#for it to be genuine OR healthy
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the stuff with ralsei wouldn't be the first time toby utilizes sexuality as a reinforcement of narrative, the weird route heavily makes use of heteronormativity and wedding imagery (noelle's white dress, the freeze ring) with kris and noelle (two very queer characters) which furthers the feeling of something being deeply wrong
YEP! that was precisely my point in the first post i made about this. there seems to be a recurring motif in deltarune where uncomfortable romance is forced on kris to represent their lack of agency. their lack of agency towards the player is represented by snowgrave, while their lack of agency towards fate might be represented by ralsei. the wedding imagery with noelle was particularly brilliant in setting this up, all the while firmly establishing her own separate feelings for another character for contrast, someone that actually helps her grow and heal.
#to paraphrase nic in one of our discussions about this: it's not that it would be impossible for kris to pursue a relationship#with any of the other kids their age when the story is over. it's just that as long as the player is controlling them it's just impossible#for it to be genuine OR healthy#yes even if we make every single choice they would've preferred#we're still controlling them#answered asks#deltarune#kris#noelle#entry log
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Reading svsss really puts into perspective just how MIRACULOUSLY normal Hua Cheng turned out despite his arguably worse circumstances.
#obviously he's not NORMAL normal but for a man with an 800yo obsession he's very respectful of boundaries and relationships outside of him#the only individual he actually resents for wanting gege's attention is his own fkn scimitar#bro was white knuckle gripping his sanity the whole time#sat meditating in the kiln like “i am healthy i am wealthy i am rich i am that bitch if i take my god for granted i hope i die in a ditch”#this is not binghe bashing im genuinely amazed#heaven official's blessing#tian guan ci fu#tgcf#scum villain self saving system#svsss#mxtx#hua cheng#xie lian#hualian
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Ooh, now that we’ve seen N!Edwin and DP!Edwin talk about Feelings could we see the same with N!Charles and DP!Charles?
As simple as that.
Edwins version
ko-fi
#ask ask ask#dead boy detectives#dbda#payneland#edwin x charles#doom patrol#dead patrol#oof man i was not made to write serious conversations#is this healthy? who the hell knows#but is it true to charles' character?#well i sure hope so!#in dp!charles mind#his whole reason for staying has always been edwin#if he gets to do stay with him#it'll be great no matter what form their relationship takes#if edwin loves him in a romantic way? hell yeah! then they can be even closer!#he is thinking in an 'I am his already since the day he found me' sort of way#and to be honest I think dbd!charles agrees#but he also knows he is a people pleaser so he doesn't want to just go and say yes to edwin to make him happy#without being sure he will be able to keep saying yes forever#dp!charles doesn't have this conflict because i genuinely don't think he's picturing forever#he's not as confident in their ability to outrun Death indefinitely#but that allows him to understand more clearly what he's feeling now!#I have thoughts about these boys as you can see
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i feel like poolverine easily could’ve been one of those “they’re flirty but it’s mostly unserious” situations, and for most of the movie yeah they were extremely gay, but wade’s been like that with other guys and it was never treated as a serious type of relationship before. they’re willing to die for each other, but even then the romantic aspect of their relationship could be glossed over because it’s a superhero movie, that’s just what they do, and they’re working together to save a whole timeline—it’s not just about them. but then the movie doesn’t end with them saving the day and moving on. i think this’s really the part that sells poolverine as a genuine relationship to me… logan’s leaving, and wade calls for him. he can’t stand to let him go. then he introduces him to his family, and logan stays. he doesn’t really need to stay, but they’ve both decided they’re better off with one another than without
#don’t get me wrong#wade and vanessa are going to end up back together again if there’s ever another deadpool movie#and then he’ll lose her again for whatever reason#because that’s just how it goes#ignore the fact that logan tells wade to talk to vanessa and i’d be convinced that the ending was supposed to imply them being canon tbh#not gonna delude myself into believing poolverine will ever be genuinely and seriously canon#but shippingwise#i think this’s why i’ve latched onto poolverine despite some of the similarities between cable & logan#with cable it was never gonna be serious#despite it being fun to ship them and enjoy their dynamic#but#with logan… storywise… it makes so much sense for them to be endgame#they both were at terrible points in their lives and really needed each other#not just to fix each other’s problems. but they needed someone who was so on their own level that they could fix each other#not in a healthy way. but#yknow#anyway#idk i’m kinda rambling about nothing here#deadpool and wolverine#deadpool#wolverine#wade wilson#logan#um#logan howlett#<- ….i guess#poolverine#deadclaws
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You don't need to believe that people as a whole are good or well-intentioned to be an optimist about fixing climate change.
A lot of the time, it's enough to trust in this: people hate being screwed over. And even more than that, they hate feeling screwed over.
Climate change is actively screwing over almost every single person on this planet, whether they know it or not. We just need to keep making sure that people do know that they're getting screwed over, along with all their loved ones, and who's doing it.
Spite and righteous anger will honestly do a lot of the rest.
#hope#good news#hope posting#climate change#climate optimism#life#not news#advice#me#human nature#like. obviously this is imho. but also I'm genuinely convinced that I'm right#spite and anger are powerful motivators#there are scientists who argue that anger's whole evolutionary purpose#is to keep us from being screwed over#because that's so vital to our survival#and what's more vital to our survival than a liveable planet???#channel your anger into action#do not let anyone tell you that optimism or being an activist or being part of a healthy community means never being angry#that is so so untrue#and if you find a way to channel your anger and pain and grief to do GOOD in the world#to help people#then that will also do a lot to stop your emotions from eating you up inside#hopepunk#anger#spite#optimism#hopeposting#humanity
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Here's my controversial opinion; if you're trying to write Bruce as a non-abusive, good parent, you should also write him respecting his kids' privacy, boundaries, and not stalking&surveying them.
#my dc posting#dc#batfamily#batman#bruce wayne#dick grayson#jason todd#tim drake#damian wayne#looking thru ur kids phone tracking them giving them no privacy etc etc is deeply damaging#but yall aint ready for the ''stalking is their love language' is super toxic' conversation </3#also can we retire the JL being completely chill about it. 'batman just knows things' not being bothered their secret identities were found#out etc can we. stop coddling the batfam#i just need someone anytime to please just call them out like 'hey dont fucking surveil me' like that is actually extremely unethical#and its frankly not hard to write a batman who doesnt invade his kids privacy n boundaries etc#controversially when reading fic where theyre supposed to be healthy n getting along i want to actually feel like its deserved n good for t#hem#instead of sitting there going 'woo thats toxic' 'oh that even worse' 'why are we passing over all that'. like i dont wanna be thinkin they#should go no-contact when its supposed to be fuffy n good :(#like if you can write away the hitting n other abuse why is this the one thing that just must always stay#like genuinely it aint hard to write a parent not stalking their children. actually maybe i should remind you all that stalking is not good#or funny#like i feel like w all the joking some of us are actually forgetting its not good. ever. like absolutely never dont stalk ppl#eh idk. this is why i cant stay in any one fandom too long bc i start developing Opinions which inevitably make me hostile to like#90% of the fandom's content 😔
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I really need to shut up about Izzy Hands but can I just say I am so happy he's doing better. For like two entire episodes he was drunk, disheveled, and practically dying. His original peg leg broke. His hair was in his face. He looked like he was on the brink of losing it. He was berating his own reflection.
The crew coming together to help him really did seem to help him immensely. He's coping with the new leg, he's put together. The bottle of drink that was in his hand is completely gone. He's sharpening his skills, he's speaking coherently. I never thought I'd be happy to see Izzy Hands healthy and thriving, but I am, and I'm so relieved that the crew of the Revenge supported him when he needed them.
#genuinely touched while also laughing forever that they called him their unicorn#he's been mascot-ified#BUT! he's alive and healthy and I didn't think I'd be near tears thinking about that#how dare they make me care about Izzy#Izzy Hands#ofmd#ofmd spoilers#ofmd s2 spoilers#ofmd s2#our flag means death
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sabédala is awesome when you lean away from viewing it as the healthy alternative for padmé and lean towards how deeply psychologically weird everything about it is. i love you inherent hierarchy i love you dog/handler dynamic i love you coexistence of romantic desire and sisterly devotion and straight up power imbalance i love you unhealthily losing your sense of self in another person i love you unequal investment
#genuinely nothing about that dynamic is normal or healthy and it rules#sabedala#sabédala#sabé#padmé amidala#padme amidala#star wars#keat.txt
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no, because - famous person starts dating less famous person and is then gradually overshadowed is a trope. a trope often used to bring external conflict into stories. but jack and bitty are carefully constructed as the opposite of that, and I'm fucking feral over it.
we joke about how jack will eventually be bitty's trophy husband and be thrilled about it, but it definitely has a giant grain of truth in it. it's how they're characterized. bitty is an extrovert; jack is an introvert. bitty reached out and built himself an online audience to deal with his trauma; jack shut himself out and started avoiding the public to deal with his.
bitty finds comfort in being able to talk to others and (as seen in spotlight on eric bittle) considers being a public figure a sort of healing experience: coming out and being a public person (in every manner of speaking, not just sexuality wise) and putting himself in the limelight is such an important part of his journey because he sees it as a way of helping others who were in his situation.
jack grew up in the spotlight as the only son of two prominent figures. he grew up as a child with anxiety with the media's eyes on him as he was compared to his father. he grew up as an overweight teen featuring in trashy gossip columns as he was compared to his mother. he got into rehab in part because of this attention and it only attracted more attention to him. a lot of jack's anxiety stems from the notion of people looking at him and thinking about him and talking about him and judging him, and it's unfortunate because jack's dream is to play hockey, and that comes with even more attention.
but that's the thing: jack and bitty's story is (once again) a demonstration of two people making each other's lives better.
jack's fame thrusts bitty into the spotlight post-cup, and it's a giant push forward in helping him reach a bigger audience and thus grow his independent fame. bitty's growing fame slowly overshadows jack, to the point where ngozi says they'll one day be Eric Bittle and his Athlete Husband. and that means jack gets to play hockey, and win cups, and achieve fame in his own field, but the media's attention slides off him to his husband, and the fans on the street gradually approach bitty more than him, and jack is free to have his success with less of the personal scrutiny.
it's not that jack becomes less important than bitty. it's that bitty gets to stand in front of the direct sun and flourish as a result, while jack gets to stand in the shade bitty creates and flourish as a result. it's symbiosis. it's beautiful.
#omgcp#omgcheckplease#zimbits#watch me write this post as the into to my three part essay series:#Enough Talking About Bad Bob; Let's Talk About Growing Up As A Conventionally Unattractive Child Of A Model/Actress#I genuinely don't understand how ugly baby jack and fat teen jack aren't talked about more#do NOT tell me fatphobia did not affect jack's childhood. I simply do not believe it for a second#anyway zimbits are the true love blueprint they invented healthy relationships etc. etc.#meta#text
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The Sun and The Star is so good when you don’t have a rat who hates happiness whispering in your ear that that it reads like fan fiction
#like the symbolism in TSATs??#the characterization???#genuinely incredible I love this book so much#I’m so hype for the sequel#PLUS A BOOK SHOWING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP CAN STRUGGLE??#MARK OSHIRO THE WRITER YOU ARE#YOU WILL BE IN MY PYRAMID WHEN I DIE#pjo#the sun and the star#will solace#nico di angelo
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episode six's vaggie-as-an-angel reveal actually clarifies a lot of things about her dynamic with charlie that i previously found uninteresting or underutilized. it's clear that she has some kind of loyalty/utility complex founded on her low self-esteem, which absolutely makes sense if she used to be an exorcist. she comes from a place where blind obedience is key, and a single act of mercy got her cast out and brutalized—of course she would latch onto the first person who showed her kindness and love. of course it makes sense that she would become fixated on the idea of "repenting" for her past violence against charlie's home by devoting herself to protecting charlie's dreams. their relationship wasn't very compelling to me before but this adds so many delicious dimensions to it; if charlie was the one who found vaggie and took her in, who earned her trust and fell in love with her, then of course vaggie would see charlie as the center of her universe, and would see failing charlie as a reflection of her own worthlessness. and it would never occur to her to tell charlie the truth once she found out how charlie feels about angels, because she loves charlie too much to risk earning her hatred or scorn (even though i don't believe charlie could ever hate her).
#and none of this takes away from the fact that they are a genuinely healthy and loving couple either. multiple things can be true at once#i'm just excited for their relationship to have tumult and difficulty finally#charlie morningstar#vaggie#chaggie#hazbin hotel#starmoth
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idk who needs to hear this rn but i know i did when i was first starting out on this blog so here it is: the experience of engaging with fandom becomes exponentially more enjoyable once you realise that nothing you post or think about really relates to dnp as human beings in their real lives. the awareness of our parasociality is actually so critical to the enjoyment of *gestures broadly to the tumblr phandom ecosystem* this, at least imo. because once i understood that this idea of dan and phil that i interact with, analyse, discuss and make jokes about is, in fact, just an IDEA, a semi-fictional semi-embellished PRODUCT that they have both put out into the public as professional comedians and personalities - i became free to completely enjoy it for what it is. a thing that's MEANT to be analysed, and joked about, and obsessed over, the same way someone can obsess over a book character that's been intentionally crafted for a specific purpose and nobody gives a damn about it.
the difference lies in how we actually CAN'T detrimentally affect a book character by shoving our obsession in their face, whereas in fandoms of real life people that is an actual danger. and that's where the awareness of our parasociality with dnp comes in again, and where we have to draw the line ourselves.
but on YOUR side of the line, ie where dnp won't venture, where you're not harming anyone? you can have fun. and it's okay
#again just my opinion#but this is something i personally needed to hear when i started out#and is maybe also pertinent to all the discourse happening on twt rn? idk enough about that tho#as usual if you have a diff opinion etc i am all ears <3#and i know dnp do genuinely care about us and share a lot of themselves with us. but i feel like keeping yourself aware of -#- the ELEMENT of fictionalisation that they have to put themselves through to have a properly healthy relationship with their followers#is good and makes the whole thing better for you! and all of us. just imo#dan and phil#dnp#phan#rambles
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it's a pet peeve of mine when ppl frame Andrew as hating Aaron and being needlessly cruel to him... bc while yes, their relationship is fractured and strained, Andrew genuinely cares about his brother and wants the best for him, he just doesn't know how to show that in a normal way.
like he might not know how to express it in a healthy manner but Andrew LOVES Aaron, like he truly just wants Aaron to be healthy and safe. It's like, his whole Thing. Aaron is one of the most important people in his life. Andrew wants him around. He'd do anything to protect him.
I guarantee Andrew wants to be emotionally close to Aaron too, he just doesn't have the tools to do that and the thought of letting someone in terrifies him. He also has no concept of what a healthy sibling relationship looks like, so he has no frame of reference to work from.
#i love bickering twinyards as much as the next guy but sometimes ppl write andrew has if he thinks aaron is a waste of space#and that just isn't true#andrew values his brother#he wouldn't insist on keeping aaron close if he didn't#when ppl do this is just so obvious to me that they're using andrew as a mouthpiece for their own dislike of aaron#and like ok yeah you're entitled to not like a character i guess#but it's just so wildly out of character to me for andrew to treat aaron like shit for no reason beyond Being Cruel#like yeah andrew can be mean when he's feeling defensive or trying to make a point#and yeah he can treat people like shit if he's got a reason to justify it like Keeping People Safe#but he's not needlessly cruel to the people closest to him without cause#like neil says#everything andrew does#he does For A Reason#even neil isn't needlessly mean to aaron tbh#like he doesn't like aaron much at certain points but if he picks a fight with aaron it's never without cause#and he's genuinely happy for aaron when things work out with katelyn in the end#and he wants aaron to have a relationship with andrew as well! like it's important to neil that the twins have a healthy bond!!#anyway im getting off my soapbox now this is just something i was thinking about today a Lot#aftg#all for the game#the foxhole court
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I am so entirely serious, I'm gonna need future BL to take SO many notes about the relationships in this show
the way this one simple line tells us so much about how much Fang loves his brother while also acknowledging that sometimes we need someone outside of our family to turn to. the way this moment also tells us how much he cares about Tan even if he might not always be the best at showing it. the way they're all just there for each other.
this show genuinely fills my heart with so much joy it's insane.
#this show so far is genuinely all i've ever been hoping for from a silly little college bl#we don't always need insane drama. sometimes characters just being kind and healthy and a family is more than enough#straw watches things#we are the series#we are liveblog#straw's stray thoughts
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collection of met gear stuff, new and old 👍
#lemondoodlrr#mgs#metal gear solid#genuinely don't remember what i have and haven't posted already#i'm getting things mixed up with instagram#anyways#i think about bibo/venom's little collar communication thing a healthy amount#hi kaz#and hi everyone else i guess#i thought about posting all of these separately but i am so impatient
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Peter is honestly only still alive cuz they love him too much
#the real ghostbusters#rgb#ghostbusters#egon spengler#ray stantz#peter venkman#winston zeddemore#bro knows he’s gonna face NNNO consequences for this whatsoever#he isn’t even bothered#relationship so healthy you genuinely fuck up in a highly serious situation and everyone just moves on#my family could never lmao
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