#self care planning

[hinamie]

so just know, I'm healing / even though it don't feel like it

insp

[wonilita]

౨ৎ How to start over

inspired by pinterest | ♡

ʚɞ get rid of toxic people and things like environments or apps.

ʚɞ clean your room

ʚɞ throw away things that you dont need / that are old

ʚɞ stay hydrated

ʚɞ always be positive

ʚɞ delete old convos with people you dont speak to anymore

ʚɞ find new interests like dancing or journaling

ʚɞ be nice and kind to everyone

ʚɞ learn to love yourself

[maream2636]

2024.10.6

It was a wonderful day. I went to the exam and I had not even finished the material. I felt terrified and afraid. Then I thought, what is the worst that could happen? Why am I so nervous? So I decided to relax and just let things happen. I reviewed what I had read and took the exam. When I finished, I was not sure about anything, but... I said, let it not be my fault that he suddenly added two lectures, so I gave it to them and left when I left I heard everyone was saying that most of the choices were A and D. I was shocked and happy, so another exam ended well ! ... Now I have pharmaceutical accounts on Wednesday. I will study today

So !:

1.sleep for two hours

2.Study the first lecture

3.Study the second lecture

4.wash my clothes

[theambitiouswoman]

How To Plan Your Day 🌒📝💡✨

Start the night before. What do you need to do tomorrow to meet your needs? Write down the most important tasks you want to complete the next day. This gives you a clear starting point in the morning.

Create a morning routine that is focused on your well being. Exercise, meditate, read etc.

Make a list of all the things you need to do. Put the most important things at the top of the list.

Divide your day into chunks of time. Decide when you'll do each task.

Estimate the time it will take you to complete each task.

If a big task seems too hard, break it into smaller steps.

Batch the similar tasks together for maximum efficiency.

Try to do one thing at a time. Multitasking might not help you get things done better.

Don't plan too many things. Only plan what you can really do.

Check your progress during the day. Change your plans if things are not going as expected.

At the end of the day, think about what you did and what's left. Learn from what went well and what didn't.

Finish each day with a quick clean up. What can do you now to set up your spaces and routines for both self care and efficiency.

Choose what you'll wear the next day, including clothes, shoes, and accessories. This saves you time in the morning and helps you avoid last-minute outfit decisions.

If you have to take things with you (like a work bag or gym bag), pack it with everything you need. This prevents you from rushing around in the morning to gather your things.

Lay out items you'll need in the morning, like your keys, wallet, or important papers. This way, you won't have to search for them when you're in a rush.

Take some time to wind down before bed. Read a book, practice some light stretching, or do something relaxing to help you sleep better.

Charge your phone, tablet, or laptop overnight so you start the day with fully charged devices.

Set your alarm for the time you want to wake up. Having a consistent wake-up time helps regulate your body clock.

Try to avoid looking at screens (phones, tablets, computers) at least an hour before bed. The blue light from screens can interfere with sleep.

Take a moment to reflect on the day and think about what you're looking forward to tomorrow. Visualizing a positive morning can help set a good tone for the next day.

Pick a weekly prep day and clean the house, meal prep, review your calendar and to do list for the week ahead.

[kooldewd123]

let's talk about this image for a moment

i mean just really process it. because the logistics of this bedroom just keep getting worse the longer i look at it.

that bed is not touching any walls. the shelf is blocking the back wall and there is clearly room to push it to the right.

the bed is only half-blocking the shelf, leaving an awkward gap behind the baseboard.

because the bed is so unnecessarily close to the bureau, he can't open the lower drawer without banging his shin.

the fact that the bureau is so close to the window makes it look like the bureau is also pulled away from the wall, although i'm willing to give tobias the benefit of the doubt on that one and say he just has a really narrow room because his family doesn't love him.

he's definitely banged his elbow trying to open that window with how cramped it is back there.

the position of the blanket implies tobias was sleeping with his feet towards the wall (possibly lying on the bed backwards if that's the baseboard we're seeing, although it might just be a big footboard).

as an added bonus, the model was clearly sitting with his hand resting on a ledge and they did not properly align it with the bed when they photoshopped him into this clusterfuck of a bedroom.

[thoughts-become-reality]

[fumifooms]

Chilchuck analysis speedrun: As a hardworking half-foot who grew up poor and discriminated against and had his gullibility taken advantage of multiple times in his early adventuring days, Chilchuck thinks optimism is a dangerous flaw. He’s stressed and strict all the time because his job is noticing details like traps that could get everyone killed before anyone knows it, he takes the lives of everyone to be on his shoulders, and with the way he speaks about it that probably partly reflects how he felt about taking it upon himself to provide for his family too. His life’s always been pretty centered around work and has become even moreso now that his wife left and everyone is independent, and due to past events he’s very iffy with bonding with coworkers. He thinks feelings and job are a disaster mix. Like with his wife or with parties hiring him as sacrifice, being open or having good faith is vulnerability which can get you hurt, so he processes and shows all his stress as anger instead of worry. Doing strict dieting probably isn’t helping the irritability what with hunger, and on top of being a hunger suppressant alcohol might be the main stress reliever he has.

His grey hairs are so earned

[yousaveeveryonebutwhosavesyou]

I HAVE FUCKING NO ONE. I STAY IN MY FUCKING ROOM AND JUST PRETEND. PRETEND THAT MY LIFE IS DIFFERENT, THAT IM DIFFERENT, THAT THINGS ARE DIFFERENT. I DONT WANT TO PRETEND ANYMORE. I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY. I WANT TO HAVE FRIENDS. I WANT TO HAVE PLANS. I WANT TO HAVE MEMORIES. I WANT TO HAVE FUN AND LAUGH AND HUG. I NEED A HUG. I NEED HUMAN CONTACT. I NEED SOMEONE TO CARE. I NEED SOMEONE.

[honeytonedhottie]

planning basics⋆.ೃ࿔*:･📔

i feel like at this point im a planning MASTER i've been using notion to plan and organize my life for about two years now and before i discovered notion i used a manual planner. i've also made lots of content about planning but today i wanna just focus on the basics and how to organize ur life in a simpler fashion…💬🎀

SEPARATE UR TIME INTO QUADRANTS ;

so i like to separate my tasks into quadrants. im going to try and present it verbally. so the first quadrant would be urgent and important, things that are imperative for me to do. the second quadrant is important but not urgent.

the third quadrant is urgent but not important but its not necessarily imperative that i do them. and last but not least the fourth quadrant is what i classify as buffer time, mostly cuz its neither urgent nor important. and i'll go more in detail with that later on in the post. this is helpful because it helps u to place priority on the tasks that u have to do and not spend a day doing side quests while u have pressing matters that need attending to. this is called the eisenhower matrix.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CALENDAR AND AGENDA ;

so i keep a calendar and an agenda. the main differences between a calendar and an agenda is that the agenda is updated weekly, the calendar is updated monthly/whenever u make appointments.

i find myself looking at and checking my agenda more often then my calendar and thats mainly because im more in-depth on my agenda because im the kind of person who needs specific instructions to get something done. the calendar only tells u the date and the event but the agenda tells u more in depth about how to prepare and go about things.

DELEGATE AND OUTSOURCE TASKS ;

to delegate a task simply means to identify and give tasks that can be handled by others to free up ur time for more important work…💬🎀

GENERAL NOTION TIPS ;

use toggle lists

use THIS website for cute emoji combos (things like ❤︎ and ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･)

make a color scheme and stick with it

twitter headers work the same as notion backgrounds

GENERAL MANUAL AGENDA TIPS ;

color code tasks with adorable glitter gel pens. use post it notes to break down large tasks. like, write the broad task and on the underside of the post it note make a bullet list as u break down the task. mostly with manual agendas i just prioritize aesthetics because if it doesnt look good i won't wanna check it and perform it.

[girlietips]

Hot Girls in Summer Know…

The difference between sleeping in and wasting a whole day. Get up and enjoy the day.

Water proof gold jewelry is the move.

A fake tan before you go tanning is optimal for getting a glow.

A clean room and open window is how the day should start and end.

To wear a swimsuit with thicker straps while tanning for clear tan lines (they are cute fight me)

Summer is the best time to declutter.

The joy in fresh flowers and farmers markets.

Minimal makeup >>> cakey makeup

Outside exercise is so much fun (+tanning+good weather+healthy girl)

Pedicure always done and manicure short and neat.

Braids with bows and bandannas>>>

Everything showers after tanning is pure bliss

Making bracelets and necklaces with friends while you watch bad romcoms

Eating way too much fruit.

Ice water with lemon

Wear a cap while you tan to prevent sunburn on the part of your hair.

To put glycolic acid on your arm pits to help with darkness.

Spray toners for after workouts and time in the heat.

Sunscreen always and everywhere.

Hot girl walks everyday.

Cute summer dates hit best with your friends and not guys.

[fairycosmos]

hate how mental illness takes such a physical toll on the body. my muscles and bones are so weak and i can't even walk long distances comfortably anymore

[d8tl55c]

hey wait a minute

so it's the start of AvA part 7 and Chosen and Dark are talking, right? and the former has this vision of terrible things happening if they don't stop the latter, right here and now.

they see the ViraBots descending on the last remnants of stick kind with Dark as their leader (or Lord if you will. ha ha) and i, trusting viewer, took their assessment as reliable*. we JUST saw Dark getting uncomfortably violent in earlier scenes after all

but

however

notwithstanding

unless Chosen has demonstrable prophetic powers (like how Orange has** in the past seen things currently happening (horizontally-prophetic let's call it: seeing faraway in the current time) (there's probably a better word for this but let's move on)), how did they know this was definitely what Dark was leading up to?

** ⬆ examples of Orange horizontally-prophesizing in AvM episode 11, SkyBlock (unconfirmed but referenced as, "uh? well maybe??? maybe i didn't think about it yet-" (abridged quote from AvG react video)) (op will die /j /extremely pos if this is used again in AvA 11 (HAH they'd both be episode 11 (op just giggled maniacally)))

Dark doesn't even have his control bracelets on.

because Chosen didn't know about them yet.

because this is not a prophetic vision.

Chosen is just that... reactive. what was it. @compressedrage (hi o/ ) had a good wording let me find it. yeah i guess it was reactionary

the ONLY time we've seen them stop to think things through is actually just a terrified anxiety breakdown while they stand there, frozen, imagining the worst, until they snap out of it JUST in time to impact their reality.

but with no time left for debate. reasoning. they assumed Dark was beyond reasoning from the moment he showed off what his device could do............. because they were beyond reasoning out of fear.

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[wonilita]

୨ৎ 2024 glow up plan

inspo found on pinterest ‹𝟹 | full plan

୨ৎ Mindset

⸝⸝⸝ focus on the present.

⸝⸝⸝ pep talk and write self - heal notes to yourself.

⸝⸝⸝ make yourself your top priority.

⸝⸝⸝ stop overthinking

୨ৎ Self care

⸝⸝⸝ take care of your appearance / looks.

⸝⸝⸝ have a diary and write your thoughts.

⸝⸝⸝ stretch / do pilates daily.

⸝⸝⸝ go outside more often.

⸝⸝⸝ limit being on electronics.

୨ৎ Body care

⸝⸝⸝ wash your face twice a day.

⸝⸝⸝ exercise 3-4 times a week. (rest days necessary)

⸝⸝⸝ drink water often.

⸝⸝⸝ take care of your lips and nails.

⸝⸝⸝ wear sunscreen.

୨ৎ Study

⸝⸝⸝ make a plan / schedule.

⸝⸝⸝ rest day every week necessary.

⸝⸝⸝ be disciplined.

⸝⸝⸝ don't use electronics.

⸝⸝⸝ have a organized area to study in.

[maream2636]

2024.25.6

It was a day full of psychological realizations, but exams hindered my full focus on them, but I am happy that I realized my weakness and dealt with it. I felt relief when I got it out of my system.

So what I did today :

1. Take a shower and eat a healthy meal! (I was suffering from breakfast and every time I ended up with cake and tea)

2.I liberated myself from an old belief, or will we say progress, because it is a very big point and connected to a lot (it was through a story that I read yesterday and I found myself very affected, and today I woke up upset and did not understand the reason until I realized that I saw a part of myself in that story..)

3.I have finished studying for the pharmaceutical accounts exam (after trouble)

4.I studied for my optional chemistry exam (need grades)

When I wrote, I realized that I was still being hard on myself. I mean, look at what I accomplished, and all day long I say, “Oh, I didn’t do anything.” Also, my brother asked me how I changed like this, and after a long conversation, he said to me, “I really respect you because you are always improving yourself" Sometimes I forget how far I have come.

[pinksatinsashes]

The Dream Girl's Guide to Setting and Achieving Goals

If there's one thing that I am insanely good at, it's planning and setting goals.

However I have not always been great at achieving them.

Call it laziness, lack of self discipline or being over ambitious, you can take your pick. But every year I would set goals and every year I would never achieve them.

This year I was, and am determined to transform. I'm tired of putting it off. I've tried a completely different method (read about that here) and it's finally working out, I cant't wait to share it with you.

Why is Setting and Achieving Goals Important?

Setting and achieving goals will forever be important, no matter what stage of life you're in if you don't want time to pass while you stay in the same place.

If you're happy staying exactly as you are, looking the same way, doing the same thing everyday, making the same money, dating the same guy or having the same conversations, year after year after year. Then this post simply isn't for you.

But for the rest of us, who want more, who understand that wanting something different means that you have to do something different, who want to grow, learn and develop and that who understand that time is the most valuable thing that we have; setting and achieving things, day after day, month after month and year after year is insanely important.

If you are one of us, I'm sure you already knew that, the issue might be actually following through.

You're good at setting goals, not so much with actually achieving them?

Maybe it's not your fault, maybe you're just doing it wrong.

------------- How To Set Goals -------------

How many of us start the new year, or the random day that we decide we need to be better by writing a list of Goals?

Maybe that list looks something like this.

Lose 10lbs

Grow Hair Longer

Dress Better

Save Money

Get 1000 followers on X platform

Can you see the problem here? My STEM girlies are yelling at the screen saying that the goals aren't SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Timely).

The real problem?

All of these goals are end products.

And to eliminate this problem, and make these goals better, we have to turn them into habits.

-------- How to turn Goals into Habits --------

Let's go through our list again.

Lose 10lbs -> Workout 4 times a week, do one form of excerise a day and eat at a caloric deficit.

Grow Hair Longer -> Keep hair in protective styles, use hair growth oils daily, only brush hair when in conditioner

Dress Better -> Sell the clothes I don't like to buy clothes I do like, do a closet clear out once a month, only buy things that are high quality

Save Money -> Budget all money once a month, unsubscribe from things I no longer use, declutter and sell things I no longer need once a month.

Get 1000 followers on X platform -> Post 3 times a week, create meaningful content, reply to all comments left on posts daily, interact with posts from others in the sam niche every day

Can you see the difference?

By changing your goals from the end product to the process these goals suddenly mean more. They're more helpful and seem much more achievable.

End goals cannot always be controlled, you can do everything right, post 3 times a week, reply to all your comments and your following count may still not change for months... then all of a sudden something goes viral and they'll call you an overnight success.

By shifting your focus to the things you can control, rather than the end product, your sense of achievement comes from your consistency and hard work, allowing you to keep going even when you don't see any changes.

This prevents you from giving up when success could be just around the corner.

-------- How To Achieve Your Goals --------

Now that we've gone through how to set Goals, lets talk about how to achieve them.

A lot of people just stop at the first part and never think about the things that they can do to ensure that their goals are met.

Never stop at the list.

Why?

You have no initiative to ever look at this list again so you'll most likely forget you even wrote them down in a few weeks

You haven't factored how your life may make achieving these goals a priority.

The answer to this problem?

Turning your Habits into Routines.

It's all well and good setting goals, even setting good goals. But you also need to make sure that you're creating an environment that's conducive to the goals you want to achieve, the habits you want to keep, and the life you want to create.

------- How to turn Habits into Routines ------

We've written down all our goals, turned them into habits and now it's time of the most important part, turning them into routines.

This is important because consistency is key, always. Instead of saying that you'll do something 3 times a week and leaving at that, let's go deeper.

Which days of the week will you do it? What time? For how long?

Leaving it up to chance is risky. What if you forget?

We need to create consistent routines.

Pick which days to do your habits

Pick what time you'll do your habits

Pick how long you'll do them for

Pick what you'll do before and after.

Try to make this as consistent as possible, for example, same time every day, same day every week.

Make sure that every single hour is accounted for, even if it's just set as free time.

Its easy to convince yourself you don't have enough time to do things, let's put all the things you have to do into a spreadsheet with how long it'll take and when you'll do it. Better yet we can use a calendar app or website.

See all the free time you've got?

Now creating routine is so much more than writing it down and doing it everyday or every week. At first you may have to check the app every five seconds to see what you're meant to be doing but if you stay consistent, after a few weeks it'll become second nature.

------------ Removing Distractions ----------

Organising your time and creating a routine is really eye-opening because it gives you a chance to wonder what the f*** you've been spending your time doing.

Nothing productive probably. Take a look at your screentime, what apps are you spending your time on? How long are you spending? Is this part of the life you'd like to build for yourself?

It might be time for a break.

I am being so honest when I said that getting rid of every single distraction that could be keeping me from my goal was the single most important decision I could've made when planning 2024.

I went full on, no Netflix, no YouTube, no music, no games, no social media. No distractions. For at least the first month of my new routine and I plan on only adding everything back slowly.

I advise you do the same.

Remove the things that you can see could distract you from your goals. What's keeping you from going to bed early? What would you rather do than going to the gym?

I'm telling you, I haven't stopped working on myself, because I genuinely have nothing better to do. I've cut all the distractions out. Going on my one hour walk is now what I look forward to all day. The gym is the best part of my day.

My days currently consist of self improvement, wellness podcasts, reading Jane Austen, being active, cleaning my spaces, skincare and early nights.

But it feels like I'm living my dream life? Whenever I think of my ideal day it's never included 4 hours of mindless scrolling or spending 2 hours down a YouTube rabbit hole.

When I think of my dream life it's always been home cooked meals, reading and fancy skincare routines. I couldn't be happier and I really don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.

TRY IT.

This is probably the most important step because the power that distractions have on us is so real.

You can do all the planning and have the best intentions but if your want to play games, scroll mindlessly on social media, text a guy that doesn't care about you or engage in celebrity drama is greater than your want to be better? Good Luck Charlie.

---- Making Your Goal Your Obsession ----

This is actually the fun part.

All I do is listen to podcasts about my goal, read books about my goals, make pinterest boards about my goals and talk to myself about my goals. I'm so obsessed.

Make a reading list, find some podcasts that align with your goals, follow blogs with the same mindset, talk to those of your friends that will get it.

This makes sure that nothing can distract you, and you can't just 'forget' to work towards your goal.

However, you must not let your time obsessing over your goal be more than your time actually working on your goal. Do not forget that.

------------- Books that could help ------------

Atomic Habits by James Clear

Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport

----- May the odds be ever in your favour.. -----

[statementlou]

Tbh i am not surprised that a person who openly talked about having drinking problems since 1d days, because of how crazy 1d worked has been agressive. What surprises me is people being surprised (they never seriously saw drunk person?). But i am also confused about this whole book. Apparently Maya said that that book is not fully bout Liam but compilation about her exes and some of the worst parts are not about him. But recently she said that the book is “ofc about him” so what is true then? Or did she meant it that ofc some parts are about him or that whole book is about him?

Sorry, just confused

I also am not surprised- we've learned so much more about the real stories of things and about the guys' actual lives over the last years, and the story that has unfolded around Liam has been totally consistent throughout if you've been following it, and so the information Maya is telling us is shocking and upsetting but not difficult to believe. I got an anon yesterday saying they were worried about getting similar revelations about the other boys, like "if Liam could be doing this we just don't know, any of them could", and while in a way that's always true I guess, anyone could be doing anything in private like... that doesn't really concern me. Because none of these Liam revelations are coming out of nowhere, there have been many MANY steps along the way leading us here if you've been watching, and he has talked openly about both his mental health struggles and his addiction issues. So to answer that anon... to find out something similar about Louis would in contrast contradict everything we know about him and no I'm not worried about it. Is he probably very irritating, absolutely, but an abuser or a loose cannon, well that news would shock me. But anyway as for the book I don't find it strange that she was nervous when it came out and treading lightly and later decided, fuck it. In the absolutely on point tiktok she dropped today (YES👏GIRL👏FUCKING TELL THEM👏) she even mentions attempts to keep her from publishing the book, presumably by Liam's team, that I am riveted by and cannot WAIT to hear more details about actually- like I said I don't find it at all strange that she was nervous and downplayed it a bit then. But if she says now that it's just about Liam, well, I would say it's been clear from the beginning that the book is their story. Maya herself brought up the parallel of songs being written about stuff and I think it's the same thing; it's true (she was in an abusive relationship that involved certain kinds of events) but maybe not 100% literal (I'm sure details were changed to make the story work, it's not like a word for word timeline of their interactions or whatever).