#batman asexual

[beingaroace]

I think asexual Batman would make more sense. Pretending to be playboy, going on dates without having interest in any girl because that's what billionaire guys are supposed to be! But in real, he's very Asexual!

[arguablysomaya]

i personally believe that dick knows all of the lgbtq+ community memes better than anyone in his family despite the fact that he categorically refuses to come out so it's like

dick: omg ur asexual? do you like cake lololol

jason: ...how the fuck do you know about that

dick: more of a garlic bread guy then?

jason: if you're trying to kill me from cringe, believe me, I'll get you first

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dick: it's getting cold out, gang, so dress warm. tim, no more bisexual cuffed jeans

tim: you can't call me out for that when you dress the EXACT SAME WAY, idiot

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dick: the economy's getting bad. steph's gonna have to start dating men again soon

steph: LMFAO that's pretty funnyyyyyexceptit'sactuallytrueandalsohowdoyouknowaboutthat

[vodrae]

Asexual Jason Todd is actually the secret weapon of Batman.

Let me explain.

Every major female foes of the Bat used their sex appeal at one moment to distract the police, Arkham guards...

But, imagine Ivy increasing again and again and again the power of her pollen and Red Hood does not react. Maybe sneezing.

Circea trying to play whith his mind and

"Wtf are you doing ? Stop moving your hands like that."

Every teen heros getting caught lurking on Kori or Power Girl and he doesn't understand why those idiots can't start the meeting. Wtf does "My eyes are here" even mean.

Evil foreigner billionaire sending a spy to seduce the oldest boy in the family still in Gotham to steal informations on WayneTech and after a party of dancing and talking, with innuendos bigger than his arms, the dude takes back the girl in his plaza room to be sure she's safe and fall asleep on the floor.

Meanwhile the spy doesn't know if she lost her talents of if Jason has a really strong mind.

If Jason was Batman from the start, first encounter with catwoman, take 1 :

"What arrre you going to do, arrrest me ?

- Yes.

- Wait, what ?"

Jason going to college and always being invited to girls night when they're going to bars or nightclubs because they have a 6'6 werewolf with them to dissuaded the other guys and they feel secure because they can't recall one time he tried something that made them uncomfortable, or just something in fact.

Never hit on a girl, loves litterature, takes great care of his body...Jason Todd is the only gothamite unaware he's a gay icone.

[feartoxinjelloshot]

you KNOW theyre getting weird with it in there

[writingpoorly]

me: *aroace* how do I write a date?

[littlefankingdom]

I lied. Put your clothes back on. We're going to talk about how Batman was not meant to be "vengeance" but "compassion", and how his character has been twisted through the decades that now people thinks he is supposed to be vengeance, which harms his character.

(See how here, Batman becomes a figure of vengeance from grieving Robin? Batman being vengeance is when he is at his lowest, like when Jason died, but he isn't supposed to be vengeance most of the time. Also, this is Dick.)

(And Alfred explaining Bruce is motivated by compassion not revenge.)

[heybatterbats]

I’ve been seeing entirely too many posts about how ace-spec people aren’t really LGBTQ+ and don’t belong at Pride. And I got mad about it. So…*aces your Batfamily*

Yes, all of them. Every last one is now ace-spec in some way. They even named their dog Ace.

Bruce is sex-neutral biromantic demisexual, and came out by accident at age 24 to a random reporter who was not expecting it. This sparked a social media storm that was only halted by the much bigger social media storm of Bruce adopting Dick.

The Batman has been asked his sexuality before. Bruce replied- perfectly straight faced- that the Batman is an asexually reproductive entity and creates its Robins via mitosis. A third of Gotham, most of Metropolis, and several members of the Justice League still believe this.

Dick is sex-repulsed biromantic asexual, and is of the type to make the dirtiest jokes you’ve ever heard because sex is a joke to him. Came out in the form of an acrobatics performance he did at a pride parade, wearing a terrible Batman costume with a bi heart as the Batsymbol, an ace flag cape, and no pants. The audience was ecstatic. Bruce was mortified.

Nightwing has never said his sexuality, but anyone who claims he’s straight is quickly met with pictures of the Discowing suit and up to a dozen laughing emojis.

Jason is sex-repulsed aromantic asexual. He’s not as vocal about it as Dick is, but he does like it to be known. He’s the type to make garlic bread/cake/world domination jokes. And ESPECIALLY dragon jokes. He kinda tends to just insert it casually into conversation, he didn’t do anything crazy to come out. It’s just a fact about him.

Red Hood claims to be sexually attracted exclusively to guns. Bruce hates this joke.

Tim is the opposite of Bruce- he’s sex-positive bisexual demiromantic. One of the few Batkids to come out while in costume- he got a concussion on a case and blearily mumbled into Bruce’s hair that he’s “you but backwards” and completely confused Bruce. Tim is a little shy about his identity, but since dating Bernard he’s been more open about it.

Red Robin is out as bisexual, but hasn’t added demiromantic to that. Tim is worried people will piece his secret identity together, since Tim doesn’t realize that most normal people are not highly skilled detectives who can tell a person’s identity from a single acrobatics move.

At the moment, Damian just thinks he’s feeling the normal “ew cooties” that most children do. In the future he’ll realize that he’s sex-repulsed ace/aro, although he’ll refuse to use those terms in favor of broodily muttering “this bloodline dies with me.” Ra’s has an actual heart attack the first time Damian says this to his face and has to go into the Lazarus Pit to recover. Talia has never been more proud.

Barbara is sex-neutral, demiromantic and asexual. She’s more outspoken about it than most of the family, and runs social media pages about disability and the asexuality spectrum alike. Aphobes and ableists that make the mistake of leaving comments often mysteriously find that their most embarrassing search histories have been sent to their grandmother.

Cass is sex-repulsed ace/aro. Steph was the one to explain sexuality to her, and also made her an ace ring. Cass told Bruce first, then the rest of the family. She’s never come out publicly- Cass doesn’t like media attention being on her- but some sharp-eyed Gothamites who are looking can spot the black ring on Cassandra Cain-Wayne’s middle finger in a few paparazzi shots the papers got their hands on. (I have a fic about this!)

Black Bat has never been asked her sexuality, mainly because she’s absolutely terrifying and nobody can stammer out the words when faced with her.

Stephanie is sex-positive graysexual grayromantic, and absolutely not shy about it. She’s almost as good as Dick at making horrible, filthy jokes. Has punched a guy in the face for aphobia, does not regret it. Stephanie is out and proud and loud about it.

Spoiler/Batgirl III have both been seen wearing a rainbow flag as a cape too many times for anyone to assume they’re straight.

Duke is sex-neutral demisexual/demiromantic, and is probably the most open about it of the whole Batfamily. He’s fully out and so is Signal, and will inevitably show up at any daytime Pride event just to say hi. Gotham adores him, and he’s practically the ace-spec community’s mascot. Can and will use the entire rainbow spectrum of light to create various pride flags over Gotham whenever he feels like it, and has started taking flag/location requests. Once turned the Batsignal gay.

Harper is sex-positive bisexual aromantic, and where Stephanie is loud about it, Harper gets violent. She carries a souped-up taser and doesn’t hesitate to use it. Has knocked at least four homophobes/aphobes out cold not counting the ones she beat up in the Narrows. Bluebird is not only publicly out as bisexual but wears two out of three bisexual colors, and while it’s not come up publicly yet, she won’t hide that she’s aromantic either. Along with Signal and Spoiler, Bluebird is one of the vigilantes that’s known for being specifically good at handling LGBTQ+ issues. She wouldn’t have it any other way.

After being forcibly outed as gay and then bullied for it, Cullen is still in the closet about the fact that he’s asexual and sex-repulsed, too. The first person he told after Harper was Alfred. By now the whole family knows, but they’ve been careful to keep it away from the media until Cullen’s ready to come out himself.

Alfred is sex-neutral, aromantic, and pansexual, though he’s older than some of those terms and doesn’t often use them to describe himself. Bruce didn’t know Alfred was anything but straight until he was almost seventeen, to which Alfred replied- signature eyebrow raise at full height capacity- that he had a career in the theater, Master Bruce, and no one who does that can possibly be typical in matters of orientation or any other aspect of life.

The outfit might seem antithetical to this, but Selina is ace too! Specifically, she’s sex-positive, heteroromantic and demisexual. The leather outfit is primarily for distraction purposes rather than true sex appeal. When it comes to Bruce, however, Selina’s more than once described herself as “morosexual.” Bruce, bless him, still has no idea what that means.

There ya go. Ace-spec Batfam. Happy Pride to everyone but especially all you fellow ace-spec folks who absolutely, 100% belong there.

[the-one-and-only-ruination]

Fuck toxic romance, bring back toxic QPR’s.

codependent platonic soulmates with separation anxiety are where it’s at.

[angelofpearls]

i don’t have crushes i have victims of the enormity of my desire and yearning

[misakiisstupid]

Bruce Wayne: The Closeted Asexual of Gotham

Bruce Wayne—billionaire, playboy, philanthropist, and… a closeted asexual? It might sound strange at first, considering his public image of charming Gotham’s elite and his long history of romantic entanglements in the comics. But when you take a closer look at his behavior, relationships, and the way he prioritizes his life, the signs are there. Bruce Wayne is not just bad at relationships—he fundamentally doesn’t seem to want them in the way most people do. His identity as Batman consumes him, his romantic relationships are often shallow or short-lived, and he treats intimacy more like an obligation than a genuine desire. Let’s break down why Gotham’s Dark Knight might just be deep in the asexual closet.

1. Romance? Sure. But Sex? Not Really His Thing.

Bruce Wayne has been paired with some of the most iconic love interests in comic book history—Selina Kyle, Talia al Ghul, Diana Prince, Zatanna, the list goes on. But what’s the common thread in all of these relationships? They rarely last, and when they do, they feel more like strategic alliances or emotional connections rather than passionate, all-consuming romances. Bruce often seems fond of his partners, even protective, but his relationships lack the urgency and raw desire that other heroes exhibit. Compare him to someone like Dick Grayson, whose relationships are full of chemistry, flirting, and clear physical attraction—Bruce just doesn’t operate on the same wavelength.

Even when he does engage in relationships, it often feels like he’s going through the motions. In many interpretations, Bruce Wayne as the “playboy” is nothing more than an act—a front to keep people from suspecting the truth behind Batman. He flirts, he takes women to expensive galas, but behind closed doors? He’s either obsessing over his next mission or brooding in the Batcave. The actual mechanics of romance rarely seem to interest him.

2. Batman Over Everything—Including Physical Relationships

Bruce’s number-one priority in life is always being Batman. Everything else is secondary. His relationships fall apart because he is incapable of putting another person above his mission. This isn’t just a case of “dedicated superhero” syndrome—it’s a fundamental part of his identity. Unlike characters like Superman (who genuinely wants a romantic partner) or Spider-Man (who struggles but still prioritizes love), Bruce doesn’t even seem to want that level of closeness.

Many asexual people relate to this concept: they form deep emotional bonds but don’t feel the need to engage in physical intimacy. Bruce embodies this perfectly. He can have strong attachments, but he rarely pursues romance for its own sake. His relationships feel like side quests in his larger, more important mission—never the main focus.

3. The Way He Avoids or Downplays Intimacy

For a guy who’s had plenty of love interests, Bruce Wayne rarely shows strong sexual desire. In many storylines, he keeps things incredibly controlled, almost detached. Unlike more openly sexual characters (again, looking at you, Dick Grayson), Bruce never exudes that same natural flirtation or lust. Even in relationships that seem to have deep emotional ties—like with Selina Kyle—there’s often a feeling that Bruce is holding back, like he’s engaging because he thinks he should, not necessarily because he wants to.

One of the biggest clues is how he reacts when others try to initiate intimacy. Talia al Ghul literally seduces him to get pregnant with Damian, and in many versions of that story, Bruce doesn’t even seem that into it. In some interpretations, she even drugs him to make it happen (which, let’s be real, is messed up). The point is—Talia had to take control because Bruce, left to his own devices, probably wouldn’t have pursued that kind of interaction.

His dynamic with Selina Kyle is a little different—she’s the one person he seems to genuinely care about, but even then, his reluctance is noticeable. He constantly pulls away, keeps her at arm’s length, and prioritizes his mission over their relationship. Even when they do end up together, it often feels more like a deep emotional bond rather than a purely physical one.

4. The Playboy Persona? A Lie to Cover Up the Truth

A lot of people argue, “But Bruce Wayne is a billionaire playboy! He’s always seen with women!” But that’s exactly the point—it’s all an act. Bruce uses the playboy persona as a mask to keep people from looking too closely at him. It’s part of the Bruce Wayne disguise, just like acting clueless about Gotham’s crime rate or pretending to be a spoiled rich guy.

Think about it: have we ever actually seen Bruce Wayne having a fulfilling romantic or sexual relationship in a way that feels real? The closest he’s ever come is Selina, and even then, it’s full of hesitancy, conflict, and avoidance. His playboy image is just another carefully crafted illusion to keep the world from suspecting the truth—that he’s emotionally distant, uninterested in sex, and far too focused on his crusade as Batman to actually invest in physical intimacy.

5. Asexuality Doesn’t Mean He’s Loveless—Just Different

A lot of people assume that being asexual means being incapable of love, but that’s not true. Asexuality is a spectrum—some people are romance-repulsed, while others love emotional closeness but don’t feel sexual attraction. Bruce fits into the latter category. He cares deeply about people—his children, his allies, even his love interests—but there’s always a distance. He’s a man of deep emotional bonds, just not the kind that are typically expected.

This is why his relationships always feel…off. He’s not broken. He’s not incapable of love. He just doesn’t experience attraction the way people assume he should. And because of that, he hides it—maybe even from himself.

Conclusion: The Closeted Ace of Gotham

Bruce Wayne is a master of hiding things—his true identity, his emotions, his pain. It wouldn’t be surprising if he’s hiding something else, too: the fact that he just doesn’t feel the kind of attraction the world expects from him. He’s not interested in meaningless hookups, and even his long-term relationships feel more like partnerships than passionate romances.

It makes sense. It fits. And it explains so much about the way he navigates his personal life.

Bruce Wayne isn’t just Gotham’s protector—he might just be its most high-profile closeted asexual.

[arguablysomaya]

jason todd would be one of those asexuals who thinks they’re bi for the longest time because they’ve figured out they have the same amount of attraction to each gender, but they haven’t yet figured out that amount is zero 💀

[breaking-news-the-aroace-has]

The AroAce will accept no criticism. In fact, they have decided to rant about it. (found below the cut)

Some things that are Hallmarks of the classic cinematic Batman are:

-constant depression,

-emotional dysregulation,

-extreme ego and narcissism, and

-refusal to have meaningful relationships outside of casual flings.

the Lego Batman Movie, (along with every other Batman movie) highlights these character traits, and makes sure that the audience knows that they are a direct result of witnessing the death of his parents.

However, what separates Lego Batman from the rest is that he is the only one who realizes that all of those things are deeply unhealthy coping mechanisms that hurt those around him! This movie doesn't romanticize these traits like many other Batman movies. They are portrayed as what they are, and we get to witness the consequences!

Batman's giant ego, his belief that he is the best, the smartest, is such an ingrained and predictable trait that it's what allows the Joker's plan to work. Throughout the film, he discounts and demeans those who are close to him, to the point of telling Alfred, the man who took him in and raised him as his own, that he "doesn't know what it's like to have a surrogate son." He literally and metaphorically pushes everyone who cares about him away, despite them pleading for him to let them help.

It takes him being sent to (arguably) an afterlife for him to realize how much he's hurt others. And even then, at first, he denies it. However, once Lego Batman does understand this, he tries to make things right. He convinces Phyllis, (the 2x4 Lego piece responsible for the phantom zone) to let him return to his world. Upon his return he has to give up his whole, "Batman works alone" mentality, in favor of wholly relying on his friends and family. and when he tries to sacrifice himself at the end of the movie, he gives Robin the lesson that he has learned throughout the course of the movie:

"Sometimes losing people is a part of life, but that doesn't mean you stop letting them in."

Lego Batman changes for the better, and that is why he is not recalled back into the phantom zone. If this were any other iteration of Batman, he likely would have been. This is because Lego Batman is the only one who has actually taken steps to heal from his trauma and actively relies on others for emotional support. Another difference, the "others" he relies on are not romantic relationships! When most batman movies show him in a relationship, it seems to be focused on the Token Hot Woman. But in this movie, it is platonic, familial love that causes him to want to make a change. These relationships are just as valid, and, quite frankly, probably more stable for him at this point in his life.

By the end of the movie, Lego Batman still retains many of the iconic Batman traits. He still runs around at night fighting crime in a batsuit. He is still cool as hell (the character states this explicitly). and he still struggles with the trauma of losing his parents. the difference is; he no longer does it on his own.

[starofthesea37]

How do you think Ivy’s pollen would affect an asexual person?

Realistically it would have the same effect as on everyone else, but I like to think that it would just make them Allosexual for however long it takes to wear off 😭

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Jason, after getting hit by sex pollen for the first time: what the fuck is this. Holy fuck. Is this how you lot feel all the time!?!? This explains so much.

[oldmannapping]

Jason Todd, patron saint of fed up disaster asexuals everywhere.

[allthegothihopgirls]

[insonniacaotica]

Ao3 writer's life

Me: Should I talk about a romantic relationship at this point?

Also me, an aroace addicted to family feels: nahh, let's just put angst and fluff