#compulsive behavior

[storytellerslense]

JJ Maybank character analysis

How parentification shaped JJ's personality

Part 2

Victim role, low self-esteem and compulsive caregiving

Especially in the first season of Outer Banks there are moments where JJ is not fully respected by his friends, the Pogues, and he often accepts this dismissive treatment. For instance, his ideas are frequently brushed off, and he is called names like "dumbass," reinforcing his belief that he is not valued or taken seriously. JJ tolerates this treatment, likely due to his low self-esteem and his desperate need to maintain these relationships, as flawed as they may be.

Additionally, JJ voluntarily gets himself into situations where he simply can't win, exemplifying his compulsive caregiving and martyr complex. For example, he confronts a group of Kooks alone to defend his friends, even though he knows he is outnumbered and likely to lose the fight. This behavior underscores his willingness to sacrifice himself for the sake of others, even when it is detrimental to his own well-being. He also constantly highlights how the Kooks have the advantage, which, while often true, also shows how he puts himself in the victim role more than the other Pogues.

JJ's low self-esteem is most poignantly visible in his interactions with Kiara in Season 3 Episode 4.

JJ feels uncomfortable when Kiara is getting close to him

When Kiara confesses her love for him, JJ's immediate reaction is to dismiss it. Kiara tries to confront him again, reminding him of an affectionate moment on the boat where they almost kissed. But JJ shrugs her off, recollecting the moment as "just weird", later admitting that he has issues getting close to someone.

Considering that JJ probably had a lifelong experience with parentification, it has caused him to prioritize others' needs over his own, leading to poorly developed emotional boundaries and a lack of understanding of his own desires. Coupled with his low self-esteem from his abusive upbringing, JJ struggles to believe he deserves love and affection. So when faced with Kiara's romantic interest, he feels confused and uncomfortable, questioning his worthiness and feeling that someone as stable as Kiara couldn't genuinely want to be with him.

Another point is that the potential relationship with Kiara represents a significant change and requires vulnerability, which JJ finds unsettling due to his need to always be strong and in control. This internal conflict makes the near-kiss feel strange and out of place for him. When admitting to his feeling of unworthiness, describing it as "not even having a home or parents" Kiara offers him help, which he refuses, illustrating once again his difficulty in accepting care from others.

JJ's low self-esteem and compulsive caregiving are deeply rooted in his responsibility thrust upon him from a young age and the lack of nurturing from his father which led JJ to develop a skewed sense of self-worth, believing that his value lies in what he can do for others rather than who he is. However, this can also expose JJ to extreme stress and anxiety. This is notably seen when JJ and John B. encounter smugglers threatening Miss Lana at her house in Season 1, Episode 2.

JJ's decision not to help Miss Lana once the smugglers are gone can be attributed to a combination of emotional overload, psychological exhaustion, and his complex relationship with trust and authority.

Contrary to his usual impulsive and confrontational nature, JJ experiences an anxiety attack, urging John B. to leave rather than confront the danger. This reaction can be interpreted as a symptom of his chronic stress and trauma of having experienced his abusive father. The sound of someone being beaten and threatened might evoke a generalized trauma response, leading to anxiety and a desire to escape the situation. This reaction could be seen as a form of PTSD, where certain triggers cause an overwhelming urge to flee rather than fight.

******I am sorry. This time I had to hurry and I wanted to get this done before going on holiday tomorrow. Thanks you so much your support, for reposting and giving me thumbs up!!! I find JJ to be a very interesting character with surprisingly much depth for a series like Outer Banks, probably because he is portrayed most relatable and realistic. If you have any other suggestions and ideas on what to do next, let me know.******

[deepinsamsara]

Here's an idea:

Instead of doing that thing?

Just sit still.

[mental-mona]

We don't do compulsive behaviors because we lack willpower. We do them because it's the only way we know how to self soothe. Soothing is an instinctual behavior, not a moral one.

- Dr. Nicole Lepera

[daphnix]

its crazy how spending money makes me feel alive again. any money that comes in comes out so quickly, i have this emotional NEED that blocks all rational thinking

[janesmission]

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[favorhealthcareservicesllc]

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is often misunderstood as a condition solely characterized by an irrational fear of dirt or germs. However, the reality is far more complex. OCD encompasses a wide range of intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors that significantly impact an individual’s daily life. Let’s delve deeper into this misunderstood mental health condition.

[traumagenica]

*through gritted teeth* regression is fine. it is a natural part of the healing process, which is not linear nor instant. it's okay that my tooth brushing compulsions are coming back- my dentist will be so proud of me! this is a good thing. this is not a bad thing. we can cope with this. this is fine.

[crazycatmilo]

I definitely headcanon that Martin developed some kind of germaphobia after his initial run in with Prentiss. Cleaning things compulsively, checking his food thoroughly to make sure it’s clear of worms, feeling unclean and trying to clean himself off more than necessary, etc. The archives staff eventually realize what’s going on but aren’t really sure how to handle it. It takes him quite a while to recover from the effects of it, even after Prentiss’s death

[sforzesco]

Ippolita & Ascanio :)

ascanio has a rabbit because I cannot. stop thinking. about this letter ippolita sent.

Ippolita Maria Sforza, Duchess and Hostage in Renaissance Naples: Letters and Orations, ed. and translated by DIana Robin and Lynn Lara Westwater

like. that baby brother sentiment is not going to stay when you both grow older and it's kind of devastating to me

[kodasea]

Transparent

[texaschainsawmascara]

real

[ocdculture-is]

ocd culture is *maybe* im the one person who shouldn't be allowed to recover because what if i become a terrible person without the constant guilt and terror.

OCD culture is

[schizophrenic-klept-hoe-maniac]

More hauls from the past month

Total: too much to count anymore

[goose-onthe-loose]

[ash-says]

If it kept you alive then don't regret it.

What's important is surviving. Being alive . By whatever means possible.

Forgive yourself for all those decisions you made, you think were wrong and do the right thing now.

You are here. You are alive. It's all that matters. I am proud of you.

[brookesophelias]

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