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Random Beauty Big Sister Advice 💐💋🪩

Here are my random big sister beauty advice! Enjoy!!!

Fix your posture

Some of you did not get pinched in the shoulder blades when you were slouching growing up and it shows

Every time you sit or stand up take the time to roll your shoulders back. Just do it as a little reminder everyday (multiple times) and your posture will improve.

If you can’t hold it without it becoming uncomfortable or tiring you need to do some core workout (a lot of inner core specifically) because that means you muscles aren’t strong enough to keep your spine strong. Which also means you can be more susceptible to injuries.

As much as you hate it healthy is 100x prettier than unhealthy.

Almost all the beauty standards are based on your health.

Proper diet and exercise will make your skin glow and your hair shiny.

Under eating or eating junk shows on your face and hair.

Muscles are sexy

I swear to you there is no way for you to become “bulky” by picking up weights.

You need to strengthen train for that toned look.

In order for your muscles to get really bulky you have to be in a pretty heavy calorie surplus be hitting a very high protein level. You also have to have the gene to build bulky muscles and the bone structure which is not as common in women. You can’t really do it on accident.

Even women who can put on muscles really fast are not bulky they are built. It’s giving she hulk and it’s hot.

To look put together you have to do the 2/3rds rule.

Only one part of your outfit can you neglect. Either your hair, makeup, or outfit. But it should never be your hair.

Learn to do really quick easy hairstyles and you will never have bad hair. I am almost always in Dutch braids because they are simple and I can do them quickly.

Also adding jewelry always gives your outfit more flare.

Learn how to alter clothes always have cute clothes.

You can find really simple tutorials to turn that body tank top into a fitted tank so easily.

Usually you just need a needle thread and scissors but if you have a machine you can do so much.

Do your nails

If you don’t like color or fake nails make sure they are always filled and clean.

Nails can be extremely cheap or extremely expensive you just gotta find what works for you.

Get a good nail oil as well for extra care.

Your body is not the problem you just don’t know how to dress and compliment her.

Stop looking at girls whose body is nothing like yours for outfit inspo.

Depending on your proportions things can look vastly different on different people.

Figure out your body type and shopping gets so much easier.

That’s all for now I might continue this series slowly but I just ended my spring break and classes have started so if I disappear don’t worry I’m just being an academic weapon.

Xoxo💋

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Big Sister Advice Dating Addition 💋🌹🍷

Here is some of my big sister advice for dating!! Also I am just going to say I am a straight girl so all of this advice is going to be centered on dating men because that’s all I feel I can give advice on!

Don’t play hard to get actually be hard to get

GET A LIFE! BE BUSY!!!

The most interesting thing in your life should not be your dating life.

Get a hobby and have a social life that is not romantic.

You’ll have less time to stress about him not texting you and your self worth will be high because you are not basing it off of the attention you receive from men.

First dates should never be a dinner date on the weekend!

Never waste a weekend on what could be a terrible date with a dude.

Also dinner dates are really awkward and the silence gets so loud. I recommend doing a fun activity like bowling or mini golf. It will let you easy the first date jitters and make it less awkward when the conversation stops because you are doing something. Coffee dates are the same as dinner dates!

Also if you play a game with him on the first date you get to see if he is a sore loser or a mean winner which is a great red flag to catch immediately. No man should be insecure about you being better at a stupid game!!!!

No good guy is comfortable with a woman’s tears!!!!!!!

They should always check on you and make sure you are ok.

I knew my boyfriend was a keeper when he was very concerned that I started to cry cuz I was laughing too hard.

My dad always told me that if a man is comfortable seeing you cry about the small stuff then he is okay seeing you cry over him!

If he doesn’t ask consent for the small stuff then he won’t ask consent for the big stuff.

If the words “it’ll ruin the moment” ever leaves his lips leave immediately.

If you want princess treatment you can’t be shocked when you get it.

Obviously don’t be a bitch about it. But if he buys you flowers don’t be shocked or tell him you shouldn’t have!!!!

Be grateful and tell him you love it!!! POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT let him know when he makes you happy!!

Don’t let them know you are happy with the bare minimum. DONT BE HAPPY WITH THE BARE MINIMUM!

Be vocal in what you dislike

I had an older girl tell me in highschool that a woman’s “ewww” is the most powerful tool she has.

Because if a man cares about your opinion you being openly disgusted is the worst thing possible.

And if he doesn’t care about your opinion he will laugh or make you seem like you are being dramatic.

I also love a good “ I don’t find that funny actually” because then if he tells that joke again around you you’ll know or if he tells you to “lighten up”

How he talks about all women is how he will talk about you!

Even if he says you are “different” from other women eventually he is going to talk about you the same way.

If he calls other girls sluts and hoes the second you do something he doesn’t like he is going to call you that.

No women haters will actually love women!!!!!

Let there be distance in the relationship especially when it first starts.

If you’ve gone on one date you don’t need to text him everyday nor should you be worried if he doesn’t text you!!!

Even in long term relationships some days all you have time for is a good morning and a good night! And that’s ok!!!! Only worry if that’s happening a lot with no explanation.

If you want to date a man with his life together you also have to have your life together

Just like you wouldn’t date a man who does nothing but sit on his phone all day and has no life men are the same way.

Especially guys who have their life together because no one wants a partner who doesn’t fit in with their lifestyle.

Xoxo 💋

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Big sister advice school addition 📖🖋️📚

Here is the next installment of my big sister advice for academics.

School is easy if you just do the work you should know everything for the test.

There is no reason (except for literally terrible teaching) that you wouldn’t know the concepts for the test unless you didn’t do all the work assigned to you.

Obviously this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t study or practice the skills but if you have no clue what could be on the test you didn’t do all the work.

But if you are struggling in the class there is no longer an optional assignment or an extra credit opportunity you aren’t going to do. Always do extra credit anyway because 102% before the final means you can relax for finals week. Plus the teacher will take note and you could probably get a letter of recommendation from them.

Having a predetermined homework time is the best thing you can do

No matter what do homework at that time. If you finished all the homework for the week do next weeks.

Mine were at 7am-9am (I work best first thing)on Monday and Friday and I had to work the entire time so I basically never had to work outside of those times except for studying and reading.

It only benefits you too be ahead.

If you have the ability (some courses are not laid out that way) to get ahead in work you should. Especially if you are given a list of all the assignments before hand.

It gives you the ability to take days off and knowing what the lecture is going to be on before you head in will help if you have a hard time focusing.

Even if it is just skimming the reading right before class it’ll help.

You are allowed to be disappointed in grades (even if they are still good grades)

This past term was the first term in college where I didn’t get a 4.0. I got an A- in chem and I literally was 5points away from an A. (Honestly a B would’ve been less devastating and I’m not being dramatic)

Even tho my gpa is perfectly fine I am allowed to be frustrated with myself because I know that that 5 points was easily attainable I just got lazy towards the end.

Don’t let people tell you you can’t be upset over a slightly low grade. But also don’t beat yourself up about it if you truly tried your hardest and did all you can do. There is a difference between a B where you worked for hours on end did all the assignments but the class is that difficult and a A- in an easy class but you allowed yourself to slack off. (Self call out lol)

But obviously don’t push this standard on other people cuz that’s rude. Even if you wouldn’t be happy with a B if your friend is celebrate celebrate with them. Don’t be a bitch

Be strategic in what classes you skip.

I am not going to be all high and mighty and say I never skip classes or try and tell you to go to every lecture no matter what. I barely showed up to my math class this term. But I still got an A because the class was assignment based and in a subject I can do in my sleep. I did all the homework and showed up for the tests and did great but if you can’t do that with a class don’t act like you can. Pick and choose your battles.

Never skip a class you struggle in!!!!!!

You never know when a teacher is going to say something that makes everything make sense. Or give you the best life hack ever.

Getting all your homework done before the weekend means you can have a social life.

If you want to have a good life/school balance you have to schedule when you complete things.

School should always come first so if you want to party that weekend you better finish everything by Friday.

Also not really school related but if you are gonna be a party girl in college (me too me too) don’t party everyday of the weekend!!!!!

It’s seriously unhealthy to consume alcohol like that consistently and guess what you can get burned out from too much partying just like you can get burned out from too much work. Even hot girls can be functional alcoholics and that’s not cute.

If you are going to make it an every weekend thing make sure it’s only one night. So you still have one day to recover from the party and one day to be productive!!! Obviously there are going to be some weekends (halloweekend) where people go out multiple days in a row and to that I say know your limits and be safe! Please please freshman don’t make halloweekend be the first time you drink!!!!

That’s all I have for school themed advice! Hope you all have great day!

Love you all Xoxo💋

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Big sister advice I’d tell myself last year!🫶🏻💕💐

Hi cutiesss!! Here is the first rendition of my big sister advice mini series. I plan on covering a broad range of topics so feel free to send asks with any suggestions or advice you want. Also I’m going to be phrasing a lot of these as more of tough love advice so let me know if you like these!

Here is advice I would have loved to hear a year ago!

You aren’t running out of time!!

Tbh I feel like as soon as you graduate highschool (even a bit before) you have an overwhelming sense that time is flying by and you are unprepared.

You are not at all I swear!!! Yes a lot of people accomplish amazing things in their early adulthood but that doesn’t make any accomplishment after that meaningless.

A way I like to think about it is if o accomplished every single thing I ever wanted to do by the time I am 30 yeah I’d be happy but what on earth would I do with the rest of my life. Most my family live to there 90s-100s that’s 70 years where I would do what nothing.

You have plenty of time to do everything you want and more

You have to make the first move in almost every relationship you get into.

Most people are really open to making new friends and relationships but majority will never go up and start randomly talking to you.

You have to be the one to make the first move. Go say hi ask them a question.

Most people will not act weird or judgmental and if they do then they clearly would not be a good friend.

It is okay to hold yourself to higher standards than anyone else.

If all you friends think a B is perfectly fine but you want to get an A that’s perfectly okay.

Just don’t be rude about it and keep your high standards on yourself and not push them on to everyone else.

Only tell people things when they ask.

Obviously some things you have to share if you want to get advice on but truly not everything needs to be told.

This is especially for any goals you are working towards because people can be quite rude about you wanting to improve yourself.

You having your life together makes people who don’t insecure and that’s why they are rude.

This has happened multiple times where I casual mention that I woke up early or go to the gym or have good grades and people will act like I insulted them.

Often times saying how unnecessary and lame it is. This is just because they don’t have enough discipline to do it themselves.

This is just the start so be looking out for more big sister advice!

Xoxo 💋

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Heyyyy Cuties

So in about a week I will have spring break and I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions or questions you’d like me to answer.

This will probably be the best time to fill my asks because I should be more active so if you have any questions or advice needed.

Also I’m thinking of doing a mini series here’s my ideas.

These are just some topics I could make multiple posts about so pls vote for your favorites and send in asks that relate (or any you have)

I am basically alone in the sorority house over break because I have to work so I have way too much time.

Xoxo 💋💋

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What to do when you can’t sleep 💤 🌌🌙

Hi cuties! It is currently 3am while I’m writing this because I just woke up and couldn’t get back to sleep no matter what I did. This is pretty usual for me I am a chronic insomniac and even though I am medicated for it I still will wake up in the middle of the night and not be able to sleep. So here is what I do to make sure my day does not suck even when I only got a few hours of sleep.

First things first give yourself at least an hour without any lights or screen time.

You might still be able to fall back asleep but you got to give yourself the best chance so keep it dark get comfy and do breathing exercises.

If you need you can put on a meditation or breathing exercises video on YouTube those can help you focus rather than you doing it yourself.

If after that hour you are still not falling asleep you need to get out of your bed.

Your bed should be a place of rest so the only thing you should do is sleep in it. Sitting on your phone in your bed is going to create an unhealthy habit that is going to impact your sleep more.

The best thing I ever did for my sleep was making my bed a place I go to to sleep and only sleep

I like to start by realizing why I couldn’t sleep. Sometimes it’s insomnia. Sometimes it’s anxiety or stress. Sometimes it’s not feeling well (like physically sick)

If it’s anxiety or stress you can journal about it or if you are stressed because you have a big project you can even work on it some more or do some planning to make to make things easier. Or to ease your mind.

If you aren’t feeling well notice your symptoms and maybe take some medicine and try to feel better so you can go back to bed. If you are sick I recommend taking medicine then going back and trying to sleep again because that is the best thing for you.

Once you get up you need to understand that right now is probably the best you will feel the whole day.

You can only get more and more tired and you aren’t going to be able to go to sleep until your normal time (maybe a short five minute nap but anything longer you risk messing up your schedule more).

It’s not the most fun realization but it’s important

If you are like me and you just have insomnia or there is no real reason why you can’t sleep I recommend doing things that will make your day easier.

You are going to be exhausted for most the day probably so anything you can do right now while you feel okay is best.

You can clean your room. Write your to do list. I also love doing my laundry because I usually can get it done before I have to start my day. Anything that you can do that future (significantly more tired) you might need help with.

I also recommend waiting to drink caffeine until you would normally.

The reason for this is because if you wake up at 1am you do a couple things and you start to feel tired again you can still go to bed and get multiple hours of sleep before you have to wake up. But if you drink caffeine at 2am you basically have gotten rid of that chance.

Also because the crash would happen sooner in the day making you feel so much worse.

If you have nothing to do I recommend doing something calming with minimal blue light.

I like to listen to calming music and read. This can also help put you back into the mood of sleeping.

Blue light is the same as caffeine too much too early can make your chances of those extra hours extremely low.

Not sleeping is the literal worst thing to deal with on a regular basis. While my medications do help I still have sleepless nights pretty regularly. This is honestly the best thing you can do it sucks but it’s better to tough it out and be tired. Hopefully the next time you go to bed you’ll be so tired you fall asleep instantly. Also if you do struggle with insomnia regularly I recommend reaching out to your doctor because missing sleep is the worst thing for your health. As someone who had a whole year where I only slept a couple hours a week I know the full effects of sleep deprivation and it is not pretty. It might not be anything you are doing wrong it might be something only medication can fix and there is nothing wrong with that. I know that I will probably be on my sleeping meds my whole life but I’d rather take the pill than have another year like that one.

Xoxo rest well babes 💕

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10,000 Steps Made Easy 🏃🏼‍♀️

Hi loves I just wanted to come on here and give some tips for reaching the 10,000 step goal as someone who has consistently been walking well over that for almost a year now.🏃🏼‍♀️🫶🏻💐

First understand that for 10 minutes of walking you will average about a 1000 steps.

This may seem daunting but I recommend taking a look at how many steps you get without trying. Even on my not so active days I’m averaging between 5,000-7,000.

So in reality I only need to make up around 30-50 minutes of walking.

Dedicated some time to walks.

One of the best times to walk is after you eat. It’s great for digestion and if you go on a 10 minute walk after each meal that’s already 30 minutes of walking.

I also recommend using the treadmills at your gym while scrolling your phone. I have one show that I only watch on the treadmill and it motivates me to go to the gym.

Add walking throughout your day

Parking in the back of parking lots and taking the stairs more regularly are really good ways to get a 100 extra steps

I also always walk whenever I’m on the phone with family.

Find new places to walk to.

I love going on walks around my city and finding new coffee shops close by or cute shops.

Easy to dedicate a free Saturday morning to wandering around getting extra steps

Anytime I have to go anywhere I always also look up the walking time on google maps to see if I could walk.

That’s all I have! Go get your steps!!! 🫶🏻xoxo

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Hi! I just wanted to let you know that your posts are a serious game changer and has helped me change my life up immensely. You inspired me to start a blog of my own and it would mean the world to me if you could check it out and let me know how I could improve.

Thank you!

Omgg this is so sweet. I love your blog and I made sure to follow it to keep up to date.

I love when people share tips and experiences because you truly can learn something from anyone and everyone.

Xoxo💋💋💋

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For all those who are going on calories deficits before summer I just wanted to let you know that there are people doing gods work on the internet and combing through fast food menus to find the best options.

Just search “restaurant name” high protein low calorie and you can then still eat at your favorite restaurants. This also helps if you want to look at more macros than just calories.

Xoxo💕

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Can you give us ideas of healthy recipes for breakfast, lunch and dinner for a calorie deficit and tips on not to snack between meals. BTW I love your blog, I found it today and love what you’re post on it 🥰

Omggg yess! I can’t say I am the best cook especially with college I don’t cook much but I have a couple recipes that are easy.

Recipes

I love love yogurt bowls. You can put anything in them and most yogurts are lower in calories and have good protein. I prefer the oikos protein yogurt. Also if you add a scoop of protein powder you bump up the protein and it creates this delicious thick texture that satisfies a lot of my milkshake cravings and doesn’t feel like a low cal meal.

I also love soups because they are easy to make relatively low calorie and you get a whole meal. Also canned soup is pretty good in terms of calories and I like to bump up the protein with hard boiled eggs on the side.

Oatmeal is also amazing for if you like a hot meal at breakfast. Or you could do overnight oats and play around with different flavors.

When I do cook I like to stick to the formula of lean protein + vegetables + starch/carb. While these meals can get boring if you don’t mix them up enough they are a good fall back. Also makes shopping easier for those like me who get stressed at the grocery store.

Sandwiches are also really good for protein as most deli meats have amazing macros. You can also find relatively low calorie bread (or do a tortilla and make a wrap). Also be aware of how much condiments you are putting on because some are way higher in calories than you would believe.

While I love and recommend smoothies I have found that they don’t satisfy my hunger that much and often times have the same calories as a whole meal. So I recommend eating something solid with your smoothie so you can feel satisfied.

Snacking help.

So first off snacking is not inherently unhealthy it’s what you are snacking on and if it’s mindless.

First make sure you have a lot of macro friendly snacks. I love hard boiled eggs, protein bars/shakes, cut fruit,and vegetables, and rice cakes.

Next it’s important that you aren’t mindlessly eating. I find it is always good to put your snacks in a bowl rather than just grabbing the whole bag. I also recommend not watching things while eating and really savoring your food this is so you can listen to when you are full.

I also think it’s important to understand that if you just ate a full meal with proper amount of protein and fiber. You should not be hunger 30 minutes after. If you are I recommend giving yourself an hour. During this hour you are gonna drink water and do something productive. Once the hour is over if you are still hungry you can grab a snack (especially if you are in a female body there are going to be times of the month you need more food) but most times you probably won’t be hungry.

Mainly just keeping busy and making sure you are not depriving yourself of your favorite foods will stop snacking. I eat chocolate everyday and the fact that I know I allow myself that makes it easier to put the chocolate down.

Hope this helps I am not the best for recipes when I do cook I cook the same things over and over. I highly recommend searching up on Pinterest or TikTok/instagram “high protein low calorie meals” there are so many people who are much better cooks than me putting out amazing recipes daily.

Thank you for the support Xoxo 💋💋

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What’s a job that can help me be financially stable?

I graduated college and I don’t have a job within my degree. I work minimum wage.

I have enough money in my savings for a house but I don’t want to have this job forever. I wanna start a new life at a new house with a good financially stable job.

I recommend going on linked in and not only updating your profile and making connections but looking at people’s profiles who have the job you want. Look for what qualifications or certificates they have and see if you can get them. I also think you should start applying for jobs even if you think you don’t quite meet the qualifications. You never know if it’s a no if you don’t ask.

Also I have no idea how long this was in my inbox so I am sorry for missing this☹️

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Why would a guy gradually block me on different platforms we would communicate on but then view my stories on instagram and communicate on instagram if he just blocked me on something else? He now just blocked me on instagram so now I’m so upset he would do this and confused as to why he would do this…yesterday I noticed he was viewing my stories I saw on the list then a minute later I’m blocked again…I just don’t know what to think or why he’s doing this

To be completely honest I don’t understand why someone would do this. But I do understand that this is not how normal people treat each other. Now I don’t know your history or your relationship but I don’t think anything productive can come from a relationship where communication is cut and then turned back on then cut. I think it would be best to cut your losses and just block him back and move on. It feels like some weird manipulation tactic and I think you deserve better.

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What I would do to get healthy for summer 🏃🏼‍♀️🧘🏼‍♀️

So I’ve seen a lot of summer body talk on tiktok and while I think the way a lot of people are going about it in a very toxic manner I do understand the want to get healthy and fit for summer.

Here is my routine that I am doing to get fit and healthy by June as someone who prioritizes adding value to my life instead of taking away things.

So since I am posting this late February I’m just going to say we have three months until summer. I also recommend tracking your progress in some way. You don’t have to use the scale a tape measure is a great way to measure progress. I also recommend keeping track of non scale victories such as any improvements with a certain exercise, clothes fitting different and mood improvement.

March

We are gonna start slow and mindful.

I think it is good to track your calories. Not going into a deficit just yet but tracking your maintenance calories (the calories to maintain your weight) and your protein (about 1 gram per pound of body weight). This will make you more mindful of your choices and help you understand some of your eating habits.

THIS IS NOT TO MAKE YOU FEEL ANY SHAME AROUND EATING!!! This is to show how you can fit your favorite foods in with moderation.

For example I recently was one a calorie deficit where I made great progress I still ate my favorite foods. Every Friday night me and my sorority sisters would split two medium dominos pizzas. I still wanted to enjoy that time so early Friday morning I would plug into my app that I was going to eat 2 slices of pizza. Then I would make sure my breakfast and lunch would be lighter but still high protein.

Also if you have a history of EDs follow the advice of your doctor and your plan.

Getting your steps in is a very easy way to raise your base metabolic rate (the number of calories your body uses just by existing)

10,000 is a great goal but if you find that too intimidating or you have other health concerns I recommend starting with just adding 2,000 steps to however many you normally get. So if you normally get 5,000 try for 7,000

I also think if you have access to a gym you should start going there to walk on the treadmill this way you can begin to get over gym anxiety and build the habit of going to the gym.

Water is literally so important and unless you are making a conscious decision to drink water you probably are not getting enough.

2 liters is the goal so buy a big water bottle and make sure it is always with you.

Also if you don’t like the taste of water I like to add lemon juice to mine and there are also great water flavoring options.

This is weird and might just be a me thing but get a straw I drink 10x the water if I have a straw than if I don’t.

You need protein to maintain muscle especially if you are going on a deficit. Like I said you should eat 1 gram of protein per pound of body weight.

If that is really difficult aim for at least 100 grams.

I also recommend finding a protein powder and bar that you like. Also I am not trying to sell you that they are more enjoyable than a candy bar or milkshake but I will say they are more enjoyable than eating a chicken breast. If you have a sweet tooth or don’t eat a lot of meat this is the way to go.

Also really important that you are still getting a proper amount of fiber to keep your digestion moving. Highly recommend Metamucil if this is something you struggle with. But also just making sure you are eating enough fruits and vegetables

April

Now that we have built up some good habits we are going to add some more.

Now you are going to add some kind of resistance/strength training to your routine.

If you’ve been going to the gym to walk start going to the weight room and grabbing some dumbbells. There are a lot of easy 1 dumbbell full routines on YouTube and TikTok so you can be in a corner and get a full workout.

If you go for a walk outside maybe end it with a YouTube workout video.

Start doing this 3-4 times a week on top of your steps goal.

This is also the time I would look towards your goals and adjust your diet and calories. Maybe you want to lose weight maybe you want to gain some weight.

If you want to lose weight don’t go extreme a deficit of 300 calories is still a deficit. No grown human can survive on 1000 calories or less. Also make sure you are eating enough protein and healthy fats still.

If you want to gain weight make sure you are strength training and upping your protein and calories so you gain muscle and strength.

If you just wanna maintain but improve your diet I suggest making healthy swaps (such as trying different higher protein ingredients, fun healthy snacks, or eating less processed food). There are so many delicious whole food recipes to try I recommend trying a new one a week.

May

May is about consistency and discipline. By now you most likely have a decent workout schedule and have made some real change with your diet. I recommend making a schedule for the month and sticking too it completely.

Keep track in a journal or habit tracking and see how many days in a row you can maintain your routines and health.

Also set yourself a reward for keeping up. My reward is going to be another piercing once I get back to my home state but it can be really anything that you really want.

If you mess up DO NOT THROW AWAY THE MONTH. Discipline and consistency are hard to build but your hard work does not disappear because you missed a day. The sun will set and rise the next day and it is better to start the day like any other rather than being hard on yourself. You only fail when you give up completely.

This will also be a great time to compare your progress.

Maybe you run faster or lift heavier.

Maybe you actually found healthy food that you like and enjoy making

Maybe you feel more confident in your skin and being active

Whatever it is take notice of the little wins and the big wins

This is what I will be doing to boost my health coming out of winter. I welcome you all to join me. I can’t say I’ll be the most active but if you dm I will see it quicker than my asks if you need to chat.

While diet culture seems to be getting a little extreme rn becoming more healthy is always good and that looks different for everyone.

Xoxo sorry I’m not that active been in a writers block where the only thing that comes to mind is all my chem homework tbh. The summer I should be back to my usual posting schedule but for now I’ll just post when I can. Love you all💋💋

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After I said the “Everytime I talk to you, you make me upset. You do this continually to me. I don’t deserve you treating me like this. I know you’re lying to me, you’re not single. I can’t do all this back and forth with you it’s so annoying. If you say you’re done then be done. I can’t do this anymore you don’t care it’s exhausting having to tell you. You don’t care about me and that’s clear I’m done putting my energy into this. It’s exactly why you only want me to come a day, can’t plan even if it’s a week out…it’s clear as to why. I’m sick of being upset by you” then he was ignoring me then I sent “I can’t believe how you really ignore me…the least can you do is apologize I just wanted you to understand Can you at least answer” and he goes “bro what do you want? Like leave me alone already genuinely” and I was like “Why’re you being like this what did I do…” and he goes “Cause you’re so disrespectful and talk down to me and say so much shit I hate that I’m done Seriously leave me alone” and I was like “I wasn’t trying to be disrespectful or talk down to you I’m sorry I’ve just felt hurt It wasn’t my intention to be disrespectful or talk down to you, I was just telling you how I felt. Yes I was frustrated so I’m sorry. you were ignoring me and then blocked me so that just made me more upset” what did I say that was disrespectful and talking down to him? I was just so upset and now I’m thinking I was too intense?? He’s not even responding after I apologized twice…

Don’t think you were disrespectful at all. Talking down to someone is different than expressing your emotions and how another person is making you feel.

Don’t feel bad this dude is not open to any for of communication or accountability. I also think that if this is how he treats you long distance then the relationship would only get more toxic and manipulative in person.

I think now it’s time to protect your peace and get him out of your life because he is never going to own up and be the partner you deserve. No amount of pleading can change him as he’s clearly shown. The best course of action for you is to block him and use this time to forget about him and level up.

I’m really sorry this all has happened and you deserve so much better.

Xoxo 💕💕

[girlietips]

Things To Do Before 2025🪩🦢🍾

Hey cutiesss!! Hope you all are having a wonderful holiday season! Here are a few things to do in the weekend before the new year to level up and start 2025 on the right foot!

Vision board

Digital or physical spend some time placing pictures from Pinterest that you want to represent your year of progress.

Deep clean your space

Starting fresh and clean with new organization and systems.

Go through your closet

Get rid of anything that doesn’t fit you or doesn’t suit your style.

Set up your planner and calendar

Make sure all important dates are on there and that you have a full calendar of fun activities come January.

Clear out your emails

Go through and make sure you have all your work done for 2024 and that you don’t take any into the new year.

Clear out your social media

Go through who you follow and unfollow anyone that no longer serves you in a positive light. Don’t follow anyone that makes you feel bad about anything.

Write goals

Write out attainable goals for the new year and the steps you must take to reach them.

Write out your habits and how you want them to change

I do this by going through my day and writing down my routine also by looking at my screen time to see what I do and when. Then I can understand how I spend my time and how I can use it more efficiently. Also adding habits that will help you reach your goals is the best way to achieve them.

Hope this helps! I hope you guys have a very very happy new year!

🍾🦢🪩🤍xoxo

[girlietips]

Quick New Years Poll🍾🪩

Hey cutiesss🤍🤍

Hope you all are having a happy holiday season for all of you that celebrate! I was wondering since the new year is approaching 🎉🪩 what are some of your goals for 2025! I would love to make some more specific posts to help you guys out!

These are just general vibes if you want help with your specific goals feel free to reach out. Asks are always open but I tend to take a day or two to get to them DMs are quicker if you need an answer right away!

Xoxo💕💕💕

[girlietips]

Habit Stacking Tips 🎧🧼🧘🏼‍♀️

Habit stacking is the best way to add and change habits. The basic concept is taking your habits that you already have and adding an extra habit that you want to begin incorporating into your routine.

Here is some of the most recent habit stacks that I have incorporated for inspo 🧘🏼‍♀️💕🦢

Taking my supplements at the same time as my morning medicine.

I already have built a habit of taking my medicine every morning and I have an alarm for it so when I added my supplements and vitamins I decided to put them right by my medicine so I am reminded of them every morning!

Doing a load of dishes every time I boil water

Every morning and night without fail I make a kettle for tea so while I wait for it to boil I do a load of dishes. It is around the perfect time frame for me to have all the dishes done in time for my tea to be ready.

Scrubbing my shower while I condition my hair.

I keep a little sponge and cleaner in my shower so while my conditioner is in my hair I use that time to give my shower a quick once over. Obviously this doesn’t completely clean it but it helps keep my shower clean and so when I do clean it it’s easier.

Three big deep breathes at the start of each class.

This was something my public speaking professor had us do at the beginning of each class and i began implementing it in my other classes to help distress and prepare myself for class.

Listening to podcasts on my daily walks.

Instead of listening to music during my daily walks I listened to podcasts and audiobooks for extra learning. I still listened to music while walking to class but not when I was going on a walk.

These are just a few and often they are very personalized to your habits already so if you need help feel free to DM me or put it in the asks. I love interacting with you guys so don’t hesitate to reach out💕

Xoxo💕💕💕