#you guys are just aphobic

[fanby-fckry]

I feel like some people need to see this, tbh

[deerlybelov3d]

THISSSSSSS THIS THIS THIS!!! It’s the way that so few even want to bother TRYING to ponder and flesh out and write about other types of relationships that aren’t just. Romance and banging. I hate that that’s always seen as the end-all-be-all and its “boring” if a character is aroace or aspec as if there aren’t so many different types of relationships and so many different types of ways to care about someone and so many fun ways to write about their dynamic it’s such a slap in the face to aspecs and aroaces I could rant about this for days THANK YOU for putting my exact thoughts into words!!!!

Why is everyone here so obsessed with sex and romance why can't you appreciate the comedic genius of "rivals who fight about parenting to rile the other up to begrudging coparents who bicker like a divorced couple to actually maybe tolerating the other and the insults are now less spiteful and biting to hells first qpr (queerplatonic rivalry) to hells first qpr (queerplatonic relationship)"

[redysetdare]

Some of you will see a character that is actively repulsed by romance/sex and heavily non-partner coded (sometimes they even actively just say that they do not want a relationship!) and y'all will still respond with "But aros/aces can still date and have sex!!" like okay bud it'd be so much easier for you to say you don't respect repulsed and non-partnering aros and aces. stop beating around the bush trying to pretend to be oh so supportive when you obviously feel uncomfortable about our existence even in fiction.

[knifearo]

yeah man. reminder that an aspec person doing something can never be invalidating to aspecs in general. a person's individual actions are not reflective on the entire community and our job is to remember that we can all do whatever the fuck we want forever ‼️ the people who are leveraging us against each other are NOT our friends and should not be listened to. in fact i advocate putting them in the oubliette

[your-stranger-halfblood-things]

A shout-out to the arospecs who don't feel romantic attraction, DO feel romantic attraction, sometimes feel romantic attraction, feels little to no romantic attraction, and obviously the ones who are shunned away from the rest of the community

[bisexualfagdyke]

People are so weird about Neil's aroaceness, I'm so sick of it 😭

[aro-bird]

Continuing on for whatever the fuck happened with that poll™ yesterday, OP claiming that it was made as a "joke poll" doesn't matter because they were still being arophobic and not at all curbing any aphobia in their replies. It's also apparent that the joke here is the absurdity of the existence of aro men who are also cishet which shows how little OP and other aphobes really know about the aro and ace spectrums and the nuance within them.

Besides, the fact that so many people aren't really taking to it as a "joke" as OP claims, and is just spewing out such rancid hatred for ace and aro people, even wishing for our deaths, is still something to be called out. It still shows how uncaring OP and those other people are.

They really don't give a shit about us.

[toytulini]

Disclaimer im just processing some thoughts im not cancelling the show

have almost thoughts about how i find the like....narrative on here that if you have chronic "zebra" conditions youd want a doctor like House and wouldnt sue for malpractice bc at least youd have a doctor that cares about whats wrong with you but lets take it one step further. so often he does NOT give a shit about the patient and actively endangers them frequently with his god damn heoric era of medicine approach? non zero amount of times he gets a diagnosis but it comes too late, or he gets a diagnosis after their first wrong 3 guesses of the episode shut down the patients kidneys and they either have to get a transplant or they are just, doomed due to other preexisting conditions etc? idk. i know ppl are almost certainly exaggerating and just letting off steam about the very real failures of our current medical systems and the ableism baked in and All That Shit. i just think its weird how ppl romanticize House who STILL, FREQUENTLY, MULTIPLE EPISODES will actively dismiss shit in the exact way that is a problem in our current system, especially when hes being Forced Against His Will To See Clinic Parients, he loves to be dismissive as fuck of symptoms and if he was a real doctor i think he'd be fucking 50/50 on cases he Notices Something To Dig Into vs cases he dismisses as an Anxious Hysterical Woman Who Wants Attention, the only reason he's Right so frequently in his snap judgements is cos it reinforces the narrative. its like a crime drama that has the mastermind serial killer masterfully using "loopholes" and lawyering up all sneaky and dodging Justice and if only our poor little cop protags were allowed to do A TEENY BIT of Justified Police Brutality, they could Save Lives!

and like sometimes in the show they will have a patient die despite his efforts to narratively punish him. not to mention, i think its been at least mildly brought up and glossed over how much they absolutely do not think about insurance costs for these ppl for the insane amount of tests that find nothing and Wrong Medications To Force A Diagnosis they use? i think it was brought up once in the episode following a day in the life of cuddy where she had to fight a lawsuit bc a guys insurance like didnt cover his thumb being reattached but chase reattached it anyway while in surgery cos it was The Right Thing To Do and the guy didnt have the money to cover it and the insurance wouldnt pay unless he sued the hospital or whatever. thats like the only time its come up. whereas like frequently the doctor I go to for osteopathic manipulation tries to check in with me and make sure im covered by insurance etc and that im not going to go broke or get buried in medical debt seeing her.

idk. just some Thoughts. not a defense of our current system and all the flaws it enables and enforces etc. his approach to medicine is really reminiscent to me of what I know of the Heroic Era Of Medicine which i dont...love? and hes framed on here as being an asshole but would kill for his patients to get them a diagnosis etc. but hes definitely extremely paternalistic to patients ? and despite some good clippable lines about ableism and being against eugenics, it honestly feels like his stance on that is kind of a toss up.

[lovequeerindigo]

can’t believe i have to make this post but if you use the erasure of aro/aroallo identities as an excuse to be acephobic please get the fuck off of my blog and don’t come back. i don’t like you and i don’t want you here.

[monty-glasses-roxy]

I'm seeing a lot of posts on my dash defending aro/ace people and while that's great I can't help but feel like I'm passing another ship that happens to be on fire. Like uh... do I want to know what's going on for you guys on your dashes? I'm not sure I want to honestly but uhh good luck in your fight man your support is invaluable!

[clowncar69]

i’m basically completely closeted about being asexual online.  it’s the identity i’ve been most harassed for online.  i feel like because most people are closeted to avoid harassment (largely from fucking gay and trans people), people just assume no one is ace/demi anymore.  we’re scared.

[rainparadefromhell]

i know it's my own fault for, well being on twitter lmao but people's aphobia on there is so disgusting. i went my whole life never really thinking about let alone feeling romantic attraction and to say that i, or anyone else for that matter is "confused", "a late bloomer" or any other annoying thing is horrible. we have got to start understanding that different people have different experiences and even if we can't understand how someone is feeling, it costs you literally nothing to be respectful.

also, people need to realize that almost everything is a spectrum. if i fall in love with someone in the future i would not say i'm suddenly not aromantic/ on the spectrum anymore. i would just say i have low romantic attraction/don't feel it often. stop erasing us or telling people you know them better than they know themselves over a short tweet you saw. and yeah maybe that person won't even see your comment but someone who's struggling will and could feel alienated and hurt by your words. please be kind to one another.

my blog is always a safe space for everyone but especially aromantic & asexual people since we are always so excluded from the conversation and not understood. i see you all. you are valid & important.

[redysetdare]

every time i see a post that is like "ughh why cant we have aspec characters who aren't aroace for once" I have to do a double take like "is the aroace rep in the room with us right now?" because genuinely....where is all this aroace rep y'all are complaining about? Why cant i find it yet it's apparently the only aspec rep we get?? You admit that TV never says the word aromantic so where is the aroace rep. So far I've pretty much only seen canonically asexual characters and not much else buddy.

[krockat]

or an artists wettest dream.

you decide!

[freyjaherself]

:some sort of discussion about romance or sex. Doesn't matter if it's ethics or just experiences. Maybe it's a discussion about sexual politics. Maybe it's just people talking about their relationships.

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An ace person, unironically: You are all godless heathens

[bunnyboyzyon]

Guys why are people so aphobic??? I swear one look at the comments sections of posts that can be seen as excluding aspec experiences and it's so clear that the rest of the queer community doesn't respect asexuals/acespecs and aromantics/arospecs as a part of it.

You preach how being gay isn't a choice, you can't choose to be gay and you can't grow out of it, yet you also say people can grow out of being asexual. People tell you you're too young to be lesbian and everyone has your back, but if someone is told they're too young to be aromantic then they're left to the wolves.

What the fuck??? For a community that's entire thing is acceptance and understanding you sure as hell don't seem to accept or understand aspecs. We are queer, just like you. We'd fucking appreciate it if we were treated as such.