#alloaro culture

[aro-culture-is]

aroallo culture is please don't sexualize me on a whim just because I am allosexual AND aromantic. The absence of my capacity for romantic attraction isn't me screwing with everyone on sight.

and honestly, even if it was that's not something to be demonized

[aroallo-corvid]

sprite and 7-up are aroallo culture now because they are lemon-lime flavour (inspired by that one post from like a month ago about how lemon-lime should be aroallo because of the colour scheme)

[straighttohellbuddy]

thinking about Lovejoy describing themselves in three words as 'Aromantic British Noises'

thinking about Lovejoy describing themselves in three words as 'Aromantic British Noises'

thinking about how the idea of aromanticism isn't nearly as widespread as it is on Tumblr/various other corners of the internet

thinking about how most people would probably assume the use of Aromantic as a descriptor would imply a lack of any kind of love or romance or close interpersonal relationships in their music which is INHERENTLY NOT TRUE

thinking about Lovejoy choosing Aromantic specifically, confident enough in understanding the actual concept/culture of aromanticism to describe their entire band

thinking about the potential for there to be someone(s) in Lovejoy who is either on the Aromantic spectrum or has considered it as a possibility and has researched it to understand it (and maybe themselves) better

thinking about hard about Lovejoys songs and realising that despite a few having vaguely romantic or implied romantic connotations, you could absolutely do an aro-spec reading of their whole discography

thinking about Lovejoy becoming part of Aro Culture in my heart

thinking about being aro-spec myself, and how id consider the term 'lovejoy' to still very much be my vibe despite that.

thinking about self described Aromantic British Noises, Lovejoy.

thinking about Lovejoy.

💚💚🤍🩶🖤

[just-aro]

ngl realizing im demisexual hurts like a motherfucker cuz now I feel like all the aces who said I was wrong about myself and that I can't be aroallo have a point.

they need to invent a demisexual that isn't on the ace spectrum cuz I still don't feel ace ngl.

honestly... speaking as someone who doesn't identify with any sexuality specifically, and feels more aroallo than aroace despite a sexuality that would probably fall somewhere in the ace-spec, you really do not have to use any labels you don't like for yourself.

it was cruel of others to insist your way of communicating your experiences was wrong. they don't matter, and frankly, probably aren't worth caring about - if you wouldn't trust them to have good intentions, would you trust them to care about you and why you identify how you do?

does their opinion matter? or does your personal way of relating to yourself matter more?

[ace-culture-is]

[Allo]ace culture is adoring and defending alloaros <3 We in this together!

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[loveless-arobee]

I… have some thoughts and you have to bear with me on that one because I’m not sure how to word this.

I am currently plotting a novella mostly about sexual intimacy. And it made me think of how sexuality/sexual intimacy/even sexual love is viewed in most of society, but also specifically aspec spaces, and I wanted to talk about that.

Because you have romantic intimacy or love that is viewed as the most pure and wholesome, and sex is only an add-on to it; sex cannot exist as a good and moral thing without being paired with romance in the eyes of society.

In aspec spaces there’s a huge focus on platonic intimacy (or love), or queerplatonic/alterous/… intimacy; and some people begrudgingly agree that you could have sex in those relationships, but there’s almost always the assumption that having sex with your friends will wreck the friendship in one way or another. If no one falls in love, to redeem the sex you had with romance, you will stop being friends soon enough because that just can’t work. Or, in slightly more progressive views, that sex can too be redeemed by platonic/queerplatonic/… love same as it can be with romantic love. That’s not any better though. That just purity culture and sex negativity in a fancy new mask.

Sexual love and purely sexual intimacy cannot exist as a good thing. You are using people for their bodies, are an disgusting pervert and an abuser for having/wanting a purely sexual relationship.

Or a sexual relationship can exist, but it can never be as deep as real friendship and least of all a romantic relationship. A sexual relationship must mean you only care for sex and not the person you’re having sex with. Sexual relationships are inherently shallow and if you do care for the person you’re having a sexual relationship with, that care must come from platonic or romantic or any other type of affection. And if you say it doesn’t, you’re either lying about the nature of your affection or your emotions towards your sexual partner.

And idk. It’s… weird. Why can’t a purely sexual relationship be as deep, or even deeper, on an emotional level, than friendship or romance? Why are even people who say they’re against relationship hierarchies so against agreeing that this includes purely sexual intimacy? (I know it’s purity culture. But c'mon; we as aspecs should be better than this… right?)

Sex is always seen as a negative thing unless it’s paired with love—and even then it’s something neutral at best. And if the sex is the love for a person, that is either a lie or that person is a disgusting abuser. Because you can’t possibly love (or show intimacy/affection/care…) through sex and nothing else.

Sexual relationships can be just as emotional and invested as friendships and romance can be. They don’t have to, of course—this isn’t another try to redeem sex. Honestly, completely shallow sexual relationships between people who just meet up every once in a while to fuck and do literally nothing else with each other are also completely alright.

But people so often deny that there could be any emotional depth to purely sexual attraction that doesn’t actually come from another emotion—and that’s just wrong.

All this to say, let people define their own emotions and connections. Sexual intimacy is good, actually, and it doesn’t have to be "redeemed" by any other kind of intimacy beside itself.

I hope I’m making enough sense to understand.

[kyanitedragon]

Captain James T. Kirk is alloaro

Evidence:

It's said 3 times in season 1 alone that the Enterprise is his lover, and that he would prioritize it over any woman

The only "romances" he has are (1) past lovers of his returning for an episode, or (2) flirting with the woman of the week in order to save his crew — femme fatale style

His uniform is gold, and his secondary wraparound outfit is green — the alloaro flag colors

[aro-lesbian-culture-is]

Aro lesbian culture is feeling like your leading people on when flirting because you don't want qnything deeper with them

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[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is being a completely gay, aplatonic, afamilial, romance repulsed aroallo and hating 99.8% of queer spaces due to how they treat people like me

oh yeah that's not a combo that the "but we're just normal like you :D" types of crowds like

[funkyfruta]

I've been having allosexual thoughts

It is disturbing

[asexual-goddessss]

What an #asexual or #aromantic identity you wish was more represented in media? And why?

Picture: Willow & the Family Ace

[moderndaycairn]

Idk about yall but as an alloaro guy friends with benefits are awesome actually. Provided they dont catch feelings it great like hell yeah bro no romo just frieds who fuck. Anyways happy pride month alloaros exist and r valid asf!!

[aesthetic-attraction-culture-is]

alloaro aesthetic attraction culture is experiencing aesthetic attraction more intensely than sexual attraction

🩷❤🤍🤎🤍🧡💛

[grybix-the-aros1ut]

Hey, uhm...

just a shout-out to all the aroallos who are in fact promiscuous, who enjoy casual sex with no attachment, who are kinky dirty perverts.

Don't be ashamed, embrace your nature and fuck purity culture! (literally lmao)

[canonically47]

listening to lovejoy rn researching aromanticism on tumblr as any aro girl does. i love them.

thinking about Lovejoy describing themselves in three words as 'Aromantic British Noises'

thinking about Lovejoy describing themselves in three words as 'Aromantic British Noises'

thinking about how the idea of aromanticism isn't nearly as widespread as it is on Tumblr/various other corners of the internet

thinking about how most people would probably assume the use of Aromantic as a descriptor would imply a lack of any kind of love or romance or close interpersonal relationships in their music which is INHERENTLY NOT TRUE

thinking about Lovejoy choosing Aromantic specifically, confident enough in understanding the actual concept/culture of aromanticism to describe their entire band

thinking about the potential for there to be someone(s) in Lovejoy who is either on the Aromantic spectrum or has considered it as a possibility and has researched it to understand it (and maybe themselves) better

thinking about hard about Lovejoys songs and realising that despite a few having vaguely romantic or implied romantic connotations, you could absolutely do an aro-spec reading of their whole discography

thinking about Lovejoy becoming part of Aro Culture in my heart

thinking about being aro-spec myself, and how id consider the term 'lovejoy' to still very much be my vibe despite that.

thinking about self described Aromantic British Noises, Lovejoy.

thinking about Lovejoy.

💚💚🤍🩶🖤

[aro-lesbian-culture-is]

aro lesbian culture is having a gf and being torn bc you are sexually attracted to her but dont have romantic feelings towards her

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