#trauma parenting

[fosterwhat]

Thanksgiving was okay. It was just me and the kids. I thought briefly of traveling to see family, but it would have been thousands of dollars, plus some of my extended family definitely voted for T, so, no.

The day did not start smoothly. Felix woke up early and began sensory seeking, which involves throwing himself onto his bed over and over so forcefully that his bed moves across the room, while scream singing echolalia. I hate being woken up like that, it puts me in the worst mood. And the noise caused our dog to start barking in his crate, which meant I had to get up. Ugh.

Felix has been very impulsive lately, for example, I'll leave the room for a minute tops, and come back to find that he has eaten an entire bag of chips. When I ask him why, was he hungry?, he says no, he just saw it. Seeing an item and then acting upon it immediately has become a big issue recently, it's how we lost a whole toothpaste recently (squeezed into sink). It means a lot of observation is needed. I tried to discuss with my mom and she shrugged it off, said all kids behave that way. No. Please don't belittle our experience.

Anyway, all that to say, I was not the calmest or kindest parent on Thanksgiving. My patience was thin. I did cook all the traditional sides, the kids loved eating them with sparkling cider, and we had a pretty decent pie for dessert… Although our store was completely out of pumpkin pie, so we had to settle for rhubarb. I still did some repair work this morning, I think it's really important to acknowledge shortfalls, especially as an adult and a parent, so I apologized for being short tempered yesterday, and did not make any excuses or rationales about why. I will say though, that what really helps is sleep. It is really hard to parent when you're exhausted and sleep deprived. I know most of you all get that. 

We had a much better day today. I decided that it was time to start getting ready for Christmas, so the kids drank hot chocolate and made gingerbread houses, we went out for lunch, had a nice long (freezing) walk with our dog, and came home to decorate our Christmas tree. Felix deemed the best day ever!

[happyherringbonkpickle]

[anna-scribbles]

emma dupain cheng on the brain😽🎀

more:

[kyri45]

You guys wanted un-glamoured Mac for a month now you have to pay the consequences.

Shadowpeach Bio Parent AU (PREV / FIRST / NEXT

[hypewinter]

Ok ok ok so hear me out. I've seen a lot of stories and prompts where the Joker is scared of Danny. But honestly? Big scary ghost? Whatever, doesn't phase him. He's seen scarier. He's done scarier. Try again.

But you know what has been actually proven to scare the Joker? The IRS. So imagine this man's utter horror when one day an IRS agent just appears in his hideout and lets him know that he still owes them money. The agent gives him a deadline to pay his remaining taxes then leaves.

Joker immediately starts scrambling. He needs to come up with this money fast. No way he's making an enemy out of the IRS. But before that, Johnny? Find my accountant and give him the most painfully funny death you can think of.

For the next few days, Joker is running around, trying to collect the remaining money that he owes but he still doesn't have enough. As the IRS agent so helpfully reminds him every time he shows up.

On the day of the deadline Joker is still just short of what he owes so he pulls out his trump card. Begging.

That's how Batman finds one deranged clown killer on his hands and knees begging for a loan or at the very least some protection and he is utterly confused. It's at that moment when a young man appears out of nowhere.

"I'm sorry. It looks like you still haven't paid all of your taxes," he says in a frighteningly cheerful voice before he grabs the Joker by his collar and drags him into the shadows.

[purble-sarah]

hey im back from the dead and here's Jason and I'll be active again and drawing again cuz im back yeah (sry for the unexpected hiatus)

[chloesimaginationthings]

How helpy tested out the FNAF pizza sim attractions

[seventeendeer]

ppl are too quick to point to laios' disability as the reason his friends think he's a freak sometimes. so many instances of laios getting yelled at are, in my eyes, a case of "this guy had to emotionally mature very early in order to be there for his little sister" combined with "much older friends who never had to learn to manage their own emotions to the same degree"

a lot of the time he's right about needing to be more direct/deal with things in a way that may seem scary/needing to put your gut reaction aside. he tries not to make his friends uncomfortable and he puts up with a lot because he's trying to keep the peace, but he also pushes the others out of their comfort zones purposefully to try to get them to think more constructively. everyone else in the party is prone to acting on their gut instincts and avoiding uncomfortable situations even when facing them head-on is very much necessary. part of what makes laios such a great leader is the fact that he knows from experience how to put his own feelings aside to help someone else grow.

yes, he does make a lot of social blunders by accident and he does struggle to connect with others, but not all of his positive influence on others is accidental or "despite" making people uncomfortable. a lot of the time, I think it's clear he knows exactly what he's doing and he's trying to help the people around him process emotions in a healthy way as they all go through some truly harrowing shit. all the main characters support each other as well as they can with their unique emotional skillsets. laios' skillset just happens to be "gently talk child into eating her vegetables"

[stargirldotcom]

- on mothers

lady bird/ @death-born-aphrodite/ everything, everywhere, all at once/ rupi kaur/ unknown/ maia baia/ your best american girl- mitski/ lady bird/ unknown/ @inkskinned

[olailamajnoon]

Dick on the phone, at 3 pm in the afternoon: Forgive me father for I have sinned.

Bruce, just woken up, squinting at the alarm clock: Dick it's 3 pm. what is this.

Dick, tearfully: My confession! I couldn't sleep, Bruce. I was the one who drove my hamster to suicide! I didn't feed him malt cookies like I was supposed to! He climbed on the exercise wheel and didn't stop running until he died.

Dick: *continues sobbing*

Bruce: okay so first of all.

Bruce: I'm not a priest.

Bruce: And second of all. Animals don't commit suicide.

Dick: Mari did!

Bruce: You named your male hamster after your mother...?

Dick: NOT THE POINT, BRUCE!

Dick: but yes.

Bruce, sighing: There's so much to unpack here I don't know where to start.

Dick: I killed him, Bruce. I should have died along with him!

Bruce:...

Bruce: It's possible that you've associated your hamster's death with the trauma of your parents' death, possibly because of shared names, and you've displaced your survivor's guilt from the first onto the second.

Dick:...

Dick: So what should I do.

Bruce: In my experience, the best way to deal with survivor's guilt is to save as many people as you can, possibly people in the same situation as the loved ones you have lost, hoping that the heroic nature of your deeds lets you sleep at night.

Dick: And what if that doesn't work?

Bruce: Then you drink. Get shitfaced drunk every time you feel a pang. Or you can pray to a nonexistent god and an uncaring universe.

Dick:...

Dick: If I come over, will you break out the good whiskey.

Bruce: I thought you'd never ask.

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

going through my old journals as part of therapy homework and i'm reading a section written in the emotional wreckage of a full-on breakdown when i get hit with this line:

There is never a satisfying answer to ‘Why didn’t they love me?’

like wow babe. good fucking point

[the-barefoot-hatter]

Maybe ALL lullabies are kinda messed up

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Put that thing back or so help me.

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[stump-not-found]

congrats me on writing 70k words

[kyri45]

Shadowpeach Bio Parent AU (PREV / FIRST / NEXT)

Bold of you to assume I wont give you your fluff cherry on top of the angst cake. (Macaque in panel 10 being like: "I told you so")

Of course this is not over. Of course this event will have consequences. So let's hear the chat for our favourite river demon! Next chapter: MK goes to therapy!

[gentleaffirmations]

You deserved parents who encouraged your dreams.

It wasn't your job to make their dreams come true for them, or to live the life they dreamed up for you.

Your life is yours.