#aplatonic positivity

[puppyoclock]

happy pride month to the aros, the aplatonics, the loveless aros, everyone who is sick of hearing about love from everyone else. i see you and i appreciate you. your queerness is just as important and welcome and wonderful as everyone else's

[posting-stuffies]

Let me say this, as an aplspec schizospec asocial who is sometimes alloace:

Aplatonic people are allowed to be alloromantic no matter what. People are allowed to only want romantic partners and no nonromantic friends. Yeah, it's said to fit the amatonormative standard, but platonormativity isn't just a concept you happen to find funny, it's real.

Aplatonicism may have started within arospec community, but it was also started as related to neurodivergence and asociality, which some dismiss and think schizoid people can't be really romantic. Which is unrealistic and manicomial.

Edit: apparently who coined aplatonic is alloace, according to people in the notes.

Additional comment: romantic love and friendship concepts vary across cultures too. Where I live acquaintances are not friends, they are just social contacts.

[saffigon]

happy aplatonic visibility day to aplatonics with friends, aplatonics who don’t want friends, aplatonics who don’t like their friends, aplatonics who want friends, aplatonics without friends, aplatonics who love talking about their aplatonicism, aplatonics who are super social, aplatonics with personality disorders, aplatonics with low empathy, mean aplatonics, cruel aplatonics, autistic aplatonics

[gender-luster]

happy apl day!!

[xxcalicofemmexx]

aplatonic wallpapers!

Aplatonic: A term used to describe people who do not experience platonic attraction. Specifically, it is most commonly employed by aplatonic people to describe a lack of desire to form friendships with specific people, or difficulty forming friendships in general as a result of neurodivergence or trauma.

[nonconformityhub]

I need Aplatonic Infographic Ideas!

Following an extremely annoying conflict I had in the comments of an aplatonic post on @aspec-vents, I think people need help understanding the aplatonic experience and what platonic attraction/feelings actually are, and what it means to not have them

Send in your asks, comments, or reblogs for your questions for aplatonics or your aplatonic experience/what aplatonic means to you!

(reach tags: @aplatonic-culture-is @our-aplatonic-experience @aplatonic-stuff @aplatonicsafespace)

[lgbtq-userboxes]

[fish-arent-real]

Me wanting to make more aro and apl posts on here but have hella brain fog and so all that I can think of is "AH aro and apl people much cool, so amazing, like-

[klavierpanda]

Shoutout to aplatonic people, especially platonic averse/repulsed apls. I know a lot of aro positivity posts around this time tend to focus on platonic love as something to celebrate instead and that can feel very isolating. You do not need to make up for anything today or ever.

Now, let's go set amatonormativity ablaze

[freshorganicaroace]

Kicking off with my audience wanting more aplatonic posts, I decided to start kinda simple and make an aesthetic based around the flag. I went with a nature theme for it! The flag is very pretty, I can’t say I’ve seen it before.

I want to make more personal posts here, and I will, but school has been chewing me up and spitting me out. I hope y’all are understanding 😅

[entropy-sea-system]

Shoutout to nonfriending apls!!

[cherrytea556]

Happy late aplatonic day to aplatonics! I hope you get recognised, heard and seen in and out of our community.

[saffigon]

i actually love being aplatonic. i love not having a lot of friends. i am the mean aplatonic stereotype. i’m an aplatonic with npd and bpd and autism and low empathy. and i love it

[gender-luster]

aplatonic people are cool as fuck and deserve the world

[xxcalicofemmexx]

anyway

aplatonic people are beautiful and good and deserving. having language to express how they experience the world is not a bad thing, and should Never be framed as such.

if you are aplatonic because of a personality disorder, you belong.

if you are aplatonic because of autism, you belong.

if you are aplatonic because of trauma, you belong.

if you are aplatonic because of a fatigue disorder, you belong.

if you are aplatonic because you're just happier on your own, you belong.

if you are aplatonic because of another reason i can't think of rn, you belong.

you are real, and you matter, and you deserve to find pride in being yourself.

- sincerely, an aroacespec

[palpablenotion]

I hope that I always express this alongside my other explanations of aro/ace issues. I myself am self-sex repulsed (is that now what is called non-favorable?) and non-partnering, at least I believe myself to be at this point in my life. Then again, I once thought I was cisgender and completely hetero. In ten years I might change or learn new things about myself.

Anyway, the main reason I'm reblogging with commentary is that I know I've explained the various ways asexuals can be in sexual relationships and aromatics can be in romantic partnerships, but I hope I always remember to inform that they can also not be. They, we, can never want any of that. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with never wanting those relationships or those experiences. Not wanting is just as important to recognize and validate as wanting is. Dislike is just as important as like or indifference.

Some of us fit stereotype and cliche a lot more than others and that's just as good and valid as everyone else. Alienation isn't and as a joint community of broad spectrum aros and aces and aroaces, we should know better than to further alienate our own ranks.

Thank you, OP, for underlining this point. I truly hope I never forget to convey it in my explanations because for some reason people listen to me on this topic.

Taking these phrases away from the Aro and Ace communities until they fucking learn to behave themselves and act normal about Non-partnering, Repulsed, Loveless, and Aplatonic ppl.

Bonus phrases being taken away that I couldn't put on meme without it getting crowded include: "But Aros and aces can still enter QPRs!!!" "Aromantic ppl can still be in relationships!" "Asexuals can still have sex!" "We're not all heartless freaks!" "We can still love our family and friends!" and other phrases that ignore non-favorable and non-partnering groups of ppl.

and I REALLY shouldn't have to put this but y'all really like reading shit that's not there but : NO this is not saying that there isn't a time or place for these phrases. this is saying that this shouldn't be the only response given because it ignores the existence and validity of repulsed, non-partnering, loveless, and aplatonic people! by only defending favorable experiences you are saying "Its ok to still attack the experiences your attacking but just know that not ALL of us are like THAT so WE shouldn't be attacked"

DO NOT DERAIL THIS POST!!!! THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT FAVORABLE, PARTNERING, OR ALLOPLATONICS!!! DO NOT RESPOND WITH "But favorable/partnering people -" or "but platonic love-" THIS POST IS NOT FOR YOU.