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I need some advice/input if you wouldn’t mind…a guy I’ve been talking to long distance for awhile now and stopped when I found there was another girl involved now we’re talking again he’s been continually impatient with me and unwilling to wait until I’m able to come or when there’s a less expensive flight ending it and saying “forget it, bye” but then is always coming back…why does he do this? He expects me to come the same day or the next day and this last time I told him the flight was a thousand so it would be better to plan in advance…he says “I’m just not waiting anymore sorry” and I was like “what do you want me to do? I wanted to come and make it work for you I’m seeing it’s less expensive if I plan and book in advance. I would do it and come today if it was less. There’s one that’s $200 next week that’s better if I can come then? Sorry I don’t want you to have to wait it’s just a lot for just a day :( I really want to come it’s just a lot for just a day” and he goes “forget it” and I was like “I do really want to come, I’ll see if there are any other flights. It’s just a lot for only one day” when he was just saving a couple days prior how I could move there and we could get married and have a kid and now this…am I being unreasonable? I don’t know how to rectify this with him…he tells me “you never listened” he continually does this and I’m not sure why he can’t wait a week and always messages me again but is so adamant about me coming the same day or the next day he asks…when I can’t….

I am going to say this with so much love and honesty right now. That man does not respect you. No man would demand a woman he respects and loves to drop everything and spend an extreme amount of money on a flight.

The way you are describing it sounds like he is very manipulative trying to make you feel bad for not following through with his ridiculous demands. Him asking you to get married and have kids is a form of love bombing to make you easier to manipulate. I doubt he actually wants any of that.

I am a firm believer in the policy “if he wanted to he would”. The fact that he only wants to see you if you fly there that day is very telling. If he actually wanted to get married and settle down with you he would be fine waiting a couple weeks, he’d also probably offer to cover some of the cost or fly to you. A man that truly cares for you would move mountains for you not hand you the shovel.

My advice to you is to just drop him completely. You truly do deserve someone who values you and your time. Someone who doesn’t ask ridiculous things of you and tries to guilt you into doing them. I know this is a tough thing to hear but there is truly nothing you can do to make this man treat you better so I suggest you go find one who will.

Xoxo💕💕

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Everyone talks about leveling up and healing, but what comes after that?

I feel like I'm in a really good place right now. I've worked through my emotional wounds, I no longer attract toxic people, and I'm focused on making better choices to improve my life.

I've moved past the drama, the gossip, and the unhealthy relationships, and I'm genuinely happy about that. I have no desire to go back to any of that. But at the same time, life feels too calm.

In the past, it was easy to connect with people around me—whether it was bonding over shared dislikes, mutual crushes on unavailable people, or similar family struggles. But now, all of that feels shallow and trivial. If I don’t like someone, I just avoid them. There’s nothing to really talk about or bond over anymore.

What I’m really wondering is how to keep that sense of wonder and excitement from my younger years alive—the sense that everything felt fresh, new, and thrilling.

I’ve outgrown a lot of the chaos, but now I’m left with the challenge of keeping life exciting without falling back into old habits. And honestly, I’m not sure how to do that.

This is a really important question and one I don’t think gets talked about enough. Often time when we begin to remove all the toxicity out of our life we feel as though there is a hole in our life. Or the lack of excitement and connection.

One thing I’ve noticed a lot in my own healing journey is that I had become almost addicted to drama because for my whole life I made a lot of my connections and bonds with people by complaining about crummy situations. That can also make it especially difficult for when you are trying to leave that side of you behind because the people who are close to you might try and pull that side out of you. While I do think cutting people out is a step to healing (not one that is particularly easy) it is important to understand you can’t cut everyone out. There are going to be some people that will bring the drama side of you out that you can’t avoid. But I don’t necessarily think gossip and communicating in that way is necessary bad I think you need to be really honest with yourself when it turns into something ugly. You can always tell people when a simple gossip or blowing off steam turns into something nasty you don’t want to be apart of.

In my opinion the feeling of life being “too” calm can mean one of two things.

You aren’t healed to the point that peace is appealing. This is very real and I notice it especially when I am comparing lifestyles with others. People will call you boring or stuck up because you like to keep your life free of stress and are very disciplined. Even your old self in the back of your brain might be saying “ew I just study and work and haven’t even had any new relationship drama. I am so boring”. I think when these thoughts come into your head you should remind yourself on how exactly it felt when you were “more fun” because yeah it was exciting when I was talking to a bunch of toxic guys, never did my homework, and didn’t care how I treated my body. But was that true happiness? No! it was just adrenaline and too much of that can leave you feeling fried and anxious.

You are not giving yourself fun things to do and talk about with others. If you are just going to school/work and then coming home and you aren’t participating in any hobbies that make you feel fulfilled you are going to have no fun and excitement throughout your day. You can keep your sense of wonder and excitement without slipping into toxic habits and situations!!!! Do something fun with your friends, take a class, learn a new art form, go on that trip you deserve all the excitement because you worked hard for your peace!!

I hope I answered your question. I think it’s a really important topic that I have discussed with my therapist on multiple occasions. Understanding the difference between excitement and adrenaline will help you understand what is worthwhile. Also if you have friends that the only conversation they can have is about drama they have there own things they need to workout and you shouldn’t let them bring you down.

Xoxo 💕💕

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Me realizing I’ve gone my entire fall term and not posted on here once 🙃👁️👁️😭

I swear this winter break I’ll lock in and post🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Not to make excuses for not managing my time better but I low-key forgot how stressful and crazy fall term is during primary requirement (sorority stuff), all my clubs, and getting what can only be described as a mix of every known cold and flu virus.

Just give me one more week (finals🤪)and I’ll fly home and start posting again!!!!!!!

Thank you all for your patience and love

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upgrade your life by taking note of the objects you use most and slowly replace them with the most beautiful and high-quality versions of those things you can find.

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Hey, I'd like to ask your opinion on something. I'm currently looking for a job but I'm not sure what job I would enjoy. I have a degree in Tourism, worked 2 years as a receptionist in a small hotel and 1 in a museum (it's not that i chose to leave these jobs but the contracts were just over) but I'm not excited of this career, I would like something different. I can't do jobs that are too physical because my physical condition doesn't allow it much as I've had a disease in the past. I'm really not sure what job I can do, I'm precise and I know English (it's not my first language) but apart that idk. I've googled the list of jobs to have an idea but wasn't helpful as I don't find any of them enthusiastic and most of them seems physical tiring. What would you recommend?

I think this is a good question but I don’t know if I am that qualified to answer. If you want to dm me we can talk it out and brainstorm about it. But I am in no way a career expert to where I would feel comfortable giving advice on this without a full conversation about it. At most I will say that there are many career placement quizzes online that you can check out.

Xoxo🤍

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As silly as this is it’s good advice 🤍

follow your dreams at a sustainable pace

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What To Do With A “Wasted” Day 🤍🧘🏼‍♀️🎧

So you’ve worked really hard and now it’s your one day off when you said you would be productive but instead you’ve been in bed all day and it’s already past noon. Don’t worry you are not a failure or lazy you are most likely burnt out and need a break. Here is how to be gentle on yourself while still getting a few things done.

First things first get out of bed.

Best to plant your feet on the ground and allow yourself to breathe and ground yourself.

I have also done where I’ve tossed my phone to the other side of the room so I have to get up to get it (make sure you trust your phone case first though)

Start laundry

I always like to start with my bedding so that I can’t get back into bed. Also because getting into a clean bed at the end of the night is the best reward.

You don’t have to do anymore laundry if you don’t want but it is an easy chore that doesn’t require you to focus on it for a while.

Get out of the house!!!!

Put on some lounge wear and your hair up and get out of your house.

Go get coffee or pick up lunch.

It also helps to go for a walk or pick up groceries for dinner later.

Do 3 things

Pick three tasks that will take less than an hour in total.

These don’t have to be big tasks just any task that will make you feel more accomplished.

Normally I say pick the hardest thing to do first but in times like these I recommend doing the easiest for that quick source of dopamine so you don’t get discouraged . Trying to do the biggest thing first might make you procrastinate more.

Reset for tomorrow

Ask yourself a simple question “how can I be kindest to my future self?”

This can be as simple as gathering your bag for tomorrow or meal prepping a breakfast for yourself.

Or if you are feeling really motivated you can clean your space and do another task from your to do’s

Go to bed

Eat a nice dinner, take a shower, put on a comfort show and enjoy your night!

Remember to go easy on yourself and allow yourself to rest at time. Society and hustle culture will always make you feel like you aren’t doing enough but rest and relaxation is productive.

Xoxo cuties🩰🧘🏼‍♀️🎧

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1000 followers 🥳🥳

I just realized there is over 1000 of you and that’s so crazy. Thank you guys so much I feel so blessed to have a platform on here. This really means the world to me. Every time I get a notification on here I smile.I would love to celebrate somehow so leave some suggestions on what I should do.

Xoxo 🩰🦢🤍

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Ways to level up when you are bored🎧🤍🧘🏼‍♀️

Here are some simple things you can do when you have nothing to do that will still be more productive than doom scrolling.

Learn a new hair style/makeup look! (Works best if you search it with your face shape)

Watch a video essay about a topic you know nothing about.

Take a color analysis quiz and see what colors you have in your closet that suit you.

Create a vision board (physical or digital)

Try a new recipe for easy snacks

Reorganize your space so it flows easier.

Journal about your dream life as if you already have it.

Take a walk and listen to a podcast.

Clean your makeup brushes.

Try to make outfits with clothes you never wear.

Do a face mask and a hair mask.

Try a new workout format

Go over old flash cards (no point learning something if you forget it after the test)

Say affirmations into the mirror.

Record yourself speaking normally and see if there is anything you can improve to help with public speaking.

Go down a Wikipedia rabbit hole (learn something new)

That’s all I have for now what do you do when you are bored that’s not scrolling?

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Boundaries I have 🤍🦢🩰

Hey cuties here are some of my personal boundaries that I use on a daily basis🤍

If anyone last minute cancels plans with me I don’t make more plans with them.

Obviously within reason if something happens that the person had genuinely no control over this does not apply.

But if the person just decides to not come or wants to move back our meeting time by anymore than 30 minutes I cancel it and no longer make plans with just that person (if someone else is going then I will make exceptions).

When people don’t value your time it is very clear and especially because I like to have my whole day planned out someone else not wanting to show up is not something I am going to deal with.

I don’t tolerate any mean jokes

Whether they are towards me or towards another person just because it is said in a joking manner does not make it any kinder.

Listen I have two very very good close friends. One that I’ve known for around 13 years and the other who I’ve known for about 7 years. Never once in all of those years have they ever said anything mean to me. They have definitely called me out when I am in the wrong but we have never had the kind of relationship where we are just mean to each other and call it jokes.

If you are one of those people that says your relationship is perfectly healthy even though you are constantly “making fun” of each other. I invite you to truly ask yourself these questions. “If it was someone else saying this would it hurt my feelings?” and “if the joking tone was taken away would it still be funny?”

I don’t tolerate any violent or graphic jokes. (“Dark humor”)

It is never funny, it is never going to make you seem more edgy, and it’s never gonna make you look cool to make fun of suffering. You lacking basic empathy is very apparent when you make fun of tragedies and half the time there is not even a punch line.

It’s just very immature and I also find the people who tell these jokes don’t really care about “time and place”. Often times they use the “stop being so sensitive” retort to cover up that they don’t have a funny bone in their body and can’t read a room to save their life.

Save them for Reddit babes!

No one (not even myself) will get in the way of my self care and sleep schedules!!

I find that I feel best going to bed really early and rising early as well so generally I don’t make plans after 6-7pm (exceptions for big life events, birthdays, weddings, holidays) any friend who is a true friend knows this about me and will not try and force me to go out late.

Same thing with myself no matter how important work or school is to me it never will trump taking care of myself so I feel the best.

These are the main ones I follow let me know if you want me to explain how I set my boundaries or if you just want more of mine because I definitely have more but I’ve been slow at posting lately and wanted to get this out of my drafts🤍

Bye cuties🩰🦢

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Any study related youtube channels you reccomend? <33

Hi I am going to need honest I don’t watch much YouTube in general so I don’t have that many recommendations but there are a couple channel I do watch!

Tam Kaur

She doesn’t post just study stuff she’s more of a lifestyle and self improvement but she is genuinely my favorite YouTuber and inspires me so much!

She posted quite a few studying videos (college and highschool) and she also has a blog channel (Tam Kaur Vlogs) where she shows you how she implements her advice every day. Definitely recommend checking her out she’s got a video on everything !!!

The Bliss Bean

She makes a lot of studying and productive videos. I love her time blocking videos and how she explains things.

All her videos are quick and really well done! She is so so so good at explaining her methods and her organization methods are amazing!

mishujo

Mostly just study vlogs but they are always so calming and motivating.

She is literally so sweet and I find her vlogs always get me to go study. They are also very aesthetic and soothing to watch tbh.

Those are all the YouTubers I consistently watch but you guys have inspired me to use YouTube as more of a resource so I might end up adding to this list!

Bye cuties🤍🎧📖

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Back to School Prep📚🎧

Hey cuties since it is august and I know most of you are going to be coming back to school so I thought I would give you my back to school routine I use to get back into a routine and start the academic year off right!

Deep clean your room and study space!

Make sure you start off on a clean environment and it is also a good time to declutter some of your fall and school clothes that don’t serve you anymore.

Make sure you organize your bags, pen cases and desk so you have a system to fall back on.

Make a study inspo Pinterest board.

I love doing this because it allows me to romanticize studying and enjoy it more.

Fill it with all kinds of aesthetic pictures and quotes to motivate you.

Organize your planner and schedule

Write down any important dates and when your classes are. Begin looking at the amount of free time you can devote to studying.

If you have an assignment list ( some professors and teachers do that) write down all major due dates.

Take an every thing shower and go to bed early the night before.

Make sure you get yourself a good nights rest and all ready for the first day.

That’s all I have for today feel free to add what you do to prepare for school!

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Hey cutiesss!! I am going to be coming back slowly posting a couple times a week. While I love doing the monthly challenges I am still dealing with some personal issues and I have to go back to school and move back into dorms in September so I would just prefer to be more flexible in posting. They will be coming back once I’m settled into my college routine though.

Thank you all for being patient with me and being such a great community. You guys bring me a lot of joy.

Bye cutiesss xoxo🤍

I’m taking a break

Apologies for not being able to complete the July challenge for you all but I could barely bring myself to type this out. I don’t want you guys to worry but I’ve had major life events happen this past week that I need to tend to. I am not going into to much detail to maintain my privacy. I hope to return by august but that is still a tentative date. Thank you for the loving community you have given me and I promise to return soon.

Xoxo 🤍

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I’m taking a break

Apologies for not being able to complete the July challenge for you all but I could barely bring myself to type this out. I don’t want you guys to worry but I’ve had major life events happen this past week that I need to tend to. I am not going into to much detail to maintain my privacy. I hope to return by august but that is still a tentative date. Thank you for the loving community you have given me and I promise to return soon.

Xoxo 🤍

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heyyy tips for losing face fat? 🥹

Yes ofc let’s do it!

First things first I need to clarify something. It is not possible to do exercise to target fat loss to a specific area. This applies to all parts of your body. You can not do a bunch of crunches and suddenly lose all fat around your mid section (common clickbait on the internet). The only way you can lose fat around your face is if you just lose fat in general. The way to lose fat is to be in a calorie deficit eat enough protein and exercise to build muscle. But there are still ways to make your face appear slimmer through different techniques.

Ice your face

Especially after you sleep it is very common to have puffiness in your face. Using an ice roller or just a bowl of ice cubes and water that you dunk your head in to can reduce the puffiness over all.

Lymphatic drainage

By using a gua sha or different facial massages you can improve lymphatic drainage which can give your face a more sculpted look.

Makeup techniques suited for your face shape

You can use specific makeup techniques that suit your face shape to make your face appear more sculpted.

All these techniques combined with general fat loss and you will be very sculpted.

Bye!!! 🧘🏼‍♀️💐🩷

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Stress to Blessed Week 3

Hey cutiesss! Welcome to week 3 I hope your month is going so well here’s your challenge for the week!

Weekly challenges!

Go on a solo date to do your journalling. Go to coffee shop or a park with a beverage and a sweet treat and journal by yourself.

Go through your closet and get rid of anything that doesn’t fit right or doesn’t make you feel amazing. Clothes are met to fit you not the other way around

Journal prompts 15-21!!!

- How have you put yourself first recently and how will you continue to care for yourself?

- What do I seek in relationships that I could be giving to myself? (Ex: validation, time, acts of service, touch, material things)

- How do you want people to describe your drive and ambition?

- What inspires you to improve yourself?

- What discourages you and why do you let that stop you?

- What are you the most grateful for?

- What would make you happy right now?

That’s all for this week hope you all have a lovely week 3!

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It’s a self care kinda weekend for me🧘🏼‍♀️🙏🏻