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JJ Maybank character analysis
How parentification shaped JJ's personality
Part 2
Victim role, low self-esteem and compulsive caregiving
Especially in the first season of Outer Banks there are moments where JJ is not fully respected by his friends, the Pogues, and he often accepts this dismissive treatment. For instance, his ideas are frequently brushed off, and he is called names like "dumbass," reinforcing his belief that he is not valued or taken seriously. JJ tolerates this treatment, likely due to his low self-esteem and his desperate need to maintain these relationships, as flawed as they may be.
Additionally, JJ voluntarily gets himself into situations where he simply can't win, exemplifying his compulsive caregiving and martyr complex. For example, he confronts a group of Kooks alone to defend his friends, even though he knows he is outnumbered and likely to lose the fight. This behavior underscores his willingness to sacrifice himself for the sake of others, even when it is detrimental to his own well-being. He also constantly highlights how the Kooks have the advantage, which, while often true, also shows how he puts himself in the victim role more than the other Pogues.
JJ's low self-esteem is most poignantly visible in his interactions with Kiara in Season 3 Episode 4.
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JJ feels uncomfortable when Kiara is getting close to him
When Kiara confesses her love for him, JJ's immediate reaction is to dismiss it. Kiara tries to confront him again, reminding him of an affectionate moment on the boat where they almost kissed. But JJ shrugs her off, recollecting the moment as "just weird", later admitting that he has issues getting close to someone.
Considering that JJ probably had a lifelong experience with parentification, it has caused him to prioritize others' needs over his own, leading to poorly developed emotional boundaries and a lack of understanding of his own desires. Coupled with his low self-esteem from his abusive upbringing, JJ struggles to believe he deserves love and affection. So when faced with Kiara's romantic interest, he feels confused and uncomfortable, questioning his worthiness and feeling that someone as stable as Kiara couldn't genuinely want to be with him.
Another point is that the potential relationship with Kiara represents a significant change and requires vulnerability, which JJ finds unsettling due to his need to always be strong and in control. This internal conflict makes the near-kiss feel strange and out of place for him. When admitting to his feeling of unworthiness, describing it as "not even having a home or parents" Kiara offers him help, which he refuses, illustrating once again his difficulty in accepting care from others.
JJ's low self-esteem and compulsive caregiving are deeply rooted in his responsibility thrust upon him from a young age and the lack of nurturing from his father which led JJ to develop a skewed sense of self-worth, believing that his value lies in what he can do for others rather than who he is. However, this can also expose JJ to extreme stress and anxiety. This is notably seen when JJ and John B. encounter smugglers threatening Miss Lana at her house in Season 1, Episode 2.
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JJ's decision not to help Miss Lana once the smugglers are gone can be attributed to a combination of emotional overload, psychological exhaustion, and his complex relationship with trust and authority.
Contrary to his usual impulsive and confrontational nature, JJ experiences an anxiety attack, urging John B. to leave rather than confront the danger. This reaction can be interpreted as a symptom of his chronic stress and trauma of having experienced his abusive father. The sound of someone being beaten and threatened might evoke a generalized trauma response, leading to anxiety and a desire to escape the situation. This reaction could be seen as a form of PTSD, where certain triggers cause an overwhelming urge to flee rather than fight.
******I am sorry. This time I had to hurry and I wanted to get this done before going on holiday tomorrow. Thanks you so much your support, for reposting and giving me thumbs up!!! I find JJ to be a very interesting character with surprisingly much depth for a series like Outer Banks, probably because he is portrayed most relatable and realistic. If you have any other suggestions and ideas on what to do next, let me know.******
#jj obx#jj outer banks#jj maybank#character analysis#outer banks#parentification#low self confidence#low self worth#low self image#compulsive behavior#caregiving#victim mindset#emotional boundaries#emotional abuse#anxiety attack#obx s1#obx s2#obx s3#kiara carrera#jj x kiara#kiara obx#relationship#ptsd#trauma response#friendship dynamics#emotional exhaustion#emotional overload#self worth#confrontation#sacrifice
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Here's an idea:
Instead of doing that thing?
Just sit still.
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We don't do compulsive behaviors because we lack willpower. We do them because it's the only way we know how to self soothe. Soothing is an instinctual behavior, not a moral one.
- Dr. Nicole Lepera
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its crazy how spending money makes me feel alive again. any money that comes in comes out so quickly, i have this emotional NEED that blocks all rational thinking
#i had so much money and now i have so little#and like#im still looking at things to buy#i dont NEED any of these#but i do yknow?#vent#compulsive behavior#compulsive spending
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Compulsive Behavior: Causes, Effects, and Proven Strategies to Overcome It
Compulsive behavior is a psychological pattern characterized by repetitive, irresistible urges to perform certain actions, often in response to stress, anxiety, or underlying mental health conditions. While some compulsions are relatively harmless, such as nail-biting or excessive handwashing, others can be more severe and interfere with daily life. Understanding the root causes of compulsive…
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Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is often misunderstood as a condition solely characterized by an irrational fear of dirt or germs. However, the reality is far more complex. OCD encompasses a wide range of intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors that significantly impact an individual’s daily life. Let’s delve deeper into this misunderstood mental health condition.
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*through gritted teeth* regression is fine. it is a natural part of the healing process, which is not linear nor instant. it's okay that my tooth brushing compulsions are coming back- my dentist will be so proud of me! this is a good thing. this is not a bad thing. we can cope with this. this is fine.
#it is. not fine.#text post#vent#venting#vent post#mental illness#compulsions#compulsive behavior#recovery is not linear
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I definitely headcanon that Martin developed some kind of germaphobia after his initial run in with Prentiss. Cleaning things compulsively, checking his food thoroughly to make sure it’s clear of worms, feeling unclean and trying to clean himself off more than necessary, etc. The archives staff eventually realize what’s going on but aren’t really sure how to handle it. It takes him quite a while to recover from the effects of it, even after Prentiss’s death
#am I just projecting?#yes but also like going through what he did would fuck anyone up so#in my experience one specific event sent me to compulsive behavior like that so I think it could be the same for him#especially since his was a lot worse lmao#tma martin#martin k blackwood#martin blackwood#tma#tma podcast#the magnus archives#magnus archives#magnuspod#magpod#the magnus pod#milo ramblings
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Ippolita & Ascanio :)
ascanio has a rabbit because I cannot. stop thinking. about this letter ippolita sent.
Ippolita Maria Sforza, Duchess and Hostage in Renaissance Naples: Letters and Orations, ed. and translated by DIana Robin and Lynn Lara Westwater
like. that baby brother sentiment is not going to stay when you both grow older and it's kind of devastating to me
#related to siblings tho. interesting stuff going on with ippolita and galeazzo. fascinating even.#god i should bring back my sforza family tag#i used to have one and then i stopped using it but that can change#i could also like. actually use my sforza blog for it's intended purpose. and post to it#esp bc i have. thoughts. about ascanio and ippolita regarding compulsive religions behaviors and also the usual can of#worms with all of that. etc.#italian renaissance tag#drawing tag
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#kodasea#own art#2022 art#digital art#procreate art#art#artists on tumblr#goretober 2022#vent art#cw blood#cw compulsions#Just posted this the other day on another social and someone thought of skin picking behaviors looking at this#Which is very interesting since I have a hair pulling compulsion (not the same obviously but it seemed similar to me)#Crazy how an aspect of your life connects unintentionally to your art#What other unconscious communication will betray me next?
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#eminem#ocd#obsessive compulsive disorder#obsessive behavior#obsessive thoughts#pure ocd#pure o#obsessive compulsive spectrum#obsessive compulsive behavior
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More hauls from the past month
Total: too much to count anymore
#made with tumblr#be gay do crimes#lifting#lifting tips#lifting haul#borrowing#shoplifting#liftblr#shoplifting tips#the feminine urge#girls who lift#lifty#stolen land#thegovernmentcannotcontrolme#israel is a war criminal#crime wave#art#free palestine#free sudan#free congo#free tigray#free haiti#free lebanon#free assange#free yemen#free game#boost#obsessive compulsive behavior#beauty#haul
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ocd culture is *maybe* im the one person who shouldn't be allowed to recover because what if i become a terrible person without the constant guilt and terror.
OCD culture is
#submissions!#actually ocd#ocd#moral ocd#ocd awareness#ocd compulsions#ocd tag#ocd things#obsessive compulsive spectrum#obsessive compulsive behavior
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#dermatillomania#skin picking#compulsive skin picking#actuallyocd#tw bfrb#body focused repetitive behavior#art#comic#my art#original art
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If it kept you alive then don't regret it.
What's important is surviving. Being alive . By whatever means possible.
Forgive yourself for all those decisions you made, you think were wrong and do the right thing now.
You are here. You are alive. It's all that matters. I am proud of you.
#self destruction#self destructive behavior#self destructive tendencies#obsessive compulsive behavior#self healing#self help#trauma survivor#sa survivor#mental health#healing#self love#self care#self improvement#dark feminine energy#level up journey#level up#wellness#positivity#positive mental attitude#glow up#it girl#gaslight gatekeep girlboss#healing journey#that girl#becoming her#becoming that girl#girlblogging#ptsd#mental illness#ash-says
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notes game... c:
every note = one day free from of skin picking
rules:
at max ten notes per person
max five tags per person
bonus: leave your fave tips/routines for clear and/or healthy skin
#mine: please don't steal#ocd#actually ocd#obsessive thoughts#obsessive compulsive disorder#skincare#dermatology#skin picking#excoriation disorder#mental health#dermatillomania#notes game#obsessive compulsive behavior#body focused repetitive behavior#bfrb#tw bfrb#life is beautiful#skincare tips#self care#self love#skin care routine#self compassion#compulsion#this is me trying#wholeheartedsuggestions#gentle reminder#recovery#recovery is possible#recovering#gender nonconforming
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