#all my friends think I’m autistic

[a-concert-just-for-me]

I’d genuinely sell a kidney to try ADHD meds. For the bit, of course.

[theres-whump-in-that-nebula]

Interesting. Don’t necessarily think I’m autistic but I have more going on than just ADHD and I’m not sure what that is.

[finniestoncrane]

said to my counsellor that i wasnt built for friendship because everyone always eventually just. stops speaking to me and she went “ok why do you think that is?” and then when i finished my dumb sad list she went “ok so maybe you aren’t good at friendship” and i. have never regretted spending £50 more in my life lol

[willowfey]

starting to think maybe waking up with an anxiety stomachache every single morning and then needing to spend the entire day trying to get rid of said anxiety just to maybe have a few minutes in the evening of feeling relaxed before going to bed is perhaps not normal

[website-com]

[werwlf]

I had family from out of state visiting who I was really excited to see and it was awesome to see them but it was also frustrating bc it illustrates to me just how inherently isolating being autistic could be. Even with family who know I’m autistic and are accepting I can only be in big groups for so long before I become disregulated and can’t fully keep up with conversations that aren’t directly about my interests, and after another hour or two I can’t even do that, and my sensory issues start to cause physical pain. And it just sucks bc I don’t get to see them very often and I wanted to be able to spend more time with them. (And I’m at a better place with coping and regulating than I have been in years to the point that my family was impressed with how much I could be there!) idk something something when your disability is disabling

[tertain-the-original]

I think it’s really fucking funny how C.G. is actually not super smart. That’s really clever and cute. I gave her glasses anyway. Also it’s crazy that Luís has a Papa Skulls t shirt (reference to Trollhunters). Small world! He’s like “look at my awesome t shirt… also I’m scared of EVERYTHING”. And Emily loves all creatures great and small no matter how weird they look, it’s super sweet. She saw Squibbon and said “AWWWW” which is so cool of her.

[lesbiansanemi]

I don’t often think I’m upset at not having a good relationship with my parents but sometimes it really fucking hits me that I don’t have a good mom I don’t have a dad I’ll never experience having a good parent and someone I can lean on like that and I get… really upset

[jackobbit]

Day 300 of trying not to think about the blorbo

Relapsed

[waterberry-strawmelon]

heyo!! I’m yelling out into the void for some quick friendship/communication advice for anyone who might be able to help!

Lately I’ve been struggling to positively interact with a friend of mine because it feels like anytime I say something, she feels the need to insert her own dissenting opinion or to “correct” me on a subjective thing.

I know this friend thinks very literally, and she’s mentioned a few times in passing jokes that she thinks she’s autistic, so as an allistic person I don’t want to be rude by not prioritizing her perspective. But at the same time, since every conversation i have with her ends up including her correcting me on something I don’t need correcting on—whether it’s A) something I actually already know, B) a detail that to me feels minute and thus nitpicky and irrelevant to correct because my point was still clear, or C) something that’s entirely subjective, like if I make a passing joke and say, “Lol, that’s us!” And she replies, “Ehhh, not really, actually.”

She will often undercut what I’m saying by plainly and bluntly disagreeing with it, and to me it feels like she can only have things her way and she needs to have the last word. BUT I’m hoping that’s not how she actually feels or intends for this to be coming off, and that’s largely just my personal perception of it.

From what I can tell, I think she struggles a lot with basic empathy, in the sense that she is very focused internally on herself and does not think to look at things from anyone else’s perspective. (And just to be clear, I mean this in an entirely neutral way, because she is compassionate and sympathetic, and lacking empathy doesn’t mean you can’t be a kind person.)

So from someone who is overly-empathetic and somewhat emotionally sensitive (I’m learning not to take things personally, but it’s still easy for me to feel hurt or upset about little things), does anyone have any advice about this? I guess I don’t know for sure if she’d say she has low empathy, but it feels likely that she does, because otherwise that would mean she’s doing all these things on purpose, knowing that it sounds rude.

The longer I go without telling her that this behavior upsets me, the more I stew in it, and it makes it very difficult to hang out with her because I end up very irritable. And that’s not fair to her, since I’m not communicating what the problem is. But I also don’t want to hurt her feelings, because maybe she just thinks she’s doing a favor by correcting me, as she sees it. idk. let me know if this makes sense! Shoot me a DM if you have any advice/the space to chat about it.

TLDR; any advice for communicating kindly with a low-empathy friend to let them know I’m feeling hurt and irritated by the frequency of some of these habits?

[tragedykery]

I hate. complicated friendships

[floralcyanide]

part of my healing journey is realizing I’m going to annoy people with my energy and not mean to, and there’s nothing I can really do about it ((:

[fantomette22]

💌 send this to the twelve nicest people you know or who seem to have a good heart and if you get five back you must be pretty awesome

FRIEND FRIEND FRIEND!! Nobody supports the little guy the same way as you do, and I absolutely love you for this. You are so nice, so friendly, you always make sure people are included and want to know more, your sense of humour is so unique and nice! I love to find connection on the basis of 'caring about every single obscure gremlin' with you tbh, rarest trait for a creator but we got autistic on autistic communication I guess. I just love how you keep track on everything and everyone and basically just want to enjoy stuff. You deserve so much of that support and attention back. Also everyone who as much as looked the weird way in your direction is a terrible person forever and judging people by how they treat you is the only valid way to separate good from bad :pensive:

Awwwww 🥺❤️ THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!!!

Yeah i’m trying my best around here in this not so fair world.

Also i’m very glad you and other people like my nonexistent humor too?! I have a hard time with dumb jokes people make and was always offbeat on that so i’m glad! Must be the autism

Look what i found lol (i don’t have time to edit it but one day)

I mean i love having tons of lil stories in my head about characters and my favs do have super detailed one (they really do live in my head rent free). But because i like to see things in their globality too i need to think about all the lil guys as well!

Thank you a lot 🫂

[the-casbah-way]

grief is weird because it has been twelve years and i still sometimes find myself watching strangers go about their day like everything is fine and normal and think like wow they never knew him. like the world has ended a bit and you’re all just okay. how can you be fine when there is now a gaping hole in the universe that will never go away

[zomblorbs]

problem with being an overthinker that’s always thinking abt his friends is that i will constantly text them about anything and everything and then shame myself an hour later because they didn’t reply so i’m probably annoying as hell.

like “i’m gonna show this person so much love by texting them to show that i’m thinking abt them” turns into “oh my god why can’t i shut up, they’re probably just talking to me because they feel required to reply and i just keep taking.”

[mariusaurus]

was riverdaleposting on my finsta a while back and my gf replied saying something about “do you have anyone to talk to about this? is that something you need?” and i have honestly never felt more cared for in my life like ?? you understand my need to talk about these things?? and you’re making sure that need is being met?? which is not only so considerate but helps me reframe my investment in my interests from something negative or compulsive to something normal and necessary to my self-regulation? wtf?