#trauma holder

[trauma-holder-culture-is]

trauma holder culture is feeling constant dread that someone is going to kill us, even when there's nothing triggering the fear

Trauma holder culture is...

[blessed-bruises]

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[mystery-aberration]

System roles do not have to be your entire identity. You do not have to conform to the stereotypes of them, and you do not have to hold your role alone or without help. You do not need to keep them forever, either. They may be what you were placed into the system to help with, and they may be something you are good at--but it does not have to be you forever.

I am a persecutor, and that does not mean I should be treated differently or harmed. Being a persecutor does not mean that everyone should be scared of you by default either.

Protectors should not be expected to be strong and emotionless walls to put in front of everything all the time. They do not need to be tools.

Comforters might need a break to unload their own stress and need comfort in turn. They do not need to give all of themselves to everyone else and never expect help back.

Littles may not be littles forever, and should not be devalued just because they are children. They are just as real and alive as any other system member and should be taken into account.

Trauma/memory holders might need help to cope with the things they hold, and sometimes when the time is right it means sharing that burden. Maybe there is no right time, but they deserve support whether they can share those memories or not.

Gatekeepers may need a break from controlling switches or access to front, and should be allowed one if needed. Gatekeeping can be a lot of work.

Hosts do not need to do everything for the body or system all the time. Sometimes, being the host of a system can be hard, and support and breaks are deserved.

Systems often put a lot of weight on roles, and it can impact the way that those who have them can feel about their role. It is okay to fit into your role, but it is also okay to not fit, or to end up not fitting your role over time. Some headmates can feel like a failure if they do not uphold their role, some can feel like they have no other choice even if they wanted to not perform it. But a role is a description, it is not an essence of who you are and will forever be. This may be non-traditional but we use roles exclusively as self descriptors so that we do not get wrapped up in what we "should be". If the label no longer fits, or if you need help more than you might have in the past, that is okay.

Be kind to yourselves, and be kind to your other headmates.

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This x holds relationship trauma userboxes! Click for quality

[holder-culture-is]

trauma holder culture is drumroll.. i have an identity freaking finally !! / pos

— noé/vee of 💌🫀

Omg yippee!!! :DD soso happy for you, noé ^^ identities are so great fr :3

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s to all the syskid trauma holders!

To the little or young headmates who were traumatized or who hold on to trauma memories:

✨ We know you went through so much, and it’s not fair that you were hurt by others around you or people who were supposed to take care of you. It’s okay to be upset about what happened. It’s okay to cry, or to feel sad, lost, angry, lonely, or scared. These feelings are natural and you’re not bad or wrong for feeling them! ✨

🧸 If you can’t talk about what happened to you or share your memories with anyone else, be it a therapist, loved one, or another headmate, that’s okay. You should never ever feel pressured to do things you don’t want to do, and that includes opening up about the memories you hold on to! You’re allowed to take your time, breathe, and process things at your own pace. 🧸

💖 If you do want to talk about your painful memories, we hope you can find a safe space to do so with a person you trust and are comfortable with. You deserve to have agency in your own healing journey, and that means getting to make decisions about when and how to talk about your trauma! 💖

🐶 We hope that you can find comfort and happiness in your lives, even if it’s only sometimes! It’s easy for kids who were hurt a lot or traumatized to feel like they never got the chance to have a childhood. We want to let you know that it’s never too late to enjoy being a kid! We hope your future is filled with toys, plushies, stickers, coloring books, fun games, pillow forts, tasty snacks, and playing pretend! 🐶

🍓 Please remember that you are so loved, cherished, and valued by those around you. And remember that the pain you experienced and have to hold onto is not your fault in any way! We promise, you are not to blame for the way others treated you, even if sometimes it feels that way. 🍓

🌈 We hope you can keep your chin up, distract yourself with something fun if you need to, and find comfort in your loved ones. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this (or listen if an older headmate is helping you). Know that we care about you, we’re rooting for you, and we’re wishing you the very best in all that you do! 🌈

[traumaholdercultureis]

traumaholder culture is everything being a trigger /hyperbole

[ix-c-999]

system role blinkies, part 2

bonus sentipet flag blinkie but with the word "syspet"

[this post has no DNI other than not to start discourse or mockery]

[editcollective]

Symphonic trauma holder

A flag for trauma holders that are comforted by music and/or have an attachment to music due to the trauma they hold.

Please credit if using | Don't reupload to wikis without permission | Endos don't use

[divinerapturesys]

unpopular opinion but I don’t hope my abusers change and grow to be better

I hope they die scared and are miserable leading up to their deaths

[trauma-holder-culture-is]

Trauma holder culture is...

(Plaintext: Trauma holder culture is...)

Welcome to trauma holder culture. The other trauma holder culture blog is anti endo and that was making our trauma holders feel really isolated, so we decided we'd make our own version of the blog!

Trigger tags will be done like #tw topic (eg: #tw abuse). If you need us to add a tag to any post, please send an ask with a link to the post in question.

No hard dni, though as mentioned above, this blog is pro endo

This blog is not a crisis line, we aren't able to provide support if you're in distress.

[jabberwock-islanders]

anger/trauma/fear/etc holders be like: lmaoooo guess whos back in main front for the worst possible reasonnnn

-- zack 🔪

[undead-furbies]

I hate being a system because we wouldn't even be here if that little child had had someone to take care of them

But they were neglected and abused and now there's so many people in the headspace and STILL NO ONE TO TAKE CARE OF US

Congratulations brain you solved the problem of child being neglected by creating multiple children that are now being neglected

And I just want someone to talk to irl BUT WE CANT BECAUSE THIS DISORDER IS SO STIGMATIZED

I cant have people knowing we have alters / voices / dissociative parts or whatever the hell we are

I know they won't believe us

They will just think we are crazy

Even if they believed us they'd think we are dangerous

I will never tell anyone and that will only make things worse

[redacted-coiner]

Have you possibly made a Trauma Holder pixel?

https://pluralpedia.org/w/Trauma_Holder

possibly with this flag if you don't have one?

Trauma Holder, Trauma Manager, Trauma Breaker

DNI is listed within my pinned post. Please go read it before interacting with any part of my content. Ask to tag!

[sysboxes]

[Text: This system loves their trauma holders]

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[holder-culture-is]

Trauma Holder Flag!

Flag made by us, partially inspired by the traumagenic flag

ׂ╰┈➤ For alters that hold memories of/reactions to body’s trauma

Please reblog & credit if used !! :]