#traumatic regression

[mortuarymorticia]

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support & normalize chronically-ill carers. 🤍

— 🤕 be open to accommodations when ur carer is having a pain flare, like a chair next to the tub for them to sit when they run u a bath. have a pillow ready if they are kneeling to tie ur shoes or snap up a onesie.

—— 🩹 offer to help out more! clean off ur plate without asking, double down on chores, maybe take one of theirs off their plate. doing things without asking will make u feel like baba’s little helper & also probably be much appreciated.

——— ❤️‍🩹 spend some time nourishing them the way they nourish u. temple massages with tiger balm for migraines or an ice pack & a scalp massage. lotion their feet & ankles if they are swollen. rewrap their bandages for them.

———— 🩹 incorporate their mobility aids into ur regressive relationship, such as drawing them with their wheelchair in pictures or covering their cane with stickers! (with permission, of course.) normalize their illness as just a part of who they are.

————— 🤍 most importantly, remember that ur carer is human just like u & has limits, even if they feel like a superhero to u. be sure to remind them every day that their illness doesn’t define their ability to be a good caretaker.

[ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ] ——— [ 🤕🩹❤️‍🩹 ]

[nechto221b]

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Childhood trauma culture is being grown and still getting really into whatever was popular with kids/teens when you were that age because you feel like you missed out

[autisticdrizzt]

shout out to all the age regressors who have a very complicated relationship with regression because of childhood trauma and infantilization because of their disabilities. sometimes, being treated like a kid is triggering because it reminds you of the power imbalance between you and your caregiver. shout out to the regressors who don't want their caregivers to be their parents. Shoutout to all the impure regressors who only regress when high or drunk. Shoutout to all the regressors who still do adult things while regressed like watch horror, play adult video games, or swear like sailors. shoutout to all the regressors who don't want a caregiver. it is first and foremost, a coping mechanism for stress and trauma. it does have to look a specific way.

[lemonys-place]

heyyy gentlest reminder, my friends, that you do not have to disclose your trauma and mental illnesses to justify your age regression. it's perfectly fine to regress/dream "just because" and strangers are not entitled to your sensitive information/past just because they want to validate it FOR you. don't let anyone make you feel like you have to explain yourself just for coping/soothing/self-parenting in a way that feels good + healing for YOU. there is no criteria to meet to be yourself!

but also, it IS sensitive information and there are some people around the community especially predators who will use that information to get closer to you and/or hurt you. so please practice internet safety, be careful who you share your details with, and block ANYONE who doesn't seem right or play nice.

protect your space and be safe everyone! 🙏

[snugglebugs]

KAI SMITH flip (caregiver-leaning!)

Kai Ninjago Smith is ABSOLUTELY an age regressor are you KIDDING me are you JOKING me. He is BASICALLY CANONICALLY an age regressor!!!!

"I bet he loves being treated like a baby..." (Nya, Season 14, Episode 6, Call From The Abyss)... Yeah he does because he IS a baby. He is THE baby. He is BABY.

His entire traumatic backstory is that, after his parents were taken from him from an early age, he had to step into a parental role for his little sister and become the adult of the family while still being a child himself. He had to grow up before he even really had a chance to grow at all. On-screen, we see that once his parents return and he's no longer forced into that role of responsibility, he canonically regresses into childish habits and language we have never before seen him use or display beforehand.

"Ham and cheese sandwiches with crispy bacon? Oh thanks, Mommy! You're the best! Mm... bacon is the best, too!" (Kai, Season 14, Episode 6, Call From The Abyss).

Conclusion? Kai Smith is the most age-regressor to ever age regress ever I will not take criticism because I am OBJECTIVELY CORRECT.

Anyway!! I think Kai is regresses from 5-9~ years old. We can tell from his diction that he doesn't seem to be a baby regressor (at least in this scene), as he's capable of fully-formed sentences and has the cognitive skills required to play video games, so that leads me to believe he might be a little-middlespace regressor! Kai's parents left when he was around 5, so it makes sense he wouldn't be an infant regressor, but around the little-middle spectrum, regressing into the same range of years in which he didn't have a chance to be a child before.

I don't just think he's an age regressor, though, I also think he's a flip, too! He definitely has some care-giving tendencies built-in to him from having to be a caretaker for his little sister for so many years, and so he pretty naturally slips into the role of a big brother caregiver! I imagine he leans more towards the caregiving side then the regressing side, just because being a caregiver is what he's used to being - what he's always had to be - but that may be prone to change as he becomes more comfortable with his regression! He hates regressing around the other age regressors, especially when they're regressed, because he feels like when they're small he has to be big and adult to take care of them regardless of his own headspace. We can see his caregiver tendencies displayed in... countless interactions with Lloyd. Speaking of...

LLOYD MONTGOMERY GARMADON age regressor!

I am, once again, OBJECTIVELY correct. Lloyd is basically canonically an age regressor. He IS canonically an age regressor. He is, quite literally, a child stuck in a teenager's body -- as in he was a child and then magic age-up tea turned his body into a teenager's but still left him with the mental capacity of a child. Which is the DEFINITION of what an age regressor is!! Bodily an adult but mentally a child!! He IS an age regressor!!!!

And even if that WASN'T the case, he'd probably be an age regressor anyway, because, like. Look at him. He had the weight of the world on his shoulders since he was, like, eight, was unable to be a child because he had to endure constant rigorous training and when he WASN'T training he was undergoing countless traumatic experiences while he was still a child.

Lloyd: Well...The latest issue of Starfarer just came in at Doomsday Comix and it's a limited run, so if I don't go out and get it, it's going to sell out. Last they left off, intergalactic rogue Fritz Donnegan was surrounded by the Imperial Sludge, and if I don't find out if he gets out alright, I think I might have my own doomsday! Kai: The fate of Ninjago rests on your shoulders. As the Green Ninja, you have a giant responsibility to hold. I'm sorry, but you don't have time for such childish things. Lloyd: Other kids get to play and have fun. All I ever do is train...(Season 2, Episode 18, Child's Play)

I don't even think I need to argue my case that hard for why Lloyd is an age regressor. I think it'd be harder to argue why he ISN'T an age regressor, actually. TRY to argue that he's not an age regressor. TRY. I BET you CAN'T.

I don't have much evidence for this one, but I imagine he may be a pet regressor, too! He's an oni-dragon-hybrid, after all, and his heritage have proven to come with strong instincts regarding this animalistic half of his genes, as seen throughout the Oni Trilogy. Even if he doesn't have any physical traits, it's likely he at least has psychological ones. I imagine he growls, gnaws on things, et cetera!

COLE BROOKSTONE caregiver!

Look at him. JUST LOOK AT HIM. The most caregiver to ever caregive ever forever. He has chronic can't-stop-adopting-children syndrome. He's adopted, like, three separate children at this point. It is becoming a problem.

"Huh? Oh, no. Don't make that face. Don't cry. Oh, I can't take it any more. Hey, look at me. Hehe. Yeah. I'm not sad. Ha-ha, I'm not crying. Oh, fine. But this is between you and me. Shine, little glow worm, glimmer glimmer. Hey there, don't get dimmer, dimmer. You like that, huh? Well, there's more where that came from. Glow, little glow worm. Glow and Glimmer—" (Cole, Season 8, Episode 5, Dead Man's Squall)

When his mentor canonically (mentally & physically) regressed into an infant his first and immediate instinct was to adopt and care for them. If that isn't agere caregiver behaviour I don't know WHAT is. HE BECAME THE FATHER TO AN INDIVIDUAL REGRESSED FROM THEIR NORMAL HEADSPACE INTO A CHILD.... HE'S LITERALLY A CAREGIVER GUYS!!!!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE YOU WANT ME TO SAY!!!!!!! I AM JUST STRAIGHT-UP CORRECT!!!!!!!!!!!

JAY WALKER padded regressor!

Jay: Aah! [He picks up a ruined stuffed toy.] Mister Cuddlywomp… [sobs] is a teddy bear I used to love when I was five, but now he's totally lame and—

Cole: We know you still sleep with him.

Jay: And I don't care who knows it! Mister Cuddlywomp... (Season 7, Episode 6, The Attack)

Jay Walker is DEFINTELY a regressor. His personality has been noted to be very child-like and babyish at times, to the point where the fandom (and showwriters) tend to infantilize him, despite the fact that in his own right he can be a very serious character when he need be. As much as I do believe he's an age regressor, it's important to remember he can be very capable and competent character when he's big, too, and not to define him by his regression!

If he's any regressor, it's definitely a padded regressor. Throughout the show, it's become a running bit that he's a bedwetter and has a weak bladder:

Jay: But I don't wanna get wet. I...I only have one pair of underwear.

Kai: Jay, this is no time to be making jokes. The Bounty can only take so much.

Jay: You think I'm trying to be funny? (Season 2, Episode 9, The Last Voyage)

Harumi: Uh, forgive me, but is that... underwear?

Jay: We're usually more organized. Ahem. But our leader got lost in a time-stream. Uh, they're Cole's.

Cole: They're blue!

Kai: You're lucky they're not yellow. (Season 8, Episode 3, The Oni & The Dragon)

Jet Jack: Then tell us, who do these diapers belong to?

Kai: Oh, those are Jay's. Tell 'em, Jay.

Jay: Oh. I have a weak bladder. (Season 9, Episode 2, Iron & Stone)

These are only a few of many, many examples (You can find others throughout the show, such as in Only One Can Remain, The Darkness Remains, Darkness Within, etc) of this bit, and though it's usually spun as a joke, there's no harm and shame in it! I imagine the ninja do actually buy him diapers, and as much they tease and prod, they never actually judge him whenever he has an accident!

ZANE JULIEN caregiver!

"I was built to protect those who can't protect themselves!" (Zane, Season 3, Episode 8, The Titanium Ninja)

I don't know what else you want me to say guys... he said so himself.,,,,,,. was built to protect those who can't protect themselves...,.....

Zane's entire identity is hinged around adaptability. Though I could go on a WHOLE 'NOTHER ESSAY about Zane's relationship with identity, the point here is that he often adapts to what people need him to be! I mean, he downloaded thousands pieces of detective media onto his hardware in order to try to track down the other ninja after they went missing, if called for I imagine he could very easily slip into the role of caretaker (he WOULD download hundreds of resources on age regression to help the other ninja)!

I don't have a lot of evidence for this one beside source: bro trust me but bro. trust me. The Vibes,,,, theyre there

These are just my personal headcanons based on evidence I've gathered from the show - I am in NO WAY saying these are the only headcanons or that they are the "correct" ones!! In fact, if you have DIFFERENT headcanons for the ninja (esp. ones I didn't provide a lot of detail for), I encourage you to share them in the tags, I'd love to hear other's opinions!!!! ^^

If this gets enough interested, I might make a pt. 2, so stay tuned!!

[deripmaver]

it's obviously not intentional on miura's part, but it is interesting how possible doylist reasons for casca's recovery/arc taking so long to get to (miura being unsure what route to take maybe, or just wanting to dick around writing guts killing monsters a bit longer) create a scenario that functions as a metacommentary on irl rape culture.

in less fancy words LOL, a part of rape culture is the idea that survivors should at some point stop being affected by their trauma, usually a point very soon after the traumatic event. it's a burden put on the survivor to "move on," to stop bringing up the rape because its burdensome to the perpetrator and shameful w/in society, and after a period of time remaining & acting traumatized is even seen as a greater transgression than being a perpetrator of sexual violence. in that sense, i do always look at the desire to see casca go back to slashing at things with her sword & stop acting the way she does in canon post-eclipse with a bit more of a critical eye, particularly when it comes to the way she acts in ch 372.

of course, again, casca is a fictional female character written by a man. it's a man whose writing decisions have not afforded her any agency within the text, including related to her own assault. that being said, i think that SOME (not all) of the pushback to her regression to elaine, and her current situation in falconia, comes with a sense of discomfort to see someone being completely disabled due to their trauma, and never having that moment where she "gets over it." i dunno, i have a lot of criticisms with how elaine and casca's trauma was handled. i think her picking up a sword again in elfheim and then again in ch 372 and yet still having her trauma affect her deeply were also good choices.

[greenlantrns]

You don’t actually have to share the ‘bad’ parts of your regression btw. It’s okay to create a space to appreciate the good parts of your regression without dishing out your trauma to strangers on the internet.

[ineffableangelics]

It's a scary world out there, friends ♡ please make sure you're taking care of yourself.

It might feel selfish to focus on your own stress and troubles right now when so many people are hurting, but the most important thing is to not give in to doom. Keep yourself alive, keep yourself safe, support and give back to those in need when you can.

Remember : you cannot help when you're spiraling.

Take a breath. Drink some water. Hug someone close to you. We will get through this together.

[software-instxbility]

What im grieving the most is my loss of skills.

I used to be able to do reps of like 50 pushups; I'd compete against my scout leaders (who in retrospect probably let me win but my goal was just to impress them). I used to be able to walk around 80-100kms in 2 days during hikes. I'd dance on pointe shoes. I was always the one carrying all the groceries, the one boys and men wanted on their team. Now i use a cane to walk around my own room sometimes and use my braces more often than not. Some days even holding my phone is too much effort. I sleep all the time and then sleep some more.

I used to read entire books in a day, two at most. I was a writer, theater kid, dancer and musician. I was in the chess club. Now I can barely read or write a paper for college, can barely do my homework and I failed two years in a row. I write down everything because I have the memory of a goldfish from dissociative amnesia. I can only draw once in a blue moon, if im lucky.

I was on top of my class, id handle homework + studying + caring for my sister + my mother + my hobbies and activities + administration + ect. I was never home before 8-9 pm bc of my extracurriculars. Now im making myself communication cards because some days, speaking gets too much. im slowly but surely entering a nonsexual D/S relationship bc I need instructions for day-to-day chores and activities. I need reminders and alarms everywhere, all the time.

I was a real life Swiss army knife and now I'm turning into a human adult baby. It's not fair.

[littlest-nightingale]

12 my BABYYYYYY

[quadrantadvisor]

Sometimes I still think about The Owl House Gang all trying to watch ATLA together but then Zuko's backstory in The Storm retraumatizes Hunter so bad they have to stop

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Life is hard and joy is fleeting. Normalize kid stuff. Normalize abiding youth. Normalize childless people shamelessly consuming kids media. Normalize parents shamelessly being into their kids faves. Because for example if you’re 25 you also have a 24 and 23 and 22 and 17 and 13 and 5 year old still inside you. Your past selves don’t just die. Look out for them. Don’t forget about them. Don’t spend your whole adult life Being An Adult. Give your kid selves a lil treat sometimes. You need them, and they deserve it.

[starburstsystem]

https://youtu.be/EtF1237GKQw?si=261j2ZdRtXRFgb38

We found this while scrolling on Pinterest. Please, please give it a watch. It's so so wonderful. I'm so happy that this exists. Made us cry.

(kink and nsfw fuck off)

[yikes-ajax-thats-sad]

Please, please I'm sorry, I said something wrong didn't I? I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Please don't be mad at me, I didn't mean to, I'll take it back, please don't yell at me. I'll do anything, just please don't hate me, I didn't mean to make you mad. It's not my fault, it's not my fault I swear. I'll take the brunt of your anger, I'll take anything from you, your hatred and bitterness, but please don't break me too much. You know I'm fragile. You know that, right? I'll take it, I'll take it good and I won't complain but please don't make me cry too much, my head already hurts so much and I've already spent a morning dry heaving, and I can't keep finding excuses to tell people for my absence. I just want to be loved, not this, but if this is love I will take every bit of it, just please don't be mad at me. My heart can't take it, don't you know it's already broken? I know you're not him but I find myself doomsday planning anyway. Please don't be mad.

What I actually say: ahah hey look at this picture of a cat holding carrots btw isn't that so funny

[rlaehrwk21]

Please Excuse My Emotional Unavailability