#for it to be genuine OR healthy
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the stuff with ralsei wouldn't be the first time toby utilizes sexuality as a reinforcement of narrative, the weird route heavily makes use of heteronormativity and wedding imagery (noelle's white dress, the freeze ring) with kris and noelle (two very queer characters) which furthers the feeling of something being deeply wrong
YEP! that was precisely my point in the first post i made about this. there seems to be a recurring motif in deltarune where uncomfortable romance is forced on kris to represent their lack of agency. their lack of agency towards the player is represented by snowgrave, while their lack of agency towards fate might be represented by ralsei. the wedding imagery with noelle was particularly brilliant in setting this up, all the while firmly establishing her own separate feelings for another character for contrast, someone that actually helps her grow and heal.
#to paraphrase nic in one of our discussions about this: it's not that it would be impossible for kris to pursue a relationship#with any of the other kids their age when the story is over. it's just that as long as the player is controlling them it's just impossible#for it to be genuine OR healthy#yes even if we make every single choice they would've preferred#we're still controlling them#answered asks#deltarune#kris#noelle#entry log
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I think people underestimate how simultaneously reactivating and healing that Slay the Princess can be.
The game is unabashedly anti-abuse, and deconstructs various unhealthy dynamics and behaviors through beautiful, reality-distanced plots.
The characters are shaped by their trauma and forced to interact the best they can under the circumstances, and depict a lot of deronanticization of things like rescue, love at first sight, victim blaming, post-victim lash-outs, and white knighting. It’s an extremely helpful tool of showing what really happens when you bleed out for someone else, push back your feelings, or project onto others.
But it also shows that pain in healthy dosages is a part of being human. You can move on if you’ve hurt as a result of being hurt. It doesn’t define your future. And sure, not everyone will forgive you. Many actions taken simply aren’t justifiable under any means, and the game calls you out for it. You can move on while changing your actions, or else get worse from it if you so desire. It’s extremely human.
#okay to reblog#slay the princess#stp#analysis#stp analysis#I’ve jokingly called it therapy: the game#but quite genuinely this game and my interactions with the fandom therein fucking fixed something within me#and I’ve actively seen likewise with others#like hell yeah#me and the homies learning self care and healthy boundaries#Thorn & Beast so specifically important to me with their route energies#sapphic's shenanigans
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Reading svsss really puts into perspective just how MIRACULOUSLY normal Hua Cheng turned out despite his arguably worse circumstances.
#obviously he's not NORMAL normal but for a man with an 800yo obsession he's very respectful of boundaries and relationships outside of him#the only individual he actually resents for wanting gege's attention is his own fkn scimitar#bro was white knuckle gripping his sanity the whole time#sat meditating in the kiln like “i am healthy i am wealthy i am rich i am that bitch if i take my god for granted i hope i die in a ditch”#this is not binghe bashing im genuinely amazed#heaven official's blessing#tian guan ci fu#tgcf#scum villain self saving system#svsss#mxtx#hua cheng#xie lian#hualian
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Ooh, now that we’ve seen N!Edwin and DP!Edwin talk about Feelings could we see the same with N!Charles and DP!Charles?
As simple as that.
Edwins version
ko-fi
#ask ask ask#dead boy detectives#dbda#payneland#edwin x charles#doom patrol#dead patrol#oof man i was not made to write serious conversations#is this healthy? who the hell knows#but is it true to charles' character?#well i sure hope so!#in dp!charles mind#his whole reason for staying has always been edwin#if he gets to do stay with him#it'll be great no matter what form their relationship takes#if edwin loves him in a romantic way? hell yeah! then they can be even closer!#he is thinking in an 'I am his already since the day he found me' sort of way#and to be honest I think dbd!charles agrees#but he also knows he is a people pleaser so he doesn't want to just go and say yes to edwin to make him happy#without being sure he will be able to keep saying yes forever#dp!charles doesn't have this conflict because i genuinely don't think he's picturing forever#he's not as confident in their ability to outrun Death indefinitely#but that allows him to understand more clearly what he's feeling now!#I have thoughts about these boys as you can see
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i feel like poolverine easily could’ve been one of those “they’re flirty but it’s mostly unserious” situations, and for most of the movie yeah they were extremely gay, but wade’s been like that with other guys and it was never treated as a serious type of relationship before. they’re willing to die for each other, but even then the romantic aspect of their relationship could be glossed over because it’s a superhero movie, that’s just what they do, and they’re working together to save a whole timeline—it’s not just about them. but then the movie doesn’t end with them saving the day and moving on. i think this’s really the part that sells poolverine as a genuine relationship to me… logan’s leaving, and wade calls for him. he can’t stand to let him go. then he introduces him to his family, and logan stays. he doesn’t really need to stay, but they’ve both decided they’re better off with one another than without
#don’t get me wrong#wade and vanessa are going to end up back together again if there’s ever another deadpool movie#and then he’ll lose her again for whatever reason#because that’s just how it goes#ignore the fact that logan tells wade to talk to vanessa and i’d be convinced that the ending was supposed to imply them being canon tbh#not gonna delude myself into believing poolverine will ever be genuinely and seriously canon#but shippingwise#i think this’s why i’ve latched onto poolverine despite some of the similarities between cable & logan#with cable it was never gonna be serious#despite it being fun to ship them and enjoy their dynamic#but#with logan… storywise… it makes so much sense for them to be endgame#they both were at terrible points in their lives and really needed each other#not just to fix each other’s problems. but they needed someone who was so on their own level that they could fix each other#not in a healthy way. but#yknow#anyway#idk i’m kinda rambling about nothing here#deadpool and wolverine#deadpool#wolverine#wade wilson#logan#um#logan howlett#<- ….i guess#poolverine#deadclaws
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You don't need to believe that people as a whole are good or well-intentioned to be an optimist about fixing climate change.
A lot of the time, it's enough to trust in this: people hate being screwed over. And even more than that, they hate feeling screwed over.
Climate change is actively screwing over almost every single person on this planet, whether they know it or not. We just need to keep making sure that people do know that they're getting screwed over, along with all their loved ones, and who's doing it.
Spite and righteous anger will honestly do a lot of the rest.
#hope#good news#hope posting#climate change#climate optimism#life#not news#advice#me#human nature#like. obviously this is imho. but also I'm genuinely convinced that I'm right#spite and anger are powerful motivators#there are scientists who argue that anger's whole evolutionary purpose#is to keep us from being screwed over#because that's so vital to our survival#and what's more vital to our survival than a liveable planet???#channel your anger into action#do not let anyone tell you that optimism or being an activist or being part of a healthy community means never being angry#that is so so untrue#and if you find a way to channel your anger and pain and grief to do GOOD in the world#to help people#then that will also do a lot to stop your emotions from eating you up inside#hopepunk#anger#spite#optimism#hopeposting#humanity
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Guess who finally heard what Knockout said to Optimus in TFP ?!!?! (me)
#this has been all an elaborate ruse on myself to draw knockout#im doing breakbee cowboys tommorow dont worry#transformers#maccadam#tf optimus prime#tfe optimus prime#optimus prime#orion pax#tfe megatron#tf megatron#megatron#megop#tfe megop#megatron x optimus prime#optimus x megatron#tfp knockout#knockout#transformers knockout#doctor knockout#i can make knockout say other things if you guys want i have some ideas open to suggestions#honestly i genuinely believe knockout would be a big supporter of healthy communication about things like this hes so :3#do not call Megatron chad megatron i taped eva foam to my face and took pictures like that so i could get the angles right PLEASE D:#i love you big nose megatron#transformers prime#kinda#tfp#tfp spoilers#earthspark
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Here's my controversial opinion; if you're trying to write Bruce as a non-abusive, good parent, you should also write him respecting his kids' privacy, boundaries, and not stalking&surveying them.
#my dc posting#dc#batfamily#batman#bruce wayne#dick grayson#jason todd#tim drake#damian wayne#looking thru ur kids phone tracking them giving them no privacy etc etc is deeply damaging#but yall aint ready for the ''stalking is their love language' is super toxic' conversation </3#also can we retire the JL being completely chill about it. 'batman just knows things' not being bothered their secret identities were found#out etc can we. stop coddling the batfam#i just need someone anytime to please just call them out like 'hey dont fucking surveil me' like that is actually extremely unethical#and its frankly not hard to write a batman who doesnt invade his kids privacy n boundaries etc#controversially when reading fic where theyre supposed to be healthy n getting along i want to actually feel like its deserved n good for t#hem#instead of sitting there going 'woo thats toxic' 'oh that even worse' 'why are we passing over all that'. like i dont wanna be thinkin they#should go no-contact when its supposed to be fuffy n good :(#like if you can write away the hitting n other abuse why is this the one thing that just must always stay#like genuinely it aint hard to write a parent not stalking their children. actually maybe i should remind you all that stalking is not good#or funny#like i feel like w all the joking some of us are actually forgetting its not good. ever. like absolutely never dont stalk ppl#eh idk. this is why i cant stay in any one fandom too long bc i start developing Opinions which inevitably make me hostile to like#90% of the fandom's content 😔
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sabédala is awesome when you lean away from viewing it as the healthy alternative for padmé and lean towards how deeply psychologically weird everything about it is. i love you inherent hierarchy i love you dog/handler dynamic i love you coexistence of romantic desire and sisterly devotion and straight up power imbalance i love you unhealthily losing your sense of self in another person i love you unequal investment
#genuinely nothing about that dynamic is normal or healthy and it rules#sabedala#sabédala#sabé#padmé amidala#padme amidala#star wars#keat.txt
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Five Pebbles is so funny. Shoutout to characters who learn to prioritize compassion but still have the same deep-rooted self-actualization and self-worth issues they always had. Shoutout to characters who use compassion as a bludgeon to hurt themselves with under the guise of self-sacrifice. Shoutout to the guilt that drives one to heap blame upon themself until they feel the only way to atone is through punishment. That’s just as much about inflicting misery upon yourself as it is about helping the person you hurt. Get therapy king.
#rain world#rw five pebbles#rw fp#rw spoilers#This is kind of how I’ve always viewed the rarefraction cell thing tbh. Like I love love love that Moon’s initial reaction is negative.#You don’t understand how much I love that.#But yeah I like Five Pebbles arc. It’s not a fully healthy one imo? Not that his starting point was healthy either.#‘Instead of making myself miserable under the guise of the great problem#I will instead make myself miserable under the guise of rectifying my mistakes.’#Truly what a guy.#none of this is meant to undercut the sacrifice he made btw. it’s a genuinely sweet gesture#but I think not enough people acknowledge it’s also not necessarily a. healthy progression for him mentally
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if you want people to get into the canon comics and lead everyone away from fanon misinterpretation (which is a losing battle because there will ALWAYS be this) then why not be helpful instead of being a dick about it 🤨
the comics are hard to get into because it's hard to know where to start, and there's so much content that people are able to fill themselves in by reading fanfic or watching something on tiktok or seeing posts about it on here. perhaps instead of telling people they're stupid for not realizing your favorite character is being mishandled by others, you could write up a list of your favorite comics and/or how, if you could read them for the first time again, you would order your favorite comics to get the best reading experience. and also write your own fanfiction and draw your own fanart or make a passionate post, answer questions politely
#this is based on that one tiktok user who is actually doing some good#where they are fighting misinterpretation of batfam characters by making informational slideshows#i forgot their username so if someone knows who i'm talking about would be really cool and awesome if you could remind me :3#i saw their posts and was like “wow someone who can talk about canon and their opinions without just complaining”#proactive and i like it#on the other hand sometimes there is a healthy medium and it won't kill canon lovers to let people have some fun#it's not hard to be nice guys you just don't call people stupid and you ask questions#and i don't mean passive aggressive questions#i mean a genuine conversation without getting butthurt#i'm looking at BOTH sides when i say that#anyways if you want to#use this post to list your favorite comics and/or how you would advise someone to read your favorite character#etc etc#ik there are lists online#but this could also be a place to find it#dc#dc comics#batman#batfam#batman comics#batman and robin#ao3#ao3 fanfic#fandom#dc fandom#comic book#comics order#dc reading list#batman reading list#canon vs fanon
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I NEED people to understand that Silco was not gaining power for the sake of gaining power but so that once an opportunity arose to negotiate for Zaun’s independence he had leverage against the council because he had become what the council feared: a zaunite with enough power to be a threat to theirs.
(and who has an active vendetta against Piltover. and who was willing to do anything to achieve his goals. and who made the undercity such a nuisance that the council just didn’t want to deal with anymore so they’re willing to let it go)
#do his methods foster a healthy environment to culminate a nation from? HELL NO#but he genuinely believes it is the only way to actually successfully get Piltover to free Zaun#and he is tunnel visioned#only being able to see through his corrupted eye#to get an independent Zaun by any means necessary#arcane#arcane critical#arcane silco#silco#arcane league of legends#arcane season 1#paranalysis
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I’m sending this anonymously but this is NOT anon hate
You are such a good person, i think. Your latest post(as of 4:10pm Arizona, US time) spoke to me really hard. My father is a cop, in the united states, arizona, duh. And he used to be such a good person, he was a security guard and a damn good one too, and later in he became a prison guard because it paid better, and then he joined the police force.
I’d like to think that hes one of the good ones, and for the most part he is. A lot of my delinquent friends over the years who’ve had run-ins with him say that he gets them breaks, he takes care of them, hes a good cop. I’ve even seen body camera footage of him in the field and i’m proud to say that hes my dad. He calls out bad actors where he sees them, and he gets punished for it. He doesnt see the system or how his punishments are by design. And he continues turning in his cog, begrudgingly, and slightly out of time, but he thinks hes making a difference
Sorry for the ramble and essay, i just wanted to say that i really like your blog and i think you are a very nice human being. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
P.s. i’m totally basing an oc off of your outlook on security. You strike me as more of a superhero than a security guard.
-🦕 anon
Oh, that’s a super flattering take and a valuable perspective- so thank you! But I’m a gullible dumbass, and not even an incredibly smart or fit one- I just want people to be happy and safe. That’s all. And I don’t want to BE a cop, I’ve NEVER wanted to be a cop, but every time the request comes around I feel like I’m wearing down.
I keep wondering if I could help MORE in a position like that.
Probably like your dad did.
Here, people know they’re safe with me because I shut down the gunhappy jerks, but I don’t know how long it would take to truly make a difference in public security, or how many of my morals I’d have to compromise to get to that point
I feel objectively like a system so archaic and flawed can’t be changed from the inside, but another part of me says that you don’t need to change an entire system to make a difference where it counts
I believe that so many bad situations and life-changing moments can be diverted or changed by a single person in the right place at the right time- and I figure, if I trust myself to do the right thing and BE the right person, shouldn’t I do my best to put myself in those places?
But good intentions, roads to hell, you know? I don’t WANT to be a cop. But I want to be able to DO SOMETHING about the thinks I dislike seeing in conflicts. SOMEONE has to be willing to do that, right?
I’m not religious, you know? But the devil can be very convincing
#I don’t trust cops#I’ve met bad cops#but a lot of bad things have been done by people in systems of power willing to go against orders#And boy howdy am I good at going against orders#And I like people#I genuinely like people#The hero thing is very kind of you#But mostly I just like feeling like I can make things better#We all need to believe that we can make things better#idk#I’ve met shit cops#But ive also met shit guards#And here I am as a guard#stealing their place#so as long as I’m here#they can’t be#I outrank the bastards now#So they have no power#Is that a healthy five year plan#or do I need to talk to my therapist some more#Fuck my life I’m tired#Do you think your dad was a good person anon?#Do you think he made the world better?#Teablart#tagging for later
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Damian has favorites
Damian absolutely has favorite siblings, he actually goes out of his way to rank them using a method that lets their rank change depending on several different factors.
The first time Dick saw the list he left Gotham for a week to cry because he wasn't even on it and thought Damian was somehow disowning him until Barbara dragged him back to Gotham and made them actually communicate (terrifying, I know.) (It turned out it was just as simple as Dick was that much of a dad to Damian that it genuinely didn't occur to him to lump him in with his siblings)
As of current, the list goes;
Duke
Stephanie
Cass
Jason
Tim
Jarro
The placement of Jason, Cass, Tim and Jarro changes based on what they've done for him that week, how often he's seen them, if they've upset Father or Richard, any failings vigilante-wise, and mainly the idea of 'If they saw this ranking, would I be embarrassed about it?'.
Duke and Steph are permanently in the top two spots, with their spots only swapping depending on how much Damian has seen and talked to them that day.
Patroled with Duke but Steph took him out for milkshakes and to annoy Bruce? Number one spot goes to her.
Duke takes him out for a ride on his motorcycle during his lunch period at school? Number one spot goes to him.
It's very notable that the list dictates his behavior to his siblings. Whoever's in the top spot? He'll let them carry him as if he's a fucked up cat with barely a complaint if they want to. They earned that. Five and below? He is actively pouring sand into their beds.
Steph is vaguely aware of the list but honestly thinks she's near the bottom or something. Tim is hyper-aware of it but doesn't know what the criteria are and keeps getting really competitive trying to get into the top 2 at least once, and he keeps failing miserably.
#duke thomas#jason#bruce#cass#damian#damian wayne#damian wayne al ghul#dick grayson#batfam#batfamily#Contrary to popular belief this actually helps his relationships with his siblings#Because he has to sit and genuinely think on whether they deserved their spots or not#It does make his grudges so much fucking worse though#Cause he sat on it for awhile then was like 'No you WERE being an ass and now you're 6th for the month.'#stephanie brown#steph brown#Dick honestly isn't sure this is healthy but at Damian's age he was beating criminals up instead of therapy#So maybe this is completely normal for kids with siblings#Cass doesn't know there's like an actual psychical list but she's vaguely aware that he ranks them sometimes#She's unsure of whether or not to call him out on it but ultimately decided watching Tim go feral trying to be top 3 is the funnier#So she just watches this shit go down#And doesn't tell Tim that he DOES break top 3 sometimes#but only when he's not trying#And some point Tim lets on thathe knows#and makes several pointed comments about being more decisive with choosing who the best sibling was#The only thing this does is make him split everyone into their real names and vigilante persona#And it actually gets Tim (and Red Robin) FURTHER down on the list more often.
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I really need to shut up about Izzy Hands but can I just say I am so happy he's doing better. For like two entire episodes he was drunk, disheveled, and practically dying. His original peg leg broke. His hair was in his face. He looked like he was on the brink of losing it. He was berating his own reflection.
The crew coming together to help him really did seem to help him immensely. He's coping with the new leg, he's put together. The bottle of drink that was in his hand is completely gone. He's sharpening his skills, he's speaking coherently. I never thought I'd be happy to see Izzy Hands healthy and thriving, but I am, and I'm so relieved that the crew of the Revenge supported him when he needed them.
#genuinely touched while also laughing forever that they called him their unicorn#he's been mascot-ified#BUT! he's alive and healthy and I didn't think I'd be near tears thinking about that#how dare they make me care about Izzy#Izzy Hands#ofmd#ofmd spoilers#ofmd s2 spoilers#ofmd s2#our flag means death
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no, because - famous person starts dating less famous person and is then gradually overshadowed is a trope. a trope often used to bring external conflict into stories. but jack and bitty are carefully constructed as the opposite of that, and I'm fucking feral over it.
we joke about how jack will eventually be bitty's trophy husband and be thrilled about it, but it definitely has a giant grain of truth in it. it's how they're characterized. bitty is an extrovert; jack is an introvert. bitty reached out and built himself an online audience to deal with his trauma; jack shut himself out and started avoiding the public to deal with his.
bitty finds comfort in being able to talk to others and (as seen in spotlight on eric bittle) considers being a public figure a sort of healing experience: coming out and being a public person (in every manner of speaking, not just sexuality wise) and putting himself in the limelight is such an important part of his journey because he sees it as a way of helping others who were in his situation.
jack grew up in the spotlight as the only son of two prominent figures. he grew up as a child with anxiety with the media's eyes on him as he was compared to his father. he grew up as an overweight teen featuring in trashy gossip columns as he was compared to his mother. he got into rehab in part because of this attention and it only attracted more attention to him. a lot of jack's anxiety stems from the notion of people looking at him and thinking about him and talking about him and judging him, and it's unfortunate because jack's dream is to play hockey, and that comes with even more attention.
but that's the thing: jack and bitty's story is (once again) a demonstration of two people making each other's lives better.
jack's fame thrusts bitty into the spotlight post-cup, and it's a giant push forward in helping him reach a bigger audience and thus grow his independent fame. bitty's growing fame slowly overshadows jack, to the point where ngozi says they'll one day be Eric Bittle and his Athlete Husband. and that means jack gets to play hockey, and win cups, and achieve fame in his own field, but the media's attention slides off him to his husband, and the fans on the street gradually approach bitty more than him, and jack is free to have his success with less of the personal scrutiny.
it's not that jack becomes less important than bitty. it's that bitty gets to stand in front of the direct sun and flourish as a result, while jack gets to stand in the shade bitty creates and flourish as a result. it's symbiosis. it's beautiful.
#omgcp#omgcheckplease#zimbits#watch me write this post as the into to my three part essay series:#Enough Talking About Bad Bob; Let's Talk About Growing Up As A Conventionally Unattractive Child Of A Model/Actress#I genuinely don't understand how ugly baby jack and fat teen jack aren't talked about more#do NOT tell me fatphobia did not affect jack's childhood. I simply do not believe it for a second#anyway zimbits are the true love blueprint they invented healthy relationships etc. etc.#meta#text
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