#fictive issues

[the-spiral-collective]

hey dallas, i think you’re so so so adorable and just the best guy, do you have a girlfriend??

This is ur daily reminder fictives are not their source you may know the character Dallas Winston but you don’t know our Dallas fictive, or us in general it might be cool to see something by a fictive of a character you like however questions like this make us and lots of other systems uncomfortable

-arrow/charlie

[syunkiss]

i really want to draw me x hollew but i dont want it to be tagged as a crosship

[oopsallsyscourse]

Hey there!

I'm going to start by saying that source attachment is not inherently unhealthy, though it can be if taken to a certain extent. Things like not being able to separate your feelings for people you miss from fictionkins and fictives (while also still being allowed to process that loss) and not being able to recognize you are both in a different body and in a different world. I would also argue that you need to recognize that the body has not gone through trauma you've gone through in pseudo memories, but that's more for the sake of not claiming trauma you can't, and processing that trauma as if it was real is perfectly healthy.

As far as source distance goes, it would be a lot more helpful to understand what you're struggling with, but I understand if you do not wish to share that.

As far as becoming more source distanced, there's a lot of simple things you can do. Things like changing your name, trying new hobbies, making relationships with people not connected with your source, and just generally making a life outside of your source can go a long way. Generally, recognizing you are far more than just your source is a good place to start.

I could also recommend a few big things, but those tend to be triggering if you're still starting to separate yourself.

Seeking for help with source detachment in this website is hell

I'm very attached to source right now because it's what happens when I'm triggered or stressed. It is not healthy for me, but I cannot help it. That's why I want help on how to detach from it

And every post talking about it is "source attachment is evil and anti recovery, you need to disregard your source and see all your memories as fake if you want to Heal ♥️ also do it for my convenience. Please feel ashamed for being attached to source (because it's a terrible choice you made)! xx"

Well that's surely gonna help me recover! Thanks!

[fictionkinfessions]

its all "i support fictives/fictionkin no matter the source!" until theyre an "evil" character or have a "problematic" source and/or wont source separate i swear...

[kiruyeen]

(this is art of a fictive, we're pretty chill with most interpertations and assumptions regarding that but please interact with that in mind)

I wanted to draw myself a lil bit :] I have so many memories that dont necessarily fit canon that Id LOVE to talk about if I felt I wouldnt be looked down upon for it not fitting canon. but I might, with silly little doodles. -Aster (purple2)

[zombie-boygrrl]

Splitting on a Favourite Person feels like grief personified.

Even when they claim they love you, the reality of the situation is that you are too much for them, and they can never provide you with what you actually need to survive.

So when they say, or do, the wrong thing, it feels like fucking betrayal, abandonment, an admission of your failures as human being.

And every time they fall from grace, I pick them back up, to place on that throne.

But I cannot keep doing this.

It is fucking killing me, and I know I will still be writhing in agony when they leave.

[mushr00m-collective]

JEKYLL GET YOUR FUCKING CREATION BEFORE HE IRREPARABLY DESTROYS A BRIDGE

Holding back a fictive of Edward Hyde from going off on someone is a terrifying experience cause “he doesn’t bite” MILO WAS STABBED AND BEATEN????

[psychology-department]

Hey can we like leave Fictionkin, Fictives or Irls of problematic media alone

It is not an excuse to harass fictives or irls or fictionkin from anything the creator is making or has made, they cannot control their source or media. Just because our media has problematic creator make doesn't make us a bad person. An author's actions towards others doesn't define who we are. Leave us the fuck alone. Stop sending us death threats. Stop forcing names onto us. Fuck the creator. We are our own people with our own lives and we are not defined by how they wrote our kintypes to be.

[rottkitt]

“ if i died in the middle of a frozen night, would you feel alright? would you be alright? ”

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hey guys………, ugghhhh me trying to listen to Stay Behind, Dirty Town, Arms Tonite (OH MY GOODDDDDDDD. THAT ONE.), Back To Life, and Burning Pile trying not to think about either of them (and failing (MISERABLY)) why are they so wet dogs core. doomed yaouri. oHH MY GOD BOTTOM BY MCCAFFEETY JUST STARTED PLAYING AS I WAS WRITING THIS IM GONNA FUCKING SCR EA,MMMMM???? “hey man i miss your collar bones i miss the way your skin feels on my collar bones” i might be unwell about this. they make me sixk disgusting little. little tthings.. /aff

reblogs over likes please !

( all intended ship but can be platonic ::} )

[the-fictive-haven]

When there's doubles in your system and you can never tell who's talking to who

[ruifictiveagere]

Taking Care of Chronic Littles! Hospital Advice :)

~ in recent events, we've realized that there isn't as much support or advice for littles who are usually always in doctors or always sick, so we want to change that!

(making a second version for if u dont have a caregiver, but u can also follow this advice for yourself!)

Remember to be patient with your littles!!

- being in a hospital or even a simple doctors appointment is so so so scary. letting them know that you're there and being patient with them can help a whole lot more than you think.

Asking your little what would help

- sometimes we all want to be heroes and fuss over little things, trying to help every chance we get

- however, asking what could help your little most and what would be comfortable can go a whole much smoother than trying to fuss and being too overbearing.

Being encouraging about med taking

- i know when im little, i hate taking medicine. it can be so scary and yucky! especially if it's pills.

- just being patient and trying to make it more enjoyable for your little can help!

- some examples:

- making it a game

~ try to make it fun for your littles, as fun as you can!

- offering treats afterwards

~ a small treat will go a lonngggg way :3

Trying to find good coping mechanisms

- finding a good coping mechanism for both you and your little is essential for anything

- sometimes being in a hospital can make your little panic, and panicking while already feeling icky is terrible! having these coping mechanisms will help both of you stay calm and assess what you need to do

Making sure to take it easy

- taking it easy after something big like this is a MUST. you don't want to end up in the loop again so soon!

- maybe stick to just cuddling, reading, watching movies, etc.

- making sure to listen to what is comfortable for their body and what is not, their usual little clothes might feel too tight or icky when feeling sick

Reassure your little

- needing all this help can feel really selfish at times, reassurance can be a big thing

- reassure your little that this is not their fault and that it will be alright

- and making sure to reassure littles that they will get better helps too, because with all the chaos and icky feelings, sometimes we just need a reminder that this is just a small hiccup and that it'll pass

{ That's all my advice, lovelies, but i hope whoever finds this has a wonderful day/night and that this helped at least one person <3 }

[thr4shit]

[syscord-out-of-context]

[anomalymon]

The whole thing with source separation is wild because from our perspective it came out of nowhere. Then all of a sudden you have people saying "fictives aren't their source" or "source separation is important" like they're universal truths. As with the community went from "don't treat fictives like fictional characters" and just took it several steps to the extreme.

Also the whole thing of assuming "fictive = introject". It started with soulbonds, who as a group doesn't really have much "source separation". Plus the fact that source wasn't even a system term, it's a fictionkin term that got shared with the plural community.

I guess the same thing happened with "system accountability" where the whole community latched onto a buzzword and started treating it like a universal set of rules every system much follow.

Some of it feels to me too like the "actually identifying as a fictional character is crazy" bit with anti-kin and kff, or "if you identify as a fictional character that's a delusion/a DA/IRL".

[fictionkinfessions]

it kind of bothers me being in the kinmmunity sometimes - not because anyone's doing anything Wrong, per say, but... there is this weird like... 'hierarchy' in some people's minds and it bothers me.

a fictive is not 'more valid' than a spiritual kin. and vice versa - a fictionkin is not 'more valid' than a fictive!!! they are not 'more valid' than one another. there should not be more importance placed on one more than the other. they are EQUAL. /WE/ are all equal. if a character is important to you, they are important to you, and that is valuable. a double of me is not less valid because one of us may be a fictive and the other not - we are BOTH valid. we are BOTH that character. our experiences are BOTH important to us and deserve love, kindness, and respect.

stop putting more valuable on someone else's experiences due to a difference in how they 'are' that character. hell, this even applies to copinglinks!!! they are not less valid than spiritual kins! copinglinks, fictives, fictionkin, psychological kin - we are all equally valid, valuable, and deserve the equal amount of love. memories, no memories - relating to them currently or never relating to them at all - past life, this life - it does not matter. every single one of us in this community is correct in how we experience our alterhumanity, and there should never be more importance placed on one versus the other.

thanks for coming to my ted talk, i am very passionate about this.

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[st4nhi3ght-f1lmz]

i really do have some kind of mommy issues, i got so happy the second our mom came home but she just seems so angry with me.. shes always angry with me.. i just want a mother figure that will actually give me attention and ask how my day was and not one who is slowly treating me lik an animal and like i dont exsist.. shes always comparing issues and trauma aswell and its just like.. its fucking draining.