#attraction is weird

[magpiethepunkfairy]

Having attraction that isn't romantic but isn't not romantic and that is platonic but isn't really, and is kind of a third thing, but is so much of the other two that also it isn't a third thing is, very confusing, to say the least

What do I even do with this??

[unaesthetic-writer]

anyone else love the feeling of having a crush, but then at the same time it scares the shit out of you so whenever you do you end up losing interest soon which is why you usually confess so fast so the interest doesn't die but then you feel bad because you feel like you're being ingenuine but you know you like them but then at some point you're unsure if you do anymore or if it was just platonic attraction in the first place but you got it confused because you want a relationship?

No?

Just me?

[seaside-lovers-archive]

hmm. what if i fell under objectum. more in a weird "idk if this is physical or romantic attraction but objects are cute" sort of way.

the 'tism makes it hard to figure out exactly how i feel toward something though tbh.

[ralvezfanatic]

very so random sexuality rant below. cut to not be annoying

i have realized that like..

i think i actually might be aromantic 😭?? still aceflux cuz i do have sexual attraction, just not romantic ?

idk i haven't experienced romantic attraction in ages.. but then again thats what being aroflux does ig..

LIKE i do enjoy the thought of being in a romantic relationship and shi, but also i js haven't felt any romantic feelings for anyone.

like I said many times, that may be because i dont socialize much and i dont see the ppl ik that way, butnshshajakkw

[duck-in-a-thrift-store]

Am I really on the aroace spectrum or am I just so deeply entrenched in and traumatized by purity culture and a history of intrusive thoughts that it has become an instinct, a reflex, to automatically reject and view with disgust and discomfort every inkling of attraction I feel towards other people

Like idk if this is a case of "two things can be true", but I can't tell which one is my true nature and which one is a conditioned response: the attraction or the repulsion

Do I mistake some other sort of feelings for attraction bc it's the norm or do I only think I'm not attracted to people bc I feel like I'm not allowed to be

Is the attraction intrusive or is it real? Is my response to it natural or a coping mechanism? Am I actually disgusted by the thought of having sex with someone or do I just think I'm supposed to be? And why the fuck does it make me upset to think I might have feelings for someone? Is it distressing because I inherently don't belong in a romantic relationship or because of negative past experiences and anxiety?

These are questions which plague my existence

(Just to be clear this is absolutely NOT an aroace invalidating post, it does not reflect my views on the aroace community at large, just my own personal struggle with figuring out my identity)

[cinnaspicesys]

ah yes the eternal question of “do i have a crush on this person or am i just not used to people being kind to me? OR BOTH???”

[6zero6]

Me @ my fp #2

I want devotion, I want emotion, I want to be chosen.

Just "liking" me isn't good enough.

I need you to need me, baby.

[acorviart]

not to sound like a boomer, but I need some people to learn how to write emails in a semi-professional (at the very least) format so you're not cold emailing a business/potential employer/any other stranger about formal matters in the exact same way you'd DM a close friend on instagram

the formality/language can loosen up in the email chain once you've established a rapport and you match the other person if they're being less formal, but please don't have the very first email you send a stranger be written in all lowercase ultra-casual sms slang with no greeting or signature and a billion emojis

[linecoveredinjellyfish]

normalize sexualizing that old woman without having mommy issues. maybe i don't want to be her pet because i'm traumatized. maybe i want to be her pet because she's hot. you ever think of that.

[cheonsahs]

that anon might be right because i feel so fucking conflicted about my attraction to ANYONE now

[monsterenergypunk]

What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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[godforsakenchaos]

that funny feeling when one of ur closest friends is suddenly really attractive to you but also it's like "I don't wanna date you or anything, you're just really hot"

[fiersza]

A lot of times, I have a hard time fathoming how someone would be attracted to me. But then my best friend shows me a picture of the guy she's absolutely gagging over and is just the hottest thing and I'm like... They are a very normal average looking human...

And it really helps remind me that THANK GOD we all have different things we're attracted to, and just because I'm not attracted to my type of body doesn't mean someone else doesn't thing I'm a fucking snack.

[becca-e-barnes]

Some days, nothing will do it for me quite like a filthy little breeding kink piece and you better believe it's one of those days.

I really don't see Bucky as the kind of guy who likes to pull out anyway. There's not much that's as exciting as pressing as deep into you as he can manage right before he finishes, knowing that you can feel him twitching and throbbing, shooting an impressive load right against your cervix. That's where he feels his cum belongs.

There's something about it that feels to fulfilling for him. At that point, it's so much more intimate than it would have been had he pulled out. He almost always has his forehead pressed to yours, putting in the work while he spills inside you, whispering filthy nonsense in your ear, totally aware that his cum will help him slide right into you when you feel like a second round.

But when you both start to play around with a little breeding, he's close to losing it with every thrust.

"You're taking it so well. Fuck, you don't know how perfect you feel." He groans, giving you deep, punishing thrusts. It's very hard not to feel a little obsessed with sex this good; the kind you'll be daydreaming about for the next few weeks.

"Holy shit, I'm so wet." You whine, acutely aware that you've left a wet spot on the sheets beneath you and it's only growing.

"That's how I like you. Wet and messy and ready to be filled up." Bucky's forehead drops to the crook of your neck, desperately trying to draw this out a little bit longer.

"Love feeling your cum drip out of me." You're practically whimpering, clinging to his broad back and shoulders.

"Maybe I won't let it drip out of you tonight. Maybe I'll keep you stuffed full. Anything that spills out of you gets fucked back in with my tongue. Want you feeling sure that I've knocked you up in the morning."

It's not something he's ever said before but damn, he loves what it does to you.

You grip his back harder, arching yourself against him, trying to press him into you.

"Please, oh fuck, please. I want you to give me a baby." You practically sound like you're begging and he loves it.

"Oh God, take it. That's it. Fuck, you're going to look so pretty carrying my baby." He stops thrusting, pleasure making his legs tremble as he spills his seed into you, making sure he's given you everything he has. All of a sudden, it feels like the start of a very long night.

[cardentist]

"trans people can be transphobic too" is absolutely true, I see it every day

but you guys Do realize that acting like being attracted to and wanting to date a trans person is inherently fetishizing, that it's Impossible to want to do that while seeing trans people as fully realized autonomous People, Is Also Transphobia

and it gets Especially weird when you apply it to other trans people blindly, as if there's No Reason for a trans person to be drawn to trans bodies (or Get This, to be more Comfortable with other trans people in a relationship) beyond being a chaser

whether someone is a fetishist or a chaser or not literally has nothing to do with whether they're attracted to trans people, it has to do with how they TREAT trans people. in much the same way being in a relationship doesn't make someone an abuser, abusing your partner does.

if being attracted to cis bodies is a neutral act but being attracted to trans bodies is a red flag then that's Saying Something About How You See Trans Bodies

[edlucavalden]

Oh my god.. this post was cooking i had to..