#romantic attraction is weird

[spaciebabie]

bro honestly warning sign of me potentially being a lesbian is me looking at fanart of men and feeling nothing but imagining them being butch and going, "OUOUOUOGUOFUGOFOF"

[evelynpr]

Congratulations My Hero Academia for providing, possibly, the biggest and longest legit straightbaiting yet in shonen history.

Bonus points that their final chapter was released on yaoi day.

[anotherqueersnailowner]

growing up arospec I was INCREDIBLY confused abt how people could ever find themselves in a romantic relationship bc I thought it was so rare to feel romantic attraction that it would be next to impossible to both A be attracted to someone and B have them also be attracted to you AT THE SAME TIME

like lil me was DUMBFOUNDED as to how that was even possible, let alone how it seemed to happen so frequently

[shadow-tism]

I will say as someone who absolutely experiences romantic attraction and is categorized as a hopeless romantic (Im a sucker for it):

I am so tired of people taking away the legitimacy of relationships (and love as a concept) that are not seeded in romantic intentions. I know this has been a huge debate but also, it affects things just in day to day life. Its ridiculous to me that I can’t tell my coworkers I love them without them thinking I am making a move on them or joking. Like no!!! You dealt with a difficult customer when you knew it was too much for me! I love you! Your favourite colour changes like a mood ring, I LOVE YOU!!!! Your favourite cookie is peanut butter so sometimes I will “accidentally” break a cookie when youre having a rough day and give it to you! I LOVE YOU!!!

Like we tell kids to not say I love you unless it means something special, but why does there have to be such an exclusivity to that???? Ya I loved my teachers growing up, I loved every friend I ever made, even the ones who wronged me. My heart is capable of so much but it is restricted by these stupid societal norms that make no sense.

[priincessboy]

gender and sexuality is weird because I'll say I'm queer , gnc/masc transsexual and that is my identity but if someone insists on a deeper level of identity (this has happened and will continue to happen) I'll say I'm an aroace bisexual and bigender. but then that brings on more questions like 'how can you be aroace if you have a partner? doesn't that mean your not bisexual?? how can you be bigender and only use he/him and neopronouns?'

its just weird to think that I have to have a deeper set of labels for people who think 'gueer trans guy' isn't enough for them, and then question my labels.

[wereh0gz]

The way I watched the new tailstube video and saw nothing really romantic and then I come on here and everyone's talking abt sonadow in the video. Like at this point I can't tell if ppl are looking for crumbs of their favorite ship when there is none or if I'm just oblivious

[remedialchaoticscreaming]

first time being called aroace. yay. this feels like an alloaro right of passage

[sh4rksp34r3]

Hmmm, am I demiromantic or an aromantic desperately trying to be at least partially allo . . .

[braidedhades]

just found out that non-aromantics actually have feelings towards the people they decide to have a crush on. Apparently it’s not like, “hmmm should I consider this person for dating? what are the pros and cons here?” Or like, “I want to be really close friends with that person” But it’s like an actual emotional response or something? An emotion that is different from the “I wanna be really close friends” emotion??

also I just figured out that I’m aromantic

[caruliaa]

just bc im a lesbian doesnt mean tht i wont at times become deeply entranced with the beauty of male actor or character. it just means i wld rather be locked in a room with a man with a knife than do anything romantic or sexual with one

[anthromimicry]

[icannotgetoverbirds]

ahem. Aspecs are FUCKING VALID. and they're RIGHT, goddammit.

About what specifically are they right, you may ask?

Listen. Asexuals will side-eye you whenever you describe sexual attraction, and I presume the same happens for aromantics and romantic attraction.

While I can't personally speak on romantic attraction as I've never been fully aromantic, I can definitely say this with confidence.

Sexual attraction is fucking WEIRD, y'all.

You look at someone, or spend time with them, and suddenly you want to bed them? Look, it's a "normal" experience and it's definitely valid but I refuse to pretend that's not fucking bonkers yonkers.

Do any of y'all know what it's like to spend nearly two decades completely unbothered by all the bullshit that comes with having crushes, and then suddenly your entire world comes crashing down and OH GOD OH FUCK EVERYBODY IS HOT SO THIS IS WHAT THEY WERE TALKING ABOUT.

Do you?????

Demisexuals and other forms of gray-asexuals may know a similar experience, and it... like. How do I even describe it.

Going from 0% sexual attraction to 100% sexual attraction TO EVERY GENDER over the course of A FEW DAYS was... an experience, to say the least.

Anyways. Respect aspecs (and that includes the asexual spectrum, the aromantic spectrum, the aplatonic spectrum, and loveless folks) or die by my fucking sword.

I don't actually have a sword. Can someone get me a sword?

[magpiethepunkfairy]

Having attraction that isn't romantic but isn't not romantic and that is platonic but isn't really, and is kind of a third thing, but is so much of the other two that also it isn't a third thing is, very confusing, to say the least

What do I even do with this??

[waterfall-ambience]

nghm okay my take on the neuvillette 'ships' is that they're...all kinda boring? theres a lot of interesting dynamics to explore dont get me wrong but for all of them romance is the least interesting option lol. first is because i dont think he's romantically-inclined by nature (aroace king) but also he intentionally tries to keep people at arms length because of his position as iudex (so even if he has friendly connections i cant see anything 'more' than that actually working out) .

however the most interesting juxtaposition for his character imo is being so filled with love for the world and the people around him and simulataneously not experiencing 'love' in the way a lot of people traditionally understand it. he loves people so deeply no he does not want to pursue any of them romantically. it doesnt even have anything to do with him being a dragon, he's just like that.

[fantastic-mr-corvid]

Was poking Conficcare about him & Muros relationship and his answer to "why would it disgust you to kiss him" was 'defilement of a corpse'... ffs

Muro 🤝 Conficcare

Pretending Celia was this saint of a kid who died and Muro is what's left and there is no continuation or whatever between the two and Muro is just the monster who is wholly distinct from the scared kid exept in the way he's a corrupted perversion of her.

Im fucking shaking these two tramatized idiots. Death of innocence is not meant to be taken literally!!!!!!!!

[shakuson]

I'm drinking so I'm logging back on to Ev*ll*ous post sorry. makes me actually crazy to think about how Nemesis went back to the forest to get Gammon before she destroyed it (before being sidetracked by Ma) like why would she have this as a consideration for anyone? especially when she thought he was dead? and how when Gammon pulls the whole thing with the Black Box in Motheavenly he literally tells her "Even if it's only us, let's start over from the beginning" and he (jokingly) tells her she's "grown to be fine woman" and stuff? and they spent like six or seven years together during their time in the Tasan Party to the point where you could argue they are each other's closest friend and you guys don't pick up on all of this/claim they have no relation like ??????