#inner child work

[cosmic-ghost-hermit]

Pick a Card: Message from your Inner-Child

Your inner baby needs you to listen. This reading will help them speak their mind clearly. Will you hear them out? Take what resonates and let go of all the rest but be willing to accept new experiences.

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Decks used are The Kawaii Tarot, Pure Magic Oracle, Romantic Lenormand and The Karma Cards.

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PILE ONE

Astrology: Capricorn, Aquarius, Libra

Song: Pantsuit Sasquatch by Molly Lewis

Vibes: Green, red, night sky, thorns, bouquet, red flowers, chess, star gazing, alligator, aroma therapy, herbal remedies, apothecary, rabbits, snake skin, olive branch, Zues, Demeter

Cards: 6 of Swords, Saturn, Tower, Lilies, Herbal Craft, Hallowed Heart

Hello, pile 1. Your inner child is really tired of having to be the adult for people who are older than them. They are tired of playing mentor for those who should be mentoring. They want to be done with those people. They are holding up a building with their tiny arms and their shaking frame. As if someone put the world on their shoulders and asked them to carry it with bones that were not developed enough to hold it and without the mental fortitude to withstand the pressure. They wish to rest. They wish to lash out at the adults who relied on them before they were ready or willing. I see your inner child resembles Alice in Wonderland. After the wicked adults in your inner child's life grew white flowers, they demanded it was your fault and made you paint the white roses, red. They took their purity. They hurt you a lot.

The main message I am hearing from them is, "Please be gentle with my little heart and my small frame. I was treated harshly purely for being alive. I need healing. I need time to rest and recuperate. Please do not yell at me for my mistakes. Please do not hurt me for my shortcomings. I did not ask to be here. I only wish for it to get better than it is now. I'm sorry I wasn't mature. I'm sorry I've been impatient but I have been patient for so long. I've spent so much time waiting for my caretakers to do their jobs. Please. I don't need structure. I need relief."

They do not hold you accountable for everything that happened to you, my dear. They are reaching their little hands out for you to help them up. They want to be more present in your life. They want to have fun again. They didn't have enough of it as a child. They want to play outside. The last message I'll leave you with is some advice I find very important.

"Play is the psychological opposite of Trauma."

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PILE TWO

Astrology: Scorpio, Gemini, Cancer (maybe libra)

Song: Burn Your Village by Kiki Rockwell

Vibes: Grey, pink, purple, corvids, pinecones, sage, lavender plant, grizzly bear, spider, scorpio, eagle, hummingbird, long hair, video games, D&D, law, Zephyr, Eurus, Callisto, Artemis, Hecate

Cards: Justice, Clouds, Bear, Hecate's Path, Songbirds, 8th House

Hi, pile 2. Your inner child is full of vengeance. I see that without the vengeful energy they are very respectful and kind. Their anger is extremely understandable and a reaction induced by the environment they grew up in. Your inner child has an intense sense of justice. They know they have been treated unjustly by the authority in their life. Those in control of their circumstance took their autonomy and right of trial. The authorities judged you harshly for no good reason and were unpredictable. The authority would explode at random instances making them hard to anticipate. They were dangerous. Purely because they wanted to make your life miserable to cope with their own miserable life. Your inner child did not deserve that. Your inner innocence was corrupted into a furious and resentful person. They are aware they deserved better. They were conscious of their mistreatment. I see they could have been mistreated because of their race or gender.

The message I am hearing the loudest from your inner child is, "Those filthy horrid people deserve to atone for their wrong doings. No one helped me. They didn't even listen. They took that authorities word for truth and no one heard my side of the story. I am not a liar. I am not guilty. I did nothing wrong and now my older self doesn't even believe me either. The people who did this to me will pay. They will face justice if I have to be the one to dish it out. I hate them. I hate what they turned me into. I was pure. I was innocent. Now look at what they have made me. This isn't fair. This isn't right! Why was I treated this way!? Why does no one believe me?! I will never abuse power like that person did. I will end this cycle of abuse. I release and remove everyone who blamed me without learning the whole story. I am letting go of the pain they put me through. They do not deserve me or my kindness. They only deserve my hatred and resentment. I hope they burn."

Your inner child begs you to protect them from the people who did this to you. I can feel they are still in your life. It might be a father or a brother or an uncle. I also see it could be a pastor. Your inner baby will continue to lash out at random times because they have no where to aim all this negative emotion. They want to be free of guilt that shouldn't be theirs. They want to be free of judgmental eyes. Free them from the illusion that this authority laid over everyones eyes. I leave you with one last message.

"The weakest link will target the strongest link to avoid that they're useless."

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PILE THREE

Astrology: Virgo, Leo, Sagittarius

Song: Heart of a Dancer by The Happy Fits

Vibes: Blue, pink, forest green, androgenous, duality, 2b hair texture, robins, blue jays, coffee mugs, sculpting, yin/yang, balance, rose quartz, pearl, magnolia tree, gardening, bonfire, 3rd eye, Aphrodite, Hermaphroditus, archangel Samuel, Lucifer Morningstar, Baphomet

Cards: 8 of Cups, Birds, Woman, Pyro-kinesis, Closing Circle, Virgo, 7th House, North Node

Hey there, pile 3. I feel many complex emotions from your inner child. I see how they were conditioned is much different than how they genuinely are. They were conditioned to be quiet, serene and passive. But when they are acting genuine it is exact opposite. They are loud, angry and active. There is a need to walk away from their conditioning and those who conditioned them. They don't know how to ask that of you because of how they were taught. They do not speak unless spoken too and this makes it difficult for them to communicate with you. They are anxious they will be punished if they ask for anything of you. Invite them forward and allow them to speak their mind. They hold back a lot of emotion that needs to be expressed. You need to be open to hearing what they have to say.

The important message I need to tell you from them is, "You will benefit from our collaboration. I'm sorry for speaking up but you are not following your heart anymore. You are following what you have been told. This is not authenticity that you display. It is fake. Even if it is well-meaning you are not yourself. You are pretending to be someone else. Please let me express my rage. Please let me express my heart. I can't hold it anymore. I don't wanna feel this way anymore. Let me chatter and chirp and yell and scream. I wasn't allowed to when I was young. I need the freedom to do so now. Allow me to open doors I was never allowed to enter. Please see me in my full complexity. I am more than just a pretty face. I am more than my body. I am a person. I have personality. I have beliefs. I am a benefit to society when I can speak. I am not a waste. I am good as I am. I don't need to bottle my true self to make others comfortable. Free me, please."

They are asking you to allow yourself and your inner child to be themselves. They deserve space to exist freely without having to hide themselves away. I honestly don't need to say much more but I will leave you with one more piece of advice.

"Authenticity is the most powerful way to exist."

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PILE FOUR

Astrology: Taurus, Aries, Pisces (maybe aquarius)

Song: If My Heart Was a House by Owl City

Vibes: Muted colors, yellow, orange, fairies, sunflowers, barn owl, cat mint, raptors, vase, eyes, beards, lotus, candles, chimneys, diamond, playing cards, hobbits, anime, Apollo, Athena, Aphrodite

Cards: King of Pentacles, Sun, Owls, Ancestors, Gnomes, Aquarius, Venus

Hello and welcome, pile 4. Your inner child is asking me to tell you that you won't find the love you are looking for in other people. You won't find it in romance. You won't find it in friendship. At least not until you can find it in them. They didn't have the luxury of building their life on an identity that was theirs. They don't even know who they are. You need to explore them. Discover yourself in them. Be friends with them. They long for connection and the only one who can give that to them is you. They spent their whole life just trying to survive that they found identity in the pain they experienced. There is so much more to them than victimhood. So much more than their trauma. They are bright as the sun and immensely smart. They are funny and creative. Let yourself and your inner child grow beyond your collective pain and become something more. Your family isn't the pinnacle of humanity. I have a feeling that your family might have a narcissist among them. They are only a facet of humanity, my friend. There is so much more to your life than being approved by others. You are made of magic. You need to see that.

The message I hear from your inner child is, "I'm done striving for love from people who never intend on giving it to me no matter how perfectly I perform. I'm tired chasing something I'm never going to catch up too. I've always known I'm better than that. They made me feel so small though. They made me feel so pointless and useless. I worked so hard for their love but they will only ever love themselves. They will never have enough room in their heart for me. They make me feel like I'm not enough. I want to give myself the love they never could afford for me. I want to be loved so much. I want to be held and cherished the way I deserve to be. I am enough even if they say I'm not. I've always been enough even though I'm small. They are a giant black hole of emptiness and nothing. They are jealous of my light. I wish my older self could see that. I'm not selfish for wanting to be loved. I'm not wrong for wanting to be adored. I'm worth the effort. Please, see that it's true. I want to be known for who I am. I want to be discovered. I wish so deeply to be seen and appreciated. I'm the only one who can do it."

Your inner child is asking something of you. They ask you to take the role of mother and father for yourself. A role that was never filled even if you had your parents in your life. They neglected you. So much so you felt like you didn't deserve love but you desperately craved it. My dear, I will leave you with one last message and then the rest is up to you.

"You are worthy of being loved by you."

[thepeacefulgarden]

[impartialspectator]

Affirmations for your Inner Child

[gold-snek-hoe]

Healing your inner child looks different for everyone I guess

[Text transcript:

Me, age nine

Me: I marry you?

Marak: Yes, one day.

Me: You're perfect!

Marak: As are you, my love.

Me: Can we get married NOW??

Marak: No.

Me: Why not...?]

[annasellheim]

Next part- my ladybug

[kittenquasar]

Learning that being nice to myself actually makes me feel better is such a no duh thing to learn in your late twenties. What do you mean I can be there for myself when i feel bad? I guess actually loving myself now is what makes it possible

[rat-at-heart]

Bulking up for wrestling season! (Wrestling with his past demons to heal his inner child)

[feminiel]

Major big themes of my spiritual awakening process:

Emotional healing

Self-discovery

Journaling

Emotional freedom technique

Reading

Healing my ego

Finding who I am

Finding my place in the world

Finding my life's purpose

Working and healing my divine feminine energy: love, emotions, receptive nature, intuition, soul, healing mother wounds, self-nurturing, inner healer, sensitivity, values, creativity, abundance

Working and healing my divine masculine energy: ego, assertiveness, self-confidence, identity wounds, self-expression, healing father wounds

Balance

Transformation

Inner child healing

Shadow work

Light work

Energy

Self-beliefs

Spirituality and finding meanings

Astrology

Inner work

Manifestation

[artofmindspice]

Bluestar, my beloved...

[ebb4ndfl0w]

Book Rec for whoever needs it.

We are a couple chapters into Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents and cannot recommend it more. It's been super insightful and validating. To all you "parent/therapist friends", people pleasers, anxious/unstable attachment havers, etc etc etc. I very much recommend it. 11/10

[thepeacefulgarden]

[impartialspectator]

13 steps for managing flashbacks

by Pete Walker

[pamithebunterfly2007]

Here are some things that help me healed my inner child and also side note, back in my younger years, I was WAY too obsessed with fairies:

The Disney Fairy movie series

2. Arthur and The Invisibles/Minimoys

3. This Image from a graphic novel called “Real Friends”

4. Strange Magic (2015)

5. Land of Stories Book series

6. Playing in the flower filled fields when I was small at learning center near my home, I love playing in the fields in the springtime during outdoor recess or field day.

7. Rewatching movies and shows I used to watch as a young child

8. Walking or hiking in the woods, it makes me feel like in some magical realm.

9. This Video of a Lamb with a human :3

10. Mia and Me (I remember watching this show when I was small)

11. The Secret Garden by Aurora (I’m also a fan of her and her music, makes me feel like I’m a mythical fairy)

12. The Rainbow Magic Book Series

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@art1c-m0nk3ys

@lizzietherwbychibifan

@emo-gals-4life

@rhyliethecaterfly

@softpawsxd

[nerdby]

Let adults be childish and whimsical.

Let them buy Ty Babies or Legos or a million Funko Pops or glow-in-the-dark stars that will fall off the ceiling a week later or Winnie The Pooh coloring books.

Let them decorate their bedrooms in pastels or hang Marvel movie posters on the wall.

Let them paint their bedrooms pink.

Let them write cringey fanfiction.

Do not harass them.

Do not tell them to focus on the resale value of their home.

Do not tell them they are wasting their money -- it's their money to spend however they want to.

Do not tell them that the things they love are immature simply because YOU are too insecure to display the secret things you love -- the "cringe" parts of your personality, your interests that your oh-so-loving partner has designated to the man cave or she shed because they are embarrassing, the things you were bullied for loving as a child.

Let adults be happy.

Let them heal.

[formerly-feminish]

I'm glad we realize our inner child needs to be cared for and sometimes re-parented... but let'd not also forget about our inner adolescent. They deserve the same. <333

[hermitsmirror]

Tarot spread: Market of Memory

The 6 of Cups can pose an interpretive problem because the way so many of us view it is, frankly, naive. It’s limited. It’s sweet. It looks innocent. Maybe it’s triggering. But it’s rarely all that deep. 

And yet the 6 of Cups is at the heart of Scorpio season. It’s an illumination of what has been hidden deep within, and it’s an opportunity to connect with all aspects of the past: the inner child, yes, but also past lives and ancestors.

This tarot layout and these questions are designed to help you connect with the 6 of Cups and with something important from the past. You can read more about the spread and the 6 of Cups in my musings.

And if you want to learn how to navigate the River of Time and connect deeply with spirits of the past, within you and others, enroll in my “winter term” course between semesters, Reading the River of Time.

The Offering: What is coming forward from the past?

The Gifted: What pleasures will this help me reawaken?

Clear Skies: How can I use this to shine a light on my future?

Other Wares (2 cards): What of the past remains under the surface, out of sight for now? Why let it stay there?

The Flower’s Scent: How will I know that it’s time to bring more from the depths? (a sensory cue exercise)

See my musing “Sensory Cues and Intuition” for more on sensory cue exercises.