 November, 2024

Our boundaries are meant to protect us. Feeling guilty about them would be a kind of dishonor toward ourselves. Every time we set a boundary, we should think of it as a huge favor we are doing for our own well-being. Giving ourselves this type of favor is a form of honor and a blessing for our emotional safety and well-being. In essence, we are protecting our hearts from unwanted energy and potential harm. It’s an act of self-kindness, self-support, self-care, and self-respect.

I’m not sure what causes us to feel guilty about setting boundaries, but my thought is that it’s because we didn’t learn to feel safe growing up due to past traumas. This lack of safety can leave us disconnected from what we need to feel secure and unaware of when boundaries are necessary. It also creates a disconnection from ourselves and our feelings, making it harder to recognize or assert the boundaries we need. Additionally, not receiving the support required to feel allowed to have limits can make us believe that boundaries aren’t necessary or leave us unsure of how to set them. This lack of recognition of setting boundaries early on can cause significant emotional damage, sadly.

Shortly, the message that is sent to us is through our childhood is: "You are not good," which makes us feel guilty for setting boundaries that we deserve.

Our learned boundaries are the kindness and care that we didn’t receive when we needed it the most, that we are giving to ourselves now. ~ @feminiel

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Monday, 18 November, 2024

Trying to talk to someone who refuses to take responsibility for their mistakes feels like talking to a wall standing in front of you. It’s as if everything you’re saying isn’t reaching them, and the person in front of you neither hears, sees, nor relates to you—just like a wall. They’re defensive, blocking any open path for further communication.

What’s even worse is when they’re not only on the defensive but also attack you by projecting their issues onto you or blaming you for things you didn’t do. It really angers me, as I feel like there’s no way to resolve problems like this when all I really want is to find peace in the situation.

To me, this is when I see how having done the inner work and being committed to becoming a better version of myself is rewarding. It makes you more accepting and open to your mistakes and weaknesses. Over time, seeing and addressing your mistakes becomes more comfortable to delve into. It gives you a sense of power over your ability to grow and develop.

However, when the other party can't meet you at this level of maturity, let them go. Cut the cords and set a standard to keep in your circle only those who are willing and able to work through challenges and resolve conflicts in alignment with the growth you seek for yourself. ~ @feminiel

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Emotional intelligence is so magnetic in just anyone. It brings peace, understanding, beauty, acceptance, and value within, and when it is expressed outward, everyone benefits from that energy. It's truly healing to talk to someone who has emotional capacity and depth. It's a gift. Their way of thinking, analyzing, perceiving, and understanding is on another level. I'm truly grateful when I get to talk to and meet such people. It's like a breath of fresh air, and my heart warms up big time. ~ @feminiel

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Friday, 15 November, 2024

When someone is at fault, don't take away their responsibility—of facing their truth and understanding their mistakes—even if it's someone you love. Be supportive of them, even in their mistakes, but don't deny that their behavior was not right. Acknowledge their mistakes, but don't take away their power by preventing them from seeing their own faults just because "you want to take their side." If you do this, it becomes a form of enabling. Take their side, yes, but don’t let them believe there is nothing to work on, improve, or change. Don’t blind them to their truth by "taking their side" as an act of loyalty or love. Loyalty and love are the opposite of that; they are about helping them to see the truth, not blinding them to it. Support their growth by accepting and addressing the mistakes at play. ~ @feminiel

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Friday, 15 November, 2024

When you build self-trust, you are more able to know and discern who to trust and who not to. Because your self-trust is what gives you a feeling of security within yourself for your actions, choices, and decisions. When you feel secure toward someone, your internal self-trust system can feel it and make it known to you because you have self-trust and not self-doubt.

Self-trust is built when you learn to believe in yourself, when you learn to get your needs met, when you build self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem. You also build trust when you learn to accept yourself and find peace with the wounds that have made you feel disconnected from yourself.

The more you reconnect with your lost self, the more you get close to your sense of self-trust, and you will be able to trust your energy and your vibe. Self-trust is knowing your energy so well that you know how to protect yourself while following your heart and intuition. Self-trust is intimately linked with your intuition and true energy. When you are able to trust the energy of your true self, it means you are trusting yourself. ~ @feminiel

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I wish I had an example of a role model of an empowered woman in my life that could guide me more on that path. ~ @feminiel

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There is no such thing as being "too nice." I think that being kinder is always better than not being kind enough. When we say we’re "too nice," it often reflects a lack of boundaries in our thinking and feelings. I’m still learning not to feel guilty about setting stronger boundaries with my kindness and being nice. I need to normalize saying things that may offend others to protect myself, putting my needs first. I am working on being assertive in how I approach and navigate situations while staying true to myself. ~ @feminiel

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Tuesday, 12 November, 2024

Something MAJOR and new I've learned today;

You are allowed to withhold respect from someone as a form of protection and self-care. Not respecting someone and withholding respect means you need to feel emotionally safe, protected, and set boundaries with that person. It's normal to feel that way when someone has hurt you. It is not a form of judgment or a reflection of how you view their worth or character as an individual, but rather about how you are protecting your own needs, peace, and feelings. It’s about safeguarding your heart, energy, and overall well-being. By doing this, you are creating emotional distance between yourself and that person, which allows you to heal, reconnect with yourself, forgive, and move on from a situation. Psychologically and spiritually, it helps you feel empowered by acknowledging that you no longer want their energy in your life. You are saying NO to the other person in all the ways you need, so you can say YES to loving yourself more. You are doing what feels right for you. ~ @feminiel

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When a connection no longer resonates, let it go. Let. It. Go. It's not worth holding onto energy that doesn't nourish your higher self. Don't fight it��just flow with what feels even better than what you’ve known before. You don't have to stay committed to your old self. The only true commitment is stepping into the best version of yourself whenever the opportunity presents itself. ~ @feminiel

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Your body is important. Connect with it and cherish it. Protect it like your life depends on it—because it does. Speak up when your physical boundaries are crossed. Make yourself heard; you deserve to feel safe and to be treat with respect for your body. Your physical and sexual boundaries are never wrong. You know what feels right and what feels wrong. Be there for your body, even if others around you don’t understand the value you give to your body. Be the person who advocates for it in all ways necessary. You deserve to be treated respectfully and fairly. You’re the only one who truly knows the relationship you have with your body, and your feelings are always valid, no matter what happens. Esteem yourself highly enough to own your rights and never be afraid to be loud about them. Be bold. Your body is golden, and so are you. ~ @feminiel

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It’s awful when you’re surrounded by people with whom you can’t truly express yourself, whether they’re family or friends. I’d rather be alone than mix with people with whom I can’t be myself safely. I feel invisible, as though I don’t belong with them. I think that when you connect with people who make you feel seen and authentic, that's when you truly feel like you belong. People with similar values are more likely to appreciate you as an individual because they understand your worth. When you can be your real self with someone, it’s truly a gift. Feeling valued for who you are makes you feel like you’re exactly where you need to be, with the right people. It affirms that you’re living your purpose. Either way, I try to stay grounded in myself, even when I feel a lack of connection with my surroundings. It’s tough, and sometimes I slip away from what I truly mean to say or make mistakes by not expressing how I truly feel. But I stay aware and know I’ll do better next time. I forgive myself for being out of alignment, knowing that I am learning to build strength for the next time. Yes, it’s tough because sometimes it makes you feel like you’re standing alone, but being disconnected from yourself is not worth it. ~ @feminiel

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My writings are the imprint of my soul. I write about the wisdom I feel I have to share and what is in my heart at the moment. My soul's voice is more felt when I write. It's like having a conversation with me and my higher self. My higher self guides me what to write and sparks my creativity in that sense. I've been writing for almost nine months now, and I'm amazed by what has come out of me. I didn't know and was not aware that I had so much to write. ~ @feminiel

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Sunday, 10 November, 2024

Why do I think it's important for a woman to connect with their feminine energy?

I think it's important for women to connect with their feminine energy because they nurture strength and add value to feminine energy as a whole. When you heal your feminine energy, you help heal and honor every feminine energy lost in the history of time. You give power to lost voices, to lost identities, and to feminine souls who never fully grew into their potential—and to yourselves as well. When women empower their feminine energy, they are finding themselves, becoming stronger, living with purpose, and connecting with their authentic selves. They are fulfilling their potential, making it known to themselves and the world that being a woman and embracing feminine energy is highly needed in this world. Women are making the universe more luminous and filling it with more love by balancing their feminine energy. When a woman reclaims her feminine energy, she is taking back control of her life. She is learning that she matters and discovering how to live her purpose. She is learning to own her power without fear of sharing it with the world. She is learning to be seen in all the ways she deserves. She is becoming herself, realizing that her feminine energy is as valuable as she is. ~ @feminiel

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Thursday, 7 November, 2024

I am realizing that what we value in life is what the world needs, and it needs it from us like no one else can offer. Our values guide how we contribute to the world and show us why and how we have intrinsic value in who we are. ~ @feminiel

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Wednesday, 6 November, 2024

I am thinking that maybe when someone believes they don't deserve happiness, it’s primarily because people made them feel bad and negative emotions about themselves and who they are at a certain point in their life. Instead of nourishing and helping them feel good and loving feelings about themselves, they have planted feelings of not being a good person, which makes them not believe they can receive what makes them feel good from the inside and from the outside. Sometimes, this can happen intentionally, sometimes unintentionally from others.

So, I'm thinking that maybe, in order for someone to feel they deserve happiness, they need to believe that they are good at their core. They need to see themselves as a purposeful, divine being, accept both the light and dark within them, and believe in how great they are as an individual. They need to understand and feel that love is at the core of their being. It is their true essence.

Believing that you are unworthy of happiness is similar to believing that you are not worthy of love. After all, what makes someone happy, at its core, is love. Everything that holds value for you comes from what you love. Everything that makes you truly happy comes from love energy.

Happiness can't be a goal to achieve; it is a state of being that fluctuates between all others feelings and emotions that can exist. So, really, what happiness means, I think, is cultivating love in your heart. It's not a goal to achieve but an experience and a feeling to discover and grow into. And since love is eternal, infinite, and timeless, how can it be turned into a goal, which usually demands a fixed time to achieve? In one way, happiness could also be seen as eternal, infinite, and timeless. ~ @feminiel

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Tuesday, 5 November, 2024

Going through major rebirths means rediscovering yourself all over again—learning and uncovering new aspects of your psyche, breaking old emotional patterns, and transforming past limiting beliefs so that a new, more authentic self can emerge.

It takes a lot of energy to work through your triggers, both mentally and emotionally. Confronting the dark/unconscious parts of yourself is tough. I can't count how many rebirths I've gone through since this journey began, but I know it's more than I could ever count for sure.

The awakening of the self and your true self is an ongoing process. It takes time, dedication, perseverance, and patience.

However, I am always grateful when I succeed in healing what’s needed so I can feel lighter, rejuvenated, and free. It's hard, but the work is worth it. I'm able to understand and see myself more clearly, in a new light, and the things of the past finally take shape in fresh, higher perspectives. ~ @feminiel

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Rise above the challenges for yourself first. Do it for yourself first. The rest of what it meant for you will follow.

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