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I had a week long vacation not long ago, so I finally have enough energy to talk to non-medical friends once again. And I just realized once again, I'm not sure how to talk to them.
They tell me all the things they participated in, and I'm truly happy for them, all the while thinking I would never have half that much energy. They ask me how I am, I tell them I'm good, finally had a vacation. What did I do? Oh, literally nothing, tried to sleep off the worst of the exhaustion and tried to avoid interaction with other humans. How's work? You know, just the usual, it's good. It is good, and I love it, but how could I tell them all the horrors witnessed? That's right I don't, but what else do I have left to talk about? Most of my fun work stories are tainted with the shadows of tragedies... And unfortunately, I wouldn't trade it for anything.
So I just read their cheerful message and leave it on read, contemplating what to answer. And just hope they won't take offence to my agonizingly slow replies...
#medblr#medical life#sometimes it's so isolating#but it also brings along the tightest of communities#one of my work besties just messaged me#to talk about a very gruesome case that left them not okay and they needed to vent#listening and comforting each other is easy#holding up a normal conversation?#seems impossible#this post was written a while ago then sat in my drafts for several months#i just found it#and realised how actual it is at the moment#thank god for my work friends#they are indeed more like family#i love my other friends too and hey im trying here#but sometimes it takes enormous efforts to not just let it all drift apart
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Conceal, don't feel, don't let it show.
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#poorly drawn mdzs#mdzs#lan wangji#lan xichen#You can practically hear LXC's emotions vacuum sealing back into his body when LWJ tells him about wanting to bring someone back to Gusu.#This *is* a confession of both having feelings for someone else and also and admittance of terror at such feelings.#And honestly - can you blame LXC? Knowing how to respond to people in emotional turmoil like this is a skill that few manage to master.#There is a part of him that is so genuinely happy that his brother has fallen for someone!#And there is a part that acknowledges that LWJ needs to come to his own conclusions about this all.#Hence the extremely restrained reactions! He is so in his brother's corner that he's accidently clipped through the wall into another room.#Sadly that's how it goes sometimes...We want to be there for people in the best way. We give them space and hope for the best.#But space can leave someone isolated and alone. It heals some emotions but it makes others fester.#The fact that LWJ is at the point he's open about what he's feeling (even a little bit) means that it's a Big Deal.#LCX is just as bad with his own emotions. He only knows how to keep things in his own heart down.#There isn't anything he could have said. There *were* better things to say but does he have the capacity? No.
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not to demon post but like. sometimes i think about the "friends" label and the fact that it's a little bit of a haha in-joke but also... i mean. when dan said he didnt have a best friend for the first 18 years of his life he meant it yknow. like i do think that out of all the possible labels he's used, soulmates husbands arch enemies furniture who the fuck knows, best friends is amongst the most meaningful... if you never had a best friend and then met him and he stayed in that spot for fifteen years the fact that he's also the love of your life can maybe be just a bit of a bonus.
#dnp#dan and phil#phan#my point with this is that like. growing up not having a best friend is so devastating and isolating#not dating is whatever. not everyone dates. but it's expected that you have friends! it's expected that in 18 years you connect enough -#- with someone to call them Your Best Friend!#so idk. i think for dan to go 18 years without that. and then to click with phil so perfectly. sometimes i do think the best friend label -#- is actually the most meaningful out of the bunch. For Him.#i just think he's very very happy that the love of his life is his best friend and that his best friend is the love of his life.#anyways im gonna make myself cry. whatever LOSERS. whatever SOULMATES. WHO CARES. not me!!!!
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Just watched boys night. Will never be normal again.
#please they are so deeply awkward with each other it’s my favorite thing ever#these kids were entirely socially isolated and lonely until they met each other#I’m so glad that they just kind of don’t know how to be friends sometimes#PLEASE#popular kids who are so cool and also SO not cool I love them#the bad boys#(some of them aren’t even boys if you think about it..)#fantasy high#d20#d20 fantasy high#dimension 20#d20 fanart#fantasy high fanart#fhjy#fabian fantasy high#fabian seacaster#fabian aramais seacaster#gorgug fantasy high#gorgug thistlespring#riz fantasy high#riz gukgak#fh#the bad kids#I’m playing a game right now where I try to let myself post doodles instead of only finished work and it’s so much harder than I thought#undescribed#not described#my art
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Alex Albon as The Hermit:
The Hermit suggests that you are in a phase of introspection where you are drawing your attention inwards and looking for answers within. You are in need of a period of inner reflection, away from the current demands of your position.
This is a call to embark on a journey of self-discovery, embracing our true spiritual self and inner wisdom.
Tag list: @st-leclerc @rubywingsracing @saviour-of-lord @three-days-time @the-wall-is-my-goal @albonoooo @ch3rubd0lls
#Williams please….#please do well for my boy#I CANNOT BELIEVE THE AIRBOX THING#I know this card is lowkey a hashtag bummer#but hear me out#Alex has talked about the isolation he feels sometimes with the thai/british thing and how he’s not one or the other until he does well#also#I just feel like he is one of the more introspective drivers?#like bro is a yapper but I feel like he is very steady and knows where he stands#also think this makes sense with his history in f1#specifically post rbr pre Williams#THIS WAS SO FUN#the lantern đź¤#I was nervous to draw this but I think it’s my fav so far#f1#formula 1#f1blr#f1 fanart#formula one#f1 art#annie’s art#formula one fanart#formula 1 fanart#formulanni#alex albon#alex albon 23#aa23#williams formula 1#williams racing#f1 tarot
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you wanted to be a good friend, because you loved your friends, but the truth was that everyone else somehow had a pamphlet on being normal that you never received. most of the time you learn by trial-and-error. you are terrified of the next big mistake you make, because it seems like the rules are completely arbitrary.
you've learned to keep the prickly parts of your personality in a stormcloud under your bed - as if they're a second version of you; one that will make your friends hate you. it feels feral, burning, ugly.
instead, you have assembled habits based on the statistical likelihood of pleasing others. you're a good listener, which is to say - if you do speak up, you might end up saying the wrong thing and scaring off someone, but people tend to like someone-who-listens. or you've got no true desires or goals, because people like it when you're passive, mutable. you're "not easy to fluster" which is to say - your emotions are fundamentally uninteresting to others around you; so you've learned to control them to a degree that you can no longer really feel them happening.
you have long suspected something is wrong with you, but most of the time, googling doesn't help. you are so-used to helping-yourself, alone and with no handbook. the reek of your real self feels more like a horrible joke - you wake up, and, despite all your preparations, suddenly the whole house is full of smoke. the real you is someone waiting to ruin your other-life, the one where you're normal and happy. the real-self is unpredictable, angry.
your real self snarls when people infantilize the whole situation. because if you were really suffering, everyone seems to think you'd be completely unable to cope. but you already learned the rules, so you do know how to cope, and you have fucking been coping. it's not black-and-white. it's not that you are healed during the other times - it's just that you're able to fucking try. and honestly, whenever you show symptoms, it's a really fucking bad sign.
because the symptoms you have are ugly and unmanageable for others. your symptoms aren't waifish white girl things. they're annoying and complicated. they will be the subject of so many pretentious instagram reels. if they cared about you, they'd just show up on time. you care, a lot, so deeply it burns you. you like to picture a world where the comments read if they loved you, they'd never need glasses to see. but since that's a rule you've seen repeated - "one must never be late or you are a bad friend" - you constantly worry about being late and leave agonizingly early. there are no words for how you feel when you're still late; no matter how hard you were trying.
so you have to make up for it. you have to make up for that little horrible real you that you keep locked in a cabinet. you are bad at answering emails so every project you make has to be perfect. you are weird and sensitive so you have to learn to be funny and interesting. you are an inconvenience to others, so you become as smooth as possible, buffing out all the rough parts.
all this. all this. so people can pass their hands over you and just tell you just the once -how good you are. you're a good friend. you're loveable.
#spilled ink#woke up at 530 to write this lmafo#me in a cold sweat:#how do i be normal#edit in the tags:#hey so i've seen y'all talk about like ... wondering if ur ''allowed'' to relate#like if this is about X specific diagnosis#and when i first posted it i really almost labelled it ''please don't assume this is about a specific condition''#because as an artist i am often walking this line of discussing a symptom or discussing my conditions etc#and sometimes yes ! i do want to talk about an experience that is specific to who i am and my condition#but sometimes the effort of the post is about the EXPERIENCE rather than the diagnosis#because yes i am not neurotypical and as a result that influences my work but it is ALSO true that there are many reasons#why someone might experience this particular vague horrible feeling that you are... almost being CHASED by what you ''really'' are.#that you're outrunning your symptoms... that you're not really normal you're just sort of a mockery of a person#.... that's a really isolating and horrible way to feel no matter why you are feeling it. and the nature of this PARTICULAR post is that#it is inherently talking ABOUT that sense of isolation & of feeling not-deserving & of minimizing your own experiences to make urself#palatable for society in a way that others find easy-to-deal-with....#this post is about a certain experience such that my impression is there's a higher likelihood that those who relate#would have more difficulty thinking they ''deserve'' to relate - that it doesn't REALLY belong to them#bc often we are the kind of people who are SO used to being alienated and set aside and ''different'' that we AUTOMATICALLY assume#that things are not ''for'' us... they never have been why would it start now#we are the kinds of people to be ... ''too normal for X diagnosis but too symptomatic to be normal''#[or as this post points out... so good at ''coping''/masking/hiding it that we essentially conform to whatever shape we're poured into]#but i have witnessed others already say in the tags ''thought this was about me but it's about X so it can't be''#and im like ... of course it was about you.#art is not a resource that is diminished by greater appreciation .#you reflect in whatever mirror fits your frame. not just the ones in your bedroom. not just the ones i specifically give you.#there will be - and often are - times that i will talk about my specific conditions... but if you're reading this#regardless of why you're here... we are here together. holding hands through space and time. and i love you for carrying it#and i know you're exhausted. i am too. but i understand. and i see you.
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what’s a busy bee to do when she doesn’t know how to find her flowers again
ID: A one page comic of Bob Zanotto and Cassie O’Pia having a conversation together.
Bob: Hey Cass, I was was just wonderin’…
Cassie: Hm?
Bob: Did you end up writing anything while we were out here?
Cassie: Oh— I always meant too, but I’d always be so exhausted after tending the hives.
Cassie: I finally cleaned my typewriter a month ago, and have so much more free time!
Cassie: But I still haven’t touched it since…
Bob: Are you scared you can’t do it anymore?
Bob: I’m sorry, I was blunt again.
Cassie: Perhaps… a little. But I think you’re right. Depression’s really kicked our butts, huh.
Bob: Oh don’t even tell me about it.
End ID.
#sketches#psychonauts#psychonauts 2#bob zanotto#cassie o'pia#sometimes I think abt how these 2 could see each other across the gulch should they be so inclined#and we’re still so isolated and lonely in spite of that#it makes me feel like chewing on my desk
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The silent terror of this entry as Jonathan's attempt to reach out to Mina, and Mr. Hawkins are futile in the hands of the Count. It may be a whole entry, but the constant cuts in between every paragraph makes it feel that Jonathan is waiting for something, anything that would make him unable to write.
It almost feels like Jonathan is waiting for Dracula's wrath to finally descend upon him instead of the abusive mind games. I would even speculate that Jonathan would prefer that (even if it could end up with him dead), instead of being in a state that makes him question his own mind. It's so dire that rhis entry doesn't feel like Jonathan anymore, it's not Jonathan writing about what is happening with his own written cadence, it's Jonathan recording events in paper so he knows that what he lived is real.
When Dracula comes with the two letters, and starts to act, Jonathan doesn't move nor talk for the whole scene. All of the hope for escaping is held in the hands of the man who has been carefully tearing his brain apart for months, Jonathan's last hope is back to the Count... It seems that all of the emotions left him nearly catatonic, unable to do anything else but breathe.
The invansion of privacy as Dracula admited that he opened the letter for Mr. Hawkins, the further isolation as Dracula lied (yes I think he is lying) about how the romani people willingly gave him the letters, the utter rage expressed when Dracula realizes that Jonathan has the actual upper hand on him in a way that doesn't amuse him.
"the other is a vile thing, an outrage upon friendship and hospitality! It is not signed. Well! so it cannot matter to us."
Then, the inmediate switch of demeanor into a gentleman again, telling Jonathan without words that all of this situation is his fault. If he didn't do that, if he didn't "betray" Dracula with those letters, then maybe Jonathan would still have hope in leaving the castle alive.
"The letter to Hawkins—that I shall, of course, send on, since it is yours. Your letters are sacred to me. Your pardon, my friend, that unknowingly I did break the seal. Will you not cover it again?"Â
The Count is nothing but a good host, a remarkable noble, a symbolic upstanding husband, why would Jonathan try to escape, when his death date has already been decided? How outrageous, how ungrateful. No wonder he "has to" lock Jonathan so he is forced to think about what he has done.
#“YOU broke our own arragement so anything I do to you it's your fault”#Sometimes abuse is this the sheer isolation from any kind of person while the abuser tells you that it's your fault#And it's horrible every time#dracula daily#dracula#jonathan harker#count dracula
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being overwhelmingly white isn’t unique to gw2blr in fact i’d say most fandoms on tumblr are like that. but sometimes when ppl are like “why are there so few poc in this space?” it’s not because none of us are interested in gw2. it’s because, unintentionally or not, you guys have curated a space that is so unwelcoming and uncomfortable to poc that it dissuades us from engaging at all and, on occasion, has driven us out.
#and before u ask#no there have never been racist mobs making a concetrated effort to drive a single poc out#its just that the way the fandom acts sometimes makes it Very clear that hurt white feelings are prioritized above all#over our voices and that shit is isolating and i know a lot of poc who have quietly stopped engaging bc of it#and it especially hurts bc i see so many ocs of color its like#im glad ur having so much fun playing dolls. wish u would stick up for us irl when it counts#antalks
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there was something heavenlike about being able to just attend lectures in college and sit in a cozy auditorium while someone told you about interesting things for an hour and you just did this with your weeks. i wont lie to you. unfortunately they killed you if you dont remember every minutiae of what they said.
#talks#i run youtube lecture recordings sometimes. soothing#also i was like the Covid Isolation generation of college kids so i remote Zoomed half of my university education#which i think gives me an incremental sentimentality boost for in person big class lectures
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folio is so insanely talented fr & i don’t think we talk about it enough
#sometimes i isolate the drums in my head while i listen to them & it genuinely amazes me#ESPECIALLY Malice#if you haven’t isolated the drums in Malice in your head i highly recommend#they’re actually insane#especially for how young he was at the time#didn’t expect to be making a folio post today but here we are#he’s so adorable#nick folio#folio#bad omens#bad omens band#bad omens cult#noah sebastian#nicholas ruffilo#tdopom#concrete jungle#jolly karlsson#the death of peace of mind#joakim karlsson#nick ruffilo
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Here's the real question I gotta ask myself.
Of those I imagine have their swords sheathed at their hip, which ones, aside from Laurance, do the thing where they casually rest their wrists against the hilt of their blade while resting all their weight on one hip and making a very good point and/or emotionally devastating someone with a few simple words?
#it's an entire vibe#I know SOMEONE on here knows exactly what I'm talking about#there's absolutely zero question about Laurance he definitely does it#but do Travis & Garroth?#if Garroth does it then does Zenix do it because he's copying Garroth?#Dante's out of the question#he wears his katanas over his shoulder like Leo (TMNT 2012)#I think Zane would be all about proper posture so he portrays the exact image he wants to be seen as so probably not unless he's very#casually threatening someone like when he told Aph he'd invite Garroth's supposed lover out to a picnic just the two of them so he could ge#to know his brother's lover better - somewhere isolated where if anything happened no one would hear a thing not that anything would ever#happen - and then asked her if she'd like to go on a picnic sometime literally the next sentence#That was a Moment#dropofsunlightextras#mcd#aphverse#aphblr#garroth ro'meave#mcd rewrite#aphmau minecraft diaries#minecraft diaries#mcd garroth#aphmau mcd#zane romeave#zane ro'meave#mcd zane#mcd laurance#laurance mcd#mcd dante#travis valkrum#mcd travis
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let's make trouble in the dream world, we'll hijack heaven with another memory now; i make the most of the turning tide, it just split what's left of the burning silence
#tw scopophobia#tw trypophobia#tw paranoia#he kinda looks like doug rattman here#this post was brought to you by some (supposedly nice) photos of me i know exist but i dont want to see.#because i do not believe in my image.#i'd love to make the straight forward complaint of “i am tired of feeling [x]” but it's not that simple when it's all you know#yeah yeah yeah hell on earth true but i know what will become of me if i give into expectation#this is why i break it down to science and observation. sometimes i find solace in the inevitable isolation (sometimes i dont)#“it's not endearing” it sure isn't. but i have a lot more to navigate than making it palatable for you.#and arent i doing what you ask? i dont understand if you have your qualms with this.#do you read this abysmally? dont you see the hope behind it? acknowledging the dark means noting the light too.#“forever” yes but also “always.”#/vaguepost /neu /nbh#anyways making this made me feel better. so feel comfort in the horror. hurrah. off to work.#soul eater#soul eater fanart#my art#franken stein#stein#soul eater stein
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wolbert week day 1 - ghost
#wolbertweek2023#Ardbert#warrior of light#fanart#speedpaint#i draw sometimes#Final Fantasy XIV#getting across the um. game canon? state of things is way harder with art alone hence why i usually settle for Not That#but i do like the thought of the wol living for them both + he can feel some part of the weight of complete isolation for a century#but also ardbert's relief at not being alone anymore. and they are together and know how much it means for them both.#so even if ardbert is not really Tangible for him anymore it's still. good and important. yknow?#...honestly no clue what it is abt them that makes me want to see things in brighter colours but there you have it
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i think. i need to go for a drive and get myself a tasty beverage
#anyway so being alive right. its a ton of fun through and through < sarcasm!#i love the constant discomfort and terror and stress and isolation and existential dread <3#sigh. anyway#what is this about again?#oh yeah. floor tiles#sometimes i stare at grout and feel a little too much kinship with it. and that is All!#dont mind me just. using art as an outlet as its meant to be!#please dont ask me about this!#its very self explanatory anyway! theres not much else to Say!#floor tiles! you see!#every day i wake up and i lay motionless in bed while my brain screams at flesh melting decibels#Floor Tiles!!!!#lying on the floor asking the grout if it screams and claws at its own insides too#will keep you all updated on the answer (there will be None)#no tags posting it Late in the hopes that no one sees me coughing blood all over my own blog. Again.
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but who told them all my distorted thoughts lmao
#miraculous ladybug#marigami#ladynoir#kagami#perfection#neurodivergent#autism#adhd#audhd#unmasking#mlb#mlb s5#mlb caps#mlb capspam#and not ladybug trying to be a CBT therapist or something lol#i think DBT might help you more kagami chan#i know distorted thoughts is a CBT term but i'm just starting to explore DBT#what's their term automatic negative thoughts or something? that does make more sense#i don't wish anyone would disappear i just always isolate myself#and used to feel sad about it but now it feels kind of peaceful#i still have my family though so that helps#but i've accepted i don't have the energy to be social right now i only have enough capacity for work and family#and maybe someday i can try to (re)build friendships again idk#just like kagami i don't know how to be : (#i do also hate being perceived and wish i could be a hermit sometimes lol#i used to be so certain about what the “perfect” i wanted to strive for was and had so many rules for myself in order to appear acceptable#but now that i know i was being excessively literal and perfect doesn't exist - i don't know what's acceptable or safe or “normal” enough#i feel like i'm in a cocoon or something trying to figure out who i am#but i'm so different from how i was when i was trying to be perfect idk if anyone will like or accept this version of me#i'm also so shell shocked from life the past few years everything is hard lol
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