#Pro Gatekeeping

[tomboymikayla]

"Why do you believe people are pretending to like Sonic"

It's literally scientifically proven that big Youtubers and 2010 mofos are incapable of liking the Sonic Franchise unironically

2. During the 2020s, for unknown reasons, nerdy hobbies like video games, anime, comic books, etc, suddenly became trendy and mainstream for no apparent reason, it makes no sense that the same people who mocked and ignored these things now suddenly want to like it

[xiaq]

Your first pride story was touching and all but you still married a man.

Yeah, bisexuals do that sometimes.

[mystery-aberration]

System roles do not have to be your entire identity. You do not have to conform to the stereotypes of them, and you do not have to hold your role alone or without help. You do not need to keep them forever, either. They may be what you were placed into the system to help with, and they may be something you are good at--but it does not have to be you forever.

I am a persecutor, and that does not mean I should be treated differently or harmed. Being a persecutor does not mean that everyone should be scared of you by default either.

Protectors should not be expected to be strong and emotionless walls to put in front of everything all the time. They do not need to be tools.

Comforters might need a break to unload their own stress and need comfort in turn. They do not need to give all of themselves to everyone else and never expect help back.

Littles may not be littles forever, and should not be devalued just because they are children. They are just as real and alive as any other system member and should be taken into account.

Trauma/memory holders might need help to cope with the things they hold, and sometimes when the time is right it means sharing that burden. Maybe there is no right time, but they deserve support whether they can share those memories or not.

Gatekeepers may need a break from controlling switches or access to front, and should be allowed one if needed. Gatekeeping can be a lot of work.

Hosts do not need to do everything for the body or system all the time. Sometimes, being the host of a system can be hard, and support and breaks are deserved.

Systems often put a lot of weight on roles, and it can impact the way that those who have them can feel about their role. It is okay to fit into your role, but it is also okay to not fit, or to end up not fitting your role over time. Some headmates can feel like a failure if they do not uphold their role, some can feel like they have no other choice even if they wanted to not perform it. But a role is a description, it is not an essence of who you are and will forever be. This may be non-traditional but we use roles exclusively as self descriptors so that we do not get wrapped up in what we "should be". If the label no longer fits, or if you need help more than you might have in the past, that is okay.

Be kind to yourselves, and be kind to your other headmates.

[badhabit-stvr]

Wow Cassie, that’s so me of you

[seraphicsuicides]

sometimes i hate being a woman. why cant i do the same things as men without getting sexualized and asked for tit pics? why cant i play this damn video game w this random guy without him saying im shit bc im a chick and then asking for my number? why cant you KEEP YOUR DICK IN YOUR FUCKING PANTS? why cant i go to college and major in a male-dominated field without people expecting me to drop out and give up? why cant i get the same pay as my coworker? why cant you compliment my brains and not just my boobs? why cant you have a conversation with me about something other than burying your dick inside of me? why cant i cut my hair short? why cant i have casual sex without being seen as public property? why is my uterus your business? why cant i go on a walk alone? why do i have to check my back seat every time i get in my car? why do i have to watch my weight because "a man likes a girl with meat on her bones, but not too much of it", why do i have to fight EVERY DAY and even in my fucking SLEEP to feel like i belong on the fucking planet. BEING. A. WOMAN. SHOULDNT. BE. A. FUCKING. CHORE.

[machinescene]

Some figure studies cuz I’m normal

[chaoticautie]

Me: I’m autistic

Person: Are you diagnosed?

Me: Well it’s been confirmed by more than one professional, my old diagnosis was written on paper for my IEP but it’s outdated now (Asp*rger’s), I’ve scored very high on almost every autism test out there, and a lot of my teachers, friends, and some of my family members have suspected it

Person: Okay, but are you diagnosed NOW?

Me: …No?

Person: Then you’re not autistic.

[new-california-veteran]

Hot take, but fandoms need a healthy amount of gatekeeping. If you let everybody's opinion have the same amount of weight, eventually what you once loved is going to become unrecognizable to you.

Look at Star Wars. Anti-Jedi sentiments are rampant in the fan base and media, now more than ever. If you introduce opinions into your narrative that contradict what was established before "The Jedi were arrogant and didn't really understand the force." Or "The Sith are just a competing ideology on the force and not actually objectively evil villains." and don't effectively refute them, then people will run with them.

All I'm saying is there's a reason things like "Jedi steal children" and "The Jedi Order needed to reform/adapt it's beliefs" and such are commonly held opinions in the fandom now. There wasn't enough pushback from fans who knew better when those opinions were gaining steam. And now the pro-Jedi opinions are the minority in the fandom.

[w1nw1n]

Gemma Ward

[hamoodmood]

[punkeropercyjackson]

Can Hobie be jamaican-english specifically instead of just black-british?Can Hobie be autistic and never be able to mask his whole life and have trauma from it?Can he also have adultification and intergenerational trauma?Can he date other black people exclusively but include mixed people in it regardless of what their other races are?Can he be punk4punk and trans and faggy?Can he love dogs and the sea and be a huge mama's boy who respects women and disrespects men?Can he be a calypso music and rap and hiphop and jazz fan in addition to being a punk rocker?Can he use babygirl and babyboy as petnames for his partner without it being sexual or an insult but him genuinely trying to be sweet and comforting and protective?Can he be a Wendell & Wild and Amanda The Adventurer fan?Can he be vulnerable and have a wide range of personality traits instead of just 'the big brother of the Spiderband'?Can he not be accused of 'taking advantage of Gwen when she was in a really vulnerable place' by being shipped with her when they're literally best friends on equal grounds and she spent the whole movie flirting with Miles so she clearly WANTS to date?Can she be headcanoned as a black mom white dad biracial instead of bashed so her writing can be fixed?Can Hobie just have dark brown eyes instead of that stupid ass heterochromia hack?Can Hobie be fucking black instead of being written like a white altie or a black male stereotype?

[tomboymikayla]

2010s sucked to be a sonic fan, I fully get it. But the positive attention sonic has gotten recently is not a bad thing- the fanbase is bustling again with excited people and that is in a large part thanks to the movies, frontiers, and yes even snapcube. I've been a fan of sonic since 2003 and sincerely believe we are so back, new fans are breathing in life to the fanspace again and it's so well needed. I went to a sonic convention literally just a couple weeks ago and the tickets sold out weeks before the date and the energy was absolutely electric--- there was clear fandub and movie appreciation there and you know what? it was really fun, and no one there was a "fake fan" for enjoying that.

Tldr; from an adventure era fan for life, stop attacking people for becoming fans post-2020, you'll have more fun if you let people have fun

An Alvin and the Chipmunks Smurfs movie did not get people into Sonic

A Mickey Mouse Clubhouse ass cartoon did not get people into Sonic

A ChatGPT written game did not get people into Sonic

Videos of obnoxious millennials making constant Gay, Sex, Weed, Dildo and Fortnite jokes over Sonic cutscenes did not get people into Sonic

Just admit that we're still technically in the Meta Era with the only difference being that instead everyone unanimously hating Sonic, people are now pretending to like Sonic for memes and Ironic enjoyment

[ghxst-system]

stressed out gatekeepers and caretakers, go have a glass of water and take a breather. ur doin enough

[nestastits]

ℰ𝓇𝒾𝓈 𝒱𝒶𝓃𝓈ℯ𝓇𝓇𝒶 𝓍 ℬ𝒶𝓁𝓉𝒽𝒶𝓏𝒶𝓇 𝓂ℴℴ𝒹𝒷ℴ𝒶𝓇𝒹 ❥

[zenkindoflove]

If you don't love Elain at her worst, you don't deserve her at her best.

[dark-nymph3t]

Food is fuel and you deserve it, even if you think you don’t <3