#sexuality development

[stevesbipanic]

Steve had never given sexuality much thought until he met Robin.

He didn't have many crushes growing up, in fact he could count the on one hand.

First there was Sara Flint, Steve was twelve and they were lab partners all year, three times a week he and Sara would joke around in class. On the last day he realised this was those butterflies his friends always talked about, but by then it was too late, all he got was a kiss on the cheek and that summer the Flints left town.

It was another four years before his next one, Nancy Wheeler. Four years never finding those butterflies again, Tommy cycled through girlfriends like a rolodex until he finally landed on Carol. Sure they had been girls who kissed him at parties but they felt hollow and boring. There was even that kiss he and Tommy shared last year to "check if they were gay just in case" but he felt nothing there either.

But Nancy, Nancy turned caterpillars into butterflies inside him. She was smart and beautiful and kind. They had met when he'd been told he was going to fail chemistry if he didn't pick up his grade. He'd gotten Nancy's number as a possible tutor for extra credit. Two weekdays and every weekend they'd either be at Steve's dining table or down at the library studying. Steve passed his test and butterflies grew inside him when Nancy hugged him in congratulations. This time Steve wasn't too late, but that Halloween made him wish he was.

Steve hoped it would be another four years before the butterflies returned but the following summer brought, Robin Buckley. Robin had been different, they hadn't gotten on at first, but after Steve told off a jock for touching her she allowed him to be closer. They weren't friends but they had jokes and banter. Then the Russians pulled Robin into Steve's orbit in a place he never wanted her to be, the butterflies grew but he would've taken the blows despite them. Sitting in that bathroom with Robin he allowed the butterflies to stay but recognised them more as moths drawn to the light that was a best friend.

Steve had never given sexuality much thought until he met Robin. He assumed he was straight, I mean he had to be right? Sure he didn't feel the same way about everything his old friends talked about but he had liked girls before and he'd never liked boys.

Robin taught him a lot of her limited knowledge of the subject, they were still small town teens after all. So yeah, of course he was straight.

Steve was straight until he wasn't, until he met Eddie. Eddie who pulled the attention of his kids and brought smiles to their faces. Eddie who was loud and bright even when faced with the horrors of another world. Eddie who kept smiling through pain and smiled at Steve in the hospital room. Eddie who took him on drives when nightmares couldn't be chased away. Eddie who remembered things about Steve and asked him questions about his day. Eddie who hugged Robin in understanding bring Steve's best friend an ally in a world he couldn't get. Eddie who would do anything for the ones he loved.

Steve who was straight and didn't understand why people seemed to go on dates with people they just met. Steve who was straight and had only ever liked girls. Steve who was straight and loved Robin more than anything.

Steve who was straight until he felt butterflies grow inside him for a fourth time.

Steve who was straight until he met Eddie.

Steve who was straight until he realised he would've loved Eddie whether he was a guy or not.

Steve who wasn't really straight and loved Eddie because he was Eddie, who knew that loving Eddie was as simple as breathing.

Steve who wasn't really straight because loving Eddie was inevitable, written in the stars, a love that had been waiting all along.

Steve who wasn't really straight but didn't need a label to know that he loved Eddie, and for him that was enough.

[agentoffangirling]

Just appreciating the fact that the women in Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. are written by women to be women and not some sexualized skintight super agent there only for eye candy

[wu-wakfu-undertale]

he'd have the strangest convos with the trans eliatropes guys (yes based off of that one mp100 post)

bonus of the eliatrope on the left, her name is amura! :]

[sunnycitymac]

“gob is actually bi!” “mac is actually bi!”

🤏 shut

these are two characters that have been explicitly confirmed to be gay. It’s been confirmed by the creators of Arrested Development that Gob is gay. Mac has flat out said “I’m gay” meaning he came out explicitly as gay. “but they’ve shown attraction to women which means they’re-”

🤏 SHUT

Do you not know what compulsory heterosexuality is? Would you go up to a real life gay person who’s dated someone of the opposite gender and tell them they’re actually bi? No, right? Because that would be disrespectful. Hot take? But headcanon is over when that aspect of the character has been explicitly confirmed. ESPECIALLY if you’re going to negate it.

[marshmellowtea]

honestly at this point i think we need to start calling out people who claim nonsexual kink doesn't exist or deride the idea of it for being acephobic because.......that's literally what they are lol. it's not hard to grasp the concept that people might enjoy the power dynamics or physical sensations associated with certain kinks without ever wanting the sexual component, and just because they don't want the sexual component doesn't mean that they believe their kinks are "sfw" or that they should think minors should be interacting with them in a kinky manner (in fact a lot of people who post nonsexual kink still have 18+ in their bio cuz they do in fact understand that nonsexual does not inherently mean safe for minors. crazy, i know).

[lobotomy-lady]

I do think being forced to be cognizant of & in many cases personally witness the constant humiliation of other women while growing up a girl permanently fucks up a lot of us in so many different ways . I don't think I'll ever not associate sex with degradation and humiliation which is why I will remain a volcel. I think there's a universe where things are different for me but I'm not living in it

[bixels]

So I l’ve been getting into your ko crisis story lately (it all sounds rlly awesome btw) and i was curious - you’ve said in the tags in a previous ask that ash is comphet, so is that gonna play a major role in her character arc/journey in any way?

Yeah, the story basically covers her journey of redefining her identity as a queer Asian-American disabled woman in a sports-entertainment industry, which is a media landscape that specifically targets, exploits, and fetishizes people like her.

[divorceblogger]

the absolutely horrible thing about lestat asking marius this question is that everything he’s done and everything he’s going to do is always going to be dictated by marius’s lived experiences. the gothic doubling got him. fuck!

[femmefatalevibe]

Hey love

What things I need to do to radiate sexual energy ?

Hi love! I would say the following attributes:

CONFIDENCE (comfortable in your own skin/body, how you hold yourself, interact with others)

Own your right to having sexual desires and feeling sexy (wearing lingerie and a sensual fragrance you love are helpful for this)

Maintain an air of mystery (listening more than you speak, avoiding oversharing, having a sense of restrained curiosity in your eyes)

Have a playful and witty conversational style/way of interacting with others

Display intelligence, an ability to laugh at yourself at times and with others, self-awareness, and a curiosity about others/to learn more about the world

Wear outfits that flatter your figure and allow your body to show off the clothes (not the other way around where there's little thought to the outfit aside from putting your body on display; Think a form-fitting square neck mini dress or a well-fitting pair of jeans and an undone silk blouse tucked in vs. a bralette and daisy dukes)

Embrace comfortability discussing sex, pleasure, & sexual preferences (this one is contextual, of course, but not shying away from having desires/accepting them as pleasurable and natural vs. shameful is key)

Relish in life's pleasures generally (great food, drinks, sunshine, beautiful art/music/literature/scenery)

Display healthy skin, hair, and generally top-tier hygiene

Smell good/wearing sensual perfumes (I love Tom Ford's Velvet Orchid for this)

Have the ability to let loose and have fun outside of professional/serious settings (dance, sing, laugh with others)

Enjoy flirting just for the fun of it as a way of interacting and getting to know others – whether it's a means to sexual gratification or just a friendly gesture (of course, be honest with the person, though, before your motive gets questionable)

Show genuine interest in others and the world. Displaying a balanced desire for savoir-faire and joie de vivre is incredibly sexy

Hope this helps xx

[girl4music]

Lao Ma.

Borias.

Possibly Akemi… although I hope not because she clearly was a teenager and that would be too much. But then again, she was the worst of the worst back then so it’s likely rape/sexual assault wasn’t off limits to her. I always say she’s a groomer but I never go that far.

[vroomvroomwee]

As an aroace I regularly question whether I'm truly romance/sex repulsed or if I'm just bitter and trying to distance myself from those things because society has taught us they're the only way someone could ever be happy and since I am incapable of feeling them it automatically means I will remain miserable forever and that truth is so much easier to battle if I pretend romance and sex disgust me on a visceral, uncontrolable level. And it's a constant struggle.

[seaside-hysteria]

Hot take but Teen Titans vol 3 era Cassie wasn’t that bad. Her designs were kinda terrible yes, BUT. It did have some interesting characterization and I feel like people wanna ignore that completely because they gave her lipstick?? Like how can you ignore her arc around the grief of losing her basically sister just cuz she kissed some boys or whatever. Ttvol3 Cassie definitely could’ve been better, like, leagues better, but still. It’s important to her story and it’s weird when people try to ignore it entirely

ALSO without ttvol3 we wouldn’t have had the mess that is Rose and Cassie. This is the price we have to pay for toxic yuri

[darkfictionjude]

No slut-shaming Crowny! Let them have it

exactly 😌

[binarybitex]

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