#child grooming tw

[nerves-nebula]

this comic deserves to be posted with out mountains of text, but just for reference this was inspired by an ask i got

[squirrelstone]

The Manuscript really made me think back to when I was a kid and the internet was relatively new and parents didn’t know what to look out for so I and pretty much every girl I knew was getting groomed on omegle

And then I started rp’ing and met a group of older women (I say older, I’d probably think of some of them as babies now if older me met them) who basically took one look at me and went

🔪 she’s ours now 🔪

and used their influence as the cool older women in my life to get me out of those kinds of chatrooms and helped me unlearn some of the shit the pedophiles that trolled those sites taught me and groomed me into thinking were normal.

I doubt any of them will ever see this, but if they do, thank you so much for ignoring my insistence that I was mature for my age and treating me like the kid I was.

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

watching episode ten and the contrast between kaji recognising asuka is literally obviously a child and being incredibly uncomfortable with her making moves on him vs misato who’s entire job is basically grooming children into combat and who has her own issues with expressing herself so she acts suggestively towards shinji despite obviously having no interest in him and seeing him more like a little brother or a son is really interesting. nerv, as a whole, are predatory towards the children piloting the evas, and while they’re not being sexually groomed what’s happening to them to make them child soldiers is still like, literally child grooming, and i don’t think the contrast between that and misato and kaji's response to their respective ward is unintentional. misato is instinctively defaulting to the same thing that’s basically her job description even though she clearly isn’t doing it intentionally, whereas kaji is uncomfortable with the idea of taking advantage of asuka in a sexual way (as he should be, she’s a literal child) but either hasn’t or doesn’t want to come to terms with the fact that he’s taking advantage of her in non-sexual ways and that grooming, even though it’s non-sexual, is most likely a large reason why she and the other children often act out sexually in ways that aren’t entirely typical of young teenagers.

[mischiefserpentes]

CW: P/dophilia and Gr/oming.

Orion Simprini, lead singer of the Orion Experience, is a groomer who's age range for victims spanned from 9 years old to 20.

We can't forget about this, we can't just let it go.

He's still somehow managing to get away with it, though the allegations against him came out after Cult of Dionysus became popular in 2020.

The Orion Experience still has 891,641 monthly listeners, which is much lower than it used to be, but I think we all know it should be zero.

For more information on what happened, including screenshots from various victims, go see @project.artemis on Tiktok.

They're an account entirely dedicated to making Simprini address his victims and face justice for his crimes.

[cybergothvox]

Just to be fully clear in case anyone still following me is seeing the situation:

I handled a situation privately and am being accused of making a callout post

I am being accused of not talking directly to people who the main thing i did was talk to people directly and they won't talk to me

The blog in question was NOT sfw outside of the minors DNI posts including many, many suggestive posts. A directly pornographic post without mdni was post 4 hours before we addressed this with the blog owner. Stop lying about this. Of course we look crazy if you deny this. This was our ENTIRE issue.

We beleived the incident was accidental and never told anyone to cut them off, we literally just asked them to stop putting children in danger by interacting with them from a nsfw blog.

Child grooming happens accidentally and is the proper term when an adult is normalizing nsfw content to children. No, just because we used that term doesn't mean we are trying to make all their friends leave them we just know what words mean.

I am only making a public post about it because they keep making public posts about it full of lies. They are the ones making this more public despite accusing us of not handling it privately, which we did.

We didnt harass or bretate anyone. All we did was politely point out to them directly all the reasons what they were doing was harmful, and answer questions to the one person who asked, and tried to correct someone who was posting lies since we thought it was accidental but since they are continueing to lie we have blocked them and are leaving them alone.

Stop telling lies about us. This is the last I am ever speaking of this. If you think us asking someone not to put children in danger makes us bad to that person idk what to tell you

[sins-of-the-sea]

//....Really, I just wanted an excuse to draw Ruixiong with short hair. Turned out also being a body study to see if I can figure out a body shape for him that isn't too similar to Guy and Giovanni. I don't think I've quite gotten there yet.

Don't mind the chickenscratch on the side, that's meant for me to make sure I got the timeline right with Rui considering, in the Bioshock Verse, he would have been a Chinese orphan born during WWII, and would have been a displaced war orphan forced to survive at a young age before he'd enter Rapture.

Got inspired to draw this anyway when I reblogged the Bioshock Verse portraits. Originally he was going to wear the full-body worker's suit or mechanic's overalls (and he probably would should I write/RP him out in Rapture), but I got too much young Marlon Brando living in my head rent-free and it won't go away, so just a tank top and loose jeans for now pfff.

To go with the Bioshock Abena sketch and backstory, here is Ruixiong's!

Wang Ruixiong has no recollection of how he lost his family by the end of the Japanese occupation of China in World War II; all he knew was that he was constantly traveling with other orphans and adult strangers in the fight for survival. He does, however, recall when he first entered Rapture as a child--he was forced to do assorted labor with what was then Fontaine Fisheries. He didn't know it at the time, but Ruixiong was being groomed into the smuggling business; by the time he was entering his teens, the young boy was well-versed in the most well-hidden parts of Rapture and in the best ways to hide or disguise contraband.

The boy would meet the Frascona Family by around 1950, when Rui was still a pre-teen; it was then he finally had someone to call family, having becoming close to the family's nephew Giovanni and the neighboring Duchamp Twins. Josep would work to become Ruixiong's legal guardian until he became of age in 1957, where he would attempt to make his own home by working as a supplier for Fontaine Futuristics.

Because Ruixiong has worked for Fontaine for all his life by this point, he considers himself in great debt to Frank Fontaine. Ruixiong, after surviving the fight that killed Fontaine, was among the first to rally behind Atlas in rebelling against Andrew Ryan. Ruixiong was among the other Atlas loyalists by the time of the New Year's Riots in 1958. As the Civil War raged on, Ruixiong was forced to separate from the Frascona family, unaware that both Josep, Arcelia, and Giovanni have gone missing.

Ruixiong would not reunite with Abena until sometime during the events of Bioshock 1, unaware of Josep, Arcelia, and Giovanni's fates. By this time, Ruixiong has forgone the fight against Ryan in favor of searching for his missing family. One can imagine his reaction upon realizing the truth behind Atlas once Jack has faced him for the final time.

Rui has mastered the Telekinesis Plasmid and does his best to avoid becoming a Splicer, though he admits the addictive properties often drive him mad.

[remotespontaneouscombustion]

Maki was not personally exposed to the cells of Port Mafia, though he knew of them and knew he could end up there if he wasn’t careful. Somehow though, Amber managed to talk him out of having to be there, because she voiced that she would be dealing with him full-time. So he was surprisingly spared of the layers of suffering taking place in the prison cells, instead moreso confined to staying by Amber’s side all day every day. Never stepping out of line for her, who knows what trouble that would bring her-- and by extension him, if he did. But he was always more worried for her than himself, she made it feel like she was risking so much just for him just because she cared so much about him.

Not at all because he was a destructive obsessed little bodyguard for her. Where in the world would you get a silly idea like that?

The only times in which he managed to have moments of freedom from Amber were on jobs he was deliberately assigned to, or when he managed to talk to Akutagawa briefly. Those higher up the chain would push the point onto Amber more for her to figure out what Maki’s ability was and how it worked, so they could utilize him and free him from her side. She didn’t want this but he was assigned to Motojirō, who Maki simply finds annoying-- and Amber fed into that emotion even more. No paying attention to the others the only person that mattered was her. 

Akutagawa still threw wrenches into that plan for the fact that Maki liked him, and even without Dazai’s looming presence to prove to be an issue with Amber voicing her opinion on this matter; she felt she couldn’t say anything about it. The executive’s presence was still felt even long after he was gone by so many, so all she could really do was side-eye at Akutagawa from time to time. The kind of gaze that on a surface level would appear kind, but in truth her smiles never reach her eyes.

With his ability now fully spelled out in her absence, he has no idea what is supposed to be next for him. He’s attempting to go through his life as though all is normal like she’s still around, but he also gets the feeling he’s only getting away with this because none of those higher up are paying him much mind yet. 

[throughdarkeningskies]

the fact that people are more pissed with nanowrimo for acceptance of AI than for allegations of child grooming really captures the discourse around AI to me

[muggle-born-princess]

Reblog if you're LGBT and are against MAPS/Child Groomers

[howlingtothevoid]

I didn't realize your reasons and I didn't know your plans, until I became the same age you were back then and it horrifies me. I wish you had done more so I could prove the world I am right, and I wish you had done nothing to me at all. Isn't it weird how it works?

[nerves-nebula]

you don't have to answer this ask if you don't want to, but I saw you mention that you might involve other sorts of abuse/trauma in your Teenage Mutant Neglected Turtles AU and I was wondering something?

Donnie in the ROTTMNT cannon is really desperate for parent-age adult approval and such, is that similar for your AU's Donnie? Because that like, is a trait adults in his life (if he meets any other than Splinter) could exploit (whether that be exploiting his knowledge, skills, time, or other stuff like his trust, and other stuff you probably can guess)?

Is that something you'd want to explore with your AU at all (if it also applies to your Donnie) or is that something you haven't planned/added/don't want to focus on?

btw I really like your AU and it's neat seeing someone make an AU where they aren't just the world's best brothers, if that makes sense? Also the character designs are GREAT! Love all the comic and art and everything you've made for it!!

*cracks knuckles* ooohh but I DO want to answer this. anon, you would not BELIEVE what I’ve been thinking of putting this boy through. Ive mentioned before that he has a kind of predatory relationship with Big Mama, in which he makes her things and she showers him in praise and affection. It’s not GREAT but it’s not the WORST it could be, considering all she wants out of him is more inventions that will help her business thrive.

I really do think Donnie would get into a lot of trouble with predatory adults (mostly because I would have if I was in his situation) but I’m not sure which other one’s would take him in other than Big Mama. Rest assured though I won’t stop until this boy is thoroughly traumatized and deeply self loathing :) donnie is my favorite which means he gets the most torture :) by which i mean he’s definitely the most susceptible to grooming and will probably have multiple close encounters (or just full on ENCOUNTERS) late into his teenage to early adult years.

My dad once told me that I looked like I was asking to be abused, so if you’re trying to grasp the VIBE Donnie is giving off it’s that. (basically just really visibly insecure, vulnerable, and desperate for positive attention) 

it's something i wanna focus on for sure, but I've been setting things up with Raph and Leo and Casey and all these other characters so I haven't gotten around to it yet. well, until now.

(side note, I personally relate more to strained sibling relationships and attempts to reconnect and all that so I'm glad there's an audience out there who wants to see these turtles really put under the PRESSURE of this situation. they're the most famous fictional sibling dynamic that has more than 3 kids involved that i know of and as someone with 5 siblings, I vibe with that)

Im glad people are enjoying my beautiful boys. Every time one of you compliments me there's a 50/50 chance you get ART as a reward (if I have the time) (which I do, right now) (oh m ygod this comic took way longer than I thought it would hahfdshfds)

[solarsought]

📂📂📂 for Kerrianne

She grows up and becomes and ER doctor.

It takes years of therapy to undo the brainwashing and grooming done by Jimmy. She doesn’t talk to her father for quite a few years though they eventually get to that place.

Learns Spanish for her half sisters and Clementine helps her with it.

[mischiefserpentes]

A follow up on my Orion Experience post

There are at least 20 victims, if not more.

A good majority of Orion Experience songs, including Cult of Dionysus (I'd argue their most popular song), are about the victims in not even subtle ways.

And, did I mention? The youngest victim so far was nine years old.

Once again, for more information go see @project.artemis on Tiktok, they have everything you need to get up to date on the situation.

They, themself, are a victim of Simprini and are very brave for coming out about it and spreading the messages of his other victims as well.

It's highly disappointing if you still listen to Orion Experience after learning all of this, there's no separating the art from the artist here.

Especially when the art is about the wrongdoings of the artist.

[star-anise]

Ask I got on my sideblog but am answering here:

Hi there! I know you're a therapist and I have a question: I saw some people arguing on Twitter about the impacts of trauma. There was a therapist among them, and they had a masters degree in social work, they post about it often. They say that people who have experienced trauma hurt other people because it benefits them or gives them pleasure, and they are disconnected from empathy and sympathy. That seems wrong, but maybe it's not? That's all, thanks!

Ooof, yeah, that's... complicated. It's technically true, but also frequently used as a lie.

Trigger warning: Child abuse, child grooming, interpersonal violence, trauma (childhood & intergenerational), true crime, totalitarianism

Because basically, that describes MOST humans who decide to hurt other humans on purpose without a strong ulterior motive. That's not a trauma thing, that's a human thing.

I babysit for a family with a 1-year-old and a 3-year-old. When the 1yo does something to upset their older sibling, and that sibling winds up and smacks them, that's the same basic thing. It benefits them (makes 1yo go away), brings them pleasure (having an outlet for their anger is very satisfying), and they're disconnected from empathy (they're often surprised and confused when the 1yo is crying, because they're 3 and THEY feel fine and they don't really understand yet that other people's feelings really exist) or even sympathy (understanding that if you hit someone, they will probably be upset). That's something we adults have to watch out for and intervene in, because empathy and impulse control take time to learn.

But as for where trauma figures into this... how to explain.

There's this old logical puzzle about categories, where you say things like:

All dogs have four legs*

A dog is an animal

And then the catch is that you can't extend that to say

All animals have four legs

*RIP to all the tripods and legless animals that apparently aren't dogs anymore for the purposes of this logic exercise

Animals obviously include fish and millipedes and whales and snakes and jellyfish. The number of legs an animal can have is HIGHLY diverse, and will eventually lead to a debate on what the definition of "leg" is.

So there is this common thing we see:

Some people are much more violent and aggressive than other people

These violent and aggressive people have almost always experienced some form of trauma/abuse/neglect

And the link people are really prone to thinking is:

People who have experienced trauma/abuse/neglect will go on to being violent and aggressive with other people.

This is incorrect. To some degree, I can see why it's widely believed - after all, way more people tune in to learn about a serial killer's abusive childhood than for the more common story, which is survivors of trauma slowly going about their lives in ordinary undramatic ways.

Because the thing is, trauma is REALLY diverse. Humans are inherently varied and a bit chaotic, since we can choose very different ways to live and operate, and trauma splits that variability like a prism turning light into a rainbow. Only about 30% of abused children grow up to be abusive themselves. The other 70% choose very different lives.

And yet. My eternal question is: WHY is this such a meme? Why do so many people with a shitty childhood flinch at the 30% statistic and think, "Is that me? Am I destined to be a monster?" Why does this story have legs, when so many other facts about trauma have way more empirical backing and usefulness and get very little attention?

I submit that there is one group that fucking LOVES the idea that traumatized person equals abuser. One group that pushes it into the discourse, in international media or around the family kitchen table, with great ingenuity and gusto.

Abusers.

They love it for two reasons. The most obvious reason is: It absolves them of their actions. "It wasn't ME who hit you, it was my childhood trauma!" A veritable classic excuse that takes their agency out of the equation. And it really can be hard to tell when it's a good excuse and when it isn't!

Reason two is the more insidious one: It cuts their victim's sense of goodness, worthiness, and moral certainty out from under them.

It's as simple as saying, "Look at how you pushed back at me (when I was abusing you)! You're the REAL abuser here!" It's the heart of what domestic abuse researchers call DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). It can be that simple, or it can be so complicated and byzantine it makes your head hurt.

I only really got a handle on understanding this thanks to a friend, who said she was okay with me sharing this story if I didn't identify her. I won't go into any unrelated details of her abuse, but for the record, hers is probably the most extreme case of anyone I've personally interacted with, and I used to work as a therapist and in domestic violence shelters. Her dad heinously abused her as a child. He'd also studied psychology in university. I have been trying to fathom how the fuck anyone could do what he did to her for YEARS, and I think I've got a few viabletheories.

So. She was an ordinary child, bright, warmhearted, well-behaved, and a bit autistic. A bit more naive and trusting than your average preschooler. I imagine that from his perspective, there was the convenient benefit that he often had unrestricted access to her, and he could relatively easily overpower and manipulate her.

But she had one serious downside: If anyone ever found out what he was doing to her, they would go fucking apeshit. She wasn't really prone to lying or acting out, so people would treat her as a fairly credible reporter; several other adults found her she was lovable, innocent, and endearing; and what he wanted to do to her was, I repeat, heinous.

So while he abused her, one of the things he said was: "I'm doing this because I was abused as a child. That's how it works. All abusers come from abuse. There are statistics proving it. This means you're an abuser too. See what society thinks about child abusers? That's what people will think about you, if they know that you've been abused."

And she was, you know, a child, not someone who studied psych research. He was her dad. So she believed him.

She thought that he was using his adult brain to correctly assess the truth about her as a person, for purely objective reasons. The way you'd try to teach a kid who talks with their mouth full about table manners. It's been a couple decades now, but she is still very slowly chipping away at her core belief that she is inherently awful and only her father recognized the truth about her.

Sometimes when we talk about it I have to bite my tongue because I'm sitting here trying to figure out what the fuck was going on with him, an adult man who wanted to abuse her because he'd really enjoy it. I think about him trying to figure out how to manipulate an innocent child into accepting being abused, and minimize the risk that he'd go to jail for it. And although I hate his everloving guts, I'm almost a bit impressed at his level of machiavellian audacity, to come up with a line that was SUCH hot bullshit that people have devoted their entire careers into proving it false, and yet, because it hit exactly the right psychological issue at exactly the right psychological stage and his intended victim was so trusting, he could get her to believe him enough to turn that lie into her core identity.

Praise be to G-d and Criminal Minds, he did not, in the end, get away with it. She got enough courage to tell people, and get free of him. And she is not, in fact, a horrible abusive person.

But I think what he did so very brazenly is what a lot of abusers do, in more disguised and indirect ways. Probably partly because it really helps, when abusing people, not to treat them like human beings with their own thoughts and feelings, but if one must posit that they have something going on between their ears, it's easiest to assume that everyone else responds to trauma with aggression and abuse. After all, considering the possibility that someone like them could choose not to be abusive takes all the fun and plausible deniability out of the whole affair.

But now I see echoes of that "my victims are just as bad as I am" tactic all over the place. I honestly think it's a very similar mechanism that Hannah Arendt pointed out in The Origins of Totalitarianism. She observes that violent totalitarian regimes routinely accuse their intended victims of the very act they intend to commit themselves, to justify a "retaliation" that's actually just aggression. Think claiming "Our opponents are rigging this election" as an excuse to rig an election in the opposite direction.)

To sum up: You're human. Humans can do good and bad things. It's not necessarily good to completely forswear anything violent or angry in you, but to come up with a framework of how to be assertive and get your needs met in an ethical fashion. There are times it is appropriate and even necessary to escape or fight against somebody else's will.

On the other hand, If find yourself inflicting pain on other people on a regular basis, get some support and take a good hard look at your life choices. Sometimes it's hard to figure out how to solve problems in your life without violence or aggression, and you might need some help with that. Maybe talk to a counsellor or learn anger management skills.

But in no way is it predestined, inherent, implicit, or doomed, that your experiences and brain wiring make you violent or evil. You always have the choice to define yourself beyond what was done to you.

[punkeropercyjackson]

'Incest is inherently complex and mature storytelling' always sends me and so does the historical significance of it as 'proof' it is.Ancient Greece is thee pedestary era because misogyny was so strong men would rather be incestous pedophiles than date women,incest as gay culture is almost ENTIERLY a white westerner thing and is frowned upon like everywhere due to the studies that proved it's familial abuse with no posibility of consent on both sides and sometimes even neither,'family members being ultra intimate/intense if they're the same gender is coded incest' is literal Gay Panic propaganda,m/f incest is always just dudebro fantasies that violently misogynizes the girl in it,a lot of incest shippers and incestplayers are simply only children and therefore don't really understand sibling dynamics OR middle/high schoolers who were exposed to incest shipping online through their fandoms and think they're smartypants edgelords that understand REAL drama only they're tragically just grooming victims and i could go on!It's not 'discrimination' to be anti-incest even in fiction and the bedroom,it's having a brain and care for other people!There's countless ways to tell a dark and even bleak story without involving positively potrayed incest,ESPECIALLY if it's just for porn and it's no longer just a private bedroom thing when you blog about it in PUBLIC tags that ANYONE can find and the social media account creation age is 13,NOT 18+ so watch yourselves.Curation of your experience applies to you too and ageism applies to the minors you bully for being triggered over incest more than it does you seeing as you actually have power over them,online AND systematically.Kill the cop in your head-They don't think incest is actually bad either and that's why black people invented acab

[remotespontaneouscombustion]

When the flames spark on nothing, it’s the only time his eyes ever match in color. Glowing in red while gold handprints shined and exploded over a quick swipe. He always found the flames to be a comfort of a sort, it felt something like a relief from frustrations he couldn’t voice easily. But on this day? No, today he is angry. Furious. Maybe a bit mournful if he let it take over his mind. But for while the embers burned and smoke cloaked the night sky, he was enraged.

Under the roar of the flames of the buildings around him, he screams as loudly as he can until his throat can’t take it. He doesn’t remember a time when his explosives have done as much damage as this, he briefly remembers someone warning her before that he would be a destructive problem if left unchecked.

He throws another rock into a window, another swipe, and it shakes the nearby wall to the point of collapse. They were right, and he was happy to prove it.

All that time he had spent trying to prove to her that he was worthy of her, she’d asked so much of him and he did everything he could. But then she was gone, without a word she was gone. The executives questioned all that they could, prodding him the absolute most until he snapped. He joined Port Mafia at all because of her influence, everything he was, everything he’d strived to be, it all had centered around her.

Now he feels lesser than the debris left in the destruction of his wake. What was the point of all of it? What was the point of him? He is simply a being with no place in the world, and she’d given him that purpose that he lacked when he had nothing beyond his name. 

His chest stings from recovery, and the weight of his emotions. He grips at his still torn jacket while his throat protests any further sounds. But the mourning finally had its clutches on him, and he sobs like a lost child. Despite the strength he tried to put on himself to live up to, every once in awhile it crashes down. Cracking under the reminder that he is still just a child, and one without anything he’d lived for except for her.

He stares up to the sky with eyes full of tears, the clouds of smoke glowing orange and yellow while city buildings burned. He steadily gets to his feet, to escape before the fire department sees what he’s done. He knows come morning, Yokohama was not going to forget this, and he was likely going to be in even more trouble than he already was for chasing down someone over his own personal hatred.

But he ceased to care, he wasn’t exactly their problem anymore with Amber gone now was he? She’d been his ‘keeper’, and now he was loose in the city. If anyone tried to stop him now, guess they would be the one with the problem child on their hands. How unfortunate for them.