#secured wife

[femininedating]

POV: You're a wealthy wife

[piowasthere]

WHAT A DIVA ❤️😭🙌

oh, you do not want to hear my thoughts abt the 'Ruin love situation' we'd be here all week and i still wouldn't be done. /pos af tho i do bet my money on Ruin x (his) Monty

and u also do not want to hear my thoughts about the 'Ruru' situation. we'd be here three weeks and i still wouldn't be done. /pos pos afff

i breathe Ruin angst. i swear there ain't a thing about him that doesn't hurt. him. hurt him. he's in constant pain. please send him comfort please.

[EP: Ballora Teaches Ruin BALLET (EAPS)]

[commandershepardvasfuckit]

You weren’t expecting how clingy your monster husband ended up being

Over a few months he had gone from sleeping on the floor as to not intrude on your space to completely wrapping himself around you as you slept

He was massive at nearly 8.5 feet tall and completely enveloped you. He held you against his chest, his chin resting on top of your head and his arm tucked under you as a pillow. Both of his arms were wrapped snuggly around you and one of his legs was tossed over you

The first few nights it was nearly suffocating sleeping like that. You loved him, but he could be a bit much at times. Now though it felt safe and comforting, even if rolling over wasn’t an option anymore

[robbyykeene]

It’s just like. We have Robby, the kid who grew up with no one. Whose only friends were two adult men who used him and turned violent the second he pushed back. Who slept on the couch while his addict mother brought home strings of random, strange men over and over again. Whose dad was never there at all. Who got drunk for the first time in his life and was sexually assaulted. And then we have Tory, the girl who watched her dad hurt her mom. Who bragged about needing to fend off creepy men with a spiked bracelet. Whose landlord tried to extort her for sex at 16 years old. Who has been repeatedly sexualized throughout the show. These are the kids who become karate influencers—not because of their skills, not because of any victories or trophies, but because they kissed on live television and people want to objectify them. Because they’re good looking kids and sex sells. That’s their happy ending. Trapped forever in the cycles of violence and abuse that have consumed their entire childhoods. What the fuck.

[foldingfittedsheets]

So on Tuesday my wife and I dropped off the paperwork to register as legally married and as part of that I want to finally legally change my name. I haven’t used my deadname in decades and I’m so ready.

But the very nice lady at the Recorders office said we’d need to go through Social Security for name changes. Since we were already in the city we walked to the SS office.

The ground floor was like a TSA, with scanners and guards. They asked, “Do you have any weapons?”

We both did. My wife held out their cute Swiss Army knife which got an immediate pass. Mine caused more issue, though. It’s a cute little knife, it folds up to look like a leaf and unfolds into a blade. I showed the man and he looked gravely concerned.

When he asked to see it closer I obliged, folding it closed so I could take it off my key ring to hand over. And this man. This buff security man. Could not open my cutesy little knife to save his life. He futilely pawed at it from all different angles while I tried to say, “Look, you can see the hinge, just pull at the top…”

Finally he had to hand it back so I could open it for him. Then two other men came over and all three Very Serious Security Men in a Federal Building pored over my tiny cute knife with great intensity and concern. A ruler was produced and they conferred in hushed whispers.

I was honestly trying not to laugh when he finally passed it back and said I could keep it, but cautioned me not to pull it out. I solemnly agreed, returning my tiny weapon to my key ring.

[petrichormuse]

dont mind them, just finding this terrifying jack attractive (arent we all)

askin them on a date

he's excited :)

[a-clown-with-wings]

This took me forever but I did it 😊😊😊🥰🥰🥰😚😚😚😚

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MAGPIE!!! EVERYONE BE NICE TO HER 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡

@crystalmagpie447 !

[cupofwater6]

dylan's background compared to the other 3 is important, the rest don't have family members who heavily depend on their income and health insurance, nor do they seem to live check to check. this struggle relates to dylan's innie being incentive-driven and lumon cultivates this, dangling the prospect of getting to see his wife with the caveat that if he disobeys them it will be taken from him. this fear works better to control him than the other 3 since they don't come from this same background, innie dylan is the one with mountains of prizes for being a good cog in the machine in his desk, when you're severed you don't become a blank slate and he's clearly carried down this mindset down there, where to work for a company means you're doing good even if you don't know what the fuck the company is doing because the alternative is letting your family down and losing access to healthcare and the life you traded your autonomy for. hence his distaste at hearing that his outie struggles to stay employed, instantly blaming him and not the society that made it that way. and there's another layer added with the fact that dylan choosing to be severed, most likely for monetary reasons, makes it even harder for him to be employed by a non-lumon company. he has the most to lose out of the MDR floor, to me

[sorunort]

the many designs of vanessa :) yay

[greeneyessmize]

Debling is not a bad man. He is not a "bad" option. He's forthright, shows attraction to Pen, has interest in her intelligence, and has a sense of humor that compliments her own. Yes, he also has oodles of money and a title.

But, he isn't giving her even the slightest promise to try for love. He's going to be gone 3 years at a time. And Penelope is the richest woman in London, per the books and likely the show as well.

These last three things mean he is also not a good option for Penelope.

She wants love. She is very clear with him about this, both when they discuss romance books and in their final dance. His replies are that he is happy she has a passion for her reading and then that she is beautiful.

While Pen says she values her privacy, what she actually values is her independence. Privacy allows you to keep a secret. Independence allows you to openly be yourself.

Pen. Does. Not. Need. Money. She needs an escape from her overbearing mother and petty sisters. She is choosing to marry in society so that she can still participate in it, and thus continue LW, but she has more than enough money to leave England entirely should she wish.

Colin is entirely in step with Pen as soon as he understands that he loves her. They were already best friends with all the humor, warmth, and affection that comes with that bond. He adores that she is so smart and witty. He is seriously so very attracted to her as evidenced by him going feral not long after their kiss.

He's not going to leave her behind. Even book Colin is very clear, Penelope is his home. And he will not be parted from her willingly. They would travel together, never apart.

He has money of his own, but no title. Penelope doesn't need either of those things as mentioned above. But he is a part of society, which is a nice bonus for her LW work.

Colin loves Penelope with all of his heart and soul. He gave it to her on a platter without her even needing to ask. He just had to know he loved her to give her all of him.

I think it's inevitable that Penelope will have independence to be herself with Colin, too. It's their destiny. Will it be a struggle? Yes. Will it hurt? Undoubtedly. But Colin and Pen are meant to be equals. That is what friends to lovers has to contain. Friends to lovers is balance, harmony, a dance.

Picking between Debling and Colin is like picking between a beautiful maze like mansion with too many rooms where sighs echo off of gorgeous furnishings but is so, so empty and cold and the small cottage that fits just right and is filled with cozy warm fuzzy feelings with a blooming garden outside and an always warm hearth and a sweet little sofa with your favorite comfy blanket and it is always Sunday morning with no chores to do.

Even if Penelope had been presented both options side by side, which she wasn't, she always would have picked Colin. Pen was only picking Debling when she felt to her very bones that Colin was not an option. Then Debling removed himself as an option which made Penelope believe she had no options at all until the carriage scene.

To Pen her choices were: haunted maze mansion or nothing then cottage of her dreams or nothing. Of course she was going to reluctantly accept the mansion over nothing and of course she was going to leap at her dream cottage as soon as she knew it existed.

[smokbeast]

”Trouble”

#dcatober24 day 8

[femininedating]

𝖬𝗒 𝗆𝗈𝗇𝖾𝗒 𝗌𝗂𝗍𝗍𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗉𝗋𝖾𝗍𝗍𝗒 𝗂𝗇 𝗆𝗒 𝖻𝖺𝗇𝗄 𝖺𝖼𝖼𝗈𝗎𝗇𝗍 𝗐𝗁𝗂𝗅𝖾 𝗆𝗒 𝗆𝖺𝗇 𝗌𝗉𝗈𝗂𝗅𝗌 𝖺𝗇𝖽 𝗉𝗋𝗈𝗏𝗂𝖽𝖾𝗌 𝖿𝗈𝗋 𝗆𝖾

[toucheholland23]

Drawing Sunflower in strawberry clothing is my new fav thing 😌💖

[squiddlysq]

Murderbot's interview with Station Security when it first arrived on station went extremely well

[chomping-sicknasty]

Heinz's heritage and relationship to his home culture has always interested me. coming from an immigrant family who was really poor and rural, when my family got to the us there was an effort to "americanize" ourselves. we still keep ties to our culture of course but most of us havent visited the homeland since leaving. and theres been a noticable effort to distance ourselves from our poor and struggling past. (Im sure some previously poor kids will understand or see this in their own relatives. Trying to overcompensate financially, being more materialistic/consumeristic, marrying into rich families/pressure from relatives to "marry rich") This has been going on for some 30 odd years

Heinz's homeland was a bit different from ours, but the fact is theres a lot of negative association with Childhoods and "Home". In most of his backstories there is some reference to cultural customs that he couldnt fit into, abuse/abandonment/neglect, having to fend for himself. Theres so much fear tied to Drusselstein, i would imagine. I can barely remember any scenes of the show where he shares something from Drusselstein in a positive light. And considering him living in the usa for most of his life now, im sure his style, personality, likes and dislikes, and the social norms he practices, has changed dramatically compared to when he was a kid.

His homeland is a touchy subject but not one he ever strays from mentioning. He mentions Drusselstein a LOT. And even goes back to visit (to see his abusive father no less, and give him the garden gnome they lost- both a cultural staple AND point of trauma for heinz) (and another time he goes is to retake the driving test which he is TERRIFIED of).

What i find most interesting is the fact Heinz confronts his past and the culture he grew up in pretty often. He's definitely aware to how its influenced him and hurt him. But when it comes to americanization...well lets look at Roger

Roger, who could easily pass for american-born. He has made considerable effort to rid himself of his previous accent and replace it for an american one. He has successfully imbeded himself into american society- widely accepted and loved, holding office for a considerable amount of years, always dressed professionally, wealthy. Roger has grasped american customs and fit into them incredibly well. But, unlike Heinz, he also keeps positive ties with the family. In all of Heinz backstories, it seems Roger did just fine in Drusselstein.

We also dont get to see much of Roger or get an idea of him outside of Heinz's lens. I have no doubt Roger americanized himself for the same reason many others do- to survive. But when it comes to the pair of them, i would say Roger has an easier time understanding social power and wanted to aquire that in america- much like how he had social power back in their homeland by being the family favorite and performing his social roles well in childhood.

Despite the fact that Heinz's experiences in Drusselstien were more traumatic and negative than Roger's, it seems Heinz is the one that still has the strongest tie to their homeland. It is a central part of his character and his behaviors. He has grown into american culture like most people who immigrated young, but to him, Drusselstein was like Yesterday. I would like to speculate more into if theres any part of Drusselsteinian culture he cherishes. But i cant really remember if there were any foods or traditions or events that left a positive impact on him.

Not really a solid conclusion here but overall. I really am interested by the messy and complicated relationship Heinz has with his status as an immigrant and his hometown. Its such a wound in the way only a childhood home can wound you.

[evilbitchartist]

fuck your entire life (turns piers into a warrior cat)