#as a sex-repulsed person

[weepingfireflies]

I'm actually not particularly fond of the romance/sex-favorable/neutral/repulsed division as, like, a permanent identity for me because somedays I'm frolicking in romance and smut & other days I want to explode the world if I see ppl even mention a ship at all. I think it's good for a lot of people, but it doesn't really work for me unless I'm feeling repulsed or neutral or favorable

Edit: Everyone who saw this that was wondering if there was a word for this: I've been informed about the term sex/romance-ambivalent. I suggest searching it up. Thank you to the people who mentioned it, but please stop trying to label me. Whether I decide to personally use it as a label is up to me.

[cosmicredcadet]

Oh no, you found a post where someone is saying they think sex/romance is gross! Whatever shall you do?

ignore it. literally ignore it. I'm 100% serious just fucking ignore it. it literally is not a personal attack on you. do not take it as a personal attack. scroll past it, hell block if you really need to, but you do not need to respond. it is not about you buddy - not everything is about you. close your eyes and move on buddy it's that easy. literally it is not systematically oppressing you for someone to say "Ew sex" or "Ew romance". just walk away pal.

[aro-bird]

Hey, hot tip: if an aspec person says that they don't want to do [romantic/sexual thing] because they're repulsed by it, or that they don't want to see [romantic/sexual thing] (even in fiction and/or fandom) because they're repulsed by it, and you as a fellow aspec decide to comment "Well, I'M [aspec identity here] and I like [romantic/sexual thing]!" You may just be an asshole.

By all means, do [romantic/sexual thing] and enjoy it as much as you like, it does not mean you aren't part of the community at all but for fucks sake leave repulsed people's personal posts alone

[lovelessrage]

Pro-kink advocacy goes hand in hand with aspec advocacy and if you don't understand this you need to start.

[im-literally-so-dun]

Hot take: it’s gross and, frankly, disgusting how much the clique sexualizes Tyler and Josh. For the majority, if not all of us, these men have helped us in our struggles, if not outright saved our lives. And… we repay them by saying any variety of utterly disgusting things about their appearance? I don’t even feel comfortable repeating 80% of the things I’ve seen on here, about them. And that’s not even mentioning how they’re both happily married, and Tyler even has KIDS. It’s just wrong.

Please, let’s try and have a tiny lil bit of respect for them, for heaven’s sake

[c1trvswurld]

I get excited for sex as a viewer. The carnality of it is cool. The way my eyes dilate and i get elated when I see a wild animal rip into a piece of flesh in an animal doc is the same towards my general feeling around sex. Go tear that up

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

NPD + sex repulsed asexual culture is being in uttter disgust and hatred after finding out someone is sexually attracted to me. How fucking dare you find me appealing in that way. You don’t deserve to see me like (nobody does) and I hate you and wish the worst and I hope terrible terrible things befall you.

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[hemlockpill]

would b awesome to find romance repulsed posts that don't imply I'm asexual/sex repulsed as well. That's all well & good for y'all but it is NOT inherent & absolutely not true for me. I'm not just sex favorable, I'm allosexual. I'm sex crazy. I love sex, I love having sex, I will be having more sex later today, maybe with multiple people. I am actively incredibly sexually attracted to other people, often immediately upon sight, & yet it still makes me feel ill if someone might even BEGIN to think of me romantically. They are not mutually inclusive.

I hate the idea that upon telling people im romance repulsed they will assume I'm sex repulsed or asexual. with my complicated gender it literally makes me dysphoric. PLEASE remember to include us.

if you tag this as aroace or asexual ur getting blocked I don't fucking care.

(not an invitation 2b acephobic)

[mossy-aro]

being aspec is weird sometimes because exploring my boundaries and (a)sexuality in my own way is such a personal and normal thing to do as you go through life but it feels like if you do something or experience something differently than aspec people are ‘supposed to’ it puts the validity of your whole identity in danger

[cosmicredcadet]

Some of you will see a character that is actively repulsed by romance/sex and heavily non-partner coded (sometimes they even actively just say that they do not want a relationship!) and y'all will still respond with "But aros/aces can still date and have sex!!" like okay bud it'd be so much easier for you to say you don't respect repulsed and non-partnering aros and aces. stop beating around the bush trying to pretend to be oh so supportive when you obviously feel uncomfortable about our existence even in fiction.

[pr1soners-d1lemma]

Why are people so sex ridden nowdays?

[your-stranger-halfblood-things]

"So pathetic," Billy says, grabbing Stu's hair and forcing his head up. "Can't even tell me what he wants. Pathetic."

Stu choked back a sob as more tears fell from his face. "I want you, Billy," he said hoarsely.

Billy snarled and shoved Stu to the ground. He crawled on top of the other man, pinning him down. "Yeah, you want me? Want me to what? Fuck you? Stab you? Kill you? I'll do all three if you beg nicely."

Stu nodded eagerly as Billy caressed his cheek. "Yes, god, Billy, yes."

Billy's face changed, softened even, and he rolled off of Stu, laying next to him.

"Billy?" Stu asked, the eagerness from before leaving his voice. He wiped his face, sensing something was off.

Billy closed his eyes. "I don't want to kill you." He reached over and took Stu's hand in his. "But the next time you annoy me, trust me, I will end you," he said jokingly.

Stu turned his head to look at him, smiling softly. "Good to know."

There was silence.

"So...no sex tonight?"

Billy shrugged. "No, I'm not really in the mood. I mean, if you want to, we can-"

Stu squeezed his hand. "Nope! You don't want to, so we're not going to. It has to be a yes both ways, and it's not right if we do it tonight."

Billy felt like a ton of rocks had been lifted off his chest. "Thanks, Stu."

Stu sat up and looked down at Billy. "Hannibal? I got a new copy because the old one scratched."

Billy nodded. "Hell yeah."

[ifwebefriends]

Being a sex-averse/repulsed alloace who sometimes has INTENSE sensual attraction/desire is wild because sometimes I'll see a character that other people are clearly horny for on main and I can ALMOST relate to them but I know the way we feel is significantly different at its core so then I leave a comment or post some shit like “I need him in my bed so he can crush me to death” and then hit send

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd + bpd + sex repulsed asexual culture is casually splitting because you no longer feel safe around your boyfriend for having sexual thoughts about you, but, at the same time, hating the very thought of him not being sexually attracted to you. like, you WISH you were having me, but it will never happen, because sex is disgusting and you are also disgusting

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[roses-are-repulsed]

Shout out to sex repulsed trans people who still want bottom surgery!! You deserve to make the changes that make you euphoric/comfortable without being questioned about it. Just because you won't "use it" sexually doesn't make your want of it any less valid. You don't need to use your genitals in a certain way to justify them. It's no ones business but your own anyways, dont let weirdos dictate your choices for your transition.

[freakcliff]

people are always asking things like "what are ace people spending all their time doing if not thinking about sex" and the answer is that i am in fact thinking about sex just intellectually. its a really fascinating topic tbh