#Punk advice

[piers-official]

Punk advice for the day:

Always stand up for your fellow queers. Yes, that includes neogender/pronouns, "contradictory" labels, anything ya might think is "weird" or "confusin'".

Queer means weird/strange and If ya can't support them, then ya don't support any of us. Ya got the ability t'educate yourselves and learn acceptance. And the others who are antis? they're spoutin' the same jargon and arguments that are used against YOU.

Stand united or Fall divided.

[safety-pin-punk]

Any good tips for any baby punks out there? I'm new to the scene and need some advice. Any advice for diy's/ideology/music/ect?

Hi!! Sorry its taken me so long to get to this, I’ve traveled about 1300 miles (aprox 2093 km) in the last 2 weeks

Tips for baby/puppy punks!! Yes! I have a lot of those, but I’ll summarize into the important ones:

The absolute most important thing I can tell you is to develop critical thinking skills (if you don’t already have them). Dont just hop on a bandwagon because all the other punks are doing it. Take the time to learn and form your own opinions on something

The second most important thing I can tell you is to always take advice/criticism with a grain of salt (this applies to things outside of alternative sub cultures as well). People will tell you things. Sometimes they are lying or dont know any better. Sometimes their advice will work for one person but not another. For example, a lot of people say if you dont dress the part, you arent punk. However, sometimes it takes a while to build up an alternative closet. Sometimes people live in an area where it may not be safe to wear their opinions on their sleeves (especially minors). Sometimes people just like the color pink and thats *fine*. This mindset can be applied to literally everything. Just do what works for you

That leads nicely into my 3rd point, you dont have to dress or look a certain way OR listen to certain bands to be punk. Anyone who says otherwise is a poser. That being said, it’s generally accepted that you shouldnt wear shirts or patches for bands you’ve never even heard of (no one can stop you but you might be labeled a poser)

Advice specifically for diy: watch videos, if you want to learn how to make a specific thing there is 100% a video somewhere on it. Also, ask people. If someone has something really cool and you want to learn how they made it, go talk to them (assuming its not some dark alley). Some materials you might want to start collecting are can tabs, bottle caps, and safety pins

Music advice that I will die by: You dont have to listen to punk music to be punk. Sure, its an important part of the subculture, but not the only part. Its more important to learn about punk values than headbang until your neck snaps

Thats all I can think of off the top of my head, but if you have more specific questions please feel free to send in more asks or DM me!!

[queer-rat-king]

HEY how do I dress punk/goth in the hot hot summer (averages 84 in the summer where i live) without wearing boxy shorts?? Plz help I've never been able to maintain my wardrobe through the summer

[its-fucking-tangerine]

hello everyone. i need to know can soda can tabs if sewn onto clothes be thrown in the wash? or does that piece of clothing need to be hand-washed from then on. thanks.

[terrorpyjamas]

that hc about hobie knowing everything about miles before he even met him

[zeros-sys]

it's killing me that systems think they are faking or lying because they haven't had other alters front in a while, headspace has been silent, your communication is down, and overall just "feeling like a singlet"

because number 1, cdds have more symptoms than just alters, number 2 it's a covert disorder, and number 3, you are an alter!

no one experiences the same level of their symptoms for any of their disorders every day.

if my avoidance to food due to arfid is more noticeable some days, why is it different for having alters in osddid?

cdds are covert disorders. they will try and hide your symptoms because it's the whole point of their existence. don't blame yourself for a survival mechanism your brain created to protect you!

and I see so many people forget this, especially hosts, but you're an alter! if someone else doesn't front, that doesn't suddenly make you a singlet because you are still part of a system

you can make mistakes or be wrong, but don't fakeclaim or feed yourself misinformation in order to realise that!

[anexperimentallife]

"Wow, I need to get up to take pain meds. But it's gonna hurt to get up, and also also also taking them feels like I'm wimping out; maybe I'll just lay here a while longer."

Get up and take the pain meds, my friend. Usually, the longer you wait, the more it will hurt, and the less the usual dose will help. There is no virtue in needlessly allowing yourself to suffer, and no shame in seeking relief.

[strobilomyces-strobilaceus]

made my first patch :]

[fatedroses]

Two tanks without their emotional support healers.

[lemony-ink]

there's very little that feels worse than feeling like you made a close friend and having them switch up on you because of changes in the system.

I understand that it can be hard for singlets to process but making every conversation about how you miss a specific alter and how sad you are that the memories with them are gone...

I even comforted him the first times he brought it up but he won't stop, it's been 5 months.

[piers-official]

Punk code of the day:

Nobody can do everything, but everyone can do something. Remember to reach out and offer help t'those in need. Lift people up when they fall, and cheer 'em on when they succeed.

[littlecibuu]

Ready? FIGHT 🥒🥒

[safety-pin-punk]

What’s your biggest advice for baby/puppy punks or someone who’s just now looking into it?

Easy. Such an easy answer that it usually escapes people. My answer isnt music or bands or a specific life philosophy that you need to dedicate yourself to. No this one is much more simple.

Learn how to think critically about EVERYTHING

Start small if you have to. For example, WHY did you buy *insert item here*? Was it worth the price? Was there a reason you bought it from that store? Who benefits monetarily from the purchase? Does it make you happy?

Then go bigger. What did that politician say? Whats their stance on that topic? Why is that their stance? Who does their stance hurt? Who does their stance benefits? What could be the implications of that stance going into affect? Could that be easily reversed? How do you feel about that stance? Do the pros out weight the cons? Are any choices completely good? Do you need to sacrifice one thing for something else? Is that sacrifice justifiable? Why?

My point is, you shouldnt just follow and do what others say. You shouldnt jump on a bandwagon just because something is popular. Dont vote for someone just because it seems to be the popular choice in the circles youre in. Vote for someone because you’ve taken the time to think about their stances and their opponents stances and you’ve decided thats who you align with most.

Just. Think about your decisions. Think about what impacts they could have. Think about who you are and what you support. And most importantly think about WHY you support it.

And I realize this may be easier said than done. But I honest to god believe that this is SO SO SO important for people to learn how to do

[thedisablednaturalist]

Watching a seminar for disability disclosure by my university and all the panel members specialize in mental illness/neurodivergence. They only mentioned MS. Everything else they've talked about so far has been about depression or autism. Going To Explode.

[zeros-sys]

one thing I keep seeing is how systems with fearmonger newly discovered systems into not interacting with the online osddid community, which is stupid.

even if you think that there is a lot of misinformation online about the disorders, which I'm not gonna argue against, you're still assuming what that newly discovered system is looking for.

maybe they're not looking for diagnostic criterias or to sift through their trauma.

they're probably looking for community and personal experiences they can relate to.

which is very obviously a common thing for someone who just realised they might have a disorder is looking for.

support. community. comfort.

when I see a newly discovered system online and they ask where they start on system spaces, advice like "don't look around online, just go to (insert medical website)" is not helpful to someone who needs genuine advice from people with experience in system communities.

so, here's my advice to newly discovered systems :

— you're going to get things wrong and make mistakes. it's inevitable, and it 100% happens to everyone, even if someone's been diagnosed for 10+ years. don't be scared to make mistakes, you miss every shot you don't take.

— if you suddenly don't feel like you're a system, your communication sucks, you are frontstuck/no one else is fronting, don't worry. cdds are covert disorders, their whole intention is to not be found. you're not a liar or faker because you don't experience some symptoms of a disorder. (see this)

— look at what is already largely accepted in medical spaces, don't immediately jump into controversial/conspiracy theories

— start off with safe spaces, trying to participate in discourse when you're uneducated isn't going to end well

— figure out what alters do first, in our case and many others, it's a lot easier to "work backwards" when you already have an idea of what role an alter fills in your system before you try to fully find out their identity

— don't get too stuck up on alter labels, if you're lost on what role an alter has or don't even know what a lot of roles are, just focus on what they do for your system (see above)

[our-trans-punk-experience]

I came out as trans to my kid brother (8) a while back, bc I just wanted him to call me 'brother' and include me in 'boy things.' I'm immensely regretting this decision because last night he outed me in front of my mom and my (right-wing) step-dad. I tried my best to laugh it off, but I don't know, everyone just looked at me weird and my mom just said that 'God makes no mistakes.' I'm nervous rn and I don't want to get sent to conversion therapy or get disowned, or some other shit because I do toy with the line a little too much (I have said before I would like to go by a different name, I have short hair, and openly stated that I will never marry a man and have children.) Please help

stay safe kid! deny everything, act dumb, don't bring it up, and try not to be too mad at your brother. remember, most adults are of "kids say the darndest things" persuasion and won't take it too seriously. a big switch up to Good Christian Girl is also suspicious, so just keep acting as if everything is normal and trust that theyll put it down to normal angsty teen nonsense. come back if situation develops. GL