#aroallo culture

[aroallo-corvid]

sprite and 7-up are aroallo culture now because they are lemon-lime flavour (inspired by that one post from like a month ago about how lemon-lime should be aroallo because of the colour scheme)

[aro-culture-is]

Non-ace aro culture is being tired of the response "Hey, I'm aroace too!"/"Hey, fellow aroace!"

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[theexhaustedqueer]

Guys, there’s a really obvious enemy here and— Oh! What a surprise!

It isn’t each other.

[fellas-is-it]

got tired of all depressing and hating yourself for being aro vibes on legit any other platform besides tumblr (looking at you tictac app) so wanted to listen to positive aromantic playlists and legit could NOT FIND ANY??????

And the ones that were vaguely positive were made for aroace ppl. Which is great! But im not ace!!! So WHERE'S MY POSITIVE AROALLO REP?!?!?!

Anyways i solved this hyperspecific problem myself and made a POSITIVE AROALLO playlist:

Larger image of the playlist cover i made

[lemonycranberries]

HEY IT'S THE 14TH. YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS. IT MEANS IT'S TIME TO GET ARO-ER. TIME FOR ALL ARO TAGS TO GO TRENDING.

AGAIN.

[franknfurterstriangulardinosaur]

I love being aromantic. It’s so nice to not live with the expectations of a romantic relationship. It’s nice to be my own person and be able to experience them freely. It’s nice for no one to have to be superior to anyone in my mind- to not have a hierarchy. It’s nice to have friendship. It’s nice to go out with your friends and do all those things that are supposed to be romantic but as a platonic intent. I love being aromantic. I love being the colour green. I love the flag. I love tearing down amatonormativity and social values. I love the culture. I love the tiny aromantic hints I’ve had my entire life. I love aromantic music. I love taking the romance out of love songs. I love not just viewing life as a time to fulfill romance. I love having all these hidden aromantic symbols. I love queer platonic relationships. I love other aromantic people. I love talking about being aromantic. I love being aromantic- I love being myself.

[bizarreaizen]

"love is in the air!"

i think you're mistaking it for air pollution >.< /nsrs

[just-aro]

ngl realizing im demisexual hurts like a motherfucker cuz now I feel like all the aces who said I was wrong about myself and that I can't be aroallo have a point.

they need to invent a demisexual that isn't on the ace spectrum cuz I still don't feel ace ngl.

honestly... speaking as someone who doesn't identify with any sexuality specifically, and feels more aroallo than aroace despite a sexuality that would probably fall somewhere in the ace-spec, you really do not have to use any labels you don't like for yourself.

it was cruel of others to insist your way of communicating your experiences was wrong. they don't matter, and frankly, probably aren't worth caring about - if you wouldn't trust them to have good intentions, would you trust them to care about you and why you identify how you do?

does their opinion matter? or does your personal way of relating to yourself matter more?

[degengxrl]

[arohuacheng]

the thing about pei ming. is that what the narrative shows you straight out is him in a relationship where he didn't follow the typical romantic convention of abandoning everything for the other person. and then him attempting to cover for his nepotism grandkid. and then his reputation for sleeping with a lot of women. and then it really doesn't want to let you talk about the fact that he's very consistent about making sure that the women he has relationships with are taken care of after he's gone. or that he was doing the honorable thing by not taking the easy way out of a war and did his best with an impossible situation with that woman afterwards and made sure she was taken care of to the best of his ability. or that shi wudu, water tyrant, trusts him so much that he's essentially appointed him as shi qingxuan's guardian in case anything happens to him. like YES he's a whore. AND.

[loveless-arobee]

I… have some thoughts and you have to bear with me on that one because I’m not sure how to word this.

I am currently plotting a novella mostly about sexual intimacy. And it made me think of how sexuality/sexual intimacy/even sexual love is viewed in most of society, but also specifically aspec spaces, and I wanted to talk about that.

Because you have romantic intimacy or love that is viewed as the most pure and wholesome, and sex is only an add-on to it; sex cannot exist as a good and moral thing without being paired with romance in the eyes of society.

In aspec spaces there’s a huge focus on platonic intimacy (or love), or queerplatonic/alterous/… intimacy; and some people begrudgingly agree that you could have sex in those relationships, but there’s almost always the assumption that having sex with your friends will wreck the friendship in one way or another. If no one falls in love, to redeem the sex you had with romance, you will stop being friends soon enough because that just can’t work. Or, in slightly more progressive views, that sex can too be redeemed by platonic/queerplatonic/… love same as it can be with romantic love. That’s not any better though. That just purity culture and sex negativity in a fancy new mask.

Sexual love and purely sexual intimacy cannot exist as a good thing. You are using people for their bodies, are an disgusting pervert and an abuser for having/wanting a purely sexual relationship.

Or a sexual relationship can exist, but it can never be as deep as real friendship and least of all a romantic relationship. A sexual relationship must mean you only care for sex and not the person you’re having sex with. Sexual relationships are inherently shallow and if you do care for the person you’re having a sexual relationship with, that care must come from platonic or romantic or any other type of affection. And if you say it doesn’t, you’re either lying about the nature of your affection or your emotions towards your sexual partner.

And idk. It’s… weird. Why can’t a purely sexual relationship be as deep, or even deeper, on an emotional level, than friendship or romance? Why are even people who say they’re against relationship hierarchies so against agreeing that this includes purely sexual intimacy? (I know it’s purity culture. But c'mon; we as aspecs should be better than this… right?)

Sex is always seen as a negative thing unless it’s paired with love—and even then it’s something neutral at best. And if the sex is the love for a person, that is either a lie or that person is a disgusting abuser. Because you can’t possibly love (or show intimacy/affection/care…) through sex and nothing else.

Sexual relationships can be just as emotional and invested as friendships and romance can be. They don’t have to, of course—this isn’t another try to redeem sex. Honestly, completely shallow sexual relationships between people who just meet up every once in a while to fuck and do literally nothing else with each other are also completely alright.

But people so often deny that there could be any emotional depth to purely sexual attraction that doesn’t actually come from another emotion—and that’s just wrong.

All this to say, let people define their own emotions and connections. Sexual intimacy is good, actually, and it doesn’t have to be "redeemed" by any other kind of intimacy beside itself.

I hope I’m making enough sense to understand.

[aro-culture-is]

Aroallo culture is being sexually attracted to your friend and wanting to start a sexual relationship with them but being too afraid to ruin the friendship because theyre alloallo and the chances that they catch feelings are never 0%

(They are aware of this, this is a conversation we've had, btw just in case hfhdhs)

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[contradictory-label-culture-is]

aroallo alloace culture is Schrodinger's attraction /silly

Anything Schrodinger is good, best jokes, best word 💗

[sunoficarus]

This is a PSA: ACE ≠ ARO

I’m both tired but also kinda of sad to see the same stuff constantly getting mistaken, ESPECIALLY because I see it THE MOST from THE QUEER COMMUNITY

ASEXUALS ARE NOT ALWAYS AROMANTIC

I really can’t believe I have to say this but asexual just means no sexual attraction. Asexuals can be Aromantic or Arospec, but they can also be alloromantic!!

like, asexual people can totally have different boundaries for what qualifies as romantic or sexual in nature, that’s fine, but painting all asexual people as not interested in romantic stuff not only invalidates a lot of ace experiences, but it also erases Aromantic experiences.

Aromantic and Asexual are SEPARATE IDENTITIES

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd aroallo culture is being worried that your just like the stereotypes .

-🦜🪶

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[ihhfhonao3]

Sex aversion/romance aversion = valid

Sex repulsion/romance repulsion = valid

Sex negativity/romance negativity = not valid

These are all very different things. While aversion and repulsion towards sex and romance aren’t really controllable things, negativity towards them is and is not okay.

Sex/romance negativity is a mindset that sex/romance are bad, dirty, and in some cases, “sinful.” Some aces/aros that have these views even see themselves as superior to allosexuals and alloromantics just because they are ace/aro, which is obviously not okay.

Repulsion is the feeling that sex/romance are personally found gross and not for you, and aversion is not wanting one or both of them for yourself or in your own life. There are stark differences between all these feelings and ideas. Sex/romance negativity is bad, aversion and repulsion are not.

The main difference being that where the negative look down upon allos and think they’re better than them, the repulsed and the averse do not and usually keep their feelings to themselves but set personal boundaries to keep themselves safe.

Support your local repulsed/averse a-spec today, and kick a negative a-spec for me while you’re at it ❤️