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gamerexdrex Ā· 26 days ago
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So I have a lot of toughts about the Vengance saga. (English isn't my first language and I am writing in a phone)
So, one of the things that jumped to me (and saw that a few people didn't like) is the fact that Odysseus beat Poseidon in a fight in 600 strike, mainly because of the great deviation from the source material and also generally the conventions of greek mythology.
The thing is, for me, it makes scence in terms of the narrative Epic is going for.
Poseidon has been the main antagonistic force of the story and arguably, the character that influences odysseus development the most.
Poseidon is the character that first championed the philosophy of ruthlessness, the one that slaughtered the fleet, the one big obstacle in odysseus way, and the one who's philosophy pushes him into becoming a monster, doing more and more brutal things just to get home.
Poseidon pushed Odysseus to the brink, and now, those very same actions came back to haunt him.
The roles are reversed. Odysseus didn't kill the cyclops, and when Poseidon came for revenge, his pleas for mercy where rejected
Now, Poseidon didn't kill Odysseus, and when Ody came for revenge, his please for mercy were rejected.
Personally, I am not bothered by the changes.
Epic is, honestly, it's own thing besides the odyssey, so in the context of it's own world, I am willing to buy the whole beating the shit out of poseidon, as well as some other silly things.
Besides, it's clearly inspired in RPGs and in those you fight gods or capital G God every time, and I honestly love it
On that note, maybe I will write sometime about why those kinda batshit in Epic elements such as the Windbag JetPack, Disco Hera, and the like are part of it's charm, but I need to sleep first
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anaalnathrakhs Ā· 5 months ago
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it does feel fucking awful not being allowed to decide the use of my time. that i functionally have a curfew no matter what. i can play video games over disord with my friends, but god help if i'm going to miss dinner i'm an antisocial bitch and worrying everyone, and they'll tolerate it the everloving parents they are, but if i do it too often it's scary and unthinkable and worrying everyone.
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be-good-to-bugs Ā· 1 year ago
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when i feel very lonely i get fizzled out of doing anything after less than an hour
#the bin#been feeling much more lonely since moving into this apartment and i cant draw bc of it#cause i have trouble continuing things i was drawing earlier. when i try im filled with this horrible exhaustion and sadness#its easier to feel better when im living more alone because i can play music or walk around and talk to myself and try to make things#brighter for me but when im living with someone especially someone who i really dislike its just impossible to do#and worse i have to hear them be here which just makes me feel even worse#ugh. my relationship with my sister has gone from bleh to awful. her absolute refusal to take me into consideration for anything including#bringing people over at nogjt without even telling me at all. the last straw. absolutely the last straw#hey yknow id love it if in the middle of the noght when i want a snack and dont wanna get all dressed id like to know theres someone here#cause id rather not them need the bathroom the same time and im just in my underwear. but noooo i dont have the need to know theres#some other person in my facking home. nope not my right#the thing where she insists she tells me that she was gonna have someone over when she didnt has been pissing me off a lot because she#uses the fact i have a poor memory to say why actually i misremembered..shes like well ur perception of reality sucks so u THINK u#remember correctly but actually u totally dont but like. im not having problems rememberi g other things like that right now. and i#distinctly remember these conversations and i always make not of when someoens gonna be here and when you tell me i remember#and theres so much proof that she also forgets stuff. but i honestly think she might be intentionally lying abt it because she forgot#to ask or didnt want me to say no. well i am saying no. idc if theyre already here. yall can go hangout elsewhere bc i wasnt told abt tjis#and i deserve to have quiet in my own home. its literally all i have.#ive been feeling like maybe shes not so bad. people grow and change and sometimes you dontjat in different directions#and you dont get along well anymore. i hear her say to other people that im still her favorite person so its very one sided abt this#honestly though its not just that we dont get along well anymore but nobody is at fault because she is at fault#its not like i never let her bring people over. i do. im just askingmthat im notified first. and her response to forgetting or choosing not#to tell me is to use my mental health things against me to say im just too mentally ill to knoq if i remember tnings cleatly#then how come tnis only ever happens with this thing or cleaning stuff? it ONLY rver happens with stuff that she wouldve needed to tell me#about that are important. oh an important bill i needed to know abt but u didnt tell me? i did but u forgot.#but never anything else. its only ever tnings that she would be in the wrong for not telling me about if she hadnt. thats it#so yonow im thinking maybe. u didnt tell me. which wouldnt blther me so much if she didnt just say actually i did but ur schizophrenia#made u forget wow ur so insano haha#ugh. she sucks. literally dont even wanna built legos with her even tho the set is cool as fuck bc being around her sucks#wow sorry for my many many many tags complaining about my sister. living with her is awful :/
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trannykong Ā· 2 years ago
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This is the least depressed I have felt in years
#i think like maybe once every couple of weeks Iā€™ll have an evening where Iā€™m feeling down but I can still manage it pretty well#like itā€™s just sort of like ā€˜damn i hate feeling this way but im gonna do everything i can to make myself feel betterā€™#and then make myself some food and do things to occupy my mind#I am out here living life#living life is a skill you have to cultivate which SUCKS but once you figure it outā€¦#I didnā€™t understand so many things growing up that I just Get now#going to the shops by yourself doing what you want#legitimately did not know what i wanted to do#did not know what i liked or disliked#i was indifferent to everything#i dont understand how to be indifferent to everything now but i remember what it was like#im happy. im healthy. i honestly dont want to die anymore.#Legitimately did not see myself making it to 28 years old like 6 months ago and here i am with a completely new outlook on life#i survived so many situations. i put myself thru so many scenarios just hoping it would take me away but i lived anyway and im happy 4 that#I met people that felt the same way I did and I fought tooth and nail to save them even if only for that night#i cared so deeply for complete strangers. I feel like maybe I was trying to save myself thru them#my determination to prevent others from doing the things id been doing because deep down i knew it was wrong#who do we have if not eachother?#ā€˜hell is realā€™ has replaced ā€˜i wanna kmsā€™ as the phrase i constantly repeat to myself. I cant stop saying it like i dont have a choice#when im with others tho j find myself saying ā€˜what a good dayā€™ with the same amount of unintentional force#i say it with much more intent and consciousness when i am alone#because so many days are good day. 13/14 of days are good days im noticing#even the days where i feel down at the end are good days. My feeling sad/anxious/depressed doesnt mean i had a bad day. even if it feels bad#i love my friends so much#and i love meeting so many people#i love meeting new people all the time even if i dont remember them#i want to remember them because so many people are so nice and i love those connections#what a good day today was. what a damn good day. Everything is okay.#Special thank you to my roommates and to my former roommates for being my biggest supporters and for saving my life
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vasyandii Ā· 5 months ago
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Hello! I just wanted to say that I absolutely adore your IHNMAIMS oc. I'm a OC x canon enthusiast and seeing a character so well written and adapted to the story as Vernon is makes me so excited!! Plus your art is literally amazing. I've been curious since you mentioned how Vernon cuts potions of her meal to give them to AM and how the food improved since AM got his body, what food/meals do Vernon and AM like/dislike/have as favourite? -for AM, at least from what he has tasted- Whether if it's because of the taste, flavour, etc.
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Howdy Anon! Thank you so much for the kind words, I've been giddy since I got it a few days ago! I'm glad my OC x Canon content gets your stamp of Approval >:D!! šŸ’žšŸ’ž
VernonAM šŸŗšŸ–„ļø Food Preferences
I think Vernon is careful in choosing the food she shares with AM because he will eat literally ANYTHING. She would try to eat things to torture herself with, extremely spicy foods, live insects, raw organs, etc. but then remember that she has to "Feed AM". So she opts out for something normal so his taste buds don't get fucked.
Or as normal as it can get, the food kind of has the uncanny valley effect as well. It looks normal and tastes normal, but she feels there's something a bit off about it (kind of like airplane food). So she often leaves criticism to the Chefā„¢ (AM) or asks to cook instead.
Vernon isn't particularly picky when it comes to food, she'll eat it and clean her plate. She likes her food balanced, vegetables/meat with sauce and all that. If it tastes good, she'll eat it, y'know?
AM is more... difficult. Sure, he'll eat anything, but if it tastes really bad, it'll traumatize him and he'll refuse to eat it for a while.
His food has to not be touching, if it's mixed in all together beforehand he'll eat it. If there's sauce it shouldn't be close enough to where it can contaminate the food AM's eating because he WILL taste it, no matter how small the amount is. His utensils need to be a specific size, and the food HAS to be hot/warm. He needs to be able to see or know every ingredient in it.
It's observed that AM likes fried foods/anything crunchy because of how consistent they are in taste, texture, and flavour. So what ends up happening is Vernon will just include those foods into her meal, just to not eat it and have it on a little plate for him.
Vernon asks him why he can't just make food for himself, his response is "I don't need to eat, I eat when when you eat."
But honestly it's a pretty dumb question now that she's looking back on it. AM has all the knowledge in the world about food, everything ever made, everything he's never tasted. So he's basically asking Her, indirectly, "I don't know where to start or what's good. But you do. I trust you. Feed me."
Now here's some of the meals They've had together (+ AM's comments):
Chicken soup ("Too wet", just ate the broth)
Caesar Salad ("Damp, Crunchy water")
Vanilla ice cream (experienced a brain freeze for the first time, thought his body was malfunctioning)
Spaghetti Bolognese ("No I will not be mixing it, you mix it for me")
Western beef stew (He picked out the potatoes and only ate those. Thought the meat was irritating to eat.)
Baby carrots. ("You know they bleach these, right?")
Asparagus (he likes them. Needs to be warm)
Broccoli (same thing)
Cheese Pizza (Ate it, ate too much. Tummy hurted.)
Tempura (Ate too much, tummy hurted)
Fish and chips (Ate too much, tummy hurted)
Coffee, black (spat it out)
Macaroni and cheese (Ate too much, tummy hurted)
Grilled chicken hearts skewers (He liked it, but kept poking the roof of his mouth with the skewer.)
Half a Hamburger (picked out the vegetables because he didn't like them, still tasted it and gave the rest to Vernon)
Half a cheeseburger (ate it with no fuss.)
Aaand that'll be all for now :) if you made it this far, thank you for reading! If you need any clarifications, feel free to tell me!
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absolutebl Ā· 4 months ago
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This Week in BL - Must you, Japan? has become Thank You, Japan
Organized, in each category, with ones I'm enjoying most at the top.
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BL OLYMPICS! Week 3
This is my last week of passing out metals in various sporting events, as part of the weekly updates.
Aug 2024 Week 2
Ongoing Series - Thai
Century of Love (Weds Gaga) eps 9-10fin - There were a lot more unnecessary dramatic speeches than there was practical medical aid being administered. Very extra, boys. I wonder how long it took them to get that "birds meet hug" shot? Meanwhile, great grandpaā€˜s attitude that he knows best in every way is thoroughly annoying, and yet absolutely appropriate to his age. My great gramps (RIP), had he had the body of a 20-year-old, would behave in exactly the same self-righteous know-it-all way. The doctor is great. I would like him to get his own romance please? What happens when you are the villain in someone else's reincarnation story? There's a whole fanfic there. And yes I cried. I am a sap for this kinda thing.
Final thoughts:
This is a great little show about a young man who fell in love with a pretty girl 100 years ago, and when she died in his arms, he was cursed to live until he could meet her reborn self. Only this time around, sheā€™s reborn into the body of a man. I love it when Thailand gets all up in its own historical business and reincarnation and shizz. I like this pair (itā€™s not DaouOffroadā€™s fault I didnā€™t enjoy most of their first series.) Daouā€™s wushu is pretty snazzy and we got a fun meet cute. (Erm... Remeet cute? Meet cute 2.0?) Plus this is a very PRETTY show. Despite some ham handed comedy moments, this ultimately has more in common with something like I Feel You Linger in the Air meets First Love Again, then (as one might expect) Until We Meet Again or The Director Who Buys Me Dinner. The leads turned in great performances, although Daou outclassed everybody else on that screen. Itā€™s a good story and a great BL. Iā€™m not sure this is going in my rewatch rotation, but I canā€™t find any major faults with it beyond a certain level of camp that is sadly endemic to lackorns. Also Iā€™m going to give it credit as the kind of BL that one could safely recommend to lovers of melodrama and historical romance, without having to qualify it as ā€œgood for a BL.ā€ It was, to put it succinctly, simply a VERY ENJOYABLE show.Ā 
Under those auspices I really canā€™t give it anything less than a 9/10.Ā 
Bronze in Fencing
My Love Mix-Up Th (Fri YT) ep 10 of 12 - Itā€™s cute. They were cute. I enjoyed it a lot. I talk quite a bit about why they're using nai as a you pronoun here:
This Love Doesn't Have Long Beans (Fri iQIYI) ep 6 of 8 - Honestly the side couple is truly stellar in this show. I wasnā€™t sure about them at first but now I absolutely love them. Not sure how they are going to resolve such intense dislike (from JJ) by the end of the series. But Iā€™m interested to see them try.
Meanwhile, there isnā€™t anything else airing right now that makes me laugh as much as the behind-the-scenes from this show.Ā Highly recommended.
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Monster Next Door (Thai Thurs Gaga ) eps 1-2 of 12 - Oh it is so much fun. Iā€™m particularly delighted that our musician is a drummer and I donā€™t have to listen to him sing... I hope. Iā€™ve been waiting for Big to lead a BL forever. Iā€™m disposed to enjoy this. We can all be confident in one thing, the kisses are going to be great. I like the side couple too, very indulgent daddy. While I am disturbed by the tortoise in the tiny tank, I love the extrovert friendship group. They remind me of my own college crew. It is a cute premise, but I will need them to actually be together in the same room, looking longingly at each other a smooching within the next couple of episodes.
YouTube served me both episodes 1 & 2, and I donā€™t think it was meant to. So this may be next week's review as well.
The Trainee (Sun YouTube) ep 6 of 12 - I wasnā€™t wild about this ep or where this show is going. But I enjoyed the language play.Ā 
Gold in Linguistic Gymnastics
(my new favorite sport)
Sunset X Vibes (Sat iQIYI) ep 9 of 12 - Wow. Sam admitted it just out loud like that! Right after a betrayal? Balls on that boy. Worked on Yo tho. Too well, actually. I wish Yo had made him suffer and dragged him over the coals for a while. But I guess Yo really really likes him back. Meanwhile, the GL side plot also moved quite rapidly. A lot happened in this episode.
I Saw You in My Dream (Weds Gaga) ep 4 of 12 - Them ALL jumping into the water was totally ridiculous. Itā€™s still a little slow, because it is a pulp, but Iā€™m rather enjoying it.
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Knock Knock Boys (Thurs Gaga) ep 12fin - Almond and Latte were cute. The breakfast with the four of them was funny. I did laugh a lot. Almond getting "first time" advice from his two resident gay dads (or at least trying to) was super sweet. Also I got a lot of smiley kisses.Ā Nice final ep.
Ultimately how do I feel about this show?
A story about 4 boys of differing personalities who end up living together and pair up, falling in love. Slow moving and waffling, with some artificially generated family drama makes this a classic Thai pulp except that in general it's a smiley kiss of a show. It had plenty of good qualities like great communication and sexual rep (including toys, first time, safe sex, and sexual identities). The heat levels were on point and well executed, and the performances were good. Itā€™s just that the script and the directing were lackluster, rendering it ultimately forgettable. Still, fine on a rainy afternoon with some camomile tea or whatever. 7/10Ā 
Love Sea (Sun iQIYI) ep 9 of 10 - Iā€™m getting some sort of PTSD from this show, It is making me feel like Iā€™m the problem. Trash watch
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Ongoing Series - Not Thai
Cosmetic Playlover (Japan Tues Gaga) eps 1-2 of 8 - Anyone surprised by this jump in the standings? Yeah, probubly not. Anygay... this show is GREAT. Warped af but great. Lemme try to explain.
I actually said out loud during ep 1, "Well this is boundary pushing." By which I mean mine and everybody elses. But itā€™s Japan, *checks watch* itā€™s about time they turned out something edging into unpalatable and kinky. And because itā€™s Japan, Iā€™m more forgiving than I would be were this show nested in the clumsy hands of say... Thailand. So actually this being me, and me being of questionable taste, Iā€™m enjoying this show a lot.
You want me to list the ways? Sure.
Younger seme with grabby hands.
The younger one identified the elder gay as his personal property and itā€™s now: single motivation, on target, against all odds.
Uke cares about his work and not much else.
Seme cares about the uke and not much else.
Uke is gonna make this boy WORK for it.
That one particularly Japanese style of obsession that I actually adore.
Passes the sniff test!
Iā€™m being reminded of that KBL Love Mate. Which I believe I enjoyed but no one else did. For exactly this set of tropes. Only Japan is better suited to handle them. For me this is a case of:
Must you,Japan? = Oh yes? Well, thank you very much, Japan. Ā 
I Hear the Sunspot AKA Hidamari ga Kikoeru (Japan Weds Gaga) ep 8 of 10 - enter the evil girl character. Yawn.
Takara's Treasure AKA Takara No Vidro (Japan Mon Gaga) ep 6 of 10 - It is what it is.Ā 
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It's airing but...
Battle of the Writers (Sun YT) ep 2 of 12 - I did not catch ep 2 before they took it down from USA YT. I donā€™t know why itā€™s down. Either they got a deal for distribution off YouTube or thereā€™s some sort of scandal. Frankly, I wasn't particularly impressed with ep 1 so Iā€™m not rabid to find wherever itā€™s gone or why. Still, perhaps someone will let us know the sitch in a comment? It's a me problem. I'm figuring it out.
Sugar Dog Life (Japan Sun ????) 10 eps - OMG a uni student who looks too young and a... COP. GAH. The subversion and kink of it all. Why can't I find it? Do I have to go grey?
4 Minutes (Thai Netflix/Grey) - A rich boy at uni suddenly gains the supernatural power to see four minutes into the future. I have a source, but I've decided to hold off and binge if it ends okay, since it's only 8 eps. I depend upon y'all to tell me if it's safe.
Meet You at the Blossom (China) - it's your funeral (or, more likely, one of the main characters'). You can argue but... statistics. You know my feelings on this matter. MY BLOG, remember?
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In case you missed it
The Time of Fever AKA Unintentional Love Story 2 (Korea movie) trailer IS COMING IN SEPTEMBER!!!! (Yeah this is gonna sit here until then)
Next Week Looks Like This:
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Ooo, nice spread.
Upcoming BLs for 2024 are listed here. This list is not kept updated, so please leave a comment if you know something new or RP with additions.
Still Coming This Month!
8/12 First Note Of Love (Taiwan Mon Gaga) 12 eps - About a singer with stage fright and his timid fan stars Charles (H4 the puppy one) and Michael Chang (the youngster in My Tooth Your Love), plus side couple featuring a Thai actor Jame (Koh in Gen Y) and Liu Min Ting (of Guardian fame). What a damn tean. I can't wait. With thier powers combined!
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8/13 Addicted Heroin (Thai Tues YT) 10 eps - supposedly Jinlo with air this on their YT channel. Stars August (Love Sick) so I'm excited despite Jinlo's poor reputation. From the trailer it looks like it's following the original pretty closely... just Thai style. GIMMEEEEE!!!!
8/16 The Last Time (Thai Fri YT) ? eps - Convoluted story of loss and possible reincarnation or something.
8/22 The On1y One (Taiwan Thurs Gaga) 12 eps - announced in 2023 this one has a high school set stepbrothers trope and is reputed to be high heat. From Taiwan! It's made for me. Based on a novel Mou Mou from the Your Name Engraved Herein folks, so it could go dark. Still, I'm very excited.
8/22 The Paradise of Thorns (Thai movie) theater release - Jeff Satur is back but this does not look like a BL (the gay lover's death is the inciting event). More in Goodbye Mother vein. Looks dark and dramatic. He opposite and extremely well known actor Toey Pongsakorn who has never done gay before.
THIS WEEKā€™S BEST MOMENT
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Linguistic flirting trope! One of my all time favorites. FANTASTIC. (I did keep hearing Gun yelling Papiiiiiii! in my head tho.)
(Last week)
Streaming services are listed by how I (usually) watch, which is with a USA based IP, and often offset by a day because time zones are a pain.
The tag BLigade: @doorajar @solitaryandwandering @my-rose-tinted-glasses @babymbbatinygirl @babymbbatinygirl @isisanna-blog @mmastertheone @pickletrip @aliceisathome @urikawa-miyuki @tokillamonger @sunflower-positiiivity @rocketturtle4 @blglplus @anythinggoesintheshire @everlightly @renafire @mestizashinrin @bl-bam-beyond @small-dark-and-delicious @saezurumurmurs
Sigh, Tumblr in its infinite wisdom doesn't like too many tags.
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moongreenlight Ā· 1 year ago
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Ok Iā€™m in the middle of doing four thousand things at once right now but I am personally having some thoughts about Kyle ā€˜Gazā€™ Garrick that is forcing me to pause everything.
Mdni. Nsfw below cut.
He is so unbelievably obsessed with your pleasure. Obsessed with your sweet cunt and the way it reacts to him and his touch.
Literally cannot get off from head unless youā€™re 69ing because he needs to know that heā€™s making you feel good too. The combination of you mewling and gagging around his cock and the way you clench around his fingers when you come is guaranteed to get him to reach his high every time.
He honestly doesnā€™t even need to bury his cock in you. He can get himself off laying in bed with his head buried between your legs. Grinding against the sheets. Feeling you buck your hips against the tip of his tongue.
OBSESSED with giving you head. Daydreams about it. Itā€™s all he fucking thinks about. And heā€™s SOOOOOO good at it. Takes time to watch the porn that you like so he can try to replicate some parts of it. Memorizes all the things you like and dislike. Incredibly attentive to all your tells. Is also SO coachable. Like he listens to directions for a living. A little to the left? Faster? Slower? Harder? Softer? Anything you want followed to a T.
Heā€™s a pillow princess enabler. Buys you silk pillowcases and sheets and builds you a little nest in the bed before he settles in for the night. Rotating between licking at your pussy and fucking into you ruthlessly. Wouldnā€™t dream of asking you to get on top because god knows he tires you out enough as it is and he wouldnā€™t want to risk you needing to take a break or end things before he was properly done with you. Routine pauses to make sure you drink water. Feeds you sweets and cut up fruit or granola to keep your energy up because heā€™s so thoughtful.
Pleasure dom for sure. Practically demands that you send him videos of you touching yourself when youā€™re away from him on holiday or when heā€™s at work. Begs to see a picture up your skirt of your soaked panties after heā€™s spent your entire lunch break guiding you over the phone through multiple orgasms in your car. Insisting it will help you focus throughout the rest of your day.
He also definitely takes videos of you with your permission. Buys a tripod and everything. Zooms in close on your cunt so that he doesnā€™t miss a single detail. Takes hours and hours to lick at your clit in slow, measured strokes. Or he has you prop yourself up doggy style so he can pump a few fingers in you. Watching the way your sweet cunt drools and clenched and twitched around him. And heā€™ll go at it for HOURS. I mean it. Pulling orgasm after orgasm from you until you canā€™t stay up anymore. Canā€™t keep your legs from shaking. The breeze from the AC kicking on sends you screaming into your pillow because youā€™re so sensitive without him even touching your clit. At that point heā€™ll flip you over his knee and keep at it until youā€™re screaming and crying and physically cannot produce another orgasm. Heā€™ll pout his lip a little even though his fingers have gone pruny from being buried in you so long, but heā€™ll be so gentile when he rolls you onto the bed and tucks you in. Rubs your back and massages your scalp until you fall asleep. Cooing into your neck about how well you did for him. How good you are. How much he loves making you feel good. Makes him feel good too.
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jolynesmom Ā· 7 months ago
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aging yourself up or down in your dr (+ dating)
I actually refrained from talking on this topic on my tiktok since I knew I was going to get chased off the app and didnā€™t see a point in talking about it on tumblr since everybody here seems to be more open minded and mind their own business, until I saw multiple posts a few days ago here, where the op were shaming people for changing their age or changing the ages of people in their dr
those people definitely came from tiktok and I honestly hope this post reaches them as I didnā€™t want to directly interact with them
I think one of the posts was about how adults age ā€˜minorsā€™ in their dr to date them is problematic, which made me laugh, because how is it problematic if theyā€™re both the same age in their dr?
and the sad thing about that post is that the op said that theyā€™re aware how shifting works and all that, but still finds it problematic and hopes people that do that never shift which is justā€¦ girly I hope YOU never shift because you donā€™t deserve it for shaming people trying to live their lives
Iā€™m not going to go into details about the og posts, but they still have the outdated idea that if you shift for a character that is much younger than you here itā€™s ā€˜problematicā€™. once again: how is it problematic if youā€™re the same age in your dr?
and then they hit you with another outdated take ā€˜itā€™s problematic because you find them attractive hereā€™ which is ridiculous because of so many reasons
1.many characters (especially anime characters) donā€™t act or look their age. if your perceived a character as an adult initially then found out theyā€™re a minor, I simply donā€™t care. ages in fiction never matter, if your mind perceived x as a certain age then theyā€™re that age idc; 99.99% people are attracted to a character for who they are, not their age
2.many people had crushes on characters when they were younger or the same age with that character and still like them. letā€™s boo them that their crush on the character didnā€™t die and their fav character didnā€™t age, acting like youā€™re not going to be in their place in a few years
ā€˜not true Iā€™ll stop liking my favorite character when Iā€™m of age šŸ˜”ā€™
okay sweetie keep telling yourself that, because I keep seeing people on tiktok that had this mentality: they liked an underage character when they were minors and wanted to shift for them, now theyā€™re adults, havenā€™t shifted yet but STILL like that character and regret having said theyā€™re gonna stop liking that character when theyā€™re adults because it didnā€™t happen lol
3.people donā€™t always script that an underage person here will be their s/o, it just might happen. Iā€™m actually going to use myself as an example for this: so here Iā€™m an adult and Iā€™m also aroace which I dislike because I always dreamed of a fantasy novel like romantic relationship, so Iā€™m straight or bi in most of my drs so I can date. in my jujutsu kaisen dr, all the people in jujutsu tech are adults because I donā€™t like teens or kids and donā€™t wanna hangout with them. in my 30+ drs I only have 3 scripted s/os which are all adults here. I didnā€™t script an s/o for my jjk dr, because I want to focus more on friendships and training there (but secretly hoped choso would pick me, a girl can dream ok); a few weeks ago I channeled multiple people from my dr (yuuji, megumi, nobara, gojo, nanami and geto) and I received normal messages from all of them. I expected all of their answers, except yuujiā€™s answers which had romantic aspects to them. that made me realize that he might have a crush on me and maybe weā€™ll even date in my dr or something? who knows, I didnā€™t think too much about it so idk
so now if a character thatā€™s underage here likes me in my dr, am I supposed to refuse them or shift out? lmao youā€™re delusional if you think Iā€™m doing that
4.people that have never experienced adolescence love here. a lot of people dreamed of having that sweet experience of teenage romance that disney and an insane amount of shows and movies love to push, but instead their teen years were filled with abuse and hate. why shouldnā€™t they shift to experience what was taken from them here?
ALSO letā€™s switch this around: why is okay for minors to date adults in their dr, but not the other way around?
ā€˜itā€™s not as bad šŸ¤“ā˜šŸ»ā€™
imma be the devilā€™s advocate and say itā€™s just as bad
do you genuinely think itā€™s okay to be a minor here and date an adult in your dr? like do you really think your s/o would feel comfortable being sexualized by a minor and dating a person thatā€™s a minor in another reality? you lowkey forced your partner to become a pedo if you think about it šŸ™ /jk
and also if you shift to a reality where youā€™re a minor and become of age there, youā€™re officially an adult and shouldnā€™t date minors anymore, even in your ā€˜original realityā€™ where youā€™re still a minor. please keep the same standards for yourself
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tadc-harlequin-au Ā· 1 month ago
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Hi! Please excuse any misspellings, english is not my frist language...
Firstly I just wanted to tell you that I love your AU! Your Harlequin au was what intorduced me to lovely TADC au Tumblr community and I absolutley love it! I haven't seen alternate universes as creative as these since the Sansverse era!
Secondly, I hace a question about the Patriarch: He seems to have a very good idea of who Caine is, wouldn't he be this world's equivalent to Able? I ask because althugh his design is WAY different from most fan Able depictions, he still has that "The Puppetmaster's brother" vibe that all Ables tend to have, a peace of Caine's past that he can never get rid of!
If he is not Able then I am curious of who he is, if he is then the lore just got spicier and if you don't want to spoil anything I'll understand.
But honestly: Keep it up! Your au has filled 70% of all my daydreams, the only thing I have been able to think about for a while has only been game mechanics, combat and chase sequences!
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Damn y'all are fucking sleuths istg
Though I am very proud of that because that means my design philosophy worked somehow, and for that, I'll throw you guys a bone. And also because I can't keep it a secret any longer I've been holding it in since the very beginning of this au
YES.
The Patriarch of Puppets is none other than Abel, Caine's biological brother.
When I was first designing him, I wanted every aspect of Abel's design to scream "opposite of Caine", and to hold some form of symbolism. From his megaphone head, down to the color palettes, there is meaning. Don't get me wrong, Mushy's Able is a very memorable and awesome design and I could've incorporated him the same way I did Souls-like, but I wanted something deeper for Harlequin.
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While Caine is adorned in golds and maroons to symbolize his warmer nature, Abel has teals and silver, a very cold and intimidating stature. Their outfits and the colors are an opposition towards each other yet reflect one another somehow, the way Abel dresses tightly and formal when Caine is loose and open, his intense red pupil conveys his hostility, whilst Caine's eyes are softer blues and greens.
His king-size height dwarfing Caine tells just how much the Puppetmaster felt living on his shadow, HELL, someone noticed the weird "A" on the sides of his head and I had to shrug it off because I didn't want to reveal it as early as that time.
Even the megaphone head design holds SO MUCH UNTOLD STORY BETWEEN THE BROTHERS THAT I WILL CHOOSE TO KEEP A SECRET FOR NOW. I've put SO MUCH THOUGHT behind his design.
*sigh*... Which is also why I very much dislike the "siren head" jokes, because it's the one thing I didn't really foresaw when I was developing his design until I finished, and someone pointed out it might cause jokes like that to prop up. Something I thought I wouldn't mind initially, until everyone made the same joke over and over again and I just audibly groan irl.
But you know. internet's gonna internet, they see one thing that resembles a popular media, it's an immediate connection. I didn't even give a shit enough about Siren head to know how the design actually looked like, just a silhouette of the guy.
Therefore, I would really appreciate it if saying this out loud would help lessen the jokes, but ik not everyone is going to see this post so.
I do still wanna thank you for your kind words, because these kinds of asks are the fuel to my fire of inspiration and motivation for this AU, and I wish that I can keep this fire going till the very end of this AU's story :')
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signanothername Ā· 6 months ago
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Heyo! I love your art so much, as well as your mean girl Nightmare(I've halfway been imagining him with a *little* Regina George every time I've read that on this blog, no apologies for it) I was wondering, how do you think he'd react if Dream, Killer, just somebody who knew of his past just says; "You're just like them. The villagers.". Or ANY variation of that? Just the thought of him being the same as his past abusers, tormenting someone he dislikes, for what, because what have they truly done to deserve it? The idea of becoming the same of those who have hurt him, how would he react to that? I feel like if Dream said it, it would be more of an acceptance of how different his brother is, and how he'll never get his Nightmare that he knew and loved back, because his brother would never do this. Killer might say it to be a lil shit and torment him.
Just a thought I had! Hope you're having an fantastic day!
Hello!!! Thank you so much!! <33333 and good good donā€™t apologize cause itā€™s completely accurate to think of Regina George and Iā€™m actually guilty of thinking the same thing like honestly fits shhshs
Hereā€™s the Regina George Nightmare we all need
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Now back to the main point shdhhd
Yā€™know funny thing is I can imagine his reaction would definitely differ depending on who says it, if itā€™s someone like Killer or anyone else other than Dream, I can imagine him feeling slightly offended/angry by it, but it wouldnā€™t have much of an impact, cause what does Killer truly know? Killer never saw/ known those villagers, he doesnā€™t know what heā€™s talking about, at least thatā€™s the mindset Nightmare would have, heā€™d just threaten Killer to zip it or simply throw him across the room
I canā€™t truly imagine Dream saying such a thing to Nightmare but I can definitely see the opposite with Nightmare saying it to Dream (which cough i already drew before >:) ) but weā€™re talking hypothetically so letā€™s talk about how heā€™d feel if Dream said it cause god, I wholeheartedly believe if Dream said it then hell would break loose
Cause the thing is, Dream was there, he knew those villagers, he knew how they were like and he knew how bad they were, Dream lived those days with him, but even then, while Dream endured a different kind of abuse, the villagers actually loved Dream, and they hated Nightmare, so how could Dream, who never had a single villager lay a finger on him, how could his twin of all people to say to him that heā€™s like his abusers??? Nightmare would go through the five stages of grief in 5 seconds
Heā€™d be in so much denial, only to settle on pure unfiltered rage, cause how dare Dream, his twin, his blood and magic, tell him that heā€™s like them?
I can see Nightmare making excuses for his own actions, that heā€™s only doing all this to make them pay, heā€™d even say something along the lines of ā€œso what if i am like them??ā€ To convince himself that the idea of being like them doesnā€™t bother him (all while it fucking eats away at him) I can see Nightmare making excuses for why Dream would think such a thing, ā€œyouā€™re just drained of your magic, youā€™re confusedā€
I can see him go after Dream all the more aggressively, intent to kill cause how fucking dare he??
But then I can see the rage and fight leave Nightmare to finally settle on depression and resignation, all while part of him is still (and will forever be) in absolute denial
He knows heā€™s not like them, he never was and never will be
But why would he be an absolute mess by Dream saying it? Cause I wholeheartedly believe Nightmare would never expect Dream to compare him to the villagers, cause when your own twin says it it just cuts the much much much deeper
Hell I can even see Nightmare actually crying tears of frustration, maybe not in front of Dream cause Nightmare had become so used to isolating himself and keeping his emotions inside, and with his mindset of never wanting to appear weak heā€™d only let those tears out once he is sure heā€™s all alone
Because by god, he never thought itā€™d hurt so much to hear those words uttered by his brother, but they did hurt, and heā€™ll hurt Dream all the much worse for it
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(Same to you!! Hope youā€™re haveing a wonderful day/night <333)
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jenniferrvsesi Ā· 1 year ago
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HELPING HAND | D.R. 3
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summary: just moving to a new place can bring a lot of hardships especially when one of those things is a creepy crawly.
rating: universal
pairing: daniel ricciardo x fem!reader
warnings: a spider.
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Y/n had only been living in Monaco for about two weeks now. She hadnā€™t had the chance to look around much with how stressed she had been with her boxes of stuff arriving later than scheduled.
She had only fully unpacked everything the night before and was now just happy to finally be able to relax in her new apartment.
With a huff she gazed at the cream wall in front of her. Only to freeze. Right in front of her was a spider. A big one at that.
God how she disliked the creatures.
Y/n didnā€™t take her eyes off of the arachnid as she got up off her sofa and slowly walked backwards towards her kitchen, still staring at the eight legged beast as if having a standoff with it.
She blinked and thatā€™s when the spider decided to scutter down the wall and towards the floor. She screamed loudly and immediately jumped over the back of the couch, standing on it.
The spider is now completely gone.
"No, no, no.ā€ She whispered to herself looking around trying to spot the despicable creature.
All of a sudden a knock rang out throughout the apartment. She looked at the door that was all the way on the opposite side of the room she was in.
With a huff, she looked around the room making a game plan on how she was going to get to the door without touching the floor.
"Okay, you've got this." She hyped herself up quietly before making her way to the door, climbing on different pieces of furniture.
With a sigh, she opened the door while standing on her shoe box that was next to it, she revealed a man with curly brown hair, tattoos on his legs and a worried look on his, admittedly handsome, face.
ā€œHi, I heard screaming from next door and just wanted to make sure you were okayā€¦ā€ The man said before realising something. *I'm Daniel by the way.ā€
She noticed the Australian accent as he spoke, making him all the more attractive in her opinion. Now is not the time. She thought as she remembered the arachnid that was currently inhabiting her house.
"Oh! Hi... um I'm Y/n and yeah everything is fine! It's all good."
"Are you sure because that was a loud scream?" He joked with a laugh, as he admired the girl who had heard about (from Brenda, a lovely old lady who lived on the other side of him who somehow always had the gossip) but had never seen.
"There's just a spider in my apartment and I am very much scared of them.ā€ Y/n laughed nervously as she looked behind her as if the spider was going to be right there.
She felt embarrassed that this was how she was going to meet her neighbour who was unfairly attractive.
ā€œOh I can help catch him if you want. I've dealt with a lot of them in Australia." He offered with a polite smile, already wanting to hopefully get to know more about the woman in front of him.
"That would be great!" She agreed eagerly, usually she would be more hesitant to let a man she just met into her house but she just wanted that stupid little creature out of her vicinity.
She let Daniel in before making her way into her kitchen and grabbed a glass that he could use to trap the spider.
"Here." She said, handing it to him. She received a thanks from the man as he glanced around her apartment living room.
Out of the corner of their eyes they noticed a blob scurrying along the floor causing their eyes to dart to it.
Daniel immediately went for it, enclosing it in the glass. With an aha!' he gazed proudly as he stood up right.
Y/n handed the Australian a placemat so he could slide it under. ā€œDo you want to come take it outside with me?" He asked her to which she nodded hoping to use this time to maybe get to know the man more.
After talking on the way to the first floor, they had succeeded in disposing of the eight legged creature.
"Honestly, thank you so much. Y/n told him gratefully as the two made their way back to the elevator. "I have no clue if I would even be able to sleep knowing it was still in my house."
"It's no problem, you don't need to say thanks."
"Well how else can I show my gratitude?" A crooked smile appeared on the manā€™s face as an idea popped into his head.
"How about dinner sometime?"
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authors note: this is so trash bye šŸ˜­ but i had thought of the idea last night when a giant spider was in my room and i had to get someone else to get rid of itā€¦ anyway! have a lovely rest of your day!!
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lucrezianoin Ā· 1 year ago
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Have you talked with Astarion after ascending? He's happy, healthy, and secure. He also loves that he has someone at his side who accepts him and his choices, probably for the 1st time ever in his life. He feels in control of himself. He's nothing like Cazador because he isn't torturing Tav or forcing them to do things against their will.
Have I talked with Astarion after ascending? Yes, very happy, very secure, so much that he tells you this, this is the FIRST thing he says to you:
He directly tells you that he can feel the desire of creatures to obey him and you... are one of them. Keep in mind that he also makes a direct comparison between who he was (feeling small) and who he is now (hearing creatures begging to obey him and serve him, even you). This is him now, this is how he sees the world, there is only the powerful who dominate and the weak and pathetic who are victimized. And you confirmed his world view.
After a whole game of telling you how much he dislikes being a vampire ("there is nothing more desirable than a vampire, is there?" + missing his face, missing seeing in a mirror, the pain of his transformation, the hunger, the desire to live again), Astarion is so scared of loss of power = being the victim that he makes Tav into his spawn.
He IS forcing Tav to do things against the will, so much that when Tav tries to break up with him at the end Astarion will react calling them "stupid" and telling them that they cannot live... now THEIR FUTURE is for Astarion's to decide. Here is the screenshot of the dialogue:
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With dev note saying:
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It is honestly pretty obvious. I wrote more here. Check the part about Cazador's rules... those are the rules Tav will have to follow now.
Also... this is a face of someone who is disassociating during sex, I am pretty sure:
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Especially when you compare this scene with the kiss (same kiss) in the spawn ending where he touches you directly and stares into your eyes:
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germhammy Ā· 11 months ago
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ā€œChristmas Day chaosā€
Early morning in the kitchen
Morticia: Ophelia, please. Not so much color
Ophelia: NONSENSE! Honestly, you need more color in your life! Isnā€™t that right, mama?
Granny: now now, Ophelia. Take it easy. This is Morticiaā€™s home. No need to terrorize her.
Ophelia: At least Wednesdayā€™s friend has some taste!
Morticia: Girlfriend. And please do not encourage her.
Ophelia: girlfriend? Is that so? Enid must be one special person to win over Wednesday like that. Never thought she would make a friend let alone a life friend
Morticia: Enid is quite interesting. She is a magnificent werewolf according to Wednesday. The full moon is tomorrow. So we shall see.
Granny: a werewolf? How very interesting. A raven and her wolf.
Morticia: I never thought of that.
Meanwhile in the living room Pugsley and Wednesday thundered down the stairs to see what horror awaited them. Enid trailed behind excited with Thing on her shoulder.
Upon seeing what their father with the help of Lurch had left them, Pugsley and Wednesday burst out laughing at the horrific crime scene before them. Enid let out a blood curling scream and fainted.
Pugsley: she fainted
Wednesday: yes. I suppose I should have warned her.
Thing: smelling salts?
Wednesday: just make sure she is comfortable for now, Thing.
Gomez and Lurch entered upon hearing the scream
Gomez: oh dear. Sunshine fainted?
Wednesday: it is all right father. I neglected to mention this tradition to Enid in my excitement that she is spending Christmas with us. She has a dislike for extreme violence
Gomez: I do so hope we have not traumatized the poor girl with this yearā€™s roasting of Santa
Pugsley: I love the Fire Swamp!
Lurch: -grumbles-
Wednesday: fantastic! Santa being roasted by the Flame Spurts!
Lurch: -grumbles-
Wednesday: indeed. I do love a good Santa roast. And Westley getting devoured by the ROUS? Perfection!
Pugsley: I like Buttercup suffocating in the Lightening Sand.
Gomez: I do suppose we must clean this up a bit early for Enidā€™s sake.
Lurch nodded.
Pugsley: Iā€™ll help, father. Wednesday, you and Thing tend to Enid. We will open Santaā€™s sack later.
Gomez picked Enid up and led the way to his study where he lay her down on his chez lounge. He then left to clean up. Wednesday asked Thing to fetch the smelling salts
Enid: -gasping as she awoke- Wednesday! What the hell was that?
Wednesday: I am sorry. I failed to mention what awaits Pugsley and me every Christmas morning
Enid: you roasted SANTA!!
Wednesday: technically Lurch did. The Fire Swamp was his idea.
Enid: why?
Wednesday: it started when Pugsley and I were younger. We would make sure there was a raging fire in the fireplace hoping to roast Santa as he came down the chimney. Eventually my father started staging a ā€˜crime sceneā€™ with Santa
Thing: one of the earliest I got to strangle Santa.
Wednesday: I remember that one. Pugsley was so angry at you
Enid: your family is so strange
Morticia: -entering the room- if you would like, Enid? My sister insists on doing some decorating before the rest of our guests arrive for dinner. You may help her if you like. Her style may be more to your liking
Enid: Wednesday?
Wednesday: Aunt Ophelia is the polar opposite of my mother. Since she was feeling poorly Thanksgiving you did not see her true colors.
Enid: is your Uncle Fester coming?
Thing: NO! He is in Bulgaria. Thank goodness.
Morticia: now, Thing. He is my brother. I do know how he can be. But it is Christmas
Wednesday: even with Aunt Ophelia not being her usual colorful self. Thanksgiving was rather chaotic. Uncle Fester is my favorite. But I want Thing to enjoy this holiday with Enid here
Thing lifted his pinky for Wednesday. Wednesday hooked her pinky with Thing
Enid: oh! So cute!!
Wednesday glared at Thing
Thing: -shows middle finger to Enid- from Wednesday
Enid chuckled
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mazeofyeni Ā· 1 month ago
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ā› YOUTUBE.COM ! ā”€ā”€ā”€ now playing : one kids room . . .
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ā“˜ ONE KIDS ROOM 2024. EP. 09 MAYA
怌 outfit for video ! 怍 怌 mayas masterlist š–¹­ 怍
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"hi." she waved to the camera. "im straykids maya , you know that because of the title." she laughed.
[ about maya ] maya who still needs to be taken care of ...
"it's not that she needs it." hyunjin said. "it just comes naturally when you see her." chan laughed. "she takes care of everyone , so people won't take care of her."
[ how maya takes care of others ]
"my mother told me the other day it's like i was born an adult." she laughed. "she said as a kid i'd try and take care of all the neighbor kids , she spent a lot of money on dolls so i just take care of them and leave the kids alone." she said. "i guess it's still like that sometimes , i take care of my members."
"i try and take care of other people , but i don't like when people take care of me." she said. "but my members don't listen so."
[ maya and her upfront personality ]
"she's very blunt." chris said. "she doesn't beat around the bush , but she isn't mean about it." they all agreed. "she doesn't want anyone to be uncomfortable."
"but she won't sacrifice her comfort for anyone else." jeongin said. "if she doesn't like something she'll tell you right then and there she doesn't like it , but it will be in a way where there won't be any tension."
"she says it in a way where you feel a whole bunch of regret even though she says it's fine as long as you don't do it again."
[ mayas way of thinking ]
"i am kind of upfront about things , i don't like to waste time and let things fester." she said. "why do that? and when you finally reach your breaking point , everyone is confused because you let it go on so long."
"i can take a joke , but why take a joke i don't like?" she said. "that's how i think about it."
[ guess one kids : listen to the question and guess mayas thoughts ]
" rank who maya would hate least to most." "someone who is judgemental , someone who is lazy , someone who is dishonest."
"i feel like she'd dislike all these people equally." han said. "yeah , honestly i don't all these people."
"someone dishonest is definitely first , that's something she values the most , then judgemental , she doesn't judge people without good reason , she gives everyone a chance so i don't think she'll like that." hyunjin said. "someone who is lazy." he said. "she's not a lazy person but i don't think she'd care that much if someone else is lazy."
[ mayas answer ]
"definitely someone dishonest." she said. "that's my biggest pet peeve , someone who is judgmental , then someone who is lazy." she chuckled. "as long as it gets done i guess it's fine."
"felix , the all knower of maya , as expected." he rolled his eyes.
"she has a routine in the apartment." hyunjin said. "but everyone is supposed to follow it." changbin laughed. "yah!" felix clapped in remembrance. "she was like that in the old dorms."
"it starts at like 4 am , even on days off." lee know said. "4:30 am she's out the door , and she doesn't go to the gym." seungmin spoke up. "no because that's at 7:30 , i asked her , 'where do you go at 4 am?" she said she just walks around."
"i can't live without a certain routine , it drives me crazy if everything is out of order , i know it's hard because i'm traveling a lot , but i made one for traveling and one for when im home." she laughed.
"i do sometimes drag the others into it , i can't help it , i know they hate it , but they won't be mean about it.
"it's not intentional though , i think because i'm up , im sometimes a bit loud and they wake up."
[ members enable it ]
"hyunjin , changbin oppa." she said. "im sorry , i'll try and change."
"she cares about people and their feelings , she's young but she is mature." lee know said. "she's someone i think everyone can go to , no matter your age." they all agreed.
"she just knows how to make you feel like you're the only person who matters at the moment when you're talking to her." felix joined. "she's attentive."
"she doesn't talk about her own feelings though." chris said. "she keeps her own emotions to herself."
"i guess im still a bit uncomfortable with expressing myself." she said. "when i'm sad or something , i just keep it inside." she confessed. "but im also not good at hiding when im upset so you can see it."
[ how would you express maya in one word ? ]
"cute." chan laughed. "maya is adorable." lee know sighed. "let's stop him , he can go all day if we let him." they nodded. "let's all go with that."
"maya is adorable!" "she's gonna kill us."
[ how does maya feel about that ? ]
"ah so annoying." she scoffed. "why would they say that?" she mumbled under her breath. "okay , i guess."
"thank you." she gave the camera a thumbs ups. "this is maya."
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Ā©MAZEOFYENI
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lorynna Ā· 4 months ago
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i would consider myself a radical feminist also and i agree with the vast majority of your views. honestly i am just curious why you think aromantic/asexual people don't exist or shouldn't be labeled. i don't mean this as hate i'm honestly curious to know if it is part of most radical feminist views
if you can accept someone who is lesbian, and knows for themselves that they aren't at all attracted to men, why would you not accept someone who realizes both that they aren't attracted to men and they aren't attracted to women? (obviously very different identities and experiences i'm just wondering why some people can be trusted to know who they're not attracted to and others can't)
Hello anon, thank you for asking so kindly.
I am going to try and explain what my personal opinion on the topic is, as well as I can, and please keep in mind that I don't speak for the radical feminist community but just for my own views.
First of all, the definitions I have read of both terms (aromantic and asexual) so far aren't really specific, differ from each other at times and leave open room for interpretation. The gendies meanwhile continue to preach "everything means something different to each person" and "it is a broad spectrum" just like they do with gender, which according to them is so complicated and unfathomable that you have to ask each person identifying with it seperately, to know what their gender means to them.
The first thing that comes up when I google the definition of both terms displayed below (just as an example of what I mean):
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Like, what do "sexual feelings" all include and to which extent does "little romantic attraction" go?
I do think that people who fit the mainstream criterias for being asexual or aromantic exist, I am not trying to say that it is naturally impossible to experience no sexual or aromantic attraction to anyone. I do think it is really really rare for this to authentically occur though, and that a lot of people identifying with these labels have experienced some kind of trauma or are doing it because it has become a trend.
The thing I most dislike about these labels are not only their inconsistency in definitions but also how much they are starting to get pushed online = trend. In my personal experience I have seen not only online but also offline how younger kids and teens start to pick up on these labels without knowing what they truly mean, because they are "cool" and just like gender it is starting to become a similar trend. Seeing who publicly identifies as those labels, it is again mostly the demographic of teenagers who are going puberty and the several different, crucial developmental phases that come with that.
Since you are asking if this is a common radfem belief, I cannot say. There surely is a variety of opinions, however I have seen some good takes from which I remember being said that a person doesn't need the label of "asexuality" or "aromanticism" as an excuse to not participate in dating culture or to not engage in sexual relations. It should just be common sense to not ask strangers about their dating lives and not ask "why" if they say they are not dating or having sex as if it was something unusual.
Also answering to your last question of "why I don't trust those people to know who they are attracted or not attracted to" is not what I am trying to do insinuate by questioning/criticizing the labels they use to describe said attraction. It is not about me trying to say "I don't believe you, you are lying" it is "why do you need those labels". I just don't think it adds anything valuable to society and it's getting more mainstream each day. Now even with teenagers using those labels when they haven't had the time to figure out themselves as a person yet. It just looses its meaning.
I've seen women going through long periods without having partners (radfems participating in male seperatism for example) being asked "oh, so you're asexual, right?" or "oh, so you're unable to form a romantic connection?" because people start assuming, forgetting that there are so so many reasons why people might not have partners or might not want to.
Again, people who truly are not experiencing any sexual desire or romantic desire are really rare but through so many people mindlessly adopting the label it looses it's meaning because it gets more broad in definition and everyone continues to define it for themselves. "Yeah, I am asexual but sometimes I have sex. Like once a month but that's barely enough so I must be asexual." Like... you might just have a low libido and that's totally okay! Why do you feel the need to label yourself as asexual? Is it easier because of your partner's expectations, maybe? Is a simple no not enough for them?
"I'm 15 and I haven't had a crush on anyone so far. I actually think boys/girls are ew and I can't imagine kissing anyone, like ew saliva. Also the girls/boys in my class are so annoying!!" And no, I've heard statements like this several times before. I mean, give yourself some time you're only 15.
Why do we always have to slap a label on top of everything and why can't we just go through life saying "yeah at the moment I really don't feel like having a partner, I don't want to date or have sex. Maybe that will change someday, maybe not and either way it's okay, I'm open for change. " but we have to say "oh yes, I'm an asexual aromantic without doubt and that won't change, that's my identity" and then when that changes we get an identity crisis realising that oh, maybe that wasn't me? Who am I now?
It all boils down to me not being able to take those labels seriously anymore, which is why I reacted so sarcastically in the post you're probably referring to, where I talked sarcastically about those terms.
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"labels are different for anyone"
like no.. to define means to limit, to define means to exclude people who don't meet those criterias and that's okay, that's what makes labels and words meaningful = contributing to a conversation of mutual understanding instead of having to first discuss what each person means by using one and the same word.
Like I can't go outside in a clothing store saying "oh I want a red dress" and when she shows me a red dress I then say "oh that's not red for me, that's yellow by my own definition." How do you expect everyone to effectively communicate by leaving the option open for everyone to seperately define one single term??
But as we know, the gendies aren't fans of definitions.
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did you dislike the ep in general, or just the lack of tommy and bucktommy?
i have a headache and i should probably rewatch the ep again once I'm feeling physically better before i answer this but having an achy head means my inhibitions are lowered and my brain to mouth filter is taking a nap, so i'ma let loose..
on the one hand: yes of course i'm annoyed there was no hot pilot in the planemergency. i honestly wasn't even expecting any bucktommy scenes, but i thought tommy would be at the airport staging area, or giving updates from his chopper in the air, etc. i am baffled that tim didn't include their resident pilot in this emergency at all; the repelling into the cockpit might be a little bit too insane even for this show, but i really think they could've utilised him in the air traffic control tower from the start - can you imagine tommy telling jem over the radio that he's doing a good job? i can, and my heart melts. šŸ« 
on the other hand: i get it. it sucks, but i get it. lou is a guest star, this emergency was centred around bathena, there was barely any room in the plot for the 118 let alone other characters. tommy could have been included more easily in the plot imho, but i have to remind myself it probably all comes down to budget and call lists and not wanting to split focus. this is the downside of tv shows unfortunately - it all comes down to money and time limits and star power; were this a book series there would be no excuse not to include tommy, and thus i will henceforth bury myself in fics that do just that. šŸ“š
as for the whole of the ep: ...eh? here's the thing: i really love bathena in the cruise ship disaster so i think having them be the focus of the next disaster is difficult because they can't measure up to that epic chaos and emotional weight in my eyes. i also find it strange that they got the focus of two disasters two seasons in a row, but again: the star power of angela bassett is totally understandable, she really brings it in those disaster scenes and i would love to see her in more roles that balance heavy action and strong emotion bc she is a powerhouse in that dynamic. šŸ’„
BUT - and maybe this comes down to the direction and editing in part - to me, there was a lack of urgency in the plane stuff this ep, which was strange considering all that was going on. i think they ended it too soon and the addition of the fire on the ground didn't really add anything except a fun little scene where buck tried to use a prop hose. it felt kind of.. anticlimactic? i loved the insane shot of bobby standing on the engine meeting the plane nose, but.. *sigh* yeah, i just wasn't on the edge of my seat. i actually prefer the tension and plane plot happenings in 8x02, and when i watched 8x02 live i was a little disappointed, but now i prefer it to this ep. šŸ›¬
i really would've liked to see more of the 118 lending a hand in this emergency. i'm so glad we got as much of buck as we did, and seeing maddie and josh was good too, but.. yeah. that staging video we saw weeks ago of all the engines leaving the hanger just ending up feeling pointless? i was so looking forward to more of the ensemble cast and other firefighter extras helping on the scene, and it seems those potential scenes were traded in for more bathena focus and to me it just wasn't worth the trade. i love their love, but i think tim could've included more characters in the entirety of the planemergency. šŸš’
as for athena's ending: returning to the aiport to get a real little black book was odd imho; they could've gone anywhere, and honestly i was kinda hoping for location change, but they were sticking with the theme so i get it. but i really liked the return to the mystery and the impending danger of the case, and the way they tied things up for athena's past was really nicely done, she deserves to have peace and closure and to know it wasn't all for naught. šŸ’
as for the gerrard stuff: unexpected! wonderful! distrubing af! many of us called it, that gerrard would take buck under his wing (re: golf date) and he'd be faced with this new dilemma of no longer being gerrard's target but of being his chosen one; i foresee angst and conflict in buck's future, specifically in his relationship with tommy - who will likely try to warn him against letting gerrard get too close and worrying over him - but also with the rest of the 118 as he reaps rewards he didn't want while they have to continue bearing the weight of gerrard's captaincy and even moreso now that buck is no longer his main target. šŸ«‚
the gerrard stuff is the only real setup we got for upcoming episodes, but i'm curious to see how the planemergency affects brad and moreover his friendship(?)/dynamic with bobby and the hotshots job. we obviously are going to get more henren drama with ortiz and the kids, which will be interesting - i'm really looking forward to getting more ortiz in the plot. eddie and his moustache will feature, looking forward to seeing how he's coping with chris' absence and how that changes. šŸ‘€ lots of good stuff to come and i'm looking forward to all of it and to putting this planemergency behind me (however: the beenado will live on in my heart forever šŸšŸŒŖļø).
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