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Hi! I just wanted to let you know that your posts are a serious game changer and has helped me change my life up immensely. You inspired me to start a blog of my own and it would mean the world to me if you could check it out and let me know how I could improve.

Thank you!

Omgg this is so sweet. I love your blog and I made sure to follow it to keep up to date.

I love when people share tips and experiences because you truly can learn something from anyone and everyone.

Xoxo💋💋💋

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For all those who are going on calories deficits before summer I just wanted to let you know that there are people doing gods work on the internet and combing through fast food menus to find the best options.

Just search “restaurant name” high protein low calorie and you can then still eat at your favorite restaurants. This also helps if you want to look at more macros than just calories.

Xoxo💕

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Can you give us ideas of healthy recipes for breakfast, lunch and dinner for a calorie deficit and tips on not to snack between meals. BTW I love your blog, I found it today and love what you’re post on it 🥰

Omggg yess! I can’t say I am the best cook especially with college I don’t cook much but I have a couple recipes that are easy.

Recipes

I love love yogurt bowls. You can put anything in them and most yogurts are lower in calories and have good protein. I prefer the oikos protein yogurt. Also if you add a scoop of protein powder you bump up the protein and it creates this delicious thick texture that satisfies a lot of my milkshake cravings and doesn’t feel like a low cal meal.

I also love soups because they are easy to make relatively low calorie and you get a whole meal. Also canned soup is pretty good in terms of calories and I like to bump up the protein with hard boiled eggs on the side.

Oatmeal is also amazing for if you like a hot meal at breakfast. Or you could do overnight oats and play around with different flavors.

When I do cook I like to stick to the formula of lean protein + vegetables + starch/carb. While these meals can get boring if you don’t mix them up enough they are a good fall back. Also makes shopping easier for those like me who get stressed at the grocery store.

Sandwiches are also really good for protein as most deli meats have amazing macros. You can also find relatively low calorie bread (or do a tortilla and make a wrap). Also be aware of how much condiments you are putting on because some are way higher in calories than you would believe.

While I love and recommend smoothies I have found that they don’t satisfy my hunger that much and often times have the same calories as a whole meal. So I recommend eating something solid with your smoothie so you can feel satisfied.

Snacking help.

So first off snacking is not inherently unhealthy it’s what you are snacking on and if it’s mindless.

First make sure you have a lot of macro friendly snacks. I love hard boiled eggs, protein bars/shakes, cut fruit,and vegetables, and rice cakes.

Next it’s important that you aren’t mindlessly eating. I find it is always good to put your snacks in a bowl rather than just grabbing the whole bag. I also recommend not watching things while eating and really savoring your food this is so you can listen to when you are full.

I also think it’s important to understand that if you just ate a full meal with proper amount of protein and fiber. You should not be hunger 30 minutes after. If you are I recommend giving yourself an hour. During this hour you are gonna drink water and do something productive. Once the hour is over if you are still hungry you can grab a snack (especially if you are in a female body there are going to be times of the month you need more food) but most times you probably won’t be hungry.

Mainly just keeping busy and making sure you are not depriving yourself of your favorite foods will stop snacking. I eat chocolate everyday and the fact that I know I allow myself that makes it easier to put the chocolate down.

Hope this helps I am not the best for recipes when I do cook I cook the same things over and over. I highly recommend searching up on Pinterest or TikTok/instagram “high protein low calorie meals” there are so many people who are much better cooks than me putting out amazing recipes daily.

Thank you for the support Xoxo 💋💋

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What’s a job that can help me be financially stable?

I graduated college and I don’t have a job within my degree. I work minimum wage.

I have enough money in my savings for a house but I don’t want to have this job forever. I wanna start a new life at a new house with a good financially stable job.

I recommend going on linked in and not only updating your profile and making connections but looking at people’s profiles who have the job you want. Look for what qualifications or certificates they have and see if you can get them. I also think you should start applying for jobs even if you think you don’t quite meet the qualifications. You never know if it’s a no if you don’t ask.

Also I have no idea how long this was in my inbox so I am sorry for missing this☹️

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Why would a guy gradually block me on different platforms we would communicate on but then view my stories on instagram and communicate on instagram if he just blocked me on something else? He now just blocked me on instagram so now I’m so upset he would do this and confused as to why he would do this…yesterday I noticed he was viewing my stories I saw on the list then a minute later I’m blocked again…I just don’t know what to think or why he’s doing this

To be completely honest I don’t understand why someone would do this. But I do understand that this is not how normal people treat each other. Now I don’t know your history or your relationship but I don’t think anything productive can come from a relationship where communication is cut and then turned back on then cut. I think it would be best to cut your losses and just block him back and move on. It feels like some weird manipulation tactic and I think you deserve better.

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What I would do to get healthy for summer 🏃🏼‍♀️🧘🏼‍♀️

So I’ve seen a lot of summer body talk on tiktok and while I think the way a lot of people are going about it in a very toxic manner I do understand the want to get healthy and fit for summer.

Here is my routine that I am doing to get fit and healthy by June as someone who prioritizes adding value to my life instead of taking away things.

So since I am posting this late February I’m just going to say we have three months until summer. I also recommend tracking your progress in some way. You don’t have to use the scale a tape measure is a great way to measure progress. I also recommend keeping track of non scale victories such as any improvements with a certain exercise, clothes fitting different and mood improvement.

March

We are gonna start slow and mindful.

I think it is good to track your calories. Not going into a deficit just yet but tracking your maintenance calories (the calories to maintain your weight) and your protein (about 1 gram per pound of body weight). This will make you more mindful of your choices and help you understand some of your eating habits.

THIS IS NOT TO MAKE YOU FEEL ANY SHAME AROUND EATING!!! This is to show how you can fit your favorite foods in with moderation.

For example I recently was one a calorie deficit where I made great progress I still ate my favorite foods. Every Friday night me and my sorority sisters would split two medium dominos pizzas. I still wanted to enjoy that time so early Friday morning I would plug into my app that I was going to eat 2 slices of pizza. Then I would make sure my breakfast and lunch would be lighter but still high protein.

Also if you have a history of EDs follow the advice of your doctor and your plan.

Getting your steps in is a very easy way to raise your base metabolic rate (the number of calories your body uses just by existing)

10,000 is a great goal but if you find that too intimidating or you have other health concerns I recommend starting with just adding 2,000 steps to however many you normally get. So if you normally get 5,000 try for 7,000

I also think if you have access to a gym you should start going there to walk on the treadmill this way you can begin to get over gym anxiety and build the habit of going to the gym.

Water is literally so important and unless you are making a conscious decision to drink water you probably are not getting enough.

2 liters is the goal so buy a big water bottle and make sure it is always with you.

Also if you don’t like the taste of water I like to add lemon juice to mine and there are also great water flavoring options.

This is weird and might just be a me thing but get a straw I drink 10x the water if I have a straw than if I don’t.

You need protein to maintain muscle especially if you are going on a deficit. Like I said you should eat 1 gram of protein per pound of body weight.

If that is really difficult aim for at least 100 grams.

I also recommend finding a protein powder and bar that you like. Also I am not trying to sell you that they are more enjoyable than a candy bar or milkshake but I will say they are more enjoyable than eating a chicken breast. If you have a sweet tooth or don’t eat a lot of meat this is the way to go.

Also really important that you are still getting a proper amount of fiber to keep your digestion moving. Highly recommend Metamucil if this is something you struggle with. But also just making sure you are eating enough fruits and vegetables

April

Now that we have built up some good habits we are going to add some more.

Now you are going to add some kind of resistance/strength training to your routine.

If you’ve been going to the gym to walk start going to the weight room and grabbing some dumbbells. There are a lot of easy 1 dumbbell full routines on YouTube and TikTok so you can be in a corner and get a full workout.

If you go for a walk outside maybe end it with a YouTube workout video.

Start doing this 3-4 times a week on top of your steps goal.

This is also the time I would look towards your goals and adjust your diet and calories. Maybe you want to lose weight maybe you want to gain some weight.

If you want to lose weight don’t go extreme a deficit of 300 calories is still a deficit. No grown human can survive on 1000 calories or less. Also make sure you are eating enough protein and healthy fats still.

If you want to gain weight make sure you are strength training and upping your protein and calories so you gain muscle and strength.

If you just wanna maintain but improve your diet I suggest making healthy swaps (such as trying different higher protein ingredients, fun healthy snacks, or eating less processed food). There are so many delicious whole food recipes to try I recommend trying a new one a week.

May

May is about consistency and discipline. By now you most likely have a decent workout schedule and have made some real change with your diet. I recommend making a schedule for the month and sticking too it completely.

Keep track in a journal or habit tracking and see how many days in a row you can maintain your routines and health.

Also set yourself a reward for keeping up. My reward is going to be another piercing once I get back to my home state but it can be really anything that you really want.

If you mess up DO NOT THROW AWAY THE MONTH. Discipline and consistency are hard to build but your hard work does not disappear because you missed a day. The sun will set and rise the next day and it is better to start the day like any other rather than being hard on yourself. You only fail when you give up completely.

This will also be a great time to compare your progress.

Maybe you run faster or lift heavier.

Maybe you actually found healthy food that you like and enjoy making

Maybe you feel more confident in your skin and being active

Whatever it is take notice of the little wins and the big wins

This is what I will be doing to boost my health coming out of winter. I welcome you all to join me. I can’t say I’ll be the most active but if you dm I will see it quicker than my asks if you need to chat.

While diet culture seems to be getting a little extreme rn becoming more healthy is always good and that looks different for everyone.

Xoxo sorry I’m not that active been in a writers block where the only thing that comes to mind is all my chem homework tbh. The summer I should be back to my usual posting schedule but for now I’ll just post when I can. Love you all💋💋

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After I said the “Everytime I talk to you, you make me upset. You do this continually to me. I don’t deserve you treating me like this. I know you’re lying to me, you’re not single. I can’t do all this back and forth with you it’s so annoying. If you say you’re done then be done. I can’t do this anymore you don’t care it’s exhausting having to tell you. You don’t care about me and that’s clear I’m done putting my energy into this. It’s exactly why you only want me to come a day, can’t plan even if it’s a week out…it’s clear as to why. I’m sick of being upset by you” then he was ignoring me then I sent “I can’t believe how you really ignore me…the least can you do is apologize I just wanted you to understand Can you at least answer” and he goes “bro what do you want? Like leave me alone already genuinely” and I was like “Why’re you being like this what did I do…” and he goes “Cause you’re so disrespectful and talk down to me and say so much shit I hate that I’m done Seriously leave me alone” and I was like “I wasn’t trying to be disrespectful or talk down to you I’m sorry I’ve just felt hurt It wasn’t my intention to be disrespectful or talk down to you, I was just telling you how I felt. Yes I was frustrated so I’m sorry. you were ignoring me and then blocked me so that just made me more upset” what did I say that was disrespectful and talking down to him? I was just so upset and now I’m thinking I was too intense?? He’s not even responding after I apologized twice…

Don’t think you were disrespectful at all. Talking down to someone is different than expressing your emotions and how another person is making you feel.

Don’t feel bad this dude is not open to any for of communication or accountability. I also think that if this is how he treats you long distance then the relationship would only get more toxic and manipulative in person.

I think now it’s time to protect your peace and get him out of your life because he is never going to own up and be the partner you deserve. No amount of pleading can change him as he’s clearly shown. The best course of action for you is to block him and use this time to forget about him and level up.

I’m really sorry this all has happened and you deserve so much better.

Xoxo 💕💕

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Things To Do Before 2025🪩🦢🍾

Hey cutiesss!! Hope you all are having a wonderful holiday season! Here are a few things to do in the weekend before the new year to level up and start 2025 on the right foot!

Vision board

Digital or physical spend some time placing pictures from Pinterest that you want to represent your year of progress.

Deep clean your space

Starting fresh and clean with new organization and systems.

Go through your closet

Get rid of anything that doesn’t fit you or doesn’t suit your style.

Set up your planner and calendar

Make sure all important dates are on there and that you have a full calendar of fun activities come January.

Clear out your emails

Go through and make sure you have all your work done for 2024 and that you don’t take any into the new year.

Clear out your social media

Go through who you follow and unfollow anyone that no longer serves you in a positive light. Don’t follow anyone that makes you feel bad about anything.

Write goals

Write out attainable goals for the new year and the steps you must take to reach them.

Write out your habits and how you want them to change

I do this by going through my day and writing down my routine also by looking at my screen time to see what I do and when. Then I can understand how I spend my time and how I can use it more efficiently. Also adding habits that will help you reach your goals is the best way to achieve them.

Hope this helps! I hope you guys have a very very happy new year!

🍾🦢🪩🤍xoxo

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Quick New Years Poll🍾🪩

Hey cutiesss🤍🤍

Hope you all are having a happy holiday season for all of you that celebrate! I was wondering since the new year is approaching 🎉🪩 what are some of your goals for 2025! I would love to make some more specific posts to help you guys out!

These are just general vibes if you want help with your specific goals feel free to reach out. Asks are always open but I tend to take a day or two to get to them DMs are quicker if you need an answer right away!

Xoxo💕💕💕

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Habit Stacking Tips 🎧🧼🧘🏼‍♀️

Habit stacking is the best way to add and change habits. The basic concept is taking your habits that you already have and adding an extra habit that you want to begin incorporating into your routine.

Here is some of the most recent habit stacks that I have incorporated for inspo 🧘🏼‍♀️💕🦢

Taking my supplements at the same time as my morning medicine.

I already have built a habit of taking my medicine every morning and I have an alarm for it so when I added my supplements and vitamins I decided to put them right by my medicine so I am reminded of them every morning!

Doing a load of dishes every time I boil water

Every morning and night without fail I make a kettle for tea so while I wait for it to boil I do a load of dishes. It is around the perfect time frame for me to have all the dishes done in time for my tea to be ready.

Scrubbing my shower while I condition my hair.

I keep a little sponge and cleaner in my shower so while my conditioner is in my hair I use that time to give my shower a quick once over. Obviously this doesn’t completely clean it but it helps keep my shower clean and so when I do clean it it’s easier.

Three big deep breathes at the start of each class.

This was something my public speaking professor had us do at the beginning of each class and i began implementing it in my other classes to help distress and prepare myself for class.

Listening to podcasts on my daily walks.

Instead of listening to music during my daily walks I listened to podcasts and audiobooks for extra learning. I still listened to music while walking to class but not when I was going on a walk.

These are just a few and often they are very personalized to your habits already so if you need help feel free to DM me or put it in the asks. I love interacting with you guys so don’t hesitate to reach out💕

Xoxo💕💕💕

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Hey I’ve asked a question previously to you about a guy well, I went off on him saying “Everytime I talk to you, you make me upset. You do this continually to me. I don’t deserve you treating me like this. I know you’re lying to me, you’re not single. I can’t do all this back and forth with you it’s so annoying. If you say you’re done then be done. I can’t do this anymore you don’t care it’s exhausting having to tell you. You don’t care about me and that’s clear I’m done putting my energy into this It’s exactly why you only want me to come a day, can’t plan even if it’s a week out…it’s clear as to why. I’m sick of being upset by you” why would he respond at all…previously he blocked me on iMessage so I sent on instagram but I’m just feeling so hurt especially now that he didn’t respond…why would he only block me on iMessage but not instagram?? I also don’t know 100% if he has a girlfriend I just think he does don’t know we’re long distance…but it hurts even more that he doesn’t respond…just the night before he was asking for pictures which I said no to because I was upset and I was like “why are you saying this when you know I’m upset, You’re not talking to me after what happened and you know I’m upset I don’t want to send a picture until I talk to you then he goes “send then says good night be safe” and I was like “be safe?? Meaning?” And he goes “yup cause I know you’re not gonna send” so I don’t send anything then the next morning find out he blocked me on iMessage but not instagram so I messaged him that whole thing on instagram…

I’m so sorry that is terrible and the worst thing is I don’t think you are going to get closure from him. He clearly is not mature enough for an adult conversation so the best course of action is to move on the best you can. I recommend blocking him on literally everything and use this as a jumping off point to start prioritizing yourself. I think you did the right thing by standing your ground and trying to have open communication but some people are not worth it. So sorry this all happened and if you need any one on one talk feel free to DM me I’m a lot faster to respond to DMs.

Lots of love xoxo 💕💕💕

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I need some advice/input if you wouldn’t mind…a guy I’ve been talking to long distance for awhile now and stopped when I found there was another girl involved now we’re talking again he’s been continually impatient with me and unwilling to wait until I’m able to come or when there’s a less expensive flight ending it and saying “forget it, bye” but then is always coming back…why does he do this? He expects me to come the same day or the next day and this last time I told him the flight was a thousand so it would be better to plan in advance…he says “I’m just not waiting anymore sorry” and I was like “what do you want me to do? I wanted to come and make it work for you I’m seeing it’s less expensive if I plan and book in advance. I would do it and come today if it was less. There’s one that’s $200 next week that’s better if I can come then? Sorry I don’t want you to have to wait it’s just a lot for just a day :( I really want to come it’s just a lot for just a day” and he goes “forget it” and I was like “I do really want to come, I’ll see if there are any other flights. It’s just a lot for only one day” when he was just saving a couple days prior how I could move there and we could get married and have a kid and now this…am I being unreasonable? I don’t know how to rectify this with him…he tells me “you never listened” he continually does this and I’m not sure why he can’t wait a week and always messages me again but is so adamant about me coming the same day or the next day he asks…when I can’t….

I am going to say this with so much love and honesty right now. That man does not respect you. No man would demand a woman he respects and loves to drop everything and spend an extreme amount of money on a flight.

The way you are describing it sounds like he is very manipulative trying to make you feel bad for not following through with his ridiculous demands. Him asking you to get married and have kids is a form of love bombing to make you easier to manipulate. I doubt he actually wants any of that.

I am a firm believer in the policy “if he wanted to he would”. The fact that he only wants to see you if you fly there that day is very telling. If he actually wanted to get married and settle down with you he would be fine waiting a couple weeks, he’d also probably offer to cover some of the cost or fly to you. A man that truly cares for you would move mountains for you not hand you the shovel.

My advice to you is to just drop him completely. You truly do deserve someone who values you and your time. Someone who doesn’t ask ridiculous things of you and tries to guilt you into doing them. I know this is a tough thing to hear but there is truly nothing you can do to make this man treat you better so I suggest you go find one who will.

Xoxo💕💕

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Everyone talks about leveling up and healing, but what comes after that?

I feel like I'm in a really good place right now. I've worked through my emotional wounds, I no longer attract toxic people, and I'm focused on making better choices to improve my life.

I've moved past the drama, the gossip, and the unhealthy relationships, and I'm genuinely happy about that. I have no desire to go back to any of that. But at the same time, life feels too calm.

In the past, it was easy to connect with people around me—whether it was bonding over shared dislikes, mutual crushes on unavailable people, or similar family struggles. But now, all of that feels shallow and trivial. If I don’t like someone, I just avoid them. There’s nothing to really talk about or bond over anymore.

What I’m really wondering is how to keep that sense of wonder and excitement from my younger years alive—the sense that everything felt fresh, new, and thrilling.

I’ve outgrown a lot of the chaos, but now I’m left with the challenge of keeping life exciting without falling back into old habits. And honestly, I’m not sure how to do that.

This is a really important question and one I don’t think gets talked about enough. Often time when we begin to remove all the toxicity out of our life we feel as though there is a hole in our life. Or the lack of excitement and connection.

One thing I’ve noticed a lot in my own healing journey is that I had become almost addicted to drama because for my whole life I made a lot of my connections and bonds with people by complaining about crummy situations. That can also make it especially difficult for when you are trying to leave that side of you behind because the people who are close to you might try and pull that side out of you. While I do think cutting people out is a step to healing (not one that is particularly easy) it is important to understand you can’t cut everyone out. There are going to be some people that will bring the drama side of you out that you can’t avoid. But I don’t necessarily think gossip and communicating in that way is necessary bad I think you need to be really honest with yourself when it turns into something ugly. You can always tell people when a simple gossip or blowing off steam turns into something nasty you don’t want to be apart of.

In my opinion the feeling of life being “too” calm can mean one of two things.

You aren’t healed to the point that peace is appealing. This is very real and I notice it especially when I am comparing lifestyles with others. People will call you boring or stuck up because you like to keep your life free of stress and are very disciplined. Even your old self in the back of your brain might be saying “ew I just study and work and haven’t even had any new relationship drama. I am so boring”. I think when these thoughts come into your head you should remind yourself on how exactly it felt when you were “more fun” because yeah it was exciting when I was talking to a bunch of toxic guys, never did my homework, and didn’t care how I treated my body. But was that true happiness? No! it was just adrenaline and too much of that can leave you feeling fried and anxious.

You are not giving yourself fun things to do and talk about with others. If you are just going to school/work and then coming home and you aren’t participating in any hobbies that make you feel fulfilled you are going to have no fun and excitement throughout your day. You can keep your sense of wonder and excitement without slipping into toxic habits and situations!!!! Do something fun with your friends, take a class, learn a new art form, go on that trip you deserve all the excitement because you worked hard for your peace!!

I hope I answered your question. I think it’s a really important topic that I have discussed with my therapist on multiple occasions. Understanding the difference between excitement and adrenaline will help you understand what is worthwhile. Also if you have friends that the only conversation they can have is about drama they have there own things they need to workout and you shouldn’t let them bring you down.

Xoxo 💕💕

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Me realizing I’ve gone my entire fall term and not posted on here once 🙃👁️👁️😭

I swear this winter break I’ll lock in and post🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Not to make excuses for not managing my time better but I low-key forgot how stressful and crazy fall term is during primary requirement (sorority stuff), all my clubs, and getting what can only be described as a mix of every known cold and flu virus.

Just give me one more week (finals🤪)and I’ll fly home and start posting again!!!!!!!

Thank you all for your patience and love

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upgrade your life by taking note of the objects you use most and slowly replace them with the most beautiful and high-quality versions of those things you can find.

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Hey, I'd like to ask your opinion on something. I'm currently looking for a job but I'm not sure what job I would enjoy. I have a degree in Tourism, worked 2 years as a receptionist in a small hotel and 1 in a museum (it's not that i chose to leave these jobs but the contracts were just over) but I'm not excited of this career, I would like something different. I can't do jobs that are too physical because my physical condition doesn't allow it much as I've had a disease in the past. I'm really not sure what job I can do, I'm precise and I know English (it's not my first language) but apart that idk. I've googled the list of jobs to have an idea but wasn't helpful as I don't find any of them enthusiastic and most of them seems physical tiring. What would you recommend?

I think this is a good question but I don’t know if I am that qualified to answer. If you want to dm me we can talk it out and brainstorm about it. But I am in no way a career expert to where I would feel comfortable giving advice on this without a full conversation about it. At most I will say that there are many career placement quizzes online that you can check out.

Xoxo🤍

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As silly as this is it’s good advice 🤍

follow your dreams at a sustainable pace