#growth isn’t linear

[let-me-sleep-or-die]

Fantasy High season 3 turning me into Kristen Applebees #1 defender

[healingchildhoodtrauma]

[invinciblelikeu]

maybe they’re better off without her with a mindset like that.

[bxwieknife]

Not sure if y’all wanna see my Reels and stuff here? But I don’t feel fair excluding y’all from posts, so you tell me what’s best!

Anyway, Rose Quartz, I love your design but man do I have,,, complicated feelings for her!!

[roboctopus]

Does anyone ever get the sense that the 911 writers kinda maybe wish they didn’t have Buck start to see his therapist as early in the show as they did?

Like they introduce his therapist, barely mention it after Buck Begins, then almost immediately start chucking storylines at Buck that maybe shouldn’t be getting as messy as they end up getting or go on for as long as they end up going on for if he was still talking with his therapist?

I know seeing a therapist doesn’t like guarantee someone won’t mess up or that the person will follow through with their therapist’s advice. I know growth isn’t linear and can have its ups and downs. But sometimes it really feels like the show forgot that they already had Buck be mature enough to acknowledge that he needed professional help & took the initiative to seek it out all on his own. It feels off to me that the Buck who already did all that is now relying on self help books for guidance and falling face first into the emotional minefield that is this sperm donor storyline.

[sunshine-cultivator]

Live life at your own pace. When it happens to you is when it’s the right time for you. Lessons I’m learning if life.

girlrotting is my new term thank u

[anagram-for-mongo]

“I don’t think my wife understands me” but it’s about wearing fashion i got made fun of for wearing in the past

[agirlunfilteredsblog]

KIND REMINDERS 🤍

1. You are someone’s dream girl exactly the way you are right now.

We put so much emphasis on growth and getting to that “next best place”, which is fine, but we always forget that we deserve self-love as we are right now. It does not mean that you aren’t at your “best” physically and/or mentally that you aren’t deserving of love, kindness, and respect.

2. Perspective is everything

Stop stressing over that one bad grade you received at school. In ten years, you won’t even remember what teacher gave it to you. Focus your energy on things that’ll have lasting impacts. When you look back on your life, you want to see the beauty of it, not the anguish.

3. Growth isn’t linear

Don’t blame yourself for messing up. We aren’t perfect and we are bound to mess up every once in a while. Learn from your mistakes, and try to not repeat them. And if you do, that’s okay, there’s always another time. Growth has no time limit.

4. You are not a bad person

If you are sitting here constantly asking yourself if you are a bad person or underserving of love, I’m here to tell you one thing: bad people don’t worry about whether they are perceived as “good” or “bad”. Give yourself grace, and stop letting your overthinking consume you.

So much love,

A girl unfiltered 💋

[wetheurban]

Growth isn’t linear. Relapses are part of the process, not the end of progress. Celebrate every single small win, practice discipline and grace, and please, just keep going.

[goldenwilmon]

Thinking about how growth isn’t linear. Healing from grief isn’t linear. Healing from trauma isn’t linear.

[binxelf]

gentle growth is still growth, slow growth is still growth, fast growth is still growth, steady growth is still growth, messy growth is still growth. It’s as simple as that :), growth isn’t linear <3

[matan4il]

Buddie 614 meta

What I find to be the loudest about Eddie’s arc here is that the whole ep is meant to show us everything that can go wrong when people try to live up to others’ expectations, and how much better it is when people are looking in and figuring out what’s right for them, which means they’re performing for and as themselves. That’s the context for Eddie’s date and story. He needs to figure out how to want a romantic relationship again without feeling like it’s a task he’s performing just to please others. That’s the place he gets to at the end of the ep, which is a good place for him to be. ~~

And this is essential to Eddie. Based on how little people talk about it, maybe many in fandom aren’t aware of how 911 implied back in 217 that he only married Shannon because she got pregnant. Eddie said explicitly he didn’t think he was ready to get married at the time, and he brought this up in the context of Shannon and him having Christopher. So I think it’s very meaningful that here, when his aunt wants to set him up, he jumps straight to the (wrong) conclusion that he’s expected to marry Vanessa. He was under this pressure to perform for others before, he knows how disastrous it can turn out, and you know what? Trauma totally triggers this kind of reaction. It tells us where he’s at emotionally, that there are still things he has to deal with. ~~

Speaking of trauma, another symptom of it can be denial, and we do see a bit of it from Eddie during this ep. Remember how he claimed he doesn’t panic back in 501? Right to a doctor’s face while she’s diagnosing him with panic attacks? He did it again in this ep. The thing is that healing isn’t linear. He was advancing with some things, but in 614, faced with his aunt’s ambush, he feels cornered back into a place he’s been in before, a place that left its scars on him, and Eddie regresses. Which is okay! But that’s one step back in order to take two steps forward. Before the ep ends, he will figure out that it’s better not closing himself off completely to the idea of getting into another relationship, even if Tia Pepa’s surprise blind dates are not the way to go about it. ~~

As a side note, I loved Bobby basically trying to trick his subordinates into giving him a review, and poor Buck stepping right into that one. I saw it coming and I almost choked laughing. This show is damn brilliant with comedy, too. We don’t give it enough credit for that! But it's also a moment when I was really proud of Buck. If Eddie's panic caused him to take a step back, we got to see his husband, who grew up so unloved that he needs every bit of approval he can get, being mature and able to point it out when Bobby was over-praising him in his evaluation. And you know what's more? Bobby knew it would go like this. He has seen Buck's growth and he knew his surrogate son would do the right thing and correct this. Bobby's set up wouldn't have worked otherwise. Excuse me while I get emotional over this. ~~

Fitting for an ep where 911 flexed its comical muscles, it was embarrassing how hard I laughed at Buck’s reaction to Eddie’s romantic woes. Remember when Buck heavily implied how hurtful it was to be ghosted by Abby, saying in 502 that he had been in Ana’s position, of being unwanted and led on instead of getting a clean break up? Well, look at how quick Buck was to suggest ghosting as a viable option for Eddie this time! It’s almost like Buck doesn’t even notice that he will offer whatever it takes to keep his husband away from these potential Love Interests, even if it contradicts stuff he has said in the past himself. The way Buck could be so calm making this suggestion, and take the “threat” in stride, because duh, he knows his husband wouldn’t want these LIs intruding on their marriage and family either, and it’s absolutely legit to just ghost this girl if she doesn’t get the memo, was hilarious. And honestly, who can blame Buck? He’s defending his hot man. ;p ~~

Which brings me to my weekly gif set, that I dedicated this time to Buck pointing out on Eddie’s failure to let Ana down easy. I mean, it already IS canon that these two talk about everything, it IS canon that Buck is someone who gets to hear all about Eddie’s romantic woes. But this proves that Eddie doesn’t just fill him in using broad strokes, stuff like just letting Buck know that he indeed broke up with Ana. No, they get down to the finer resolution as well, and Buck gets to hear every detail about how Eddie did it with the delicacy of a bull in a china shop. And clearly, Buck wasn’t about respecting either Ana or Eddie’s pain during that break up, at least not enough to stop Buck from teasing his husband about it. XD It’s so funny how naturally Buck’s staking his claim on his husband even while they’re discussing going on dates. I see you, Buck, and am totally with you! ~~

One last “made me laugh” point. I’m tempted to snicker about Pepa telling Eddie he should be shopping for antiques. I’m queer, so please excuse my dumb queer humor, but ummm. That’s not a very straight suggestion for your nephew, Tia. Or maybe that’s deliberate, maybe it’s implied she is trying to set up Eddie with anyone, girls or guys? After all, she did use gender neutral language during this ep... So we can’t know for sure, but something tells me Pepa just wants Eddie to officially have someone, and if she learns that Buck actually IS her nephew’s other half? (I can’t call either of these morons ‘better half’, sorry) Then she’d be the first one to throw them a party! And I love that, and I love her. Because after all, she’s not just a sassy queen, she’s not just incredibly loving and caring with her nephew, she was also willing to sacrifice her own image in his eyes, she was willing to be seen as herself, and not as what he expects, in order to help remind him that even if his first marriage failed miserably, he can find the courage, move on and re-commit himself to someone else. And soon maybe Eddie will realize and Pepa will find out who is that someone else that Eddie can have a beautiful committed r/s with...

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[sopreciouslife]

𝒯𝒽𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝓃𝑜𝓉 𝓉𝑜 𝓌𝑜𝓇𝓇𝓎 𝒶𝒷𝑜𝓊𝓉/𝒷𝑒 𝓈𝒸𝒶𝓇𝑒𝒹 𝑜𝒻 𝒶𝓈 𝒶 𝑔𝒾𝓇𝓁.

𝟏. Not having it all figured out by 25: Life’s a marathon, not a sprint. You’ll get there in your own time, and it’ll be fabulous.

𝟐. Body hair: It’s natural. Wax it, shave it, grow it out, whatever! It's your body, your choice.

𝟑. Periods being a little messy sometimes: It happens to literally everyone. A little stain isn’t the end of the world, it’s just a sign you’re living your life.

𝟒. Not having the perfect skincare routine: There’s no magical routine that works for everyone. Just do what feels right for your skin.

𝟓. Not being "productive" 24/7: Hustle culture is exhausting. Rest is productive too.

𝟔. Eating that extra slice of cake: Life is too short to count calories on dessert.

𝟕. Not always being the most “put-together”: Some days are messy bun and sweatpants days, and that’s okay.

𝟖. Having stretch marks: They’re tiger stripes. You earned them.

𝟗. Not following all the latest fashion trends: Style is about expressing YOU, not just keeping up with fast fashion.

𝟏𝟎. Saying no to plans: If you need to rest, cancel. You don’t owe anyone your energy.

𝟏𝟏. Having hobbies that aren't “cool”: Crochet, fanfiction, gardening, baking, whatever. If it makes you happy, it’s cool.

𝟏𝟐. Not being in a relationship: Being single is fun and full of growth. Enjoy it.

𝟏𝟑. Your career not looking like everyone else's: Your path is unique, and that’s what makes it exciting.

𝟏𝟒. Not wearing makeup every day: Bare skin is just as beautiful. You don’t need makeup to be worthy or put-together.

𝟏𝟓. Not fitting into society’s "ideal" body: Love your body as it is. Bodies change, but your worth doesn’t.

𝟏𝟔. Outgrowing friendships: Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever, and that’s okay.

𝟏𝟕. Needing a mental health day: We all need breaks. It’s okay to not be okay sometimes.

𝟏𝟖. Taking your time to heal from breakups: Healing isn’t linear, and there’s no deadline to feeling better.

𝟏𝟗. Not being the “perfect” daughter, sister, friend: You’re trying your best, and that’s all that matters.

𝟐𝟎. Being unapologetically YOU: Take up space. Speak your mind. Be exactly who you are, and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it.

Note: If you want any special/specific request of tips or just to ask any questions, dm me or put it in my inbox!

[elderwisp]

Director's Commentary !

Environment and Character Designs:

꩜ So in this scene, the backdrop is the sun setting so there are colors of orange and blues blending together! I like a lot of symbolism in colors and i've mentioned here how i resonate orange with taryn and blue with atlas. so throughout it felt like two personalities clashing a bit until the final shot of taryn, the background is a dark, stormy blue. this whole post is about choices and i felt that the blue solidified atlas's decision to not let taryn in. as for the character design, atlas has a white rabbit on his shirt as a little nod to his arc coming up as well as his nickname, bunny. another note is both taryn and atlas both have eyebags but each are for different reason. while taryn is a bit stressed out due to current events, atlas has been experiencing symptoms of withdrawals such as irritability, nausea and the most notable, lack of sleep.

Atlas's Decision

꩜ atlas has a lot of respect for taryn, so much so that he does not want to bring her along. while taryn has had a somewhat hopeful but naive view, atlas opens up about how getting better isn't linear. he's aware that his struggles with addiction won't be fixed by someone he cares about and it's not something he wants to put her through. when kai says taryn "isn’t enough to fill that hole in your chest" i think he misunderstood atlas but he's close. it's less of the fact that she isn't enough, atlas believes there's nothing to change about taryn, the issue is, atlas believes bringing taryn along could bring a harsh reality that might alter her. if atlas found himself responsible for harming another romantic interest, he would genuinely hate himself so it's much better to push taryn aside and give her an opportunity for something better (HOWEVER WISP COMMENT it's not his decision!). he also makes sure to remind her that she would have been more than enough for him as a final show of admiration. if only things were different.

Strike a Chord

꩜ sometimes the quietest person in the building can be the most perceptive, especially true for a person like taryn. throughout tessellate, she's struggled to put together who atlas is especially since atlas presented himself as who he thought taryn would like to see. however after some boundaries were set and things were communicated, atlas has slowly started to uncover himself going as far as taryn being the one person he doesn't lie to. so with a lot of truths coming out, this is the moment she speaks freely and reads him like a god damn book. the isolation is crippling, there's desperation to be seen and she could be the one but the fear of losing taryn is enough to solidify his decision. at least his own misery loves company... i'm curious what kind of company it'll bring. hmm.

Final notes!

꩜ i had a lot of fun writing this! conflict can be so difficult to write especially when it's characters you want to see succeed! but i think a lot of tessellate is built off of character development and growth as well as complex situations. while we won't be seeing these two together for a while, i think this final conversation was able to emulate something special. in relationships, there reaches a certain point where two people's mindset become unmovable objects and there is a set mentality that doesn't allow either parties to move forward. neither are wrong, both have valid reasons but to be able to break that down between two characters was so freaking cool!

[outfitqueer]

20 Things We as Trans Wish We Knew Before Transitioning

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

Did you know that the journey of transitioning often reveals lessons that only become clear in hindsight?

When I reached out to fellow trans individuals and asked them what they wished they had known before their transition, here’s what they told me:

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“I wish I had known that self-acceptance takes time. It’s a process that unfolds gradually. It wasn’t something that happened instantly for me.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“I wish I had understood that support comes in many forms. You might not find it where you expect, but new sources of support will appear in unexpected places.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“I never anticipated that my identity would continue to evolve. I thought transitioning would be the end of my self-discovery, but it turned out to be just the beginning.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“If only I had realized that the process isn’t linear. There were so many twists and turns along the way. It’s normal to feel like you’re moving backwards sometimes.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“I wish I had paid more attention to self-care. I didn’t fully grasp how important it was to nurture my mental and emotional health throughout the transition.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“Finding a supportive community earlier would have made a huge difference. I didn’t know how invaluable it would be to connect with others who truly understood me.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“I was caught off guard by how many people wouldn’t understand. If I could do it over, I’d prepare myself for the ignorance and work on being patient and educating others.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“Patience would have been a great ally. Transitioning and gaining acceptance took much longer than I expected. I wish I’d been more patient with myself and others.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“I didn’t expect the emotional highs and lows to be so intense. Recognizing and accepting these fluctuations would have helped me cope better.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“Finding my voice and learning to advocate for myself was crucial. I wish I had realized sooner how empowering it would be to speak up for my needs and experiences.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“I didn’t fully grasp how much transitioning would impact my relationships. If I could go back, I’d be more prepared for these changes and how to navigate them.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“Self-compassion was something I struggled with. I wish I had been kinder to myself during the tough times. It’s important to remember that setbacks are part of the journey.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“Celebrating small victories was something I overlooked. I wish I had focused more on acknowledging and enjoying my achievements along the way.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“Navigating public spaces was more challenging than I had anticipated. I wish I had been better prepared for the complexities and how to handle them.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“Building resilience was essential. I learned that developing inner strength helps in facing challenges and setbacks. I wish I had understood its importance earlier.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“Embracing my unique path was something I had to learn. Comparing my journey to others was unhelpful. I wish I had focused more on my own experience.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“The journey didn’t end with transitioning. Personal growth and self-discovery continued beyond that. I wish I’d known that there’s always more to learn and explore.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“Financial planning is something I wish I’d focused on more. Transitioning came with significant costs, and better budgeting would have eased some of the stress.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“I should have sought out comprehensive legal and medical advice earlier. Having a better understanding from the start would have made many decisions easier.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

“I found that documenting my journey helped me a lot. Keeping a journal or recording my experiences provided a way to process the emotional ups and downs.”

@outfitqueer 🏳️‍⚧️

[winningismyjob]

Finding Your Study Flow: A Quick Guide to Staying Motivated

In the hustle of schoolwork, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and lose sight of why we’re studying in the first place. But remember: your education is more than just a series of tests and assignments, it’s an investment in your future self. Here’s how to stay motivated and keep that study flow going strong.

1. Set Clear Goals

Start with the "why." What are you working towards? Whether it’s acing an exam, landing your dream job, or simply learning something new, having a clear goal will keep you focused. Write it down, visualize it, and remind yourself of it daily.

2. Create a Study Routine

Consistency is key. Establish a routine that works for you, whether it’s studying early in the morning, during lunch breaks, or late at night. Stick to it, and soon it will become second nature.

3. Break It Down

Big tasks can be daunting. Break your study sessions into smaller, manageable chunks. Use the Pomodoro technique, 25 minutes of focused work followed by a 5-minute break, to maintain your energy and focus.

4. Find Your Study Space

Your environment plays a huge role in your productivity. Find a space where you feel comfortable and free from distractions. Whether it’s a cozy corner of your room, a quiet library, or a local café, make it your go-to study spot.

5. Stay Positive

It’s easy to get frustrated when things don’t go as planned. But remember, progress isn’t always linear. Celebrate your small victories and learn from setbacks. Keep a growth mindset, every challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow.

6. Reward Yourself

After a productive study session, treat yourself to something you enjoy. It could be a walk, a favorite snack, or some time on social media. Rewards make studying something to look forward to rather than a chore.

7. Connect with Others

You’re not alone in this. Connect with classmates, join study groups, or find a study buddy. Sharing the journey with others can keep you accountable, provide fresh perspectives, and make studying more enjoyable.

8. Remember Your "Why"

Whenever you feel like giving up, remember why you started. Every hour you put in is a step closer to your goal. Stay focused on the bigger picture, and keep pushing forward.

Studying can be tough, but with the right mindset and strategies, you can make it not just manageable, but enjoyable. Keep your eyes on your goals, stay consistent, and most importantly, believe in yourself. You’ve got this!