#alloromantic asexual

[solvynessa-solvynessin]

Say it with me, everyone.

ARO DOES NOT EQUAL ACE.

ACE DOES NOT EQUAL ARO.

SOMETIMES PEOPLE ARE BOTH. THAT DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE THE SAME.

AROMANTIC AND ASEXUAL ARE DIFFERENT, AND SHOULD BE RESPECTED AS SUCH.

edit: holy shit, this post has gotten so popular it's getting aphobia notes! thanks y'all

[aroosprey]

Ace, Aro, OR BOTH?

I have made some ace/aro pride sea monsters,,, as a treat

edit: just so you know this artwork is made by an aroallo artist who doesn't appreciate being erased

tagging it as aspec/aro/ace and nothing else is fine, but if you're gonna tag aroace, don't exclude the other intersections represented here

[allo-aroace]

shout out to the aros, aces, and aroaces in relationships who feel like they don't belong in allo or ace/aro spaces because of it

[aceislonely]

a lot of alloallo people can't separate their sexual feelings from their romantic ones and i think that's part of why alloace people get so much shit. they don't understand why we want the romance without the sex because to them romance IS sex. that's why people go on about how they don't understand the "point" of sexless romance (the point is romance, hope this helps) and are always saying dumb shit like "a romance without sex is just friendship". even though, if that were true, romantic relationships and fwbs wouldn't be considered two different things. but they ARE considered two different things, because one has romance and the other doesn't. like. romance is a feeling and relationship type all on its own, whether sex is involved or not, and whether you personally understand that or not.

[posting-stuffies]

Let me say this, as an aplspec schizospec asocial who is sometimes alloace:

Aplatonic people are allowed to be alloromantic no matter what. People are allowed to only want romantic partners and no nonromantic friends. Yeah, it's said to fit the amatonormative standard, but platonormativity isn't just a concept you happen to find funny, it's real.

Aplatonicism may have started within arospec community, but it was also started as related to neurodivergence and asociality, which some dismiss and think schizoid people can't be really romantic. Which is unrealistic and manicomial.

Edit: apparently who coined aplatonic is alloace, according to people in the notes.

Additional comment: romantic love and friendship concepts vary across cultures too. Where I live acquaintances are not friends, they are just social contacts.

[mylittlestims]

PRIDE PONIES: Moondancer

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[leikeliscomet]

It's okay to talk about how your romantic attraction overlaps with your asexuality. It's not greedy to want representation of both your romanticism and your asexuality together in 1 character. It's not a lesser form of asexual representation if the character has romantic attraction. It's not a lesser form of queer romantic representation if the character is asexual. You are not a lesser form of anything. You don't have to 'choose' whether your asexuality or your romanticism matters more. It's not amatornativity to want an asexual relationship for yourself or express your romantic attraction. It's not allonormative or gross to express your interest in the same gender if you have it. It's okay if sexual/romantic/platonic look and feel completely different to you. It's not automatically 'just sexual attraction then' if it involves anything physical. It's not a privilege to have romantic attraction if it's illegal, moralised or stigmatised despite being asexual. In case anyone needs to hear it.

[gray-ace-space]

i feel like i reblog a lot of aroace stuff on here, just because i see a lot of it. which is cool and you guys are awesome, i'm not like, saying there should be less aroace stuff. but i do wish there was more specifically alloace sfuff too - i'm alloace, and the topic is important to me. so! anyone have any alloace focused blog recs?

[lung-worm2023]

Alloace meme I’ve been wanting to make all day.

[entropy-sea-system]

If you're alloace you need to understand that you enjoy more rep than aros. If you're aroace you need to understand that you enjoy more rep than non-ace aros including alloaros! If you're alloaro, you need to understand that rep for non sam aros, neu aros, etc. Is practically nonexistent. And so on.

If you're aro and/or ace and allotertiary you need to fucking understand that atertiaryspec ppl like aplatonics are also not represented at all despite being part of the aspec!! Yes we all need rep. Yes aspec rep as a whole is needed more regardless of the identity! But please don't erase the fact that some of us literally have way less rep than some other aspec identities and respect that we are allowed to be upset about how we are ignored in favor of another aspec identity all the fucking time.

[sketchyface]

Recently found out allosexuals watch porn to imagine having sex with the people in the porn and I wish I could unfind it

[thereallyreallylatebird]

As an aroallo woman, I feel a sort of kinship with alloace men. We're both going against gender norms just by existing.

I'm breaking the expectation that women are more interested in romance than sex.

They're breaking the expectation that men are more interested in sex than romance.

They're experiences that are both opposite and parallel, that leave me with both a perfect understanding and no understanding at all of what the other is like. So, hats off to you, alloace men. As someone who is in many ways your opposite, I see you.

[xxcalicofemmexx]

alloace wallpapers!

Alloace: Someone who experiences romantic attraction, but not sexual attraction. An abbreviation for alloromantic asexual.

[lawofcollage]

The Alloace and Alloaro pride flags!

[mylittlestims]

Day 7 of @deadboystims 300 follower event:

"catch up day / free space ! do whatever you want ! OR : make a stimboard based off of yourself ( or your system, if so desired )"

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