#Seeking Help

[ilikeit-art]

A sweet story about how people helped a wounded eagle.

[creatingnikki]

notes from my therapist

when we explore what happened in your childhood, it is not to blame your parents or have a biased judgement of them. it is to understand how events impacted you and what your experience was. so you don’t have to feel guilty about talking about it or as if you are betraying your family. 

trauma can be of various types and it does not only have to be induced due to one major event. there can also be trauma from situations of acute stress over a prolonged period of time. 

choosing the wrong or right people does not mean they are good or bad. it means understanding what is healthy for you and what you want. it’s not putting them into boxes, it’s simply knowing what is healthy for you.

why do you wait for a green light from others? what is your green light? why do your decisions have to be based on what others want? what do you want?

being a friendly person and being an open book does not mean that you cannot have boundaries. 

you disappointing someone or them disappointing you does not have to be the end of the relationship. 

[flagellant]

Hey everyone, I've got a friend who's in pretty dire straits and needs all the help he can get. His car that he was using and relying on for his work to raise money for an upcoming move died on him suddenly and it's threatening our plans to be able to move out together into our own house. Any and all help would be appreciated!

If you DM me with proof of your donation to the GoFundMe I'll be offering cartomancy readings using my personal custom deck, the Waking Dreams Tarot.

[kittytamasings]

Seeking help with $300 payment to grandpa by the 15th to keep peace under our roof

TL;DR I'm seeking $300 by the 15th to pay my grandpa so we can appease him and keep him off our backs while mom is away from home recovering from health issues. It's urgently needed so he won't call mom's phone to torture her over the payment. I want to make our burdens a little lighter with your help. More details below.

Life has turned upside down since last month. Mom experienced a mini stroke which led to her hospitalization. She did pull through and is now recovering her physical strength in the skilled nursing facility in preparation to come home, but she's had a host of various issues going on which contributed to her health issues.

She survived, but if she wasn't hospitalized when she was, she would have died that next morning. With much of my adult life being centered on caregiving for mom basically full-time, I've had to adjust my own lifestyle in the meantime which has been quite a challenge.

It's been a very stressful month navigating home life without her here. I'm not sure when exactly she's coming back home, but mom has been making amazing progress.

Meanwhile, poppy continues to be horrible to us. He says rude things, he makes passive aggressive moves at us in the form of leaving profanity-riddled handwritten notes on the door of his wardrobe in his bedroom or being passive aggressive things aren't clean enough to his standards. The usual. He hasn't been any nicer to us even knowing mom has been recovering and he even called up to the hospital to torment her a few times too. Sure, sometimes he'd be decent but there's almost always a catch with him when he's trying to butter people up.

To say I'm mentally drained is an understatement. But right now, while we are still figuring out moving stuff, it's taken a bit of a backseat to Mom's sudden stroke and other health issues. We'll be starting from basically the ground up when she comes home in terms of getting adjusted to home life once more with her back. I'm aiming for the $300 poppy needs for monthly payment stuff by the 15th. This will prevent him from being any worse to us as we try to take things day by day here awaiting mom's return home. I'm just trying to keep some peace under this roof and this is the big way to do that even if he's super critical and rude all the time.

It is a lot to ask for in a matter of four days, but think of it this way: if two people sent along $150, I'd hit my goal fairly quick. Or if three people donated $100. Regardless, any amount helps and gets me much much closer to my goal of being able to pay poppy so he can chill out and not be so awful to us while we're stuck living under his roof a while longer and adjusting to life. Please boost with reposts and such, I'm working really hard on things but I need to lean on others in these hard times. It's urgently needed by the 15th. This will also take stress off mom's shoulders because she's away from home still and poppy WILL call her cell phone to harass her if we don't appease him. You couldn't begin to understand if you don't live in this situation, all I ask for is compassion. Thank you for reading all this. Times have been scary and challenging but I'm trying my best to take them a day at a time.

[gaasublarb]

Will someone please tell me where I can flee to to find help as an autistic. My partner of 8 years has broken up with me and is demanding I find a new place to live. I don't want to go back to my abusive parents. None of the autistic help around Memphis is for adults. Please share

[opal-sparks]

I really hate to ask for help, but my fiance had to get a wisdom tooth removed and around the same time, he also had a back injury at work. I'm asking for help to pay his dental bill and his upcoming specialist visit.

His job is requiring him to see a specialist before they allow him to return to work with restrictions. In the meantime, I'm using a credit card, but we are struggling financially and cannot afford to pay off all this debt. Any help is appreciated. Money is used to pay for dental, medical visit, and prescription medications.

Even if you can't donate, reblogs are greatly appreciated too.

https://gofund.me/bad1675d

[lokielly]

i’m a 22 year old lesbian struggling right now. can older lesbians help me please? i don’t know what to do and i feel like i have no one to talk to about this.

big trigger warning for internalized homophobia because this is about me and my unhealthy view of my sexuality.

tl;dr: i have horrible internalized homophobia and i let it consume me recently, it was getting way better the last two days, and then the election set me back further than i was.

details below the cut if anyone wants to help me out here. i’d really appreciate any advice.

i was always that kid that hung out in groups of queer kids because they were nice, but i never thought that would be me. until i discovered i was gay when i was 13, but wouldn’t let myself admit it until i was 15 (the final nail in the lesbian coffin was watching friends and crushing on monica, which sounds unimportant but this comes back later), and even then i was wishy washy about it. i would tell people i was still confused and that i didn’t even know if i liked girls even though i knew that i did.

anyway, i identified as ace between 14 and 16 because i didn’t want to admit to myself that i didn’t like guys. then i identified as bi until i was like 16 and a half because i was trying so hard to latch onto guys that i thought were “cute” but i never would have wanted anything with. when i finally realized i was a lesbian, i couldn’t bring myself to say it for like a year. eventually, i got better with it. point in case: i was always avoidant about being a lesbian. but eventually, that shame i felt about it subsided.

pretty soon after that, i started dating my girlfriend. we’re still dating now. it’s long distance so i only see her once per year, but when i saw her this year, it was completely different. i felt like i couldn’t do anything with her. i was completely uncomfortable because i didn’t want to be gay.

i think what it comes down to is that i feel like i’m not strong enough to be a lesbian. i wasn’t supposed to be gay. that wasn’t the plan. my parents immigrated to this country for me to have a good life, and now i’m gay. it feels like it’s not how it’s supposed to be. so i’ve been struggling with that for the last few months.

this last week, one of my friends got me in a positive headspace about it because (and this is where that ridiculous part comes back) she was picking on me (/pos) over my crush on monica. so i got a reminder that my attraction to women isn’t a choice, and it’s not bad either. i love women. so i was doing pretty good.

but now the election happened. and it turned out the complete opposite way i thought it’d turn out. i’m from georgia, which i thought was going to be blue again, but it voted red. everyone around me hates me. if they all found out i was a lesbian, they’d all hate me. it’s set be back so far that i have this urge to cut everyone off and start over online, pretending that i’m not gay. i keep thinking that maybe i can delude myself into thinking my attraction to women isn’t real. obviously, i won’t be able to make myself attracted to men. but i can be attracted to no one.

the issue is that i know that’s a path that only leads to unhappiness, and i want to be happy. i can’t do that to myself.

have any of you ever been in that position? how do i deal with this?

[thesketcharchivist]

Feelin that financial strain between car troubles, Doggy Meds, and Bills, so I’ll be opening my c0mms until the end of the year!

If you or someone you know wants some art, please Hmu in DMs!!

💲and how/when it gets to me is negotiable! 🖤

Sharing is also much appreciated!

[redinkquill]

Welcomed Help

I wish you were here to walk me through it

Step by step

Over my shoulder or sitting by my side

Until I got tired of your advice

And asked you to leave me alone

So I could focus

But secretly knowing

That I never would have started

Without you there to begin with

thanks to waitingforlostsouls for inspiring this one

[angel-yy]

In case nobody told you today:

You are beautiful.

You are wonderful.

You have a super personality.

You are strong.

[sarahowritesostucky]

Tumblr Queue Question!

I have many posts scheduled for around Halloween time, Christmas time, etc.

If I shuffle my queue, do the scheduled posts get shuffled as well? I want to shuffle but don't want the scheduled posts changed up.

[rabbitdarling]

Seeking Fic Help...

Okay Doctor Who side of Tumblr I need help lmao, I need ideas for alias's for four renditions of the Doctor: 9, 10, 11, and 12. Obviously they all can't be John Smith. I have Nine down as James Noble currently, Ten as John Smith, but don't have anything for Eleven or Twelve. I am also very curious as to why in a few fics I've read of Twelve/Rose authors have used Ian Docherty?

I'm a little confused on that as well as that's the name of a real artist? I had assumed it was a name of one of Peter Capaldi's characters from a different project. So yeah, any help would be appreciated and answers because I'm just sitting here going:

[cloudsjulett]

[sagekjs21]

Random Bit of Advice #9

As a person born visually impaired, I learned at a young age a very important lesson. It is ok to need help. When faced with a task I cannot do alone, I have four options: I can give up entirely and the task simply remains undone, I can stand there like a deer in the headlights silently begging for someone to notice the look on my face and offer to help, I can try doing the task myself and make a huge mess of things since I was physically unable to do it alone in the first place, or I can accept the fact that I have limitations and proactively seek the help I need.

God will always provide. As an adult, if I need a ride to the post office, will God give it to me? If I need help finding items on the shelf at the grocery store, will God find them for me? If I have an important document to read, and I am unable to for whatever reason, will God read it aloud to me? The answer to all of these questions is no.

But He will provide the right people. I only need to use discernment from Him to know who I must turn to. Some situations are far more complicated than others, but there is always provision.

My friends, you need to know that this concept carries over into life's more messy and uncomfortable matters as well. If you are in need of love, you have the same four options. You can neglect the need entirely, leading to nothing more than a hardened heart. You can go through life with a haunted look on your face, praying fervently that just once God will prompt someone who will actually care to notice. You can convince yourself that you can meet this need on your own, leading usually to addiction.

Or you can step out in Faith, do something contrary to societal norms, something you may have tried before and been met with failure. You can reach out to another in complete honesty and ask for help. It may take a few tries. Just as with the vision impairment, some people will help in resignation, many people will completely refuse, some will scoff and sneer at the fact you are showing vulnerability, some will demean you, ignore you, and even curse you, some will eagerly help at first only to grow quickly resentful, and a few will help out of what seems to be genuine kindness while all along they either want to take something from you or trip you up so they can watch you fall.

But there are a rare few who will respond with sincerity, compassion, and selflessness. These people, they are the ones to hold close to your heart. And God will provide them, even one at a time sometimes. But there will be someone.

Find your people. And if you can only find one, strengthen that relationship until God puts more people like this one in your life. Be sure though not to take that initial person for granted when things do indeed get better; always remember that they were there for you when no other person was. God will provide for your needs. But we are not meant to be solitary creatures. And perhaps this is why we all need help at times.

The question is this: are you either brave or desperate enough to seek what you need?

It is not an easy thing to accomplish. Like I said, these people are very rare. Just know this: God will provide. Even if it literally takes decades, He will provide. And in the meantime, He will sustain you until you are in the perfect position to receive.

Motivation in seeking help is important though. Are you asking for help because you legitimately want to work through an issue and continue on living an even better life? Or are you only seeking sympathy and pity? In the end, the latter helps no one. On the contrary, it almost always causes far more harm. So are you truly aiming to change things, or do you only seek the attention of others. Your motives matter. If you cannot discern them, just know that God can. And in the end, it is only His opinion that matters. Many people will see only what they want to see or only what they are expecting. You and God will know the truth though, and you won't have to convince people who genuinely care of what your motive is. They will understand, believe what you say, and work with you and God to get you through this.

NOTE FOR ANYONE STRUGGLING WITH SUICIDAL THOUGHTS: Although I am not writing this in regards to suicidal thoughts or ideation, the same advice applies. If you are facing these, there is absolute hope in Jesus and absolute help at your fingertips. And if you are thinking that you want to end your life because you simply have no people, I understand that too. I felt the same way thirteen years ago, and this persisted for about two and a half years nearly on a daily basis. These people DO exist for you. I will not lie to you and say that they are coming just around the metaphorical corner. We all have very different lives, so knowing what God's Plans are for yours is not something I'm capable of. Like I said though, a relationship with Him will prevent you from sinking until your people can be found. And a lot of the times, by the time you've found them, you will have already walked on figurative water with Jesus several times over. The key is to not give up. If you've given up on yourself and on the world, I understand. But let a miniscule flame of hope in the Lord flicker away in your heart until God's relentless tenderness stokes it into a beautiful inferno. You are loved, loving, and loveable. Your people just don't know that yet. But they will. ❤️

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

Sometimes I still wonder, what if I had ended my suffering early..